Zamkati
- Sizikhala zophweka
- 1. Mutha kukayikira ngati muli amisala
- 2. Mumayamba kusungulumwa
- 3. Mumayamba kutaya chidwi
- 4. Mumapereka chilichonse chomwe wankhanza akufuna
- 5. Mwina mungadziwe zolakwa zanu ngakhale zomwe kulibe
- 6. Kukhulupirira nkhani
- 7. Munthu wankhanza adzakhala akulamulira
- Masitepe kuti achire
- Dzikhululukireni nokha
- Osapanga zambiri
- Sungunulani malingaliro anu mwa kulingalira
Zotsatira zakukwatiwa ndi wankhanza ndizofunikira ndipo zimatha kuwononga momwe munthu amakhalira.
Kukwatiwa ndi wankhanza kumatanthauza kuti mumakonda kunamiziridwa, kutsitsidwa mtengo, ndikuzunzidwa kwambiri. Kuyambiranso kuchokera kuukwati kupita ku narcissist ndizovuta, koma ndizotheka. Njira zothanirana ndi nkhaniyi zitha kuthandiza.
Sizikhala zophweka
Kuyambiranso chisudzulo kapena ubale sikophweka.
Koma kuyambiranso kukwatiwa ndi wankhanza ndizovuta kwambiri. Kungakhale kovuta kwambiri kuchira kuchokera kuubwenzi wamanyazi poyerekeza ndi ubale wathanzi nthawi zambiri chifukwa chazikhulupiriro zomwe zidzakambidwe.
Zimakhala zovuta kukumbukira zaubwenzi ndi munthu wankhanza; wina sangachitire mwina koma kufunsa, "kodi zonse zinali chabe?"
Mwinanso mungakhale mutachotsa zikwangwani zonse; mwina munanyalanyaza mbendera zofiira chifukwa mumakonda wokondedwa wanu.
Kukula kwa mkhalidwe wanu ndikuzindikira kuti zikadatha kupewedwa kumatha kubweretsa malingaliro ambiri okhudzana ndi kudziimba mlandu komanso kudzidetsa chifukwa munadzilola kupusitsidwa ndi wankhanza.
Koma simuli nokha; Umu ndimomwe amayankhira kukwatiwa ndi wankhanza. Njira yoyamba yochira ndikuvomereza izi, monga tafotokozera pano.
Zotsatira zakukwatirana ndi wankhanza
1. Mutha kukayikira ngati muli amisala
Mutha kupanga kukayikira za kukhulupirika kwa abwenzi ndi abale amnzanu amiseche omwe angakhale ovuta ngati pali ana kapena mabwenzi apakati panu.
2. Mumayamba kusungulumwa
Simungakhulupirire mnzanu wapamtima, ndiye mungatani kuti mukhale ndi chibwenzi chatsopano?
Simukumva kuti ndinu wofunika. Mumayamba kusiya kudzidalira mukafuna kusankha zochita.
3. Mumayamba kutaya chidwi
Mumayamba kutaya chisangalalo chifukwa chokwaniritsa ntchito iliyonse yovuta. Mutha kuyamba kumva ngati kuti muli ndi ngongole zonse zakupambana ngati muli pachibwenzi.
4. Mumapereka chilichonse chomwe wankhanza akufuna
Muthanso kuyamba kusamvana pakati pazofuna zanu ndi zosowa zanu motsutsana ndi anthu ena - monga wotsutsa.
Mwinanso mwazolowera kuchita zomwe wankhanza akufuna. Mukachira, muphunzira kusiya malingaliro, omwe atha kukhala ovuta.
5. Mwina mungadziwe zolakwa zanu ngakhale zomwe kulibe
Zopereka zanu zomwe zidaperekedwa zidachepetsedwa, chifukwa chake mutha kupitiliza kuzitsitsa.
Muyenera kuti mumazindikira zolakwa zanu, ngakhale zomwe kulibe. Mumazolowera kudziumba kuti mukwaniritse zofuna zanu, zomwe tsopano zakhala chizolowezi.
Zimatenga nthawi ndi khama kuti mudziphunzitse kuti mudzipezenso. Muyenera kuti mwaiwala momwe mungakwaniritsire zosowa zanu kapena kudzipangira nokha.
6. Kukhulupirira nkhani
Kutha kwanu kukhulupirira ena kapena kudzikhulupirira nokha kumakhala kotsika kwambiri.
7. Munthu wankhanza adzakhala akulamulira
Zotsatira zakutali zokwatirana ndi wankhanza zimatha kukupangitsani kuti mulibe mphamvu munjira zingapo. Kungakhale chokumana nacho chowopsa.
Masitepe kuti achire
Monga momwe zimakhalira ndi zoopsa zilizonse, mutha kuchira.
Zingatenge kulimbika mtima ndikutsimikiza mtima kutero, koma mutha kuchira pazotsatira zakukwatiwa ndi wankhanza.
Nawa maupangiri angapo okuthandizani panjira
Dzikhululukireni nokha
Njira yoyamba yochira ndi kudzikhululukira.
Mukadzikhululukira, mumadzipatsa mwayi komanso ufulu wopita patsogolo m'moyo wanu, womwe ndi ufulu wanu. Zinali zomwe zinali ndipo tsopano ndizotheka kuti mudzikhululukire. Kumbukirani, silinali vuto lanu.
Osapanga zambiri
Ngakhale simulowa pachibwenzi chatsopano pambuyo pa chisudzulo kuchokera kwa mkazi kapena mwamuna wanu wamiseche, ndikosavuta kuyamba kuyankhula zopanda pake kapena kukhala ndi zikhulupiriro wamba monga; "Amuna / akazi onse ndi ozunza anzawo" kapena "amuna / akazi onse ndiopusitsa."
Ndikofunika kuzindikira izi zikachitika, ndipo ndibwino kuti mubwerere ndikudzikumbutsa kuti choipa chimodzi choyipa sichiyenera kuwononga mwayi wanu woti mudzimasule mumtima wowawa.
Sungunulani malingaliro anu mwa kulingalira
Mukamakhala m'malire a mnzanu wapamtima, zoyesayesa zanu zonse ndi zomwe mwakwaniritsa mwina zidangokhala kuti muziwasangalatsa.
Onetsani malingaliro anu posiya poizoni yemwe amabwera chifukwa cha ubale wanu ndi wankhanza.
Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mutulutse zowawa zonse ndikumapumira panokha. Njira yomwe mungagwiritse ntchito ndikusamala.
Kulingalira kumatanthauza kukudziwitsani ndi kuvomereza malingaliro anu ndikumverera kwa thupi munthawi ino. Iyi ndi njira yothandizira kuti muthane ndi zomwe mudakumana nazo kale.
Mutha kuyamba ulendo wanu wokasamala posunga zolemba ndikuchita kusinkhasinkha.
Zitha kukhala zolimba chifukwa zitha kutsegulanso mabala omwe mungakonde kuti miziikidwe koma mabala omwe amakwiriridwa amakhalabe ovulaza, ndibwino kukumba ndikuchiza bwino. Ngati mukumva kulira, lirani. Ngati mukumva kufunika kokwiya, kwiyani.
“M'kupita kwa nthawi, mudzamvetsa. Zomwe zimakhala, zimatha; zomwe sizichita, sizitero. Nthawi imathetsa zinthu zambiri. Ndipo nthawi yomwe sungathetse, uyenera kudzikonza wekha. ” - Haruki Murakami
Awa ndi malingaliro omwe muyenera kumasula ndipo apita. Asiyeni azipita.