Zamkati
- 1. Akukhazikika pazomwe sali zoyenera
- 2. Amagwiritsa ntchito kuyembekezera ndikuyembekeza ngati njira yothanirana nayo
- 3. Samatenga udindo wawo pachisangalalo chawo
- 4. Amaganizira kwambiri za zoyipa zomwe zachitika mmoyo wawo
- 5. Amapereka zifukwa zambiri
Kungakhale kovuta kunena tanthauzo la kukhala wosasangalala. Pankhani ya maubale, 'banja losasangalala' likhoza kutanthauza zinthu zosiyanasiyana.
Mwachitsanzo, m'banja lopanda chikondi, sakhutitsidwa ndi zomwe mnzake amamuchitira pagulu, kapena sakonda momwe mnzake amalankhulira ndi abwenzi kapena abale, kapena izi, kapena izo .... titha kupita kupitiriza kwa maola ambiri.
Sitingathe kudziwa tanthauzo la banja losasangalala, koma titha kumva.
Tonsefe tinali ndi ubale umodzi womwe unatipangitsa kukhala osasangalala, komabe tinavutika kuti tithetse, ndipo mwina titha kukhala "osasangalala, opanda chikondi" kwa miyezi, zaka, zaka makumi, kapena mwina tidakali pachibwenzi chotere. .
Chifukwa chake, mumakonda kudzifunsa nokha- kodi banja langa latha?
Zatheka bwanji kuti mukhale okwatirana osasangalala koma osatha? Ngati muwona zizindikiro zakuti banja lanu latha, bwanji mukubwerera?
Tonse tili ndi zifukwa zathu, monga kuwopa kusungulumwa, kunyong'onyeka, kapena tikhoza kuganiza kuti kugonana ndi kwabwino, kapena mwina tinazolowera munthu ameneyo, ndi zina zambiri.
Ziribe kanthu kuti chifukwa chomwe awiriwo ali pachibwenzi chosakhala chachilendo ndichotani, zina mwazinthu zodziwika bwino zimapangitsa ubale wosasangalatsa kukhala wofanana.
Tiyeni tione zina mwa zinthu zimene banja limakhala losangalala.
1. Akukhazikika pazomwe sali zoyenera
Pachiyambi, Anthu okwatirana amayesetsa kunyalanyaza, kuiwala, kapena kuyika pansi pa kabati zinthu zazing'ono zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale kusamvana pakati pawo zomwe pamapeto pake zimabweretsa chisangalalo.
Zowona zazing'onozi, pakapita nthawi, zimakhala zokhumudwitsa zazikulu ndipo zimatha kupanga mkwiyo komanso kukhumudwitsa.
Umu ndi m'mene banjali limakhalira mu china chomwe chimapangitsa maanja kukhala osakondedwa, osayamikiridwa, otukwanidwa, kapena oopa kwambiri zomwe anzawo angathe kuchita kuti awakhumudwitse kapena kuwakhumudwitsa.
Komabe, kwa ena a ife, zizindikiro zosakwatirana zaukwati izi sizingakwanire kapena kusintha kwambiri chibwenzicho.
Mumtima mwathu, timagwira ntchito tikamakhulupirira kuti sitili ofunika, osafunikira, kuti sitiyenera kuyang'aniridwa ndi kuyamikiridwa. Umu ndi momwe timatha kulekerera "momwe zinthu ziliri" pachibwenzi chathu chosasangalala.
2. Amagwiritsa ntchito kuyembekezera ndikuyembekeza ngati njira yothanirana nayo
Pakapita nthawi, mavuto am'banja amasaina, osalowererapo ndikuwongolera, nthawi zambiri amakhala ovuta komanso ovuta.
Pomaliza pake, banjali limadutsa munthawi yamavuto, kukhumudwa, kudziimba mlandu, mphekesera, kudzipatula, ndi zina zambiri, ngati atanyalanyaza zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti banja likutha.
M'malo moyankha mlandu ndikuchitapo kanthu pobwezeretsa ubale womwe ulibe mavuto, maanja omwe ali osasangalala nthawi zambiri amangokhala osaganizira kuti kusakhutira kwawo sikulakwa kwawo ndipo kuti pakapita nthawi zinthu zidzasintha mwanjira ina momwe zidzakhalire kale ( pomwe banjali lidakondanabe).
3. Samatenga udindo wawo pachisangalalo chawo
Sizingakhale zachilungamo, kapena zolondola, kunena kuti mabanja osasangalala akudzipweteketsa dala. Palibe amene angafune dala kusankha kuti 'asakhale osangalala muukwati', kapena kukumana ndi zovuta za banja lomwe lalephera.
Ndizotheka kuti sanamvetse, komabe Kukhala pachibwenzi sikuti musangalatse wina ndi mnzake koma kusinthana chisangalalo chomwe aliyense ali nacho kale.
Othandizana nawo ayenera kuti azitha kukonda, kusamalira, kuzindikira, kudzilemekeza, ndi kudzilemekeza asadapereke chikondi chenicheni kwa wokondedwa wawo.
4. Amaganizira kwambiri za zoyipa zomwe zachitika mmoyo wawo
Ndikosavuta kumangoganizira za zovuta zoyipa zomwe zimachitika chifukwa chokhala osasangalala ndi kuiwala zonse zamaphunziro amtengo wapatali omwe amapezeka. Zizindikiro zakulephera kwa ubale ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri pakukula kwanu ndikukula kwanu.
Mabanja omwe akuchita bwino nthawi zambiri amakhala omwe adakwanitsa kusintha malingaliro awo ndikusintha moyo wawo wachikondi kuti usakhale chopinga ku chisangalalo chawo ndikukhala maluso obweretsa chisangalalo m'moyo.
Mwanjira imeneyi nawonso amatha kuzindikira zovuta zomwe adakumana nazo ndipo amatha kuchita bwino kwambiri panthawi yamavuto limodzi.
5. Amapereka zifukwa zambiri
M'malo movomereza kuti alakwitsa, ananama kapena sanabisalire wina ndi mnzake, okwatirana omwe ali m'banja losasangalala nthawi zambiri amapanga zifukwa. Amanyalanyaza zizindikiro zakuti ukwati uli pamavuto, kapena ukwatiwo wamwalira.
"Chizolowezi" ichi chimalepheretsa kukulitsa kukhulupirirana komanso kusagwiranagwirana nthawi yayitali ndikupangitsa maanja kukhala osasangalala komanso osalumikizana m'banja lawo.
Kukhala wotseguka komanso wowona mtima kumafuna kulimba mtima kwambiri ndipo sizosadabwitsa kuti anthu ambiri sanakonzekere kukhala pachiwopsezo ndikuvomereza zofooka zawo ndi zofooka zawo.
Ambiri aife timakhala achinyengo pankhani zokambirana ndi okondedwa athu kotero timabisala pazifukwa, nkhani, mafotokozedwe, kapenanso kupepesa kopanda tanthauzo.
Padzakhala nthawi mu chiyanjano chilichonse chomwe maanja amakhala ndi zizolowezi ndi makhalidwe omwe akuwononga banja ndikubweretsa kukayika ndi zovuta. Palibe nkhani yachikondi yomwe ilibe vuto.
Onerani kanemayu kuti akuthandizeni kuzindikira zifukwa zisanu ndi chimodzi zomwe zimapangitsa banja lanu kutha. Kanemayo angakuthandizeni kuzindikira zizindikilo za banja lomwe latha ndikutenga njira zofunikira zowonjezeretsa ubale wanu.
Chinsinsi chopita patsogolo ndikuthana ndi "nthawi zovuta mchikondi" ndiko kuvomereza kuti simukusangalala muukwati kapena kuti ubale wanu ukutopetsa. Dziwani zizindikilo zomwe banja lanu lalephera, ndi zomwe mukuchita kuti mukhale osasangalala.
Mukazindikira zizindikiro zakuti banja latha, chitani china chosiyana kwambiri ndi zomwe mumachita. Kuchita zomwezo ndikuyembekezera zotsatira zosiyana sikungathandize ubale wanu kukula komanso kuchita bwino monga momwe mumafunira.
Ukwati wopanda chimwemwe sikuyenera kukhala vuto kwamuyaya. Mukachitapo kanthu mukangomva zisonyezo zaukwati woyipa, mutha kutsitsimutsa banja lanu lomwe silinasangalale ndikuyambiranso zomwe zimayambitsa chibwenzi chanu.