Zamkati
- Lingaliro la upangiri payekha
- Tikakwatirana, timalumikizana limodzi
- Kufunika kokhala payekha pakulangizidwa kwa maanja
- Momwe mungakhalire ndi banja losangalala?
Nthawi zambiri, anthu akabwera kwa ine kudzandilangiza zaukwati, ndimapempha zokambirana ndi onse awiriwa payekhapayekha. Ino ndi nthawi yabwino kuti ndidziwe aliyense m'banjamo m'njira zawo. Nthawi zina, wokondedwa wawo amawona kuti sangakhale achilungamo pachinthu china pamaso pa wokondedwa wawo. Kugonana, ndalama, ndi zopweteka zakale nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kukambirana moona mtima ndi mnzanu, chifukwa chake timakambirana za izi nthawi iliyonse tisanazibweretse ku maukwati. Maanja ambiri omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito amamvetsetsa izi ndipo amasangalala kuchita magawo ochepa oyambilirawa. Chilichonse chothandizira ukwati wawo, inde? Chovuta nthawi zambiri chimabwera ndikamapereka upangiri kwa aliyense payekha.
Lingaliro la upangiri payekha
Pazifukwa zina, anthu samachita chidwi ndi lingaliro la upangiri payekha. Nthawi zambiri ndimamva "Tidabwera kukalandira upangiri wa maanja. Konzani ukwati wathu. ” kapena nthawi zambiri “Palibe vuto ndi ine. Ndiwo omwe amafunikira uphungu. ”
Nthawi zina muubwenzi wamavuto, ndizosavuta kukonza pazonse zomwe mnzanu akuchita zolakwika. Akadangosintha. Akadangosiya kuchita chinthu chosasangalatsa kwambiri, ndiye kuti zonse zikhala bwino. Kapenanso ndikosavuta kungoyang'ana paubwenzi womwe ukusweka. Ndikadakhala kuti titha kulumikizana bwino. Tikadakhala ndi njira zina zokometsera zinthu mchipinda chogona. Inde, kulumikizana kwabwino nthawi zonse kumathandiza ndipo inde moyo wogonana wosasunthika ungathandize mavuto ambiri m'banja. Koma kumapeto kwa tsiku, banja ndi chiwerengero cha anthu awiri omwe akuyenda. Ndipo nthawi zambiri amanyalanyazidwa.
Tikakwatirana, timalumikizana limodzi
Lonjezo lomangika, lomwe nthawi zambiri limakhala lachipembedzo limapangidwa kuti tidzakhala amodzi. Timadutsa pamoyo ndi mnzathu, "theka lathu labwino," "wathu wina wofunikira." Pakakhala mavuto ndi ndalama kapena ndi banja, wokondedwa wathu nthawi zambiri amatithandiza. Tikamapanga mapulani tifunika kuunikiranso limodzi ndi mnzathu kuti tiwonetsetse kuti "tilibe zolinga". Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosavuta kudzitayitsa tokha motere. Kuyiwala kuti ngakhale kulumikizana uku kwa awiri kukhala gawo limodzi, tidakali anthu omwe tidali tisanakwatirane. Tili ndi ziyembekezo zathu komanso zokhumba zathu zomwe zingafanane kapena zosagwirizana ndi za mnzathu. Tili ndi zododometsa komanso zosangalatsa zomwe sizikusowa kuti zigwirizane ndi zawo. Inu mukadali inu, ngakhale mutakwatirana. Ndipo chomvetsa chisoni kwambiri, mnzanu amakhalabe munthu wawo.
Kufunika kokhala payekha pakulangizidwa kwa maanja
Ndiye zikutanthauza chiyani kukhala anthu awiri ndipo chifukwa chiyani izi ndizofunikira kwa uphungu kwa maanja? Kuyankhula mwachiphamaso, gawo (omwe muli pabanja) siligwira ntchito bwino pokhapokha ziwalo zonse ziwiri (inu ndi mnzanu) zikugwira ntchito bwino. Kodi kumatanthauza chiyani kugwira ntchito bwino ngati munthu? Chikhalidwe ichi sichikondwerera kudzisamalira. Sitimayang'ana kwambiri zaumoyo wa munthu aliyense momwe tiyenera kukhalira. Koma moyenera, muyenera kudzidalira. Muyenera kukhala ndi zinthu zomwe mumakonda kuchita, zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti muzimva bwino pochita (zolimbitsa thupi, zosangalatsa, ntchito yabwino). Zinthu zomwe sizifunikira kuvomerezedwa ndi ena chifukwa kuvomereza kwanu ndizokwanira.
Kudzisamalira moyenera kumatanthauzanso kufika poti mumve kuti ndinu wathunthu nokha. Inde, ndi malingaliro achikondi kuti "mupeze theka lanu" ndikukwera kulowa kwa dzuwa, ndikukhala mosangalala mpaka kalekale, koma ngati mukudziwa kufunikira kwa upangiri wa maanja kuposa momwe mukudziwira kuti chikhulupiriro ichi ndi bologna. Ndinganenenso kuti chikhulupiliro ichi chofunikira kuti wina abwere kuti atipulumutse ndichowopsa. Ndi maukwati angati omwe ali ndi poizoni omwe adapangidwapo kapena kukhalamo chifukwa cha wina kuopa kukhala yekha? Monga kuti kukhala nokha ndi chinthu choyipitsitsa chomwe chingachitike kwa wina. Osangokhala kuti tikhale anthu athunthu patokha, komanso koposa momwe tili kale. Komanso, ngati tili bwino patokha ndipo ndife anthu athunthu osafunikira wina kukhala "theka lathu", ndiye kuti zimatimasula kukhala muukwati wa ufulu wathu wosankha.
Ngati tikhulupirira kuti tiyenera kukhalabe muukwati wathu, kuti tithe kusokoneza china chilichonse, chifukwa mwina ndife anthu osakwanira, ndiye kuti tikudzitchinjiriza. Titha kusankha kuti moyo wathu ukhale wopindulitsa ndi anzathu chifukwa timawafuna pomwe tili ndi banja losangalala.
Momwe mungakhalire ndi banja losangalala?
Ndiye timachita bwanji izi? Kodi timakhala bwanji anthu athunthu m'banja labwino? Ndikunena uphungu payekha komanso kudzisamalira ndipo zidzamveka zosavuta kuchita, koma kwenikweni ndichimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri zomwe munthu angachite. Pamafunika kudziwonetsera. Zimafunikira kulola kuti anthu ena azikhala ndi mwayi wachimwemwe chathu. Pamafunika kukhala bwino ndi kukanidwa. Ndipo nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosokoneza m'maganizo kuti wina agwire ntchito. Kuti mumve bwino ndikukwanira nokha ndi ntchito yovuta, koma ndiyofunikira ngati mukufuna kukhala bwenzi labwino kwa wina. Pakuti ngati ungakhale womasuka kudzisunga wekha, ngati ungasankhe wokwatirana naye chifukwa cha iwo okha osati chifukwa choti ena akufunira, ndiye kuti izi zimamasula bwanji mnzanu? Kodi mungakhale achimwemwe kwambiri bwanji inu nonse mutakhala opanda katundu wodabwitsayu wosakhala osakwanira?
Kodi mumakwanitsa nokha? Kodi mukukhala ndi mnzanuyo kuti mukhale bwino? Lankhulani ndi mnzanu. Afunseni ngati akumva bwino. Kapena ngati akuwona kuti muyenera kuwamaliza. Kodi ichi ndi chinthu chomwe nonse mukufuna? Nkhaniyi ndiyomwe ili yovuta kukulunga m'nkhani, koma pali zinthu zokuthandizani paulendo wanu ndipo mlangizi payekha angakuthandizeni kuti muyambe ulendo. Chofunikira ndikukumbukira kuti ndinu okwanira kale, nthawi zina timangoiwala izi.