Zamkati
- Khalani nawo
- Sankhani malo osalowerera ndale
- Lingalirani mayendedwe anu
- Gawani kuti musamalire
- Siyani zakale kumbuyo
Kodi mumayang'ana mnzanu ndikudabwa ngati amvapo mawu amodzi omwe mwanena? Kodi mumalankhulanso chilankhulo chofanana? Ngati muli ngati mabanja ambiri, mwakhala ndi nthawi yomwe simumalankhulana. Zilibe kanthu kochita ndi chikondi chanu kwa wina ndi mnzake koma zonse zokhudzana ndi ubale wanu.
Kuyankhulana ndi momwe mnzanu amakudziwira, zomwe mukufuna ndikusowa komanso zomwe zili zofunika kwa inu. Kulankhulana bwino kumafuna zambiri osati kungokhala pachibwenzi. Kodi mukuyankhula kapena mukuyankhulana? Kodi mukugwirizana ndikugawana nawo m'njira yomwe imafika pamalo okondana pomwe kumvetsetsa kwenikweni kumakhala?
Kudzimva kuti wachotsedwa kwa mnzako kapena kuvutika kuti akumve ndi chisonyezo chabwino kuti kulumikizana kwanu kungafune thandizo. Ngati mukugwedeza mutu wanu pompano, ndiye kuti njira zoyankhulirana zowona za mabanja ndizanu!
Khalani nawo
Palibe choipa kuposa kuyankhula ndi munthu yemwe wasokonezedwa kapena alibe chidwi. Kupezeka kumatanthauza kuti mukupatsa mnzanu chidwi chonse komanso osagawanika, mukumvetsera ndikuyankha moyenera. Kupezekapo kumasonyeza ulemu ndipo kumapereka uthenga wakuti “ndinu wofunika kwa ine.”
Kupezeka kumatanthauza kukhalapo mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo. Ikani foni yam'manja, zimitsani TV, tumizani ana kwa agogo madzulo ngati mukufunikira. Wokondedwa wanu akamva kuti mulipo nawo pakadali pano, mumakhala ndi mwayi womva ndikumveka.
Sankhani malo osalowerera ndale
Nthawi zina kusintha kosintha malo kumatha kuyambitsa makambitsirano atanthauzo. Izi zikhoza kukhala zoona makamaka ngati pakhala pali kusagwirizana kwakukulu m'dera lanu nthawi zonse. Zoyambitsa zakale, zokumbukira kapena zosokoneza pamenepo zitha kupangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuyesa njira yatsopano.
Ganizirani zopita kwina kulikonse komwe nonse mudzakhala omasuka. Mwina ndi paki, malo ogulitsira khofi kapena malo abata omwe nonse mumagawana. Mabanja ena amaona kuti “kuyenda ndi kulankhula” kumathandiza kwambiri. Chofunikira ndikupeza malo osangalatsa omwe mutha kumasuka ndikulumikiza.
Lingalirani mayendedwe anu
Kufuula sikumapangitsa mnzanu kuti akumveni bwino. Ditto akuloza pamaso pawo, kutchula mayina, kapena kugunda patebulo. M'malo mwake, machitidwe amtunduwu amachititsa kuti mnzanu azikusankhani. Chifukwa chiyani? Makhalidwe ngati amenewo amalumikizana ndi kupsa mtima, nkhanza kapena kunyalanyaza. Monga anthu, timapewa zomwe zimawoneka zowopsa.
Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala wokonzeka kukambirana ngati mupitirizabe kulamulira. Mukufuna kuti mnzanu adziwe kuti ndi bwino kukambirana nanu vuto. Nayi bonasi: mukakhazikika, zimalimbikitsa mnzanu kuti akhale chete. Zimakhala zovuta kukalipira munthu wodekha komanso wolamulira.
Ganizani musanalankhule. Ndemanga zoyipa zidadulidwa kwambiri ndipo nthawi ina zanenedwa, sizingabwererenso. Amakhala mumalingaliro a mnzanu nthawi yayitali mkangano utatha. Kulingalira za ulemu mukamakwatirana ndi kofunikira kwambiri popewa mkhalidwe woyipa ndipo ndi njira imodzi yolumikizirana yomwe maanja angaganizire.
Ndipo, musachite mantha kuvomereza mukalakwitsa. Kuvomereza zolakwa si chizindikiro cha kufooka. M'malo mwake, ndi chizindikiro cha mphamvu ndi umphumphu.
Gawani kuti musamalire
Nthawi zina mumatha kukhala ndi zambiri zonena, mumamva kufulumira kuti muzitulutse zonse nthawi imodzi. Wokondedwa wanu angamve chimodzimodzi. Mukusinthana kulikonse, ndikofunikira kuti munthu aliyense azimva kuti ali ndi mwayi wolankhula, womvetsera ndi kuyankha. Izi sizingachitike nonse mukakhala kuti mukufuna kulamulira zokambirana zanuzo. Yankho ndikugawana.
Pali njira zambiri zogawana nthawi yomwe muli nayo. Mabanja ena amasinthana kapena amakhala ndi nthawi yoti agawane asanapume kololeza wokondedwa wawo kugawana. Ena amachepetsa kuchuluka kwa nthawi yomwe angakambirane zinazake kapena kulembera anzawo zakukhosi. Yesetsani kuti muwone zomwe zikukuyenderani bwino.
Siyani zakale kumbuyo
Pewani chiyeso! Ngati nkhani yakale sinali vuto maola 24 apitawo, bwanji ikufunika pano? Kubweretsa zakale kumachotsa pamutu wapano ndikukupatsani zovuta ziwiri kuti muchitane nazo pakadali pano. Kuyika zakale ndikupewa kunena zamasiku akale ndi njira yolumikizirana mwanzeru kwambiri kwa maanja kuti aganizire ndikusangalala ndi ubale wawo.
Kubweretsa zakale kumatumiza uthenga kuti sungaloledwe kupitiliza. Bwanji ngati mungakumbukiridwe za zolakwa zonse zomwe mudachitapo? Kumeneko ndikuitanira kukwiya, mkwiyo, ndi kukhumudwitsidwa. Bwanji mukuvutikira kunena zomwe sizingakhululukidwe kapena kuthetsedwa? Nenani za wakupha kulumikizana!
Nthawi zina pamakhala mavuto osathetsedwa omwe amafunikira chisamaliro. Ngati mukuwona kuti zakale zikuchulukira, zingakhale zothandiza kupeza chithandizo. Pakadali pano, muthane ndi vutoli.
Chenjezo: kufunafuna thandizo lakunja SIKutanthauza kutengera amayi anu, BFF wanu kapena anthu omwe mumawadziwa akutenga mbali. Mutha kumukhululukira mnzanu koma omwe amakukondani mwina sangatero. Umenewu ndi mkangano watsopano. Kufunafuna thandizo lakunja kumatanthauza munthu wosalowerera ndale woyenera kukuthandizani kupeza mayankho (mwachitsanzo, mlangizi wamaanja).
Pokhala ndi maluso olankhulana bwino komanso chikondi chenicheni ndi ulemu kwa wina ndi mnzake, mutha kusunga ubale wanu kukhala wolimba komanso wolimba, wokhoza kupirira nthawi yovuta kwambiri. Simungalakwitse mukamamvera kuti mumvetsetse yemwe mumamukonda.
Kodi mukuganiza kuti njira zisanu zolankhulirana za maanja zitha kuthandizadi kukonza chibwenzi chawo? Fotokozani!