Zamkati
- 1) Kupuma mwamphamvu
- 2) Pofotokoza za nthawiyo, kugwiritsa ntchito kumvera ena chisoni ndikufotokoza momwe mumakhalira
- 3) Kupuma pang'ono
- 1) Kupuma mwamphamvu
- 2) Onetsani chisoni
- 3) Dzifunseni kuti "Ndichifukwa chiyani ndikudzimvera chisoni ndi izi?"
- 4) Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu anu kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu kumvetsetsa malo anu
Kuyankhulana ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zofunikira kwambiri ngati chibwenzi. Zomwe ndi zomwe zimanenedwa kuti zimathandiza kwambiri pakulimbitsa ubale. Ngakhale pamaubwenzi abwino kwambiri, pamakhala kusagwirizana. Anthu awiri amakhala ndi zokumana nazo zosiyana pamalingaliro azinthu ndipo ngakhale atakhala kuti amalankhulana ndikuyankhula za izi, zomwe zikunenedwa zitha kusokonekera mukutanthauzira.
Ndemanga zimanenedwa mobwerezabwereza, munthu m'modzi amakwiya kwambiri ndipo mnzake akuti, "Khazikani mtima pansi." Mawu awiri ang'onoang'ono omwe akamanenedwa mkati mokambirana ndimakhala ngati kuyatsa machesi ndikuwaponya pamadzi. Nthawi zambiri, zinthu zimakula msanga ndipo zimakhala zovuta kuti munthu A amvetsetse chifukwa chomwe munthu B wakhumudwitsira ndipo munthu B sangathe kufotokoza chifukwa chake akukwiyitsa.
Kotero, apa pali chinthucho. Ngakhale mawuwo pawokha sanapangidwe kuti akhale olakwika kapena owopsa, munthawiyi alibe tanthauzo. Kunena izi mkatikati mwa mkangano nthawi zambiri kumamveka kuti ndi kopanda tanthauzo komanso kofunidwa, kofanana ndi kunena kuti "Tsekani" zomwe ambiri angavomereze sizothandiza kwenikweni pankhaniyi. Ndiye mumatani?
Ngati ndinu munthu A ndikupeza kuti mumanena kawirikawiri, zimachitika chifukwa mumaona kukhumudwa komwe mnzanu akukumana nako komanso chifukwa mumamukonda, mukufuna kupereka chitonthozo ndikulola malo kuti athetse kulumikizana molakwika ndikuthetsa vutoli. Nthawi ina, ganizirani:
1) Kupuma mwamphamvu
Zimakhala zothandiza nthawi zonse ndipo zimakupatsani mwayi wokhazikika pamtima musanalankhule.
2) Pofotokoza za nthawiyo, kugwiritsa ntchito kumvera ena chisoni ndikufotokoza momwe mumakhalira
Yesani kunena zonga "Ndikuwona kuti mukukhumudwa ndipo sichinali cholinga changa. Ndiloleni ndifotokoze bwino zomwe ndikutanthauza. ”
3) Kupuma pang'ono
Imachedwetsa zokambiranazo kuti ziwonjezere mwayi wokhala ndi zokambirana zopindulitsa. Munganene kuti, “Mwina si nthawi yabwino kuti tikambirane. Sindikufuna kuti aliyense wa ife akhumudwe kapena kukangana. Titha kukambirana za izi ...? ” Chochita ndi ichi ndikuti muyenera kutchula nthawi inayake. Musalole kuti izingokhala popanda kukonza.
Ngati ndinu munthu B ndipo zanenedwa ndipo mukumva ngati moto ukuphulika mkati, yesani:
1) Kupuma mwamphamvu
Zimathandiza pakukhazikitsa malingaliro ndikukupulumutsani ku manyazi pambuyo pake mukamayankhula zoyipa (ngakhale mwadala).
2) Onetsani chisoni
Ngakhale zitha kukhala zovuta munthawiyo, nthawi zonse pamakhala cholinga chake. Kunena "Ndikumva kukwiya ndipo ndikudziwa kuti mukuyesera kuti ndikhale bwino. Tiyeni titengeko pang'ono ndikukhazikitsanso. ” Pewani kuphatikiza mawu oti "koma" munthawi iyi chifukwa mumanyalanyaza zomwe mukufuna kukwaniritsa ndikukuyikiraninso mofanana ndikubweza mlandu.
3) Dzifunseni kuti "Ndichifukwa chiyani ndikudzimvera chisoni ndi izi?"
Ili ndi funso losangalatsa chifukwa limakubwezerani zomwe mukuyang'ana komanso momwe mumatanthauzira momwe zinthu ziliri ndi zomwe zikunenedwa. Pomwe mutuwo komanso zina mwazinthu zomwe zikunenedwa ndizokhumudwitsa, mutha kuwongolera kukhumudwitsidwa ndikuthana ndi kukhumudwa kwanu pokambirana ndi mnzanu motsutsana ndi kukwiya komanso kusamvana molakwika kukhala nkhondo.
4) Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu anu kuthandiza wokondedwa wanu kumvetsetsa malo anu
"Izi zikachitika, zimayambitsa izi. Zimandikhumudwitsa chifukwa cha [lembani mawuwo]. Ndimamva bwino / osakwiya / osapanikizika ndika ... ”Yesetsani kuti musalowerere ndikulankhula mwadala kuti muthandize mnzanu kumvetsetsa momwe izi zimakukhudzirani komanso zomwe mukufuna. Palibe amene ali wangwiro ndipo maubale amakhala ndi zovuta zawo. Dinani pakukhulupirirana ndi chisamaliro chomwe mukukhulupirira kuti chilipo muubwenzi wanu, khalani kutali ndi chiweruzo ndikudzudzula masewerawo, pumirani kwambiri ndikugunda batani loyambiranso nthawi zambiri momwe mungafunire.