Zamkati
- 1. Kusamva bwino
- 2. Anthu osagwirizana
- 3. Kusakwiya msanga, kapena kukhumudwa kwambiri monga chisoni kapena mantha
- 4. Kusowa njira zothetsera mavuto
- 5. Matenda ophatikizika
Ndiosavuta koma yotakata kunena kuti palibe amene amasangalala ndi kusamvana m'mabanja awo. Ndipo mu maubale ambiri izi ndi zoona. Ambiri angakonde kuti azikhala olingana, nthawi zambiri amadana ndi nthawi ya chipwirikiti. Zachidziwikire, akudziwa kuti kusamvana pakati pa ubale ndichinthu chachilendo komanso chopatsa thanzi (pang'ono). Koma pali anthu ena omwe amasangalala ndi kusamvana mu ubale wawo - sangakhale popanda iwo.
Ngakhale anthuwo, kapena maanja omwe akuchita bwino pamabanja, atha kutsimikiza kuti sakufuna chochitika ichi, ndipo nawonso, angakonde ubale wodekha. Zikuwoneka kuti ngakhale atayesetsa bwanji, sangakwanitse. Kuwapangitsa kukhala moyo wachisokonezo, ndipo nthawi zina amadzifunsa okha, kapena ubale wawo.
Izi ndi zina mwazomwe zimayambitsa - zina zitha kukhala zofala kuposa zina, komabe, ngati mungakhale ndi phokoso, chisangalalo, kapena kusangalala, kapena mtundu wina wotsimikizira kukondedwa ndi kuyamikiridwa chifukwa cha kusamvana kwa ubale wanu, ndiye inu '' mwina tikukhudzana ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe zimakusangalatsani m'mabanja anu.
1. Kusamva bwino
Anthu ena atha kukhala ndi malingaliro olimba osakwanira kotero kuti apanga njira yopanda chidziwitso chokankhira wina kutali. Amakwaniritsa izi poyesa mayeso awo ndi machitidwe otsutsana, kukankha mabatani a anzawo, kapena kuwononga chidziwitso chabwino. Potero, amatsimikizira kuti sali okwanira.
Nthawi zambiri zomwe zimachitika chifukwa cha zokumana nazo zaubwana, njira zopanda pakezi zimatha kukhala mikangano yamaubwenzi yoyambitsidwa ndi nsanje, kudzudzula, kapena kuyambitsa mikangano pachabe.
2. Anthu osagwirizana
Zachidziwikire, kusamvana pakati pa maubwenzi kumachitika chifukwa chokumana ndi mnzanu yemwe sakugwirizana, ndipo amatulutsa zoyipa kwambiri mwa ife.
Maubwenzi amtunduwu ndi ovuta chifukwa pomwe pakhoza kukhala kukondana kwambiri pakati pawo, sizigwirizana kuti apange banja limodzi. Ndipo zingakhale bwino kupewa mikangano ina muubwenzi wawo posunthabe. Chitsanzo chabwino kwambiri chonena kuti 'ngati mumakonda wina, musiyeni apite'.
3. Kusakwiya msanga, kapena kukhumudwa kwambiri monga chisoni kapena mantha
Mabanja ambiri omwe amakhala achisoni angavutike kuti akhalebe pafupi pamene akuyesetsa kuthetsa chisoni chawo. Zomwe mosakayikira zimayambitsa kusamvana kwa ubale, komanso mtunda pakati pa onse awiri muubwenzi, zomwe nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kubwereranso. Nthawi zina zitha kuwonetsedwa pamaubwenzi ovuta, pomwe mkwiyo umayendetsa kwambiri. Kapena mukumenya nkhondo komwe kumayendetsedwa ndi mtunda, komanso kudzinyalanyaza, komwe kumatha kuyambitsidwa ndi kukhumudwa.
Kufuna kuthetsa kutengeka koponderezedwa ndi kuthetsa mavuto kudzathetsa vutoli mwachangu.
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4. Kusowa njira zothetsera mavuto
Nthawi zina, sitimadziwa momwe tingagwirire ngakhale zinthu zosavuta. Monga 'chifukwa chiyani amalankhula ndi mtsikana wosasintha pa sitima?'. Momwe mungakambirane yemwe akuchita ndi ntchito ziti muubwenzi. Momwe mungasamalire mwana watsopano ndi zovuta zina zilizonse zofananira.
Nthawi zambiri, vutoli limachitika chifukwa sitinaphunzire momwe tingachitire zinthu ngati izi tili mwana, ndipo luso lathu lomvetsetsa, lomveka bwino, kapena lotengeka lingakhale loperewera pazomwe zingachitike.
Izi zimathetsedwa mosavuta, koma zimayamba ndikazindikira zomwe zimayambitsa kusamvana kwanu. Kenako pamafunika kuyesetsa mwakhama kuti muphunzire kuthana ndi vutoli. Zachidziwikire, masamba ngati awa, ndi njira yabwino yoyambira kuphunzira ndikukulitsa maluso olimbana ndi maubwenzi.
5. Matenda ophatikizika
Zovuta zolumikizira zimadza chifukwa cha momwe tidaleredwera ngati khanda.Ngati titapatsidwa nsanja yotetezeka kuti tifikire ndikufufuza dziko lapansi, ndipo zosowa zathu zonse zidakwaniritsidwa mwangwiro komanso mwachilengedwe ndiye kuti sitikhala ndi vuto lotere. Poterepa, mawonekedwe anu ophatikizika adzakhala 'otetezeka'.
Koma ngati zina zakukula kwanu sizinasankhidwe molondola, pazifukwa zambiri monga; kukulitsa zolakwika m'malo mwa makolo anu, anthu ena amaphunzitsa makolo anu chilango chomwe sichinathandize, kuyambira kukhumudwa pambuyo pobereka, banja losakhazikika lodzala ndi mikangano, inde, kunyalanyaza ndikuzunza.
Kutengera ndi zomwe mwakumana nazo, mutha kukhala ndi nkhawa, kapangidwe kake, kapena mawonekedwe owopsa.
Nthawi zambiri, kalembedwe konyalanyaza komanso kowopsa kumadzetsa machitidwe opewera komanso osagwirizana ndi anzawo. Ndondomeko yodetsa nkhawa nthawi zambiri imayamba kukhala pachibwenzi kudzera mu nsanje komanso kutanganidwa ndi momwe aliyense amagwirizirana ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi nkhawa. Ndipo monga mungaganizire, izi zitha kukhala zoyambitsa mikangano yambiri yamaubwenzi. Zomwe zitha kuphatikizidwa mosavuta tikakopa kalembedwe kamodzi kapena kosiyana.
Mwayi wabwino kwambiri womwe ubale ungakhale nawo munthawiyi, kuti muthe kudzisankhira nokha ngati munthu m'modzi ali wotetezeka pamavuto awo ndikutha kuthana ndi mikangano yamabanja yomwe ingachitike.