Zamkati
- 1. Chitani khama tsiku lililonse
- 2. Pangani "inu" kunja kwanu monga banja
- 3. Onetsani poyera za kugonana kwanu komanso zokonda zanu
- 4. Onetsetsani kuti mwamvetsetsa zomwe okondedwa wanu amatanthauza "ubale"
- 5. Yesetsani kukulitsa chibwenzi
- 6. Sungani maubale akale m'mbuyomu
- 7. Tetezani thupi lanu
- 8. Tetezanani mwalamulo
- 9. Konzani madzulo mlungu uliwonse kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yabwino limodzi
Monga munthu wamwamuna yemwe amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mwina ukadakhala kuti nawonso sunasangalale ndi anthu m'dziko lino lodzala ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Koma mwagwiritsitsa zomwe mukudziwa kuti ndimakonda anu ogonana, ndipo tsopano mukhale pachibwenzi chachikulu.
Pamapeto pake mumakhala omasuka pakhungu lanu ndipo mukufuna kuwonetsetsa kuti mukukhalabe mosangalala muubwenzi wanu wachiwerewere.
Komabe, Malangizo okondana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena Upangiri waubwenzi ungafotokozere kuti muyenera kudziwa zina zofunika kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wosangalala.
Koma, kodi malangizowo ndi otani pakulimbikitsa ubale wachimwemwe ndi wokhutiritsa? Nawa maupangiri 9 amaubwenzi apabanja ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuti akuthandizeni kusangalala ndiubwenzi wosangalala.
1. Chitani khama tsiku lililonse
Mumakonda wokondedwa wanu ndipo mukufuna kuwawonetsa tsiku lililonse. Sichiyenera kukhala chiwonetsero chachikulu cha malingaliro; kuwabweretsera kapu yotentha ya khofi yopangidwa momwe amafunira kungakhale kokwanira kutumiza uthenga kuti mumawakonda.
Mukadutsa kale masiku opambana, oyamba achisangalalo chaubwenzi wanu, kupitilirabe kuchita manja ang'onoang'ono, mwachikondi kwa wina ndi mnzake kumathandizira kwambiri kuwonetsa kuti bwenzi lanu ndilofunika.
Izi ndizambiri upangiri wofunikira paubwenzi woyamba kwa aliyense koma ndiwofunikanso pamaubwenzi ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
2. Pangani "inu" kunja kwanu monga banja
Anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akabwera limodzi, monga maanja owongoka, ndizachilengedwe kuti muzisakanikirana, momwe mumachitira zonse pamodzi. Ndizosangalatsa kuti pamapeto pake mwapeza wina yemwe "amakupatsani" ndipo mukufuna kuti muzikhala nthawi yodzuka ndi kugona limodzi.
Koma maubale athanzi amafunika kupuma kuti zinthu zisangalatse. Pewani chiyeso chofuna kuyang'ana kwa mnzanu kuti akwaniritse zosowa zanu zamaganizidwe ndi nzeru.
Ngakhale mutha kukhala otsogola mchikondi, upangiri wa maubwenzi ogonana amuna okhaokhawa umakulimbikitsani kuti mupeze nthawi yosunga zokonda zanu zakunja ndikupitiliza kudzilimbitsa.
Mukabwera kunyumba, mudzakhala ndi china chatsopano choti mugawane, kusunga zokambiranazo komanso "kuyatsa" kumakhalabe pachibwenzi.
3. Onetsani poyera za kugonana kwanu komanso zokonda zanu
Kodi ndinu wapamwamba kapena pansi? Wamkulu? Kugonjera? Onetsetsani kuti mnzanu akudziwa izi kuyambira pachiyambi.
Izi malangizo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha itha kukuthandizani kuti musapange cholakwa chonamizira kuti simuli, kapena simungakhale, kuti mungokopa munthu amene mumamukondayo.
4. Onetsetsani kuti mwamvetsetsa zomwe okondedwa wanu amatanthauza "ubale"
Si chinsinsi kuti mu subculture ya amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, "ubale" ungatanthauze zinthu zambiri. Ngati kwa inu zikutanthauza kukhala osadalira, mudzaonetsetsa kuti ndizogwirizana ndi malingaliro a mnzanu.
Ngati nonse mukufuna kukhala omasuka kuti muphatikize anthu ena, fotokozani zomwe zikutanthauza. Kodi zikutanthawuza kupitiliza kupitilira pafupipafupi malo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha?
Kodi mungakonde mfundo yoti “osafunsa, osanena,” kapena mungafune kuwonetseredwa kochokera kwa mnzanu akawona anthu ena?
Chilichonse chomwe mungasankhe pachibwenzi chanu onetsetsani kuti nonse mukugwirizana, kapena kukwiya kudzakula ndipo chibwenzi chanu sichitha.
Ngati inu ndi bwenzi lanu lachiwerewere mwasankha kuti musakhale okhaokha, chitanipo kanthu kuti musankhe izi.
Mukufuna kumangoganizira za wina ndi mnzake ndikupanga ubale wovomerezeka? Chotsani mapulogalamu onse ochezera amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komanso zibwenzi.
Muyenera kusiya kusiya malo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha omwe mumakonda kugwiritsa ntchito; pezani malo atsopano omwe inu ndi mnzanuyo mungapite komwe mungapezere malo ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha.
Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muthandizire kuti banja lanu likhale lolimba, ndipo musayende mokwanira kapena mwakuthupi m'malo omwe angakuyeseni kuti musochere.
5. Yesetsani kukulitsa chibwenzi
Inu ndi mnzanu mumagonana modabwitsa.Koma popeza mwadzipereka kwa wina ndi mnzake, mudzafunanso kuyesetsa kukulitsa mgwirizano pakati panu. Izi zikutanthauza kuphunzira njira za kulumikizana.
Izi sizovuta nthawi zonse, makamaka kumayambiriro kwa chibwenzi. Khalani nthawi yogona, kumangolankhulana ndi kumvetsetsana zosowa ndi zokhumba za wina ndi mnzake.
Malinga ndi izi upangiri wabanja kwa maanja ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, Chibwenzi chomwe chimadalira kugonana kokha sichitha kwanthawi yayitali.
Kulimbitsa kukondana kwanu mwa kulowa tsiku ndi tsiku komanso nthawi yocheza ndi zokambirana zabwino zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale limodzi pamavuto omwe sangachitike m'mabanja onse.
6. Sungani maubale akale m'mbuyomu
Tsopano muli mu ubale watsopano komanso wokhutiritsa. Nonsenu mukufuna kuti izi zitheke ndipo ndinu okonzeka kuchita ntchitoyi kuti mukhale mgwirizano wathanzi.
Gawo la izi limatanthauza kusiya maubwenzi akale, makamaka maubwenzi omwe adathera pomwepo. Chitani zomwe mukufunikira kuti musiye zopweteketsa kalezi; mwina magawo ena a upangiri atha kukhala othandiza pa izi.
7. Tetezani thupi lanu
Kumbukirani izi Upangiri wa ubale wa LGBT: kayezetseni, ndipo pitilizani kukayezetsa. Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri ngati inu ndi mnzanu muli ndi mgwirizano wokhala pachibwenzi chotseguka.
8. Tetezanani mwalamulo
Ngati muli pachibwenzi cha amuna kapena akazi okhaokha komwe muli okonzeka kumanga ukwati, fufuzani ndi malamulo a State kapena dziko lanu kuti muwone ngati ukwati wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndi wololedwa.
Ngati sizinavomerezedwe, fufuzani momwe mungatetezere mwalamulo mnzanuyo kuti akhale ndi ufulu wokwatirana monga mphamvu-ya-loya, zamankhwala, kapena zakufa.
9. Konzani madzulo mlungu uliwonse kuti mukhale ndi nthawi yabwino limodzi
Mukakhala kuti mulowa mu poyambira paubwenzi wanu, zimakhala zophweka kuti wina ndi mzake azinyalanyaza. Osatero. Chiwerengero choyamba chaimfa kuubwenzi ndikunyalanyaza kulumikizana ndi mnzake kuti ndiwofunika kwambiri kwa inu.
Sanjani nthawi yoti mukhale ndi sabata sabata iliyonse, ndipo muzilemekeze. Musalole chilichonse kutsutsana ndi nthawi yomwe mwasankha kuti muzilumikizane ndi mnzanu. Mukakhala pa tsiku lanu, chotsani zowonetserazo.
Lowetsani osati momwe tsiku lawo / sabata / ntchito zikuyendera koma muwone ngati pali zovuta zokhudzana ndiubwenzi zomwe zimafunikira kuwulutsidwa.
Mabanja osangalala a gay ndikuuzani kuti chinthu chimodzi chofunikira chomwe amachita kuti moyo wawo wogawana ukhale wolemera komanso wosangalatsa ndikuti azingoyang'ana wina ndi mnzake popanda zosokoneza zakunja kamodzi pa sabata.