Zamkati
Banja lililonse limakhala ndi gawo labwino komanso lotsika. Ngakhale kulibe vuto kudutsa munthawi yachisangalalo, kuthana ndi mavuto am'banja kumakhala kovuta.
Kuti banja likhale lopambana, chofunikira ndikumvetsetsa momwe mungathetsere mavutowa ndikuphunzira kuwathetsa. Kulola mavuto anu a m'banja kuti akule kungasokoneze banja lanu.
Malangizo aukwati ochokera kwa akatswiri
Mabanja onse amadutsa magawo ovuta, okhala ndi mavuto ovuta komanso otopetsa. Ngakhale mutakhala m'banja nthawi yayitali bwanji, kupyola mu zomwezo sikumakhala kosavuta.
Koma malangizo ochokera kwa akatswiri atha kukuthandizani kuthana ndi mavutowa bwino, osakhala ndi zowononga m'banja lanu.
Tikukupatsani upangiri wabwino wamaukwati ndi akatswiri azamaubwenzi kuti akuthandizeni kukhala ndi banja losangalala komanso lokwaniritsa-
1. Sungani mpweya wanu panthawi yomwe muli pamalo abwino ozizira
Malangizo: Joan Levy, Lcsw
Lekani kuyesera kulankhulana mukakwiya. Chilichonse chomwe mukuyesa kunena sichidzamveka momwe mungafunire. Konzani mkwiyo wanu poyamba:
- Fufuzani zoyerekeza kuchokera kuzinthu zina ndi anthu ena akale;
- Kodi mungakhale mukuwonjezera tanthauzo pazomwe mnzanu wanena kapena sananene, sanachite kapena sanachite zomwe zingakukhumudwitseni kuposa momwe zimakhalira?
- Dzifunseni ngati muli ndi chosowa chomwe sichikuthandizani chomwe chakukhumudwitsani? Kodi mungapereke bwanji zosowazo popanda kulakwitsa wokondedwa wanu?
- Kumbukirani kuti uyu ndi munthu amene mumamukonda komanso amakukondani. Simuli mdani wa wina ndi mnzake.
2. Dziwani kumvera ndikupezeka kwathunthu kwa okondedwa wanu
Melissa Lee-Tammeus, Ph.D., LMHc
Phungu Waumoyo
Pogwira ntchito ndi maanja muzochita zanga, chimodzi mwazinthu zazikulu kwambiri zopweteketsa zimachokera pakumva kapena kumva. Nthawi zambiri izi zimachitika chifukwa timadziwa kuyankhula, koma osamvera.
Khalani nawo kwathunthu kwa mnzanu. Ikani foni, siyani ntchitoyo, ndipo yang'anani mnzanu ndikungomvetsera. Ngati atakufunsani kuti mubwereze zomwe mnzanu wanena, mungatero? Ngati simungathe, luso lomvetsera lingafunike kulimbikitsidwa!
3. Kulumikizana sikungapeweke, komanso kulumikizanso
Candice Creasman Mowrey, Ph.D., LPC-S
Zodula ndi gawo lachilengedwe la maubale, ngakhale omwe amakhala! Nthawi zambiri timayembekezera kuti ubale wathu wachikondi uzikhala pafupi nthawi zonse, ndipo tikadzimva tokha kapena anzathu akutengeka, titha kumva ngati mapeto ali pafupi. Musachite mantha! Dzikumbutseni kuti si zachilendo kenako yesetsani kulumikizanso.
4. Osamasewera mosamala nthawi zonse
Mirel Goldstein, MS, MA, LPC
Ndikulangiza kuti maanja agawane zomwe ali pachiwopsezo tsiku ndi tsiku chifukwa maanja omwe amasiya kukhala pachiwopsezo ndipo "amasewera mosamala" amatha kudzimva kuti ali kutali wina ndi mnzake nthawi ikamapita komanso maudindo a tsiku ndi tsiku amapikisana ndi zosowa zaubwenzi.
5. Ikani ntchitoyi kuti mukhale ndi banja losangalala
Lynn R. Zakeri, Lcsw
Ukwati ndi ntchito. Palibe ubale womwe ungakhalepo popanda onse omwe agwira ntchitoyi. Kugwira ntchito muukwati wachimwemwe ndi wathanzi sikuwona ngati kugwira ntchito ndi ntchito yoti ugwire.
Koma kutenga nthawi kumvetsera, kukonza nthawi yabwino, kukhazikitsa patsogolo wina ndi mnzake, ndikugawana zakukhosi ndizo ntchito zabwino. Khulupiranani wina ndi mnzake, ndi zovuta zanu, ndipo muzilemekezana wina ndi mnzake moona mtima (osati kungokhala chabe). Ntchito yamtunduwu imakupatsani zabwino zonse pamoyo wanu.
6. Tsegulani zambiri kwa mnzanu ndikupanga ubale wolimba
Mayi Brenda Whiteman, BA, R.S.W
Mukamanena zambiri, momwe mumalankhulira kwambiri, ndikamalankhula kwambiri momwe mumamvera, mumamuwuza mnzanu momwe mukumvera komanso zomwe mukuganiza, ndimomwe mumalankhulira ndi zenizeni zanu - ndizotheka kuti inu apanga maziko olimba aubwenzi wanu pano komanso mtsogolo.
Kubisa malingaliro ndi malingaliro ndi njira yotsimikizika yothetsera maziko aubwenzi wanu.
7. Khalani omvera chisoni momwe wina akumvera ndikukambirana mavuto awo limodzi
Mary Kay Cocharo, LMFT
Malangizo anga abwino kwa onse okwatirana ndikutenga nthawi yophunzira kulumikizana bwino. Ambiri mwa mabanja omwe amathera mu Therapy yaukwati amafunikira kwambiri izi! Kuyankhulana moyenera ndi njira yomwe munthu aliyense amamva kuti amvedwa ndikumvetsetsa.
Zimaphatikizaponso kumvera chisoni momwe ena akumvera ndikukhala ndi mayankho limodzi. Ndikukhulupirira kuti zowawa zambiri mbanja zimabwera pamene maanja ayesa kuthana ndi mavuto popanda zida zilizonse. Mwachitsanzo, maanja ena amapewa kusamvana kuti "akhazikitse mtendere".
Zinthu sizimathetsedwa motere ndipo mkwiyo umakula. Kapenanso, maanja ena amakangana ndikumakangana, kukankhira nkhaniyi mozama ndikusokoneza kulumikizana kwawo kofunikira. Kulankhulana bwino ndi luso loyenera kuphunzira ndipo kumakuthandizani kuti muzitha kudutsa mitu yovuta ndikukulitsa chikondi chanu.
8. Yesetsani kudziwa zomwe zimapangitsa mnzanuyo kusokonezeka
Suzy Daren MA LMFT
Khalani ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zomwe anzanu amasiyana ndikuyesetsa kumvetsetsa zomwe zimawapweteka komanso zomwe zimawasangalatsa. Pamene chidziwitso chanu cha zina chikuwonjezeka ndi nthawi, khalani oganiza - onetsani kumvera chisoni mukakhudzidwa ndikulimbikitsanso kwamuyaya zomwe zimawapangitsa kuti aziwala.
9. Khalani bwenzi la mnzanu amene amatembenukira kwa iye, osati thupi lokha
Pezani nkhaniyi pa intaneti Myla Erwin, MA
Kwa okonda kumene akuyembekeza kuti "ma quirks" aliwonse omwe angawone mwa anzawo atha kusinthidwa, ndikuwatsimikizira kuti zinthuzi zidzawonjezeka pakapita nthawi, kuti awonetsetse kuti samangokonda munthuyo koma kuti amamukondadi.
Chisangalalo chidzazilala ndikuchepa. Munthawi yakuchepa, mudzakhala okondwa kukhala ndi bwenzi lomwe lingakupatseni malingaliro omwewo omwe adayatsa thupi lanu. Chinthu china ndikuti banja limagwira ntchito nthawi zonse, monganso kupuma.
Chinyengo ndikugwira ntchito mwakhama kotero kuti musadziwe minofu yonse yomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito. Komabe, lolani kuti wina asokonezeke ndipo mudzazindikira. Chofunika ndikuti mupitirize kupuma.
10. Khalani owona mtima mu cholinga chanu ndi mawu; onetsani chikondi chachikulu
Dr. Claire Vines, Psy.D
Nthawi zonse tanthauzirani zomwe mumanena ndi kunena zomwe mukutanthauza; mokoma mtima. Nthawi zonse yang'anani maso ndi maso. Werengani moyo. Pokambirana pewani kugwiritsa ntchito mawu oti, "Nthawi zonse komanso osachita konse."
Pokhapokha atakhala, osasiya kupsompsona, Khalani okoma mtima nthawi zonse. Gwirani khungu pakhungu, gwiranani manja. Osangoganizira zomwe munganene kwa wokondedwa wanu, koma momwe chidziwitsocho chimaperekedwera; mokoma mtima.
Nthawi zonse pemphani anzanuwo ndi kumpsompsona, pobwera kunyumba. Zilibe kanthu kuti ndani amafikira kaye, kumbukirani kuti chachimuna ndi chachikazi ndi mitundu ndipo maudindo ake ndi osiyana. Alemekezeni ndi kuwaona kuti ndi amtengo wapatali. Ndinu ofanana, komabe, ndinu osiyana. Yendani ulendowu pamodzi, osasakanikirana, komabe, mbali.
Limbikitsani winayo, gawo limodzi lowonjezera. Ngati mukudziwa kuti moyo wawo udasokonekera m'mbuyomu, athandizeni kulemekeza zakale. Mvetserani mwachikondi. Mwapeza zomwe mwaphunzira. Mwapeza zosankha.
Mwaphunzira kuzindikira, chifundo, kumvera ena chisoni, komanso chitetezo. Ikani. Abweretseni mu ukwati ndi chikondi chanu. Kambiranani zamtsogolo koma khalani pano.
11. Gawanani zokoma zanu ndi mnzanuyo kuti muyandikire kwamuyaya
Dokotala Trey Cole, Psy.D.
Anthu amakonda kuopa kusatsimikizika komanso kusazolowereka. Tikamakangana, kulingalira, kapena kugawana ndi anzathu, zomwe zimayambitsa mantha mwa iye za kusatsimikizika kwa chibwenzi.
M'malo mwake, kuwunika momwe timamvera "pang'ono", monga momwe machitidwe a mnzathu amathandizira mantha osatsimikizika, ndikuphunzira momwe tingagawirane izi kumatha kufooketsa komanso kukulitsa kuyandikira.
12. Ukwati umafunika kusamalidwa nthawi zonse, osazengereza kuthana nawo
Dr.Mic Hunter, LMFT, Psy.D.
Anthu omwe amasamalira magalimoto awo pafupipafupi amawona kuti magalimoto awo akuyenda bwino komanso amakhala nthawi yayitali. Anthu omwe amasamalira nyumba zawo nthawi zonse amawona kuti akupitilizabe kusangalala ndikukhalamo.
Mabanja omwe amasamalira maubwenzi awo mosamalitsa monga amachitira ndi zinthu zawo amakhala osangalala kuposa mabanja omwe satero.
13. Pangani ubale wanu kukhala chinthu chofunikira kwambiri
Bob Taibbi, LCSW
Sungani ubale wanu patsogolo. Ndizosavuta kwa ana, ntchito, moyo watsiku ndi tsiku kuyendetsa miyoyo yathu ndipo nthawi zambiri ubale wapabanja umakhala kumbuyo. Pangani nthawi ino, nthawi yolankhulana komanso yothetsera mavuto kotero khalani olumikizidwa ndipo osasesa mavuto pansi pa rug.
14. Mangani luso polumikizana m'mawu komanso mosagwiritsa ntchito mawu
Jaclyn Hunt, MA, ACAS, BCCS
Upangiri woyamba wothandizira kapena akatswiri aliwonse omwe angapereke kwa okwatirana ndi omwe amalumikizana wina ndi mnzake! Nthawi zonse ndimaseka malangizowa chifukwa ndichinthu china kuuza anthu kuti alumikizane komanso china kuwasonyeza tanthauzo la izi.
Kulankhulana kumaphatikizapo mawu ndi mawu. Mukamayankhulana ndi mnzanu onetsetsani kuti mukuwayang'ana, onetsetsani kuti mukukumana ndi zomwe akukufotokozerani kunja ndikufunsani kutsatira mafunso ndikuwonetsa kunjaku kumvetsetsa kwanu kapena chisokonezo mpaka nonse muli chimodzimodzi tsamba ndikukhutira.
Kulankhulana ndikubwezeretsanso m'mawu komanso kudzera pazizindikiro zopanda mawu. Limenelo ndi langizo lachidule kwambiri lomwe sindingapatse banja.
15. Samalirani thanzi lanu laukwati ndikuliteteza kwa 'adani'
DOUGLAS WEISS PH.D
Onetsetsani kuti mabanja anu ali ndi thanzi labwino. Gawani zakukhosi kwanu tsiku lililonse. Tiziyamikirana kangapo patsiku. Lumikizani mwauzimu tsiku lililonse. Pitirizani kugonana nthawi zonse ndipo nonse mumayamba pafupipafupi. Pezani nthawi yokhala ndi tsiku osachepera kangapo pamwezi. Chitiranani wina ndi mnzake monga okonda m'malo mwa okwatirana. Lemekezanani monga anthu komanso anzanu. Tetezani banja lanu kwa adani ngati awa: kukhala otanganidwa kwambiri, maubwenzi ena akunja ndi zosangalatsa.
16. Pewani kusankha mopupuluma povomereza momwe mukumvera
Russell S Strelnick, LCSW
Kusamuka kuchokera 'osangokhala pamenepo kuti muchite kena kake', kupita ku 'osangokhala kanthu' ndi luso labwino kwambiri lokhalitsa mwa ine kuti ndikhale ndiubwenzi wapamtima.
Kuphunzira kuvomereza ndi kulekerera malingaliro anga ndi malingaliro anga kuti ndichepetse kufunikira kwanga kochita mantha, kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu komanso mwachangu kuti 'ndichitepo kanthu pa izi' kumandipatsa nthawi yokwanira kuti ndibwererenso kumaganizo ndi kulimba mtima kuti ndituluke mnyumbayo m'malo moipitsa.
17. Khalani mgulu lomwelo ndipo chisangalalo chimatsatira
Dr.Joanna Oestmann, LMHC, LPC, LPCS
Khalani anzanu poyamba ndipo kumbukirani kuti muli mgulu limodzi! Ndi Super Bowl ikubwera ino ndi nthawi yabwino kulingalira zomwe zimapangitsa gulu lopambana, lopambana kupitilira abwino kwambiri?
Choyamba, kuzindikira zomwe mukumenyera limodzi! Chotsatira, kuchitira zinthu limodzi, kumvetsetsana, kumvetsera, kusewera limodzi ndikutsatirana. Kodi gulu lanu ndi ndani?
Sankhani dzina la gulu la banja lanu (The Smith's Team) ndipo muzigwiritsa ntchito kukumbutsana wina ndi mnzake komanso onse m'banjamo kuti muli mgulu limodzi logwirira ntchito limodzi. Dziwani zomwe mukumenyera m'malo molimbana wina ndi mnzake ndipo chisangalalo chimatsatira.
18. Khalani ndi zolakwa zanu
Gerald Schoenewolf, Ph.D.
Tengani udindo pazomwe mukuchita pamavuto am'banja mwanu. Ndikosavuta kuloza chala kwa mnzako, koma ndizovuta kwambiri kuloza wekha chala. Mukatha kuchita izi mutha kuthetsa mavuto m'malo mokhala ndi mkangano wolakwika.
19. Funsani mafunso ambiri, malingaliro ndiabwino paubwenzi wabanja
Ayo Akanbi, M.Div., MFT, OACCPP
Upangiri wanga ndi wosavuta: Lankhulani, lankhulani ndikuyankhulanso. Ndikulimbikitsa makasitomala anga kuti azikonzekera momwe zinthu zilili ndikupeza nthawi yoti akambirane. Kuyankhula ndikofunikira. Ndikofunikanso kuti azimverana komanso kufunsa mafunso. Ayeneranso kuganiza kuti akudziwa.
20. Khalani otseguka ku mikangano, ziphuphu ndi kukonza komwe kumatsatira
Andrew Rose, LPC, MA
Anthu akuyenera kudzimva otetezeka muubwenzi wawo kuti apeze phindu lolumikizana. Chitetezo chimamangidwa kudzera pakuboola ndi kukonza. Osachita manyazi ndi mikangano. Pangani malo amantha, achisoni, ndi mkwiyo, ndikulumikizananso ndikulimbikitsana mutapumira.
21. Mukusowa wokwatirana wamkulu? Khalani amodzi kwa mnzanu poyamba
Clifton Brantley, MA, LMFTA. (Adasankhidwa)
Ganizirani KUKHALA wokwatirana wamkulu m'malo mokhala ndi banja lalikulu. Banja lochita bwino limakhala lodzilamulira. Kukhala bwino (kukondana, kukhululuka, kuleza mtima, kulumikizana) kudzapangitsa banja lanu kukhala labwino. Pangani banja lanu kukhala patsogolo limatanthauza kupanga mnzanu woyamba.
22. Musalole kuti kutanganidwa kulande ubale wanu, khalani otomerana
Eddie Capparucci, MA, LPC
Langizo langa kwa anthu apabanja ndiloti azikhala otakataka pakati pawo. Mabanja ambiri amalola kutanganidwa ndi moyo, ana, ntchito komanso zosokoneza zina kuti pakhale mtunda pakati pawo.
Ngati simukupatula nthawi tsiku lililonse kusamalirana, mumakulitsa mwayi wopatukana. Chiwerengero cha anthu omwe asudzulana kwambiri masiku ano ndi anthu omwe akhala m'banja zaka 25. Musakhale mbali ya ziwerengerozi.
23. Khalani ndi nthawi yothetsera vutolo musanayankhe 
Raffi Bilek, LCSWC
Onetsetsani kuti mwamvetsetsa zomwe mnzanu akukuuzani musanayankhe kapena kufotokozera. Onetsetsani kuti yanu wokwatirana naye akumva kuti mukumumvetsetsa. Mpaka aliyense atakhala kuti ali patsamba limodzi ndi vuto lililonse, simungathe kuthetsa vutolo.
24. Muzilemekezana ndipo musadzitengere ku chikhumbo chokwatira m'banja
Eva L. Shaw, Ph.D.
Ndikamapereka uphungu kwa okwatirana ndimagogomezera zakufunika kwa ulemu mbanja. Ndikosavuta kukhala osasamala mukamakhala ndi munthu 24/7. Ndikosavuta kuwona zoyipa ndikuiwala zabwino.
Nthawi zina ziyembekezo sizimakwaniritsidwa, maloto aukwati wa nthano sangakwaniritsidwe, ndipo anthu nthawi zambiri amatsutsana wina ndi mnzake m'malo mogwirira ntchito limodzi. Ndimaphunzitsa kuti pamene 'chibwenzi' ndikofunikira kupanga ubale wabwino kwambiri komanso kuti nthawi zonse muzichitira mnzanu monga mumachitira mnzanu wapamtima chifukwa ndiomwe ali.
Mumusankha munthu ameneyu kuti muchite naye ulendo wamoyo ndipo mwina sangakhale nthano yomwe mumaganizira. Nthawi zina zinthu zoyipa zimachitika m'mabanja - matenda, mavuto azachuma, imfa, kuwukira kwa ana, - ndipo zikafika nthawi zovuta kumbukirani kuti bwenzi lanu lapamtima limabwera kwanu tsiku lililonse, ndipo akuyenera kulemekezedwa ndi inu.
Lolani kuti nthawi zovuta zikuthandizeni kuyandikira limodzi m'malo mongokulekanitsani. Yang'anani ndikukumbukira kudabwitsa komwe mudawona mwa mnzanu pomwe mumakonzekera moyo limodzi. Kumbukirani zifukwa zomwe mumakhalira limodzi ndikunyalanyaza zolakwika zamakhalidwe. Tonse tili nawo. Kondanani wina ndi mnzake mosalekeza ndikukula m'mavuto. Lemekezanani nthawi zonse ndipo muzinthu zonse pezani njira.
25. Yesetsani kupanga fayilo ya kusintha kwabwino m'banja lanu
KUGWIRITSA NTCHITO YA LISA, MA, LCSW-R
Muukwati, timakonda kubwereza machitidwe kuyambira ubwana. Mnzanuyo amachitanso chimodzimodzi. Ngati mungasinthe momwe mumayankhira kwa mnzanu, malingaliro amachitidwe awonetsa kuti padzakhalanso kusintha kwamomwe mnzanu akukuyankhulirani.
Nthawi zambiri mumayankha kwa mnzanu ndipo ngati mungathe kugwira ntchitoyi kuti musinthe izi, mutha kupanga kusintha osati kokha mwa inu nokha komanso m'banja lanu.
26. Pangani mfundo yanu mwamphamvu, koma modekha
Amy Sherman, MA, LMHC
Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti wokondedwa wanu si mdani wanu ndipo kuti mawu omwe mumagwiritsa ntchito mokwiya amakhalabe nthawi yayitali nkhondo itatha. Chifukwa chake pangani mfundo yanu mwamphamvu, koma modekha. Ulemu womwe mumawonetsa wokondedwa wanu, makamaka mu mkwiyo, umanga maziko olimba zaka zambiri zikubwerazi.
27. Pewani kunyoza wokondedwa wanu; kusalankhula ndi no
ESTHER LERMAN, MFT
Dziwani kuti ndibwino kumenya nkhondo nthawi zina, nkhani ndiyoti mumamenya nkhondo bwanji ndipo zimatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti achire? Kodi mutha kuthetsa kapena kukhululuka kapena kusiya kanthawi kochepa?
Mukamakangana kapena kumangocheza wina ndi mzake mumakhala oteteza kapena / kapena otsutsa? Kapena kodi mumangolankhula? Chofunika kwambiri kuyang'anitsitsa ndi kunyoza.
Malingaliro awa nthawi zambiri amakhala owononga ubale. Palibe aliyense wa ife amene angakhale wokondedweratu nthawi zonse, koma njira izi zakulankhulirana ndizowonongera banja lanu.
28. Khalani owona pakulankhulana kwanu
KERRI-ANNE BROWN, LMHC, CAP, ICADC
Upangiri wabwino kwambiri womwe ndingawapatse okwatirana sikuyenera kupeputsa mphamvu yolumikizirana. Kulankhulana momasuka komanso mosalankhula kumakhudza mtima kwambiri kotero kuti maanja nthawi zambiri samadziwa kuti kulumikizana kwawo kumachita mbali yayikulu motani muubwenzi wawo.
Lankhulanani pafupipafupi komanso moona mtima. Musaganize kuti mnzanuyo amadziwa kapena akumvetsa momwe mukumvera. Ngakhale pamaubwenzi omwe mwakhala limodzi kwa nthawi yayitali, wokondedwa wanu satha kuwerenga malingaliro anu ndipo chowonadi ndichakuti, simukufuna kuti nawonso akhale.
29. Dzikani magalasi ofiirawo! Phunzirani kuwona malingaliro a mnzanu
KERI ILISA WOTUMIRA-WOPEREKA, LMSW, LSW
Lowani m'dziko la mnzanu momwe mungathere. Tonsefe timakhala mumtima mwathu zenizeni zomwe zimatengera zomwe takumana nazo m'mbuyomu ndipo timavala magalasi amtundu wa rose omwe amasintha malingaliro athu. M'malo moyesera kuti mnzanu akuwoneni ndikumvetsetsa za malingaliro anu, yesetsani kuti muwone ndikumvetsetsa zawo.
Mkati mwa kuwolowa manja kumeneko, mudzatha kuwakonda ndikuwayamika. Ngati mutha kusakaniza izi ndi kuvomereza kopanda malire zomwe mupeza mukalowa mdziko lawo, mudzakhala kuti mukudziwa bwino mgwirizano.
30. Dulani mnzanu pang'ono pang'ono 
Khothi Lalikulu, LMHC
Apatseni mnzanu mwayi wokayikira. Atengeni pa mawu awo ndikukhulupirira kuti nawonso akuyesa. Zomwe amalankhula ndikumva ndizovomerezeka, monganso zomwe mumanena ndikumva ndizovomerezeka. Khalani ndi chikhulupiriro mwa iwo, khulupirirani mawu awo, ndipo chitani zabwino kwambiri mwa iwo.
31. Phunzirani kusiyanitsa pakati pa chisangalalo ndi kukhumudwitsidwa
SARA NUAHN, MSW, LICSW
Yembekezerani kukhala osasangalala. Ndikudziwa zomwe mukuganiza, ndani akunena izi !? Langizo lothandiza kwa okwatirana. Kapena wotsimikiza mwanjira iliyonse. Koma ndimvereni. Timalowa mu maubale ndi maukwati, kuganiza, kuyembekezera kuti zipangitsa kuti tikhale osangalala komanso otetezeka.
Ndipo zenizeni, sichoncho. Ngati mutalowa m'banja, mukuyembekezera, munthuyo kapena chilengedwe kuti chikusangalatseni, ndiye kuti mukuyenera kukonzekera kukwiya ndikukwiya, kusasangalala, nthawi yayitali.
Yembekezerani kuti mukhale ndi nthawi zodabwitsa, komanso nthawi zokhumudwitsa komanso zokula. Yembekezerani kuti musamve kuti mukutsimikizika, kapena kuwonedwa, kumva, komanso kuzindikira nthawi zina, ndikuyembekezeranso kuti mudzayikidwa pamiyeso yayikulu mtima wanu sungathe kuthana nayo.
Yembekezerani kuti mudzakondana ngati tsiku lomwe mudakumana, ndikuyembekezeranso kuti mudzakhala ndi nthawi zosakondana kwambiri. Yembekezerani kuti mudzaseka ndi kulira, ndikukhala ndi nthawi zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa, komanso kuyembekezera kuti mudzakhala achisoni, okwiya komanso amantha.
Yembekezerani kuti ndinu inu, ndipo ndi iwo ndipo mudalumikizana, ndipo mudakwatirana chifukwa uyu anali bwenzi lanu, munthu wanu, ndi amene mumamva kuti mutha kugonjetsa dziko lapansi.
Yembekezerani kuti musakhale osangalala, ndikuti ndinu nokha omwe mungadzipangitse kukhala osangalala! Ndimachitidwe otuluka mkati, nthawi zonse. Ndiudindo wanu kufunsa zomwe mukufuna, kuthandizira gawo lanu kuti muzitha kumva zonse zomwe mukuyembekezera, zabwino komanso zoyipa, ndipo kumapeto kwa tsiku, muziyembekezerabe kuti munthuyo akupsompsheni usiku wabwino.
32. Khalani ndi chizolowezi chonyalanyaza zolakwika ndi ziphuphu
Dr.Tari Mack, Psy. D
Ndikulangiza anthu okwatirana kuti ayang'ane zabwino za wina ndi mnzake. Nthawi zonse padzakhala zinthu zokhudzana ndi mnzanu zomwe zimakukhumudwitsani kapena kukukhumudwitsani. Zomwe mumaganizira zidzakonza banja lanu. Ganizirani za mikhalidwe yabwino ya mnzanu. Izi ziwonjezera chimwemwe muukwati wanu.
33. Phatikizani kuopsa kwa bizinesi yakukwati ndikusangalala komanso kusewera
RONALD B. COHEN, MD
Ukwati ndiulendo, ubale womwe umasintha nthawi zonse womwe umafunikira kumvera, kuphunzira, kusintha, ndikulola kutengeka. Ukwati ndi ntchito, koma ngati sunasangalatsenso komanso kusewera, mwina sikuyenera kuyesayesa. Banja labwino kwambiri silovuta kuthetsa koma chinsinsi choti musangalale ndikulikumbatira.
34. Sungani ndalama muukwati wanu - Madeti usiku, matamando ndi ndalama
SANDRA WILLIAMS, LPC, NCC
Sungani Ndalama M'banja Lanu Nthawi Zonse: Bwerani pamodzi ndikuzindikira mitundu yazachuma (mwachitsanzo tsiku lausiku, bajeti, kuyamikira) zomwe zili zofunika m'banja lanu. Payokha, lembani zinthu zofunika kwa aliyense wa inu.
Chotsatira, lankhulani kudzera muzokolola zomwe nonse mumakhulupirira kuti ndizofunikira m'banja lanu. Dziperekeni kuchita zomwe zimatengera kukhala ndi chuma chokwatirana.
35. Kambiranani zomwe zili zovomerezeka ndi zomwe siziri
SHAVANA FINEBERG, PH.D.
Tengani maphunziro palimodzi pa Kuyankhulana Kwamwano (Rosenberg) ndikuigwiritsa ntchito. Yesetsani kuti muwone zovuta zonse momwe mnzanu akuwonera. Chotsani "chabwino" ndi "cholakwika" - kambiranani zomwe zingagwire ntchito kwa aliyense wa inu. Mukachitapo kanthu mwamphamvu, zakale zingayambike; khalani okonzeka kuyesa izi ndi mlangizi waluso.
Lankhulani mwachindunji za kugonana komwe mumagawana: kuyamika ndi zopempha. Sungani nthawi yamakalendala anu osungidwa ndi inu nonse, osachepera milungu iwiri iliyonse.
36. Dziwani zomwe zimakulepheretsani ndikudzikonzekeretsa kuti muchepetse zomwe zimayambitsa
JAIME SAIBIL, M.A
Malangizo abwino kwambiri omwe ndingawapatse okwatirana angakhale kudzidziwa nokha. Zomwe zikutanthawuza ndikuti musangodziwa kwambiri zomwe zimayambitsa, mabala akhungu, ndi mabatani otentha komanso mupeze zida zofunikira kuti muzisamalire kuti zisakulepheretseni. Tonsefe tili ndi 'mabatani otentha' kapena zoyambitsa zomwe zidapangidwa koyambirira kwa moyo wathu.
Palibe amene amapita osavulala pano. Ngati simukuwadziwa, azimenyedwa ndi mnzanu osadziwa ngakhale pang'ono kuti zachitika, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimatha kubweretsa kusamvana komanso kusagwirizana. Ngati, ngakhale zili choncho, mumawadziwa ndipo mwaphunzira kuwachotsa zida zikakhumudwitsidwa, mutha kupewa makumi asanu pa zana ngati mulibe mikangano yambiri yomwe mumakumana nayo ndi mnzanuyo ndikupatula nthawi yambiri mukuyang'ana chidwi, chikondi, kuyamikira, ndi kulumikizana.
37. Khalani abwino, musati kuluma mitu mzake 
Khoti Lalikulu, LMFT, CST
Ngakhale zikuwoneka ngati zazing'ono, upangiri wanga wabwino kwa anthu apabanja ndikuti, "khalani okondana wina ndi mnzake." Nthawi zambiri, mabanja omwe amathera pabedi langa ndi abwino kwa ine kuposa momwe amapitilira kunyumba.
Inde, patatha miyezi kapena zaka zosagwirizana m'banjamo, mwina simungamukondenso mnzanuyo. "Chip chamapewawo" chomwecho chitha kukupangitsani kuti musakhale ankhalwe kaya akungoima pachakudya mukamapita kunyumba osamubweretsera mnzanu chilichonse kapena kusiya mbale zodetsedwa mosambira mukadziwa kuti zimawakhumudwitsa.
Nthawi zina, simuyenera kukonda mnzanu koma kukhala wokoma mtima kwa iwo kumapangitsa kuti kuthetsa kusamvana kukhale kosavuta komanso kosangalatsa kwa onse omwe akutenga nawo mbali. Imayambanso kusonyeza ulemu kwa iwo zomwe ndizofunikanso kwambiri pakumanga ndi kusunga banja.
Izi zimathandizanso kuthana ndi mikangano pochotsa machitidwe okwiya. Ndikakumana ndi banja lomwe likuwoneka kuti silikusewera wina ndi mnzake, imodzi mwa ntchito zanga zoyambirira kwa iwo ndi "kukhala bwino sabata yotsatira" ndipo ndimawafunsa kuti asankhe chinthu chimodzi chomwe angachite mosiyana kuti akwaniritse izi cholinga.
38. Pangani kudzipereka. Kutenga nthawi yayitali
Lynda Cameron Mtengo, Ed.S, LPC, AADC
Malangizo abwino kwambiri okwatirana omwe ndingawapatse okwatirana aliwonse ndikumvetsetsa tanthauzo lodzipereka. Nthawi zambiri timakhala ndi zovuta kuchita chilichonse kwanthawi yayitali.
Timasintha malingaliro athu monga momwe timasinthira zovala zathu. Kudzipereka kwenikweni muukwati ndi kukhulupirika ngakhale palibe amene akuyang'ana ndikusankha kukonda ndikukhalabe osasamala kanthu momwe mukumvera nthawi imeneyo.
39. Onetsani njira yolankhulirana ndi mnzanu kuti mumvetsetse bwino
GIOVANNI MACCARRONE, BA
Malangizo oyamba okwatirana kuti akhale ndi banja lokonda ndikuyankhulana nawo pogwiritsa ntchito njira yawo yolumikizirana. Kodi amatenga zidziwitso ndikulankhulana pogwiritsa ntchito zowonera (kuwona ndikukhulupirira), mawu awo (kunong'oneza m'makutu mwawo), kinesthetic (awagwire polankhula nawo) kapena zina? Mukangophunzira kalembedwe kawo, mutha kulankhulana nawo bwino ndipo akumvetsetsani!
40. Landirani kuti mnzanu siwomwe mumakonda
Laurie Heller, LPC
Chidwi! "Nthawi yokondwerera" nthawi zonse imatha. Timayamba kuzindikira zinthu zokhudza anzathu zomwe TIMAKHUDZA. Timaganiza, kapena choyipa kunena, "Muyenera kusintha!" M'malo mwake, mvetsetsani kuti wokondedwa wanu NDI WOSIYANA kuposa inu! Khalani ndi chidwi chachidwi pazomwe zimawapangitsa kuti azikayikira. Izi zisamalira.
41. Sungani zinsinsi kuchokera kwa anzanu ndipo muli panjira yachiwonongeko 
Dr. LaWanda N. Evans, LPC
Upangiri wanga ndikuti, kulumikizana pazonse, osasunga zinsinsi, chifukwa zinsinsi zimawononga maukwati, osaganizira kuti mnzanuyo amangodziwa kapena kumvetsetsa zosowa zanu, momwe mukumvera, kapena zomwe mukuganiza, osatero mutengere wina ndi mnzake mopepuka. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino komanso kuti likhale ndi moyo wautali.
42. Pangani kukondana wina ndi mnzake ngati chinthu chosagwirizanika muukwati wanu
KATIE LEMIEUX, LMFT
Pangani ubale wanu kukhala patsogolo! Sanjani nthawi yobwereza chibwenzi chanu sabata iliyonse, pangani zaubwenzi wanu, yeretsani kuphunzira za ubale.
Gwiritsani ntchito zomwe mwaphunzira. Ambiri aife sitinaphunzitsidwepo momwe tingakhalire ndi ubale wabwino. Ndikofunika kuphunzira momwe tingalankhulire makamaka mkangano. Kumbukirani zinthu zazing'ono zofunika.
Tengani nthawi yolota, kuthokoza ndi kukondana. Pitirizani kukhala odzipereka ndikukhala odekha wina ndi mnzake nonse mukuchita momwe mungathere.
43. Lemekezanani ndi kuthandizana maloto wina ndi mnzake 
Barbara Zima PH.D., PA
Pali zinthu zambiri zofunika kuziganizira chifukwa zimatengera komwe banjali likukula.
Ndinganene kuti kuyambira lero tayang'ana kwambiri ku 'chisangalalo', zomwe zimangotanthauza momwe timapangira tanthauzo la miyoyo yathu, kuti tonse pamodzi tiziwona maloto amodzi kapena / kapena ofanana. ”Cholinga" ndi za kukwaniritsidwa, osati kwa aliyense wa ife koma za sitima ziwiri.
mukufuna kupanga chiyani? mukufuna kukumana ndi chiyani? Maloto aumwini kapena Ogawidwa-Chilichonse chimapita: chidutswa chofunikira ndikumva, kuwalemekeza ndi kuwathandiza.
china chachikulu ndicho. . . kuti tikhalebe olumikizana tiyenera kutembenukira ku (aka-lean in) ndikumvera, kulemekeza, kuvomereza, kutsimikizira, kutsutsa, spar, kukhudza. . . ndi mnzathu. tiyenera kumva; sitingachotsedwe.
Izi ndizofunikira makamaka masiku ano popeza, mwanjira zina, tili ndi mwayi wochepa wolumikizana.
44. Fotokozerani momwe mukukhalira kuti mukwaniritse zofuna za mnzanu
Sarah Ramsay, LMFT
Malangizo omwe ndingakupatseni ndi awa: Ngati china chake sichikuyenda bwino muubwenzi, musaneneza ndikuloza mnzanuyo chala. Ngakhale zili zovuta, kuti ubale ukhale wogwira ntchito uyenera kuloza chala chako.
Dzifunseni lero, ndikuchita chiyani kuti ndikwaniritse zosowa za mnzanga? Yang'anani pa zomwe mungathe kuchita, osati pazomwe mnzanu akuchita kapena sakuchita.
45. Pitani kuzoyambira - dinani zosowa zoyambirira za mnzanu
Wolemba Deidre A. Prewitt, MSMFC, LPC
Malangizo anga abwino okwatirana kwa banja lililonse ndikuti muziyesetsa kumvetsetsa zomwe mnzanu akukutumizirani. Maukwati abwino kwambiri amapangidwa ndi anthu awiri omwe amadziwana zokumana nazo komanso zosowa zam'malingaliro; kugwiritsa ntchito chidziwitsochi kuti mumvetsetse uthenga wowona kumbuyo kwa mawu awo.
Mabanja ambiri amavutika chifukwa amaganiza kuti ndiyo njira yokhayo yowonera ubale wawo. Ichi ndi chomwe chimayambitsa mikangano yambiri popeza onse awiriwa amalimbana ndi malingaliro oti wina ndi mnzake amve.
Kuphunzira, kulemekezana, ndi kukondana mosiyanasiyana za dziko lapansi komanso ukwati umalola aliyense m'banjamo kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa mkwiyo ndikupweteketsa wokondedwa wawo munthawi yovuta kwambiri.
Amatha kuwona kupsa mtima kuti afike pamtima pazinthuzo ndikugwiritsa ntchito mkanganowo kuti apange ubale wabwino.
46. Osamenya mnzanu m'bokosi - onetsetsani momwe mnzanu alili
Amira Posner, BSW, MSW, RSWw
Malangizo abwino kwambiri omwe ndingawapatse okwatirana ndi oti muzifika nanu limodzi komanso ubale wanu. Alipodi, monga kumudziwa konseko.
Nthawi zambiri timayendetsa pawokha momwe timadziyankhulira tokha, zokumana nazo zathu komanso ubale wathu pakati pawo. Timakonda kuchitapo kanthu kuchokera pamalo ena kapena njira yokhazikika yowonera zinthu.
Timakonda kutulutsa zibwenzi m'bokosi ndipo izi zimatha kuyambitsa kulumikizana.
Tikakhala ndi nthawi yocheperako ndikukulitsa kuzindikira, titha kusankha kuyankha mwanjira ina. Timapanga danga lowonera ndikuwona zinthu mosiyana.
47. Zonse ndi zachikondi ndi nkhondo - ndiye B.S
Liz Verna, ATR, LCAT
Menyani mwachilungamo ndi mnzanu. Osangotenga zipolopolo zotsika mtengo, kuyimbira mayina kapena kuyiwala mwanjira ina kuti mwayikidwa ndalama patali. Kusunga malire m'malo ovuta kumakhala zikumbutso zosazindikira kuti mudzawuka m'mawa kuti mudzakumanenso tsiku lina.
48. Siyani zomwe sizingakulamulireni
SAMANTHA BURNS, MA, LMHC
Mosamala sankhani kusiya zomwe simungasinthe za munthu wina, ndipo yang'anani pazomwe mumakonda za iye. Kafukufuku wowunika wamaubwenzi omwe akukondanabe patatha zaka makumi awiri mphambu chimodzi atakwatirana adawonetsa kuti maanjawa ali ndi kuthekera kopatula zinthu zomwe zili pakhungu lawo, komanso kuyang'ana kwambiri pazomwe amakonda ndi okondedwa wawo. Njira yabwino yochitira izi ndikutsatira kuyamikira tsiku ndi tsiku, kuyamikira chinthu chimodzi choganizira chomwe adachita tsiku limenelo.
49. (Poyang'ana m'mbuyo) Kugontha, khungu, ndi Dementia ndizabwino kuti banja likhale losangalala
DAVID O. SAENZ, PH.D., EDM, LLC
Zolemba kuchokera kwa okwatirana okwatirana zaka 60+. Kodi timazipanga bwanji kuti zizigwira ntchito bwino patatha zaka makumi limodzi limodzi:
- Mmodzi wa ife nthawi zonse ayenera kukhala wokonzeka kukonda mnzakeyo pang'ono pokha
- Musalole kapena kupangitsa mnzanu kukhala wosungulumwa
- Muyenera kukhala ofunitsitsa kukhala ogontha pang'ono ... khungu pang'ono ... ndikukhala ndi matenda amisala pang'ono
- Ukwati ndi wosavuta, ndipamene munthu m'modzi (kapena onse awiri) achita zopusa zimakhala zovuta
- Mutha kukhala olondola nthawi zonse kapena mutha kukhala osangalala (mwachitsanzo, kukwatiwa), koma simungakhale nonse awiri
50. Chotsani chitetezo chimenecho! Mwini gawo lanu pamikangano
Nancy Ryan, LMFT
Nancy Ryan
Kumbukirani kuti mupitilize kukhala ndi chidwi chokhudza mnzanu. Funsani kuti mumvetsetse malingaliro awo musanadziteteze. Muli ndi gawo lanu pakusamvana, yesetsani kufotokoza malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu, maloto anu ndi zokonda zanu, ndikupeza njira zolumikizirana m'njira zazing'ono tsiku lililonse. Kumbukirani kuti ndinu okondana, osati adani. Khalani malo otetezeka m'maganizo ndikuyang'ana zabwino mwa wina ndi mnzake.
51. Chikondi chimakula bwino pokhapokha mukamadyetsa ndikusamalira ubalewo, mosasinthasintha
Maofesi a Mawebusaiti
Simungachite chilichonse ndikuyembekeza kuti chikondi chikule bwino. Zomwe mungasunge moto kuyatsa nkhuni powonjezera nkhuni pamoto, choncho zili m'banja, muyenera kupitiliza kuwonjezera moto pamachitidwe omanga ubale, kulumikizana komanso kukwaniritsa zosowa za wina ndi mnzake - zilizonse zomwe zingakhale .
52. Khalani ndi zibwenzi ngati simunakwatirane naye
DR. MARNI FEUERMAN, LCSW, LMFT
Malangizo abwino omwe ndingakupatseni ndikupitiliza kuchitirana zomwe munkachita muli pachibwenzi. Ndikutanthauza kuti, khalani osangalala kwambiri mukayamba kuwonana kapena kulankhulana, ndikukhala okoma mtima. Zina mwazinthuzi zimatha kugwa munjira mukakhala ndi munthu kwakanthawi.
Nthawi zina momwe akazi amachitirana wina ndi mnzake sakanapeza tsiku lachiwiri, osatinso zoperekera kuguwa! Ganizirani momwe mungatengere wina ndi mnzake kapena ngati mwakhala mukuchita bwino ndi mnzanu m'njira zina.
53. Valani baji yanu yodziyimira payokha - wokondedwa wanu SAKUKHUDZANI zaumoyo wanu wonse
LEVANA SLABODNICK, LISW-S
Malangizo anga kwa maanja ndikuti mudziwe komwe mumathera ndipo mnzanu ayambira. Inde, ndikofunikira kulumikizana kwambiri, kulumikizana ndikupeza nthawi yokhala ndi zokumana nazo, koma umunthu wanu ndi wofunikira.
Ngati mumadalira wokondedwa wanu kuti azisangalala, atonthozedwe, kuthandizidwa, ndi zina zambiri. Zimatha kubweretsa kukhumudwa komanso kukhumudwa pomwe sizikwaniritsa zosowa zanu zonse. Ndibwino kukhala ndi abwenzi, abale, ndi zokonda zina kunja kwa banja lanu kuti mnzanuyo asakhale ndiudindo wokhalira moyo wabwino.
54. Limbikitsanani mphamvu ndi kufooka kwa wina ndi mnzake kuti mupange mgwirizano wokongola
DR. KONSTANTIN LUKIN, PH.D.
Kukhala ndi ubale wokhutiritsa kuli ngati kukhala othandizana nawo tango. Sikuti ndi ndani wovina mwamphamvu kwambiri, koma ndi za momwe awiriwo amagwiritsirana ntchito mphamvu ndi zofooka za m'modzi ndi kukongola kwa gule.
55. Khalani mnzanu wapamtima 
LAURA GALINIS, LPC
Ngati mungapereke upangiri kwa okwatirana, zikadakhala zotani? ”
Sungani ubwenzi wolimba ndi mnzanu. Ngakhale kugonana ndi kukondana ndikofunika m'banja, kukhutitsidwa mbanja kumachuluka ngati onse awiri akuwona kuti pali ubwenzi wolimba womwe uli ndi maziko a banja.
Chifukwa chake pangani khama lomwelo (kapena kupitilira apo) ndi mnzanu monga momwe mumachitira ndi anzanu.
56. Pangani ubale wapabanja kuti ulimbikitsidwe kukondana kwambiri
STACI SCHNELL, MS, CS, LMFT
Khalani Anzanu! Ubwenzi ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe banja limakhala losangalala komanso lokhalitsa. Kumanga ndi kulimbikitsaubwenzi wapabanja kumatha kulimbitsa banja chifukwa ubwenzi muukwati umadziwika kuti umalimbikitsa kukondana komanso kuthupi.
Ubwenzi umathandiza anthu okwatirana kukhala otetezeka kokwanira kukhala omasukirana wina ndi mnzake osadandaula za kuweruzidwa kapena kudzimva osatetezeka. Mabanja omwe ndi anzawo amayembekeza kuti azicheza limodzi moona mtima.
Zochita zawo ndi zokonda zawo zimakulitsidwa chifukwa ali ndi munthu amene amamukonda kuti awafotokozere zomwe adakumana nazo pamoyo wawo. Kukhala ndi mnzanu wapamtima ngati mnzanu wapamtima kumatha kukhalaubwenzi limodzi.
57. Khalani munthu amene mukufuna kukhala naye
Dr. Jo Ann Atkins, DMin, CPC
Tonsefe tili ndi lingaliro la munthu yemwe timafuna kukhala naye. Tidayamba kuyambira ku pulayimale, kukhala ndi "zokonda" kwa aphunzitsi, kapena ophunzira ena.
Tidawona makolo athu ali paubwenzi wina ndi mnzake komanso abale ena. Tidazindikira zomwe tidakopeka nazo, tsitsi, kutalika, kumwetulira kwakukulu, kukondana, ndi zina zambiri. Tinkamva tikakhala ndi "chemistry" ndi ena ena. Nanga bwanji mndandanda winawo? Zinthu zakuya zomwe zimapangitsa ubale kugwira ntchito.
Chifukwa chake ... ndikufunsani, mutha kukhala munthu yemwe mukufuna kukhala naye? Kodi mutha kukhala omvetsetsa? Kodi mungamvetsere osaweruza? Kodi mungasunge zinsinsi? Kodi mungakhale woganizira ena komanso woganizira ena? Kodi mungakonde ngati nthawi yoyamba?
Kodi mungakhale odekha, odekha komanso okoma mtima? Kodi mungakhale wodalirika, wokhulupirika, komanso wothandiza? Kodi mutha kukhala okhululuka, okhulupirika (kwa Mulungu nawonso), komanso anzeru? Kodi mungakhale oseketsa, achigololo komanso osangalala? Nthawi zambiri timafuna zochuluka kuposa momwe timathandizira.
"Kukhala munthu, amene mukufuna kukhala naye" mwadzidzidzi kunakhala kopitilira momwe ndimaganizira malotowo. Zinandipangitsa kuti ndiyang'ane mosadukiza pakalilore ka kudzikonda kwanga.
Ndinayamba kudziganizira ndekha, chifukwa ndine munthu yekhayo amene ndingasinthe. Kulingalira bwino muukwati sikukutanthauza kukhala dzanzi kapena kupatukana ndi malingaliro.
58. Pitilizani kuphunzira momwe mungakhalire bwenzi lapamtima la mnzanu
CARALEE FREDERIC, LCSW, CGT, SRT
Pali zinthu zingapo zomwe zikukwera pamwamba: "Nthawi ina, mudakwatirana chifukwa simungamvetse momwe mungakhalire popanda munthuyu. Khalani ndi chizolowezi chofunafuna zabwino wina ndi mnzake tsiku lililonse.
Nenani. Lembani. Awonetseni momwe muli ndi mwayi / odalitsira kukhala nawo pamoyo wanu.
Ndizowona kuti maukwati abwino amamangidwa pamaziko aubwenzi wabwino - ndipo tsopano pali zofufuza zambiri zotsimikizira izi. Phunzirani momwe mungakhalire bwenzi labwino kwambiri. Pitilizani kuphunzira momwe mungakhalire bwenzi lapamtima la mnzanu.
Tonsefe timasintha pakapita nthawi, ndipo pali magawo ena omwe amakhala chimodzimodzi. Samalani zonsezi.
Pomaliza, maluso onse padziko lapansi sangakupindulitseni pokhapokha mutasankha kuvomereza zomwe mnzanu akuchita - kuwalola kuti zikhudze momwe mumaganizira, momwe mumamvera, komanso momwe mumachitira - ndipo muphatikizanso kukhala kwawo ndi chisangalalo zochita zomwe mumasankha komanso zosankha zomwe mumapanga.
59. Tetezani Ubale Wanu - tsekani mawonekedwe oyendetsa okhaokha
Sharon Pope, Life Coach komanso Wolemba
Ubale womwe ulipo pakati pa inu ndi mnzanuyo kulibe kwina kulikonse padziko lapansi lino. Ndi yanu ndi yanu nokha.Mukamafotokozera zaubwenzi wanu ndi abale, abwenzi, kapena anzanu akuntchito, mukuyitanira anthu ena m'malo omwe siwoyenera ndipo zimanyozetsa ubalewo.
Sindingaganize za chinthu chimodzi chamoyo pano chomwe chimakula popanda chidwi kapena chisamaliro, chimodzimodzi m'mabanja mwathu. Sitingathe kuyiyendetsa yokha, kutsanulira chikondi chathu, mphamvu zathu, ndi chidwi chathu mwa ana, ntchito, kapena china chilichonse chomwe chikufunikira chisamaliro ndikuyembekeza kuti ubalewo ukhoza kukula bwino.
60. Limbani ndi mkuntho wamoyo pamodzi ndi chipiriro 
RENNET WONG-GATES, MSW, RSW, RP
Akuluakulu akamapanga chisankho chothandizana wina ndi mnzake amafotokoza kudzera m'mazindikidwe awo.
Pansi pa malowa pali zosowa za munthu aliyense zosakwaniritsidwa komanso zovuta zosathetsedwa pamodzi ndi malingaliro awo pazotheka. Kuti tithe kulumikizana pamodzi tifunikanso kuleza mtima, kudziyesa, kukhululuka, komanso kulimba mtima kuti tisatengeke polumikizana.
61. Lonjezani nthambi ya azitona
MOSHE RATSON, MBA, MS MFT, LMFT
Palibe ubale womwe umakhala wopanda kusamvana pazokangana, zokhumudwitsa komanso zokhumudwitsa. Mukamalemba kapena kudikirira kupepesa, ubale umapita kummwera. Chitani khama, thandizani zolakwikazo, ndikukonza zomwe zalakwika.
Kenako onjezerani nthambi ya azitona, pangani mtendere ndikusunthira zakale kupitilira tsogolo labwino.
62. Pezani moyo! (Werengani - zosangalatsa zokonda)
Gawo la Stephanie Robson MSW, RSW
Nthawi zambiri timamva kuti maubale amafunika kuti tipeze nthawi yambiri ndi mphamvu, zomwe ndi zoona. Ukwati umafuna kuyesayesa kosalekeza ndi chisamaliro kuti ukhale wachipambano.
Pomanga chibwenzi ndipo mwina banja, maanja amatha kumizidwa mu njirayi, amadzitaya okha. Ngakhale ndikofunikira kulumikizana ndi mnzanu, ndikofunikanso kukhala ndi zokonda zanu ndikukhala panokha.
Kuchita nawo zochitika zomwe siziphatikiza mnzanu, mwachitsanzo. kuphunzira chida choimbira, kujowina kalabu yamabuku, kutenga kalasi yojambula, zilizonse zomwe zingakhalepo, kumakupatsani mwayi wokulitsani.
Tyake ikhoza kukhala njira yabwino kwambiri yobwezeretsanso ndikumva mphamvu yatsopano komanso kudzimva kuti wakwaniritsa zomwe zingayamikire ubale wabwino.
63. Sanjani maubale oti mukambirane ndi kuthana ndi mantha ndi kukayika
Dr.Jerren Weekes-Kanu, Ph.D, MA
Ndikulangiza okwatirana kuti azikhala ndi nthawi yokambirana za mantha, kukayikira, kapena kusatetezeka komwe amakumana nako zokhudzana ndi chibwenzi chawo. Mantha osathetsedwa ndikukayika kumatha kukhala ndi vuto m'mabanja.
Mwachitsanzo, mnzake woopa kuti sakufunidwanso ndi okwatirana naye ndikokwanira kusintha machitidwe awo ndi ubale wawo m'njira zomwe zimachepetsa kukhutira mbanja (mwachitsanzo, kukulitsa chidani, kuchoka nthawi yaubwenzi, kusiya, kapena kupanga thupi ndi / kapena mtunda wamaganizidwe munjira zina).
Musalole kuti mantha osanenedwa awononge banja lanu; kambiranani nawo pafupipafupi momasuka, momasuka, komanso mokhazikika pamacheza.
64. Konzani ndikupanga moyo watanthauzo limodzi
Chithunzi ndi Caroline Steelberg, Psy.D, LLC
Perekani ganiza kuukwati wanu. Dziwani zomwe inu ndi mnzanu mukufuna komanso zomwe mukufuna muukwati, pano komanso mtsogolo. Sanjani nthawi yoti mugawane, mverani ndikukambirana momwe mungapangire kuti izi zichitike. Pangani moyo watanthauzo limodzi!
65. Dzifunseni ngati muli ndi msana wa mnzanu 
Lindsay Goodlin, Lcsw
Upangiri wabwino kwambiri womwe ndikupangira maanja ndikuti nthawi zonse muzisewera pagulu limodzi. Kusewera pagulu limodzi kumatanthauza kukhala ndi misana nthawi zonse, kugwirira ntchito zolinga zofanana, ndipo nthawi zina kumatanthauza kunyamula membala wa gulu lanu akafuna thandizo. Tonsefe timadziwa kuti palibe "Ine" pagulu, ndipo banja ndichonso.
66. Momwe mumalankhulirana ndikofunikira monga momwe mumalankhulira - limbikitsani luso
ANGELA FICKEN, LICSW
Pezani njira yolankhulirana bwino. Apa ndikutanthauza, nonse awiri mungafotokoze bwanji zakukhosi, kukwiya, kukhumudwa, kuyamikira, ndi chikondi m'njira yomwe nonse mumatha kumva ndikumvetsetsa?
Kuyankhulana moyenera ndi luso ndipo banja lililonse lingakhale losiyana ndi momwe amayendetsera izi. Kuphunzira kulumikizana moyenera kumatha kutenga nthawi yambiri, kuchita, komanso kuleza mtima- ndipo zitha kuchitika! Kulankhulana bwino kumathandiza kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi maubwenzi abwino.
67. Chitirani mnzanu momwe inu mungafune kuti akuchitireni
EVA SADOWSKI RPC, MFA
Chitirani mnzanu momwe inu mungafune kuti akuchitireni. Ngati mukufuna ulemu - perekani ulemu; ngati mukufuna chikondi - perekani chikondi; ngati mukufuna kudaliridwa - akhulupirireni; ngati mukufuna kukoma mtima - khalani okoma mtima. Khalani mtundu wa munthu yemwe mukufuna mnzanuyo akhale.
68. Limbitsani mphamvu yanu yamkati kuti muyankhe bwino ndi mnzanu
Dr.Lyz DeBoer Kreider, Ph.D.
Ganiziraninso momwe muli mphamvu yanu. Mulibe mphamvu kapena matsenga, zingatenge kuti musinthe mnzanu. Gwiritsani ntchito mphamvu zanu kusintha momwe mumayankhira kwa mnzanu.
Nthawi zambiri abwenzi amachita m'njira yomwe imapanga mtunda - mwakuthupi komanso mwamalingaliro. Imani pang'ono, pumani, ndikuganizira za cholinga cholumikizira. Sankhani yankho logwirizana ndi cholinga chanu.
69. Pezani zenizeni (Chuck malingaliro achikondi awa okhudza chibwenzi)
ZOCHITIKA ZA KIMBERLY VANBUREN, MA, LMFT, LPC-S
Anthu ambiri amayamba ubale ndi ziyembekezo zosatheka za momwe chibwenzi chimawonekera. Nthawi zambiri zimakhudzidwa ndimakanema achikondi komanso zomwe munthuyo amawona kuti ndi "zachikondi" kapena "zokonda" kapena "zosangalatsa".
Mwayi ngati muli otsimikiza kuti kanema waposachedwa kwambiri (ikani wosewera yemwe mumakonda pano) ndi momwe ubale ukuyenera kuwonekera ndipo moyo wanu sukufanana ndi kanema, mwina mungakhumudwe.
Nthawi zambiri tikakhala pachibwenzi, timangonyalanyaza zomwe ife sitimukonda. Timachita izi chifukwa timakhulupirira kuti tikakhala pachibwenzi, titha kusintha kapena kusintha zinthu zomwe sitimakonda.
Chowonadi ndi chakuti, maubwenzi odzipereka adzawunikira mbali zonse za mnzanu. Zomwe mumakonda makamaka zomwe simumakonda. Zinthu zomwe simukuzikonda sizidzatha pokhapokha kudzipereka kuchitidwa.
Malangizo anga ndiosavuta. Lankhulani momveka bwino ndikukhala achilungamo pazomwe mukufuna pachibwenzi ndikukhala ovomerezeka pazomwe muli pachibwenzi, pakadali pano. Osati zomwe mukuganiza kuti zitha kusandulika kapena zomwe zingachitike ngati izi zisintha.
Ngati mukuyembekezera china chake kuti musinthe mwa mnzanu kuti mukhale osangalala muubwenzi, ndiye kuti mukulephera. Landirani yemwe mumagwirizana naye ndipo mvetsetsani kuti sangakhale ndi kusintha kwakukulu pamakhalidwe awo.
Ngati mutha kukhala osangalala ndi yemwe munthuyo ali pompano, ndiye kuti mutha kukhala okhutira ndi ubale wanu.
70. Limbikitsani chidwi cha mnzanu - khalani oyamikira komanso musawanyoze
SAMARA SEROTKIN, PSY.D
Onetsani kuyamikira kwa wina ndi mnzake. Ngakhale mukuyenera kukumba kuti mupeze china chomwe mumayamikira za iwo, fufuzani ndikuyankhula. Ukwati ndi ntchito yovuta, ndipo tonse titha kugwiritsa ntchito chilimbikitso nthawi ndi nthawi - makamaka kuchokera kwa munthu yemwe timamuwona kwambiri.
Dziwani malingaliro anu. Ambiri a ife timakhala nthawi yayitali kuganizira zinthu - makamaka anzathu. Ngati mukupeza kuti mukudandaula za iwo, imani pang'ono ndikupeza njira yothanirana ndi iwo. Musalole kuti izi zikule ndikukhala poizoni.
71. Yang'anani pamalingaliro m'malo mwamtheradi kuti mukambirane bwino 
Maureen Gaffney, Lcsw. (Adasankhidwa)
“Sindikunama, koma iye amanama, nanga ndingamudalirenso bwanji?” Zinthu zochepa kwambiri m'moyo nthawi zonse zimakhala kapena sizinachitike ndipo awa ndi mawu omwe timapita mosavuta pakamakangana. Mukadzipeza mukugwiritsa ntchito mawu awa, imani kaye pang'ono ndikuganiza za nthawi yomwe mwina munanama.
Mwina bodza loyera pang'ono mukamachedwa. Ngati mumaganizira momwe khalidweli limakupangitsani kumva m'malo mokhala kangati, zimakupatsani mwayi wolankhula m'malo momangomva kuti mukuweruzidwa kapena kuchita manyazi.
72. Kulandiridwa ndi njira ya ku chipulumutso cha banja
Dr.Kim Dawson, Psy.D.
- Landirani kuti palibe amene akuyang'anira choonadi, ngakhale inu!
- Landirani mkangano ndi gawo lachilengedwe laubwenzi komanso gwero la maphunziro amoyo.
- Landirani mnzanuyo ali ndi malingaliro oyenera. Funsani za izi! Phunzirani pa izo!
- Pezani loto lomwe mumagawana ndikulikwaniritsa.
73. Pangani malo omwe mumakhala opanda mantha oti "mudzadziwika"
GREG GRIFFIN, MA, BCPC
Pangani zisankho ngati kuti mnzanu ali nanu, ngakhale sakupezeka. Khalani ndi moyo kuti ngati mnzanu adzakudabwitsani powonekera kulikonse komwe muli (paulendo wabizinesi, kutuluka ndi anzanu, kapena ngakhale mukakhala nokha), mungakhale okondwa kumulandira. Ndikumverera kwakukulu kukhala moyo wopanda mantha a "kudziwika".
74. Khalani ndi nthawi yabwino ndi mnzanu
Mendim Zhuta, LMFT
Ndikadangopereka upangiri umodzi kwa okwatirana ndikuti ndionetsetse kuti azikhala ndi nthawi yokwanira maola awiri pa sabata. Kumvetsetsa ndi "Nthawi yabwino" ndikutanthauza tsiku / usiku. Kuphatikiza apo, osadutsa mwezi umodzi osakwaniritsa zolingazi.
75. Limbikitsani ubale wanu kudzera pazilumikizano zazing'ono
LISA CHAPIN, MA, LPC
Upangiri wanga ungakhale kuti ubale wanu ukhale chinthu choyambirira ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukukulira kudzera kuzilumikizano zazing'ono koma zofunikira pamalingaliro ndi thupi tsiku lililonse. Kukulitsa zokumana nazo zamasiku onse - kuwunika m'maganizo ndi mnzanu (mameseji, imelo, kapena kuyimbira foni) kapena kupsompsonana, kukumbata kapena kukumbatirana kumatha kupita kutali.