Zamkati
- Kuwulura kwapafupi ndi kubwezera
- Kuwulura kwa munthu wolakwika kumatha kukupweteketsani mtima
- “Kuti Ine-Ndionane”
- Kukondana kwenikweni ndi kusiyana pakati pa "Chilakolako" ndi "Chikondi"
Tisanalankhule za zisangalalo, zofunikira, ndi malamulo ogonana; choyamba tiyenera kumvetsetsa zaubwenzi. Ngakhale kugonana kumatanthauzidwa ngati chinthu chogonana; Popanda kuyanjana, sitingakhale ndi zisangalalo zomwe Mulungu amafuna zogonana. Popanda kukondana kapena kukondana, kugonana kumangokhala kuchita kwakuthupi kapena chilakolako chofuna kudzisangalatsa, chongofuna kuthandizidwa.
Kumbali inayi, tikakhala ndi chibwenzi, kugonana sikungangofika pachisangalalo chenicheni chomwe Mulungu adafuna koma kudzafunira zofuna za winayo osati zathu zokha.
Mawu oti "kukondana m'banja" amangogwiritsidwa ntchito kutanthauza kugonana. Komabe, mawuwa alidi otakata kwambiri ndipo amalankhula za ubale ndi kulumikizana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Chifukwa chake, tiyeni tifotokoze zaubwenzi!
Kukondana kumakhala ndi matanthauzidwe angapo kuphatikiza kudziwa bwino kapena ubwenzi; kuyandikana kapena kulumikizana kwapafupi pakati pa anthu. Malo osangalatsa achinsinsi kapena mtendere wamtendere. Ubwenzi wapakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi wake.
Koma imodziTanthauzo la chibwenzi chomwe timakonda ndikudziwulula zazomwe tili nazo ndikuyembekeza kubwezeredwa.
Chibwenzi sichimangochitika, chimafuna khama. Ndiwo chiyanjano chenicheni, chachikondi chenicheni pomwe munthu aliyense amafuna kudziwa zambiri za mnzake; kotero, amayesetsa.
Kuwulura kwapafupi ndi kubwezera
Mwamuna akakumana ndi mkazi ndipo amayamba kukondana, amatha maola ambiri akungolankhula. Amalankhulana pamasom'pamaso, pafoni, kudzera pa mameseji, komanso kudzera munjira zosiyanasiyana zapa TV. Zomwe akuchita ndikupanga chibwenzi.
Akuwulula okha ndikubwezera chidziwitso chaumwini komanso chapafupi. Amawulula zam'mbuyomu (kukondana kwakale), zomwe apano (ubale wapano), komanso tsogolo lawo (ubale womwe ukubwera). Kuwululidwa kwapafupi kumeneku ndi kubwezerana ndi kwamphamvu kwambiri, kwakuti kumawapangitsa kukondana.
Kuwulura kwa munthu wolakwika kumatha kukupweteketsani mtima
Kudziwulula kwayekha ndi kwamphamvu kwambiri, kotero kuti anthu amatha kukondana osakumanapo kapena kuonana.
Anthu ena amagwiritsanso ntchito kuwululidwa kwa "Catfish"; chodabwitsa pomwe wina amadziyesa kuti ndi munthu amene siogwiritsira ntchito Facebook kapena malo ena ochezera pa intaneti kuti apange mayina abodza kuti achite zibwenzi zachinyengo pa intaneti. Anthu ambiri anyengedwa ndipo amapezerapo mwayi chifukwa chodziulula.
Ena adasweka mtima ndipo amasokonezeka ngakhale atakwatirana chifukwa munthu amene adadziulula, sakuyimira yemwe adakondana naye.
“Kuti Ine-Ndionane”
Njira imodzi yoyang'ana pachibwenzi ndiyotengera mawu oti "In-to-me-see". Ndikufotokozera mwaufulu zazidziwitso pamunthu komanso pamalingaliro zomwe zimalola wina "kutiona", ndipo amatilola kuti "tiwone" momwemo. Timawalola kuti adziwe kuti ndife ndani, zomwe timaopa, komanso maloto athu, ziyembekezo zathu, ndi zokhumba zathu. Kukhala pachibwenzi chenicheni kumayamba tikalola ena kulumikizana ndi mitima yathu ndipo ifenso ndi awo tikamagawana zakukhosi kwathu mumtima mwathu.
Ngakhale Mulungu amafuna kukhala paubwenzi nafe kudzera "mwa-ine-kuwona"; ndipo amatipatsa lamulo!
Marko 12: 30-31 (KJV) Ndipo uzikonda Ambuye Mulungu wako ndi mtima wako wonse, ndi moyo wako wonse, ndi nzeru zako zonse, ndi mphamvu yako yonse.
Uzikonda mnzako monga udzikonda iwe mwini.
Kulibe malamulo ena akulu kuposa awa.
Apa Yesu akutiphunzitsa ife makiyi anayi achikondi ndi kuyanjana:
- “Ndi Mtima Wathu Wonse”- Kuwona mtima konse kwa malingaliro ndi momwe akumvera.
- “Ndi Moyo Wathu Wonse”- Munthu wamkati wonse; chikhalidwe chathu.
- “Ndi Maganizo Athu Onse”- Luntha lathu; Kuyika luntha mu chikondi chathu.
- “Ndi Mphamvu Zathu Zonse”- Mphamvu zathu; kuzichita mosaleka ndi mphamvu zathu zonse.
Potengera zinthu zinayi izi, lamulo la Chilamulo ndikuti tikonde Mulungu ndi zonse zomwe tili nazo. Kumukonda Iye ndi kuwona mtima konse, ndi changu chonse, mzochita zathunthu zakuwunikiridwa, komanso ndi mphamvu zathu zonse.
Chikondi chathu chiyenera kukhala mbali zonse zitatu za umunthu wathu; thupi kapena kukondana kwakuthupi, kukondana ndi moyo, kapena mzimu, komanso ubale wapamtima kapena wauzimu.
Sitiyenera kuwononga mwayi uliwonse womwe tili nawo, kuti tiyandikire kwa Mulungu. Ambuye amanga ubale wapamtima ndi aliyense wa ife amene tikufuna kukhala mu ubale ndi Iye. Moyo wathu wachikhristu sikuti ndikumva bwino, kapena kungopeza zabwino zazikulu kulumikizana kwathu ndi Mulungu. M'malo mwake, ndi za Iye kuwulula zambiri za Iye kwa ife.
Tsopano lamulo lachiwiri la chikondi lapatsidwa kwa ife kwa wina ndi mnzake ndipo ndi lofanana ndi loyamba. Tiyeni tiwone lamuloli kachiwiri, koma kuchokera m'buku la Mateyu.
Mateyu 22: 37–39 (KJV) Yesu anati kwa iye, Uzikonda Ambuye Mulungu wako ndi mtima wako wonse, ndi moyo wako wonse, ndi nzeru zako zonse. Ili ndilo lamulo lalikulu ndi loyamba. Ndipo lachiwiri lofanana nalo ndi ili, uzikonda mzako monga uzikonda iwe mwini.
Poyamba Yesu akuti, “Ndipo lachiwiri ndi lofanana nalo”, pokhala lamulo loyamba la Chikondi. Mwachidule, tiyenera kukonda anzathu (m'bale, mlongo, banja, abwenzi, komanso okondedwa athu) monga momwe timakondera Mulungu; ndi mtima wathu wonse, ndi moyo wathu wonse, ndi nzeru zathu zonse, ndi mphamvu zathu zonse.
Pomaliza, Yesu akutipatsa lamulo lagolide, "Uzikonda mnzako monga udzikonda iwe mwini"; “Chitirani ena monga mukafuna kuti akuchitireni inu”; “Awakonde mmene ungafunire kukondedwa nawo!”
Mateyu 7:12 (KJV Chifukwa chake zinthu zilizonse mukafuna kuti anthu achitire inu, inunso muwachitire iwo zotero; pakuti ichi ndicho chilamulo ndi aneneri.
Mu chibwenzi chenicheni, munthu aliyense amafuna kudziwa zambiri za mnzake. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa amafuna kupindulitsa mnzake. Muubwenzi wapamtimawu, njira yathu ndikuti timafuna kuti moyo wa mnzake ukhale wabwino chifukwa chokhala m'miyoyo yawo. “Moyo wa mwamuna kapena mkazi wanga uli bwino chifukwa chakuti inenso ndili nawo.”
Kukondana kwenikweni ndi kusiyana pakati pa "Chilakolako" ndi "Chikondi"
Mawu oti Lust mu Chipangano Chatsopano ndi mawu achi Greek "Epithymia", lomwe ndi tchimo lachiwerewere lomwe limasokoneza mphatso yomwe Mulungu adapereka yokhudza kugonana. Chilakolako chimayamba ngati lingaliro lomwe limakhala lotengeka, lomwe pamapeto pake limadzetsa kuchitapo kanthu: kuphatikiza dama, chigololo, ndi zonyansa zina zogonana. Chilakolako sichikondanso munthu wina; Chidwi chake chokha ndikumugwiritsa ntchito munthuyo ngati chinthu pazokhumba zake zokha kapena kukhutira.
Kumbali ina Chikondi, Chipatso cha Mzimu Woyera chotchedwa "Agape" mu Chi Greek ndi chomwe Mulungu amatipatsa kuti tigonjetse Chilakolako. Mosiyana ndi chikondi chaumunthu chomwe chimabwezerana, Agape ndi Wauzimu, wobadwira kwenikweni kuchokera kwa Mulungu, ndipo amayambitsa kukonda mosasamala kanthu za kubwezerana.
Yohane 13: Mwa ichi anthu onse adzazindikira kuti muli akuphunzira anga ngati muli nacho chikondano wina ndi mnzake
Mateyu 5: Mudamva kuti kudanenedwa, Udzikondana ndi mzako, ndikudana ndi mdani wako. Koma Ine ndinena kwa inu, Kondanani nawo adani anu, dalitsani iwo akutemberera inu, chitirani zabwino iwo amene akudana nanu, ndipo pemphererani iwo amene amakugwiritsirani ntchito mosayenera, ndi kukuzunzani inu.
Chipatso choyamba cha kupezeka kwa Mulungu ndi chikondi chifukwa Mulungu ndiye chikondi. Ndipo tikudziwa kuti kupezeka kwake kuli mwa ife tikayamba kuwonetsa mikhalidwe ya Chikondi: kukoma mtima, kukonda, kukhululuka kopanda malire, kuwolowa manja komanso kukoma mtima. Izi ndi zomwe zimachitika tikamagwira ntchito muubwenzi weniweni kapena wowona.