Zamkati
- Kuyamba kuyambira awiri mpaka atatu kapena kupitilira apo
- Ichi ndi chiyambi chabe
- Iyi ndi nkhani yomwe yakhala ikufufuza zambiri
- Zinthu zakubadwa zikafika pazokambirana za makolo
- Ana amatengera machitidwe awo pazomwe amawona m'malo awo
- Ndiye muyenera kuchita chiyani?
Ngakhale mumaubwenzi apabanja komanso maukwati, pamakhala kusagwirizana nthawi zina.
Izi zitha kuyambira kwa m'modzi kapena onse awiri omwe amagwiritsa ntchito kungokhala chete mpaka kuwombera nthawi zina, kuti mumalize kulira kwamphamvu kwambiri ndi onse omwe akufuula mawu opweteka.
Kuyamba kuyambira awiri mpaka atatu kapena kupitilira apo
Chabwino, ndiye gawo ndi gawo limodzi la moyo ndi mnzanu pamene muli awiri okha, koma mukakhala ndi ana, monga makolo akudziwira, moyo wonse umasintha.
Zofunika kwambiri, mosakayikira, zasintha, kuphatikiza mbali zina miliyoni zaubwenzi wanu, koma mikangano imabwerabe. Izi zimabweretsa funso lomwe liyenera kuyankhidwa: chikuchitika ndi chiyani kwa ana anu mukamakangana ndi mnzanu?
Tiyeni tisanthule ndikuwona zomwe akatswiri akunena pankhaniyi.
Ichi ndi chiyambi chabe
Monga mukudziwa kale, kumenya nkhondo pafupi ndi ana kumabweretsa zotsatira zoyipa zambiri.
Nthawi zambiri zimapezeka kuti makolo omwe amakhala ndi mikangano yambiri pamaso pa ana awo amatha kusintha momwe ana awo amasinthira chidziwitso, mwanjira ina, momwe ana amaganizira.
Alice Schermerhorn, Pulofesa Wothandizira mu Dipatimenti Yoyang'anira Sayansi ya UVM ku UVM, adapeza kuti "ana ochokera m'mabanja omwe amakhala ndi mikangano yambiri, pophunzitsa ubongo wawo kuti akhale atcheru, amasintha zikwangwani zakukhala pakati pawo, mwina mkwiyo kapena chisangalalo, mosiyana ndi ana ochokera m'mabanja omwe sanachite bwino. ” Kumbukirani izi nthawi ina mukadzayesedwa kuti mulirire china chake.
Iyi ndi nkhani yomwe yakhala ikufufuza zambiri
Popeza ili ndi gawo lofunikira kwambiri, ofufuza padziko lonse lapansi afalitsa mawu mamiliyoni ambiri za izi. Mwachitsanzo, ofufuza a Mark Flinn ndi a Barry England adasanthula zitsanzo za mahomoni opsinjika, a cortisol, omwe adatengedwa kuchokera kwa ana onse m'mudzi pachilumba cha Dominica ku Caribbean mu kafukufuku wazaka 20.
Adapeza kuti ana omwe amakhala ndi makolo omwe amangokhalira kukangana amakhala ndi milingo yayikulu ya cortisol yomwe imawonetsa kupsinjika kuposa ana omwe amakhala m'mabanja amtendere.
Ndipo kodi milingo yayikulu iyi ya cortisol idatulutsa chiyani?
Ana omwe anali ndi milingo yayikulu ya cortisol nthawi zambiri amatopa ndikudwala, amasewera pang'ono, komanso kugona pang'ono kuposa anzawo omwe anakulira m'nyumba zamtendere.
Ganizirani zazowonjezera zazikulu za izi. Mwana akadwala, amalephera sukulu ndipo atha kuyamba kuvutika m'maphunziro. Ngati ana sasewera ndi anzawo, sangakhale ndi maluso oyenererana kuti azikhala bwino padziko lapansi.
Zinthu zakubadwa zikafika pazokambirana za makolo
Ana aang'ono ngati miyezi isanu ndi umodzi amatha kuzindikira kuti pali mikangano.
Akuluakulu ambiri amatha kukumbukira makolo awo akukangana. Msinkhu wa mwanayo umatsimikizika mwa zina zomwe angachite kapena zomwe makolo ake amakangana nazo. Mwana wakhanda sangathe kuzindikira mavuto m'banja, koma wazaka zisanu amatha.
Ana amatengera machitidwe awo pazomwe amawona m'malo awo
Mwanjira ina, ana amaphunzira potengera zomwe amawona komanso kumva pafupi. Monga kholo, ndinu dziko kwa ana anu.
Ngati mumachita machesi, mwana wanu amaziwona izi ndipo amakula ndikuganiza kuti izi ndizofala.
Chifukwa cha ana anu, ndibwino kuti muchepetse kutsika mukamasemphana ndi wokondedwa wanu, kuti musakhale ndi khalidwe lotengera ana anu. Osangopindulitsa mwana wanu, momwemonso anansi anu!
Nawu mndandanda wazomwe zingachitike ndipo pali zambiri
- Ana akhoza kukhala osadzidalira komanso kudzipatula
- Mavuto amakhalidwe angayambike
- Ana atha kukhala ndi mavuto azaumoyo, enieni kapena olingalira
- Ana sangathenso kuyang'ana mkalasi zomwe zitha kubweretsa zovuta kuphunzira komanso kusakhoza bwino
- Nthawi zina amayamba kudziimba mlandu. Ana nthawi zambiri amaganiza kuti ndiomwe adayambitsa mkangano wa makolo
- Ana amatha kupsinjika
- Kuyanjana ndi ana ena kumatha kukhala kovuta kapena kotsutsana
- Ana amatha kukhala aukali; amatha kumenya, kukankha, kukankha kapena ngakhale kuluma ana ena
- Ana ena akhoza kukhala aukali; atha kuseka, kunyoza, kugwiritsa ntchito mawu osayenera, komanso kutchula ana anzawo mayina otukwana
- Ana amatha kukhala osagona bwino ndipo amalota maloto olakwika
- Kudya kosavomerezeka kumatha kukhazikitsidwa. Ana amatha kudya kwambiri kapena amatha kudya pang'ono.
- Ana atha kumangodya posankha kanthu ndikuyamba kutaya michere yofunikira pakukula
Ndiye muyenera kuchita chiyani?
Makolo ambiri mwachibadwa amadziwa kapena amaphunzira kuti kukangana pamaso pa ana awo sichinthu chabwino.
Makolo ena amangoyesetsa kupewa mikangano yonse, koma nawonso amadzipangira mavuto. Makolo ena atha kudzipereka kwa wokondedwa wawo, kuti athetse mkangano, koma, izi sizingabweretse zotsatira zabwino.
A Mark Cummings, katswiri wama psychology ku University of Notre Dame, alemba zambiri zomwe zimachitika kwa ana omwe amakulira m'malo omwe mumakhala mikangano yambiri m'banja, ndipo akuti pokhala ndi ana omwe adzawone kuthetsa kusamvana, ana adzamva zambiri otetezeka m'maganizo.
Akupitiliza kunena kuti, "Ana akaona ana akumenya ndikuwona makolo akuthetsa, amakhala osangalala kuposa kale. Zimatsimikizira ana kuti makolo amatha kuthana nazo. Tikudziwa izi ndi momwe amawonetsera, zomwe amalankhula, ndi machitidwe awo - amathawa ndikusewera. Mikangano yolimbikitsa imalumikizidwa ndi zotsatira zabwino pakapita nthawi. ”
Njira yapakati ndiyabwino kwambiri kutengera moyo wabanja lonse. Ndewu, mikangano, kusagwirizana, mikangano, azitcha zomwe mukufuna kutero - ndi zina mwazomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala anthu. Kuphunzira momwe mungapangire zotsatira zabwino kwambiri ndichofunikira pakukula ndikupanga miyoyo yathanzi kwa makolo komanso ana.