Zamkati
Tonsefe timadziwa ntchito zapakhomo: ndizo zinthu zofunika kuzichita kuti zithandizire miyoyo yathu kuyenda bwino. Kapenanso ndi zomwe amayi athu adatiuza kuti tichite ndipo nthawi zina, tidamvera. Ambiri a ife tidauzidwa tikamakula kuti kugonana ndichinthu choyenera kuzengereza mpaka titakwatirana, ndikuyembekeza kuti nthawi ina titi "ndimachita" zinali zogonana monga momwe tingakhalire ndi moyo wathu wonse. Izi zikhoza kukhala choncho m'mabanja ena, ngakhale sizinthu zonse, ndipo nthawi zina, kugonana kumatha kukhala ngati ntchito kwa m'modzi kapena onse awiri.
Mkhalidwe 1
Wina akakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana kuposa mnzake, kugonana kumatha kukhala ngati ntchito kwa mnzake yemwe ali ndi libido yotsika. Pachifukwa ichi, kugonana kumamvanso ngati kulimbana mwamphamvu pamenepo wokondedwa yemwe ali ndi drive yotsika akumva kuti ayenera kuchita zogonana pofuna kuti wokondedwa wake akhale ndi chidwi komanso azilimbikitsidwa ndi banja. Wokondedwa yemwe akuyendetsa bwino kwambiri angaganize kuti akukakamiza mnzake kuti achite zomwe sakufuna kapena angayese kuthetsa vutoli pothetsa zosowa zawo zakugonana kwina (mwina ndi anzawo, kudzera pazolaula, ndi zina). Kusamalira mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya libido kumakhala kofala nthawi zina m'mabanja ambiri monga kuchuluka kwa mahomoni ndipo chikhumbo chimasinthasintha pakapita nthawi. Kudziwa njira zina zopezera chibwenzi chomwe sichimangoganizira zogonana kungakuthandizeni kwambiri.
Mkhalidwe 2
Mwamuna ndi mkazi akamayerekezera kuti kugonana ndi banja ndikumangirira banja, zodabwitsazi komanso kutha kwazinthuzi kumatha. Izi ndizowona ngati awiriwo akugonana tsiku lililonse kuti akhale ndi pakati, akuthetsa zovuta zakubereka, kapena akuyesanso kutenga pakati pambuyo pa kutaya mimba. Iliyonse mwazinthuzi ili ndi zovuta zake, koma amagawana mutu woti kugonana kumangowonedwa ngati chintchito osati chinthu chosangalatsa kapena chibwenzi. Zikatero, zimakhala zovuta kuti bwenzi m'modzi azikhala "momwemo" kapena kukhala ndi bwenzi lomverera ngati pali ziyembekezo pozungulira ntchito.
Pali zowona pamavuto awa: pamene kugonana ndi ntchito, zimakhala zovuta kuti muzisangalala nazo ndipo pali zoyembekezera zenizeni zokhudzana ndi kutulutsa umuna. Kuyesa kunamizira kuti zinthuzi kulibe kungawalimbikitse, chifukwa chake nkofunika kuti abwenzi azikambirana momwe akumvera za mitunduyi yomwe imakhudza kugonana. Mukamalandira chithandizo chamankhwala, dokotala amatha kuletsa kugonana popeza zingakhudze njira yobwezeretsanso ndikupanga pakati pochulukitsa. Potenga mimba, kugonana kumatha kumangirizidwa ku lingaliro la kutenga pakati, komwe kumabwereranso ku mantha otayika kwina. Maganizo awa atha kukhala oletsa kugonana.
Kugonana (kapena ayi) pansi pa zikhalidwe kuti winawake-monga dokotala- (kapena china-monga ovulation) china ndikulamula sikuti nthawi zambiri amakhala achigololo. Mabanja ena amatha kupanga nthabwala pachithunzichi zomwe zitha kuthandiza. Ena amatha kupitilira kugonana kosalolera pofuna kukonda mitundu ina kapena zogonana. Koposa zonse, kulumikizana kosalekeza ndikofunikira.