Zamkati
Kulekana koyeserera kumangotanthauza kuti awiriwo aganiza zopumula paubwenzi wawo ndikugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yawo kupatula chisankho ngati akufuna kupitiliza kugwira ntchito paubwenzi wawo kapena angothetsa chibwenzicho. Zachinsinsi izi zitha kukuthandizani kuwunika zovuta muubwenzi moyenera komanso kudziwa momwe kusungulumwa kungakhalire, ndikudziyimira pawokha, ufulu komanso kudziyimira pawokha.
Kupatukana Kwayeso kumawoneka ngati kaye muubwenzi, kumawoneka ngati mphindi yomwe chibwenzi chimasungidwa kwakanthawi komwe mungasankhe kupitiliza kapena kuyimitsa. Kulekana kwamayesero ndi pomwe awiriwo adaganiza zokhala okha m'nyumba imodzi kapena yina. Makamaka chifukwa chakusokonekera kwachuma, maanja ambiri amasankha kukhala limodzi koma amapatukana pomwe amalekana. Amasankha kudikirira mpaka atapanga zisankho zakuti athetsa banja kapena ayi kapena athetsa chibwenzicho asanapange chisankho chokhudza yemwe akusamuka komanso liti. Ndipo ngakhale okwatirana ambiri alibe mwayi wosankha kukhalabe limodzi muukwati kapena mayesero, amakhala ndi nkhawa ngati ndichinthu chabwino kwambiri kuchita.
Zifukwa zodziwika zolekanitsa mayesero ndi izi:
1. Kusakhulupirika
Zochita zakunja kwa banja chifukwa chodziwika chodzipatula mayesero chifukwa cha zovuta zomwe amabweretsa. Kudalirana ndichinthu chovuta kwambiri paubwenzi kuti chimangidwenso. Pomaliza ngati mungasankhe kuti musabwererenso ndi mnzanu kapena kukhala limodzi kumapeto kwa kupatukana kwanu, zingakhale zovuta kuti mubwezeretse chidaliro chomwe mudali nacho kwa mnzanuyo komanso chidaliro cha mnzanu. Kusakhulupirika kumathandizanso kuti wokondedwa wanu abwezere chifukwa chodzinyenga okha.
Chigololo chimapha pafupifupi maubale chifukwa chimayambitsa kupweteka mtima, mkwiyo ndi chisoni muukwati. Izi sizimangowononga chisangalalo, chisangalalo, chisangalalo komanso chisangalalo chokhala mu chibwenzicho komanso zitha kusintha machitidwe anu. Kukwiya, kuda nkhawa, kumva chisoni, kudziona ngati wosafunika, komanso kukhumudwa kumatha kukula. Chisoni ndi nkhawa zomwe zimachitika chifukwa chobera kapena mnzanu wosakhulupirika zitha kuyambitsa zizindikilo za Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Kusasunga malonjezo kumapangitsanso wina kuwoneka wosakhulupirika. Kulekana kwamayesero kumatha kuchitika ngati mnzanu sakwaniritsa malonjezo ake.
2. Palibe ana
Kusakhala ndi ana kapena kukhala wosabereka ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zopatukana pamayeso muukwati kapena maubale. Nthawi zambiri, kulephera kubala ana kumayambitsanso mavuto ndi nkhawa m'banja zomwe nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa mayesero kapena kupatukana kwamuyaya muukwati.
Nthawi zina ana akatuluka mnyumba kukapitiliza maphunziro kapena chifukwa china chilichonse, zimatha kusiya makolo ndikusowa wocheza nawo ndikukhudzidwa ndi zomwe amachita. Ichi ndichifukwa chake mabanja ambiri amapatukana ana awo akachoka pakhomo. Izi zimachitika makamaka makolo akamatengera chidwi chawo pakulera ana awo mpaka kuyiwala kupitiriza kuwonetsa chikondi ndi kukondana komanso kukondana. Amayiwala kuti ali pachibwenzi, osati makolo okha.
3. Kumwerekera
Kuledzera ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kumatha kubweretsanso kusatsimikizika muubwenzi ndikupangitsa kuyesedwa kapena kupatukana kwamuyaya. Kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kumalimbikitsa kusagwiritsa ntchito bwino ndalama, kusakhazikika pamaganizidwe ndi zachuma, komanso kusinthasintha kwakanthawi kwamakhalidwe komanso zikhalidwe zomwe zingawononge banja lanu kapena ubale wanu.
Nayi malamulo ochepa omwe muyenera kutsatira mukamayesedwa
- Khazikitsani Malire
Kukhala ndi malire omveka bwino ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi chidaliro pakati pawo pakati pawo komanso pambuyo pa kupatukana. Kukhazikitsa malire kumathandizira kufotokozera kuchuluka kwa malo omwe mumakhala nawo muubwenzi, mwamalingaliro kapena mwakuthupi mukasiyana.
- Pangani zisankho zokhudzana ndiubwenzi wanu
Muyenera kusankha ngati mungakhalebe pachibwenzi ndi mnzanuyo. Muyenera kupanga zisankho zokhudzana ndi kulumikizana komanso moyo wogonana. Muyenera kupanga zisankho zogonana kaya mupeze nthawi yocheza wina ndi mnzake mukapatukana.
- Konzani zandalama
Payenera kukhala dongosolo lomveka bwino pazomwe zimachitika pazinthu, ndalama, ngongole panthawi yopatukana. Payenera kukhala kugawana kofanana chuma ndi maudindo ndipo ana ayenera kusamalidwa mokwanira.
- Khazikitsani nthawi yoyenera yopatukana
Kulekanitsidwa koyeserera kuyenera kukhala ndi nthawi yapadera kuti cholinga chakulekanitsira mayesero chikwaniritsidwe - kusankha zochita mtsogolo muukwati, mwina kutha kapena kupitiliza. Nthawiyo iyenera kukhala pakati pa miyezi itatu kapena isanu ndi umodzi kotero kuti kutsimikiza mtima ndikutsimikiza, makamaka komwe kuli ana okhudzidwa.
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