Zamkati
- 1. Kumbukirani kuti simuli m'banja lanu
- 2. Sungani zinthu mwaulemu ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu wakale
- 3. Lankhulani ndi wokonza zachuma
- 4. Konzani nthawi yocheza ndi abale anu komanso anzanu
- 5. Lowani nawo gulu la anthu osudzulana
- 6. Chitani chinthu chomwe mwakhala mukufuna kuchita nthawi zonse
- 7. Kumbukirani madalitso anu
- 8. Chotsani "tsiku loyamba pambuyo pa chisudzulo"
- 9. Dzichitireni chifundo
- 10. Onani mlangizi
Pamene mudali kamtsikana kakang'ono, mumakonda kwambiri munthu wamaloto anu. Mukakumana naye pamapeto pake, mudali osagwirizana. Maloto anu anali atakwaniritsidwa!
Ndiye, mutangokwatirana kumene, mawu oti "kusudzulana" mwina sanawonekepo nkomwe.
Koma nazi, mukuyang'ana mawuwo pankhope. Mosasamala kanthu kuti mwafika motani pamenepa, chowonadi nchakuti ukwati wanu watha. Ndipo zimapwetekadi.
Maloto anu adasokonekera, kapena ndi momwe zimamvera. Maloto anu sayenera kutha panobe. Pamene mukukumana ndi kusintha kwakukulu kwa moyo uno, khalani okoma mtima kwa inu nokha.
Mukuyang'ana zida zodalirika zosudzulira akazi?
Werengani maupangiri 10 osudzula azimayi omwe ali pansipa ndikuyesetsa kugwiritsa ntchito bwino nthawi yovutayi m'moyo wanu.
Angadziwe ndani? Ndi nthawi ndi khama, izi zitha kukhala zosintha zazikulu m'moyo wanu.
1. Kumbukirani kuti simuli m'banja lanu
Ena angakuweruzeni mwankhanza chifukwa chakwati wanu watsopano, ndipo ena sangatero.
Ingodziwa kuti simuli okwatirana. Chifukwa choti mwasudzulana sizitanthauza kuti ndichinthu chachikulu kwambiri kwa inu.
Zitha kuwoneka choncho mukamalemba fomu ndikuyenera kulemba kuti "osudzulidwa" kapena ngati wina akufunsani za amuna anu ndipo muyenera kufotokoza kuti simulinso limodzi.
Pali zambiri kwa inu kuposa kuti mukwatirane kapena ayi. Kumbukirani kuti.
2. Sungani zinthu mwaulemu ndi mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu wakale
Mutha kukhala ndi chidwi chokwiyirana ndi wakale wanu, ndipo mwina akuyenera kuti mukambirane pang'ono.
Koma kwenikweni, ganizirani za zotheka.
Ndi chiyani chomwe chingachitike? Amangokhumudwa ndipo mudzakwiya kwambiri. Ngati mukufunikira kukhala ndi mtima wofunitsitsa kuchotsa mpweya, chitani izi pokhapokha mutalankhula mwaulemu.
Ngati muli ndi malingaliro owuma omwe muyenera kufotokoza, lembani. Kenako yang'anani pepalalo mwachangu ndikuitaya.
Mudzathamanganso wakale wanuyo ndipo musamapange zinthu zovuta kuposa momwe ziyenera kukhalira.
Njira yabwino yothetsera banja ndi kusudzulana mwamtendere kapena kusudzulana ku boma. Sizikutanthauza kuti inu ndi mnzanu mudzakhala mabwenzi mutasudzulana. Komabe, zikutanthauza kuti ngakhale banja lanu litatha, nonse mumavomereza mfundo zogawana katundu, chisamaliro cha ana, chisamaliro cha ana, ufulu wochezera, komanso kusunga ana.
Ndiuponso upangiri wofunikira wosudzula amayi omwe akufuna kuteteza ana awo ku mavuto obwera chifukwa chakusudzulana ndikubwezeretsanso chisangalalo m'miyoyo ya ana awo.
3. Lankhulani ndi wokonza zachuma
Mukukonzekera kusudzulana?
Kutha kwa banja kumatha kukhala kodula. Ndalama zaku khothi, chindapusa cha loya, kugawa katundu, ndi zina zambiri.
Chimodzi mwamalangizo ofunikira kuti banja lithe ndi kukonzekera mapepala anu, kupanga bajeti yanu, ndikukonzekera tsogolo lanu.
Funsani upangiri wa wokonza zachuma kuti muwonetsetse kuti mumaphimba maziko anu ndikukuthandizani azimayi omwe asudzulana.
4. Konzani nthawi yocheza ndi abale anu komanso anzanu
Patsiku la chisudzulo, musakhale nokha.
Sonkhanitsani abwenzi anu apamtima pamodzi ndikupita kokasangalala. Tchuthi chikabwera, osangodikirira kuti abwere ndikupita.
Konzani zokhala patchuthi ndi banja lanu kapena anzanu, ngakhale mukuyenera kuyitanidwa.
Anthu sikuti amangokhala opanda chidwi, sikuti amangomvera. Lumikizanani ndi anthu omwe mumakonda pafupipafupi, makamaka munthawi yomwe mukadakhala ndi ex wanu wakale.
5. Lowani nawo gulu la anthu osudzulana
Kusudzulana ndikusintha kwakukulu pamoyo. Kutsatira izi kudabwa momwe mungakonzekere kusudzulana ndiwowopsa kwambiri.
Kukonzekera kusudzulana, kapena kuyambiranso akazi atasudzulana kumatha kubweretsa chipwirikiti m'moyo. Thandizo lamabanja kwa amayi ndilofunikira kuwathandiza kuthana ndi zovuta pambuyo pa chisudzulo.
Kuyanjana ndi gulu lothandizirana kumakupatsani mwayi wokambirana m'malo otetezeka ndi ena omwe akukumana ndi zotere.
Kwa iwo omwe akukumana ndi mavuto azachuma, zingakhale zothandiza kusaka pa intaneti za zipatala za pro bono kapena thandizo laulere la kusudzulana kwa azimayi, kupeza upangiri wachinsinsi komanso waluso, kwaulere.
6. Chitani chinthu chomwe mwakhala mukufuna kuchita nthawi zonse
Pamalo ena, mutasudzulana mutha kukhala ndi ufulu wochita zofuna zanu m'njira zomwe simunakhalepo nazo kale. Ndipo mutha kukhala ndi nthawi yowonjezera.
Bwanji osachita zomwe mwakhala mukufuna kuchita nthawi zonse?
Tengani gulu lojambula, kujowina gulu lovina, mutu kuti mutsegule mic mic, kapena yambitsani bizinesi.
Maupangiri azisudzulo azimayi akuphatikizanso kupeza zomwe mumakonda ndikuzitsatira.
Pakadali pano, ngati mukudzithandiza nokha, chilakolakochi chikhoza kukhala pambali pa moyo wanu pakadali pano.
Koma zili bwino. Patulani nthawi yake ndipo khalani ndi nthawi yake. Ndinu ofunika.
7. Kumbukirani madalitso anu
Mukhala ndi nthawi zovuta ngakhale mutakhala okonzeka bwanji kusudzulana. Ndipo zidzakhala zovuta kuti zisakunyengeni zonse.
Ino ndi nthawi yosankha malo oti muike chidwi chanu. Kodi mudzayamba kuchita zoipa, kapena mudzakumbukira madalitso anu?
Ndi kusankha tsiku ndi tsiku, nthawi zina ola limodzi kuti musankhe kuyang'ana zabwino.
Kusinkhasinkha kudzathandiza, momwemonso kusunga magazini yoyamikira tsiku lililonse. Komanso mumakhala mozungulira ndi anthu abwino, nyimbo, mawu osangalatsa, ndi zina zambiri. Awa ndi ena chabe mwa nsonga zapamwamba za chisudzulo cha akazi.
Kumbukirani zinthu zabwino m'moyo ndipo zidzachuluka.
8. Chotsani "tsiku loyamba pambuyo pa chisudzulo"
Pankhani yokhudza chibwenzi pambuyo pa chisudzulo, imodzi mwamalangizo ofunikira kusudzulana kwa amayi ndikudikirira kwakanthawi, koma osati motalika kwambiri.
Simungamve ngati "wokonzeka" chifukwa chake ingopitani. Mwina sangakhale tsiku lodziwika bwino, koma bwanji? Talingalirani za kuyambiranso kubwerera kudziko la zibwenzi.
Mudzakhala okondwa kuti mwachita ndikukonzekera nthawi ina mukakhala pachibwenzi kapena chibwenzi chatsopano.
9. Dzichitireni chifundo
Upangiri wofunikira pakulekana kwa mayi ndikumvetsetsa kuti izi zitenga kanthawi.
Mukumva ngati mukukhala osakhazikika kwanthawi yayitali. Palibe kanthu. Dziuzeni kuti mudzakhala bwino, ngakhale simukudziwa momwe mungachitire.
Malangizo okhudzana ndi zisudzulo kwa amayi makamaka amatsindika zodzichitira moleza mtima komanso mokoma mtima.
Sambani kwa nthawi yayitali, pumulani pang'ono, nenani ayi ngati mukufuna. Dzipatseni nthawi yokwanira kuti mulirire maliro ndi kulingalira za mtsogolo.
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10. Onani mlangizi
Kukonzekera kusudzulana kapena kuyesa kubwezeretsa zikhalidwe pamoyo pambuyo pa chisudzulo? Mutha kuchita chilichonse "molondola" komabe mukumva kuti mulibe vuto lililonse lakusudzulana.
Chimodzi mwamaganizidwe ofunikira osudzula azimayi ndikuvomereza kuti izi sizachilendo. Ndipo zili bwino kufunafuna thandizo lakunja. Sikutaya mtima ayi. Kuyankhula ndi mlangizi kukutenga njira yoyeserera yolimbana ndi phiri lalikululi lomwe lachitika.
Mlangizi waluso akamayang'ana zinthu pogwiritsa ntchito mandala osakondera ndikupereka upangiri wodalirika wosudzula kapena malangizo amomwe angakonzekere chisudzulo cha mkazi, zimakhala ngati chitsogozo chothandiza kwa akazi.
Kwa amayi omwe amathetsa banja, ndizovuta kuthana ndi okha, ndipo kukambirana ndi akatswiri ophunzitsidwa mwina ndi zomwe mungafune.