Zamkati
Amati pali maukwati abwino, koma palibe mabanja osangalatsa. Kwa zaka zambiri anthu okwatirana amapezeka kuti akuchita mphwayi ndi mphwayi. Amadzimva kukhala opanda chiyembekezo, maubwenzi osasangalala, kusowa chidwi komanso kukhala osasangalala. Sizachilendo kuti anthu apabanja azimva kuti akutaya chiyembekezo chodzakhala ndi moyo wachikondi ndikulipira mtengo wokhalira pazachuma komanso mwamalingaliro komanso moyo wabwino wa ana awo.
Chikondi chatha tsiku
Wafilosofi wachifalansa Michel Montaigne ananena kuti anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lachikondi amasiya kulingalira, koma banja limawapangitsa kuzindikira kutayika. Zachisoni koma zowona - ukwati umakhala ndi zenizeni zambiri kotero kuti zitha kupha moyo pachinyengo cha chikondi.
Mabanja ambiri amati malingaliro awo a "chikondi adatha". Nthawi zina malingaliro amasintha mwamphamvu mwadzidzidzi ndipo chikondi cha wina chimatha kufa mosayembekezereka, koma nthawi zambiri, kukondana kumasintha kukhala chinthu china - mwatsoka kumakhala kosasangalatsa, koma kopanda pake.
Okwatirana achinyengo okha ndi omwe amayembekeza kuti chisangalalo chawo chachikulu, chilakolako chawo, ndi kutengeka kuti zisasinthe nthawi ndi zovuta. Pambuyo pa chisangalalo chakuledzera nthawi zonse pamakhala chiphinjo, nthawi yachisangalalo iliyonse imatsatiridwa ndi zaka ndi zaka zochitika tsiku ndi tsiku, maakaunti aku banki, ntchito zapakhomo, kulira kwa ana ndi matewera onyansa.
Zowawa zam'mutu zamisala nthawi zambiri zimatenga miyezi ingapo mpaka zaka ziwiri. Kwa mabanja ambiri omwe akhala pachibwenzi kwakanthawi ndikukhala limodzi, kutengeka mwamphamvu ndi D.O.A. patsiku laukwati wawo.
Apa pali vuto lenileni laukwati - momwe mungasinthire kuyamikiridwa kwa kalonga / kalonga wokongola wokhala ndi chikondi chenicheni kwa thupi lopanda ungwiro komanso wokwatirana naye.
Momwe mungapangire CPR chikondi
Mabanja ena amawona chikondi chawo ngati cholengedwa chodziyimira pawokha chomwe chitha kukhala ndi moyo kapena kufa ndi njala nthawi iliyonse, mosasamala kanthu za zomwe okondedwa akuchita. Nthawi zambiri sizikhala zoona. Palibe amene ali ndi ufulu wonena kuti chikondi chosamalidwa chimakhala kwamuyaya, koma amene wanyalanyazidwa adzawonongedwa kuyambira pachiyambi pomwe.
Nthawi zambiri anthu amamva mawu achabechabe komanso onyoza: "Maukwati ndi ntchito yovuta". Ngakhale ndizokwiyitsa kuvomereza, pali china chake. "Zovuta", komabe, ndizokokomeza. Zingakhale zomveka kunena kuti maubale amatenga ntchito ndipo nthawi inayake iyenera kuyikidwapo.
Nawa malingaliro osavuta omwe angathandize kusamalira zina zofunika kwambiri ndi ubale:
- Si bwino kungotengera mnzanuyo mopepuka. Achinyamata akamapita kokayenda amakhala akuyesetsa kuti awoneke bwino. Zimatheka bwanji atakwatirana amuna ndi akazi ambiri amavala zovala kuntchito ndikunyalanyaza mawonekedwe awo kunyumba? Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti muziwoneka bwino pamaso pa mwamuna / mkazi ndikuyesetsa kupewa mayesero oti mulowe mu thukuta lakale chifukwa choti ndilabwino.
- Kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino yokha ndikofunikira kwa banja lililonse. Kamodzi m'masabata awiri kapena atatu chotsani ana ndikukhala ndi usiku usiku. Chidzakhala chikumbutso chabwino kwambiri chaubwenzi koyambirira - chikondi chatsopano. Pewani kulankhula za ana, ntchito zapakhomo komanso mavuto azachuma, khalani ndi tsiku lenileni usiku.
- Pangani zoyembekezerazo kukhala zenizeni. Ndizosatheka kukhala ndi agulugufe m'mimba mwamuyaya. Pangani mtendere nawo. Zochita zogonana zimapatsa anthu chisangalalo, koma mtengo wake nthawi zambiri umakhala wokondedwa kwambiri. Chisangalalo ndi chakanthawi, pomwe kuwonongeka kwa mabodza, kuwononga kowononga mkazi ndi ana kumatha kukhala kwamuyaya. Osanenapo agulugufe adzatheratu atasowa mulimonse.
- Zizindikiro zazing'ono ndizofunikira. Kupanga chakudya chomwe amakonda nthawi ndi nthawi, kugula mphatso tsiku lobadwa ndi tsiku lokumbukira kukumbukira tsiku, kungofunsa kuti: "Lili bwanji tsiku lanu?" ndiyeno kumvetsera ndizosavuta kuchita, koma zimapangitsa kusintha kwakukulu.
Kumenya kavalo wakufa
Nthawi zina chikondi chimatha kutha kwathunthu chifukwa cha Mulungu amadziwa chifukwa chake. Ngati ndi choncho, ndikofunikira kuvomereza ndikukonzekera kupita kwina. Anthu mamiliyoni ambiri amachita izi tsiku lililonse; palibe chifukwa chochitira mantha. Amuna ndi akazi ambiri akale amakhala mabwenzi apamtima ngakhale banja litatha. Izi ndi zizindikilo zomwe banja lingakhale lakufa:
- Pali kusiyana kwenikweni pakati pa okwatiranawo ndi kulumikizana komwe kumafanana ndi kwa anthu awiri omwe amakhala nawo chipinda chimodzi.
- Lingaliro lokha logonana ndilonyansa.
- Kuganizira wokwatirana ndi munthu wina kumabweretsa chisangalalo, osati nsanje.
- Kulimbana pafupipafupi pachilichonse, kumangokhalira kusakhutitsidwa.
Ngati pali kukayikira kwamphamvu kuti moyo wamoyo ukasandukanso anthu omwe amakhala nawo m'ndende, ndibwino nthawi zonse kukambirana ndi akatswiri. Abwenzi ndi abale amatha kukhala okhudzidwa kwambiri ndipo ali ndi zolinga zabwino zitha kubweretsa mavuto aakulu. Uphungu waukwati, kumbali inayo, sangathandize, koma sangapweteke. Kwa banja lomwe lakhumudwitsidwa, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta kukhala osamala komanso kumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika. Mulimonsemo, ndizodziwika kuti pali mbali zitatu pankhani iliyonse "yake, yake, ndi chowonadi".
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