Zamkati
- Aliyense amafunitsitsa kuti aliyense akwatirenso
- Kupanda ubale wapabanja kungakhale chifukwa chopatukana m'banja
- Chofunikira pakukana kwa mkazi kugonana
- Pezani mayankho kuchokera ku chiphunzitso china ku Gemora
- Kuchita manyazi mwamunayo osafuna kuti banja lithe
- Njira ina
- Lamulo la Torah
Chifukwa chiyani kusudzulana kumachitika?
Anthu sagwirizana pazifukwa zambiri zomwe nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa chisudzulo. Chifukwa chake, tiyenera kutembenukira ku funso lotsatira pamutu wathu - Chotsatira ndi Chiyani?
Kusudzulana ndi tsoka, koma ndi lomwe lingakonzedwe.
Munthu akhoza kukwatiranso. Koma, zomvetsa chisoni masiku ano ndizakuti anthu omwe amasudzulana nthawi zambiri amakana kukwatiranso. Sikuti amangokana kukwatiranso, koma amatsekera mosaloledwa ndi ena omwe nthawi zambiri alibe cholinga chokwatiranso.
Aliyense amafunitsitsa kuti aliyense akwatirenso
Anthu amafunitsitsa kukwatiwa ndi anthu ndikupanga mapulogalamu okwera mtengo kuti anthu abwere kudzakumana ndi munthu yemwe angakwatirane naye.
Amakumana, amalankhula, amapita kokayenda, amayendetsa galimoto, kapena amapita kumalo odyera abwino, mwina kanema wabwino, ndipo samakwatiranso kawirikawiri.
Rabi yemwe amatenga nawo mbali pazinthu izi adandiuza kuti ngakhale Ayuda achi Orthodox omwe adasudzulidwa samakopeka kukwatiranso, ndipo zachisoni, amadzachimwa, HaShem Yerachem.
Tiyeni tikambirane pang'ono.
Kupanda ubale wapabanja kungakhale chifukwa chopatukana m'banja
Munthu amakwatira, siziyenda bwino, ndipo mwina, mwamuna ndi mkazi alibe zogonana. Zinthu zoterezi ndizotheka ndipo zimafotokozedwanso m'mabuku achipembedzo onena zaukwati.
Buku limodzi lalikulu limanena kuti ngati mayi amakhala mnyumba ndi mwamuna wake wokwatiwa, koma ataya chidwi chokhala ndi zibwenzi naye, nakhala mnyumbamo kusamalira ana ndikugwiranso ntchito mnyumba, ngakhale akukana kukhala ndi banja maubale, ichi ndichinthu chomwe chimafuna kuti arabi mderalo amvetsetse.
Chikuchitika ndi chiyani? Chifukwa chiyani mkazi wachita izi? Kodi mwamunayo akuchita bwino? Chalakwika ndi chiyani?
Chofunikira pakukana kwa mkazi kugonana
Kodi mkazi amakana maukwati chifukwa chakuti amafuna kuti banja lithe, ndiye kuti, akufuna kuti akhale wopanda mamuna kwathunthu, mwinanso kuti akwatirenso? Kapenanso sakufuna kuchoka panyumbapo, koma apitilizabe kukhala komweko, limodzi ndi mwamunayo mnyumba yomweyo, koma amakana kugona naye.
Pezani mayankho kuchokera ku chiphunzitso china ku Gemora
Zikuwoneka kuti nthawi ina mkazi yemwe amafuna chisudzulo kwa mwamuna wake ndikunena chifukwa chomwe akufuna chisudzulocho, ankakhulupiriridwa.
M'zaka zoyambirira kwambiri, akazi anali odziwika kuti amakhala achilungamo komanso osanama za amuna awo.
Koma popita nthawi, arabi adazindikira kuti azimayi ena anali kunama za amuna awo chifukwa choti amakonda munthu wina kuti akhale mwamuna wawo.
Nkhani za mamuna wake wamasiku ano sizinali zoona, ndiye kuti aphunzitsiwo adalamula kuti azimayi sangakakamize mwamunayo kuti awasudzule.
Kuchita manyazi mwamunayo osafuna kuti banja lithe
Nanga bwanji ngati sakufuna kuti banja lithe, komanso osatchula mawu oti "ndikufuna chisudzulo," koma atha kunena zomwe akufuna kwa mwamunayo pankhani yokana kukwatirana naye?
Zikatero, ndizotheka kwambiri kuti gawo lotsatira ndikuti arabi akulu azilankhula ndi mwamunayo.
Kodi akuchitira mkazi wake zabwino, kapena ayi?
Arabi amapatsa mwamunayo nthawi yoti awongolere zinthu mnyumba ndi mkazi wake. Ngati zikugwira ntchito, chabwino, ukwati wabwerera mnyumba momwemo.
Njira ina
Koma ngati sizigwira ntchito, ndipo mkazi sanafune GET, ndiye kuti arabi angaganize zokakamiza mwamunayo kuti apereke GET.
Tsopano, chakuti mkazi amapempha GET kumatanthauza kuti sitikakamiza mwamunayo.
Sitimukhulupirira mkaziyo chifukwa mwina amapempha GET osati chifukwa choti madandaulo ake ndiowona, koma chifukwa angasankhe mwamuna wosiyana ndi mwamuna wake.
Koma ngati arabi atha kudziwa okha kuti mwamunayo wachita zinthu zopweteketsa mkaziyo m'njira yomwe ingabweretse GET yokakamizidwa, kuti mkaziyo asakhale amene amalankhula zoyipa za mwamunayo koma arabi pawokha kuzindikira izi, zomwe zitha kubweretsa kukakamizidwa GET.
Izi zatchulidwa mu Shulchan Aruch pomwe arabi amadziwa kuti bambo watenga ntchito yomwe imafuna kuti amve fungo loipa lomwe palibe mkazi amene angalekerere, mwina, angakakamizidwe kusudzula mkazi wake.
Onaninso: 7 Zambiri Zomwe Zimayambitsa Kusudzulana
Lamulo la Torah
Torah imalamula mwamuna kukwatira ndikukhala ndi ana, mnyamata, ndi mtsikana. Momwemo, ayenera kupitiliza kukhala ndi ana ambiri.
Panali vuto pomwe bambo anali ndi anyamata ambiri ndipo alibe atsikana.
Rabi wina analangiza kuti asudzule mkazi wake chifukwa sanathe kukwaniritsa lamulo loti akhale ndi mwana wamwamuna ndi wamkazi. Koma mphunzitsi wamkulu wanthawiyo, Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashev, anachenjeza za nzeru.
Palibe kusudzulana.
Zowonadi, ena amati akazi saposa amuna ndipo amuna awiri akhoza kufanana mwamuna ndi mkazi.
Ndizowona kuti Talmud imati HaShem amalemekeza akazi kuposa amuna ndipo amawakhulupirira mwina kuposa amuna, koma zikafika pakukakamiza mwamuna kuti asudzule mkazi wake chifukwa chokhala ndi anyamata awiri osakhala ndi atsikana, sizolondola.
Koma, pamene okwatirana akana kokha kuchita zogonana, ndipo alibe ngakhale ana awiri oyamba, izi ndizovuta. Kodi arabi amalowererapo ndikukakamiza kuti banja lithe? Kodi amakakamiza kukondana?
Izi ndi nkhani zosiyana, koma zofunikira kwambiri kwa anthu omwe akukhudzidwa.
Mwanjira ina, ngati banja siligwira ntchito, ndipo anthu sakusudzulana, timakhala ndi mavuto akulu, mwina mavuto omwe alibe yankho.
Nanga bwanji za anthu omwe sagonana koma osasudzulana? Kodi timawawopseza?
Sindikupereka pano mayankho pamavuto owopsawa, omwe amachitika, ndikungonena kuti izi ndi zomwe zingachitike muukwati, ndipo amatero.
Zomwe tingayese kuchita ndikupeza njira yothetsera mavutowo, mwachiyembekezo, osasudzulana, koma ngati palibe yankho lomwe lingachitike, ndi chiyani chinanso chomwe chingachitike?