Zamkati
- Chifukwa chiyani kusilira kuli gawo lofunikira kwambiri muubwenzi?
- Kodi banja limapanga bwanji chidwi chawo chokomana?
- 1. Muzilemekezana
- 2. Pitirizani kukula
- 3. Lembani bwino
- 4. Pangani mndandanda
- Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati mnzanu sakukondedwa?
Chinsinsi cha ubale wabwino ndi chiyani? Chinthu choyamba chimene chimabwera m'maganizo ndi chikondi, ndithudi. Kukoma mtima ndi ulemu ziyenera kukhala pamndandanda wazofuna za aliyense. Komabe pali chinthu china chomwe ndichofunikira paubwenzi: kusilira. Popanda kuyamikiridwa, chikondi chimatha komanso kuwawidwa mtima ndi kunyozedwa kumatha kutenga malo ake.
Tonse tawona mabanja omwe amanyozana ndikudzudzulana pagulu. Ndikutetezedwa kuti ubale wawo sungapite patali. Anthu awiri omwe amachita zinthu zowopsa ngati izi samakondana. Ngati simusilira wokondedwa wanu, sipangakhale kulumikizana kwakukulu ndipo ubalewo uyenera kutha.
Chifukwa chiyani kusilira kuli gawo lofunikira kwambiri muubwenzi?
Kusirira wina kumatanthauza kumulemekeza. Mumalemekeza zomwe amayimira, momwe amalumikizirana ndi okondedwa awo komanso mdera lawo. Izi zimakupangitsani kuti mufune kukwera pamlingo wapamwamba pamene mukufuna kukhala kudzoza kwa chidwi chawo. "Mumandipangitsa kuti ndikhale munthu wabwino," a Jack Nicholson amamuuza mayi yemwe amamusilira (ndipo amamukonda) mu kanema "As Good As It Gets". Ndi zomwe timafuna kumva tikakhala ndi munthu woyenera!
Kumva uku kumagwira ntchito limodzi. Timasilira yemwe timakondana naye, ndipo tili ndi chosowa kuti nawonso atisunge. Izi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti moyo wawo ukhale wolimba komanso wathanzi zimalimbikitsa ubalewo ndipo zimathandizira kuti munthu aliyense azichita bwino kwambiri.
Pali magawo angapo oyamikiridwa. Tikakumana koyamba ndi munthu amene timamukonda, mosakayikira timasilira iwo pazifukwa zazing'ono - ndiwokopa kwa ife, kapena timakonda kapangidwe kawo.
Tikayamba kuwadziwa bwino, chidwi chathu chimasintha kuchokera panja kupita mkati. Timasilira kudzipereka kwawo pantchito yawo. Timasilira kukonda kwawo masewera. Timasilira momwe amachitira ndi makolo awo, anzawo, galu woweta ... momwe amalumikizirana ndi omwe amawazungulira. Timayamikira mfundo zawo zazikulu.
Ngati kusilira kumangoyang'ana kunja, chikondi sichingazike mizu ndikukula. Mumatha kukhala ngati banja lomwe limamenyera pagulu.
Kodi banja limapanga bwanji chidwi chawo chokomana?
1. Muzilemekezana
Mosiyana ndi malingaliro odziwika, okwatirana okondana sayenera kuthera nthawi yawo yonse yopuma limodzi. M'malo mwake, maanja omwe amatsata zilakolako zosiyana amafotokoza kuti izi zimathandiza kuti banja lawo likhale labwino komanso losangalatsa. Pali kulingalira kwa izi, kumene. Koma kuthera maola angapo mukuchita "zomwe mukufuna", kaya kuyenda, kapena kukaphika, kapena kudzipereka kumalo osungira anthu ndikubwerera kunyumba ndikugawana zomwe mwakumana nazo ndi njira yotsimikizika kuti muzisangalalira nawo kwa wina ndi mnzake. Mumamva momwe mnzanu akumverera kuti akuchita bwino ndipo mumanyadira nazo.
2. Pitirizani kukula
Kuthandizana wina ndi mnzake ndi gawo la chidwi chapamwamba. Kodi pali chilichonse chomwe mungachite kuti muthandize mnzanu kupita patsogolo ndi ntchito yake? Kodi pali chilichonse chomwe angakuchitireni? Izi ndi zokambirana zabwino zoti mukhale nazo. Mukalandira kukwezedwa uku, mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti mnzanu adzakhala pomwepo, ndikuwayang'ana.
3. Lembani bwino
"Ndimasilira momwe muma ________" zingatanthauzenso kuti "Ndimakukondani." Kumbukirani kuuza mnzanu momwe mumawakondera. Titha kulandilidwa makamaka akakhala otaya mtima kapena okhumudwa. Kuwakumbutsa kuti ali ndi mphatso zomwe akuyenera kuzindikira mwina ndi zomwe angafune kumva.
4. Pangani mndandanda
Pakadali pano lembani zinthu zitatu zomwe mumazikonda zokhudza mnzanu. Limbirani pamndandanda. Onjezerani nthawi ndi nthawi. Tchulani izi mukamadutsa pamavuto.
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani ngati mnzanu sakukondedwa?
Ngakhale zingawoneke ngati zodabwitsika, wokwatirana yemwe amabera nthawi zonse samasochera, atha kukhala chifukwa samalandira chidwi ndikuthokoza kunyumba. Mkazi yemwe mwamuna wake samamusamalira kwenikweni kunyumba amapatsidwa mwayi wokopeka ndi mnzake kuntchito yemwe amamumvera ndikumuuza kuti luso lake loganiza mozama ndilabwino. Mwamuna yemwe mkazi wake wamangidwa mu ana ndipo salinso kuyesetsa kuchita zinthu ndi mwamuna wake ndikosavuta kwa mayi yemwe amamuyang'ana akamayankhula, ndikumusilira.
Mwanjira ina, muubwenzi wathu wachikondi, tifunika kudzimva okondedwa komanso okondedwa ndi okondedwa.
Ndikofunika kuti tizisilira patsogolo pomwe tili ndiubwenzi. Chikondi sichokwanira kuti banja likhale lolimba komanso lolimba. Uzani mnzanu lero chifukwa chake mumawasilira. Itha kungotsegulira nonse kukambirana kwatsopano.