Zamkati
- 1. Kuzindikira kusadalira
- 2. Matenda amisala
- 3. Masomphenya olimbikira
- 4. Ana
- 5. Ubale womasuka
- 6. Kunyong'onyeka
- 7. Kugonana
- 8. Chitetezo
- Zoyenera kuchita atachoka?
Sizitengera digiri ya sayansi ya rocket kuzindikira kuti maukwati achimwemwe samangotaya mwadzidzidzi.
Kunena zowona, maukwati amakonda kusokonekera pambuyo pakudwala kwanthawi yayitali komanso ngakhale kukana. Nthawi zambiri, maanja amayesetsabe kutsatira izi powika zowonjezera pa upangiri ndi kulumikizana.
Izi zati, maanja ambiri amatha kuloza mphindi kapena mphindi pomwe zinthu zafika poti sizingabwererenso.
Koma nayi chinthu chosautsa. Nthawi zina maanja amapatukana maukwati osangalala kapena maubale abwino. Kusamuka kumeneku kumapangitsa mnzakeyo kudabwa, "Zangochitika kumenezi ndi ziti?" Pachigawo ichi, tiwona zina mwazifukwa zomwe amayi amasiya maukwati osangalala. Kodi chilichonse cha izi chikukukhudzani?
Pemphani kuti mudziwe chifukwa chake amayi amasochera komanso akaleka kusamalira chibwenzi.
1. Kuzindikira kusadalira
Pali nthawi zina pamene okwatirana amakayikiridwa chifukwa cha kulumikizana molakwika komanso kusagwirizana kochepa. Chodabwitsa ndichakuti, kufunikira kwaukwati wachimwemwe kumatha kudalira kwakanthawi.
Mkazi yemwe akukoka mwamtendere ndi mbendera yofiira muukwati wachimwemwe.
Zabwino kapena zoyipa, apo ayi maukwati abwinobwino komanso osangalala atha chifukwa cha kusaka.
2. Matenda amisala
Tonsefe talimbana ndi "chisangalalo." Mkazi akachoka, mavuto amunthu, kukhumudwa ndi zina zotero zitha kukhala chothandizira kuti achoke mwadzidzidzi pachibwenzi.
Nthawi zambiri, kukhumudwa kumachitika chifukwa chotayika ndipo chimakhala chovuta kwambiri. Komabe, pali nthawi zina pomwe zovuta zathu zamaganizidwe athu zimafika patali kuposa kukhumudwa.
Matenda opezedwa ndi matenda sangathe kungowononga zolinga zabwino za munthuyo koma atha kudodometsa ubale wonse womwe ulipo, ngakhale m'mabanja athanzi komanso osangalala.
Akazi - ndi abambo pankhaniyi - amatha kusiya banja ngati matenda amisala asokoneza malingaliro abwino.
3. Masomphenya olimbikira
Chimodzi mwazithunzi zosathandiza kwambiri zomangirizidwa ku ukwati wakumadzulo ndi lingaliro loti "awiriwo amakhala amodzi."
Maukwati athanzi ndi achimwemwe amalola malo okwanira kwa onse awiri kuti athe kufufuza ndikulandira masomphenya awo pantchito, moyo, uzimu, ndi zina zotero. Komabe, pamakhala nthawi zina pamene othandizana nawo amazindikira kuti masomphenya awo ndi masomphenya opikisana. Momwemonso, kusokonekera kumachitika muubwenzi.
Ngati mayi kapena wokondedwa wake akuwona kuti masomphenya awo mtsogolo sakugwirizana ndi mayendedwe abanja, banja litha.
4. Ana
Osati anthu onse okwatirana omwe amasankha kukhala ndi ana monga gawo la "kufanana" kwawo.
Mphamvu yopanda mwana ndiyabwino bola ngati maphwando onse atero. Komabe, azimayi nthawi zambiri amamva kukopa kwaubwino pomwe ena ofunika samvera. Pakakhala kusamvana kotereku muubwenzi, kulekana m'banja kumatha.
Nyumba yogawanika payokha siingathe kuyima. Momwemonso, kusagwirizana pankhani ya "mwana kapena wopanda mwana" kumatha kukhala kovuta.
5. Ubale womasuka
Mabanja ena amapanga mgwirizano womwe umaloleza "kukondana".
Ngakhale kukhulupirirana kwakukulu kumafunikira pakati pa anthu omwe amalola kuti afotokozere zakunja kuposa chibwenzicho, chibwenzicho chitha kuzunzika chifukwa cha izi.
Nayi chinthu chake, kudalira kumachepa pomwe chidwi chathu chimangoyang'ana pa mgwirizano umodzi. Amayi omwe ali ndi zibwenzi zolimba kapena maukwati achimwemwe amatha kusiya chibwenzicho ngati akuwona kuti okondedwa wawo ndiwomwe ali pachibwenzi chambiri kuposa ukwati.
6. Kunyong'onyeka
Momwe umunthu umasinthira, nthawi yathu yakusankha ikukulira. Chifukwa ukadaulo ndi zamankhwala nthawi zambiri zimatipatsa nthawi yochulukirapo yopumulira, titha kusankha kuyenda kapena kuchita zosangalatsa zosiyanasiyana.
Koma ngakhale tikamachita zosangalatsa kuti zinthu zisangalatse, tikhoza kukhala otopa ndi ubale wathu wakale. Amayi ena, komanso amuna, atha kumva ngati kuti wokondedwa wawo alibe chidwi kapena kutakataka mokwanira kuti akakamize kudzipereka kwanthawi yayitali.
Mwina sitingalimbane ndi mnzathu, koma tikhoza kukhumudwa nawo. Chifukwa chake, azimayi ena amapita ndi moyo wopanda zina zawo zofunika.
7. Kugonana
Anthu ena amene ali pabanja ali pabanja pamene wina azindikira kuti amakopeka ndi amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Wokondedwa akhoza kumukonda mnzakeyo pomwe sakukondana naye.
Mkazi (kapena bambo) akazindikira kuti amakonda amuna kapena akazi anzawo, zitha kutanthauza kutha kwaubwenzi wapano.
Ngakhale kulekana ndi kuthekera kosudzulana kungakhale kovuta, kungakhale kofunikira.
Tonsefe timafuna kutsimikizika ngati tili athanzi. Pakakhala kuti izi sizowona, titha kudzikayikira komanso kukhumudwa. Kukhala wowona pamalingaliro kungatanthauze kusintha kwa ubale ndikofunikira.
8. Chitetezo
Ngakhale mutuwo umatanthawuza mitundu yonse ya zosankha, cholinga chake chimakhala chimodzi. Akasiya kuyesa ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu chamoto kuti mayiyo wabwerera.
Pali nthawi yomwe akazi (ndi abambo) amachoka paubwenzi wabwino chifukwa amaona "miyezi yoyipa" kumapeto. Matenda azaumoyo, matenda osachiritsika, ndi zina zotero ndi zifukwa zomwe mnzake angachokere pa "chinthu chabwino" kapena kukakamizidwa kuchoka pachibwenzi chifukwa akufuna kuteteza anzawo.
Poyesera kuteteza ena kuzinthu zomwe takumana nazo, titha kuvulaza koposa zabwino.
Zoyenera kuchita atachoka?
Akachoka, mpatseni malo ndipo akhoza kubwerera.
Nthawi zina, abwenzi amachoka pazomwe ziyenera kukhala zabwino. Ndizopweteka, ndizopweteka, koma zimachitika. Izi zikachitika, ndikofunikira kuti mnzake yemwe adzalandire nkhani zoyipa kuti akhale omasuka kwinaku akupitilizabe kukhala ndi chiyembekezo kuti kuyanjananso ndikotheka.
Kulankhulana mwamphamvu ndiyofunika kuti mabanja azikhala osangalala. Ndipo, pamapeto pake, kuvomereza chilichonse chomwe chili m'makhadi aubwenzi.
Ndiye muyenera kuchita chiyani akakakhala patali?
M'malo mofuna kukonza mwachangu momwe mungabwezeretsere chibwenzi, ndikofunikira kuti mumupatse mpata, onetsetsani kuti palibe zomwe mwachita zomwe zidamukhumudwitsa zomwe mukudziwa, ndikufunsa ngati adzakhala wokonzeka kupita ku uphungu.
Sitingapange zisankho kwa anzathu apamtima ngati ali ofunitsitsa kubwerera pachibwenzi. Titha kudzisamalira tokha.