Zamkati
- 1. Ndinadziphatika
- 2. Chiweruzocho ndi chenicheni
- 3. Malamulowa amatha kusokonekera
- Mndandanda wa malamulo oti mtima wanu ukhale wotetezeka upite pang'ono motere:
- 4. Ndili ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana
- 5. Icho sichinali chabwino basi
- 6. M'mawa utayamwa
Omwe ali ambuye pa chiwerewere amadziwa malamulo onse.
Ali otetezeka ndi mitima ndi matupi awo. Nthawi zambiri amalankhulana za zosowa zawo ndikuyika malamulo oyenera kuti aliyense asavulale.
Koma kwa tonsefe, kugonana mwachisawawa ndiulendo wokhazikika womwe ungakhale ndi zovuta zambiri kuposa zokwera.
Kwa iwo omwe akadali pa mpanda wofuna kuyamba kapena ayi, nazi nkhani zochenjeza zomwe zingakupangitseni kuti muganizire kawiri zakugonana kwenikweni ndi kwanu:
1. Ndinadziphatika
Khazikitsani malire! Ndikudziwa, ndikudziwa. Ili ndiye lamulo lalikulu kwambiri pazakugonana. Tsoka ilo, sindinatero. Zomwe ndimakumana nazo ku FWB zidapita motere: kulumikizana, kumangirira, kugona, kudya kadzutsa limodzi, ndikupitilizabe kumuyang'ana mwamunayo kwa miyezi isanu ndi umodzi.
Ndikulakalaka ndikadanena kuti tidakumana ndikukhala mosangalala mpaka kalekale, koma kwenikweni, ndangosweka mtima kwambiri. Pepani. - Yujing, wazaka 27
Sizachilendo kuti anthu azigwirizana ndi anzawo omwe amagonana nawo. Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti oxytocin kapena "hormone ya chikondi" yomwe imatulutsidwa panthawi yogonanakukondana kwambiri m'mabanja.
Oxytocin imachepetsanso nkhawa ndipo yawonetsedwa kuti imalimbikitsa kukhulupirirana komanso kulumikizana pakati pa abwenzi.
Ndi sayansi ngati iyi yothandizira izi, sizosadabwitsa kuti bwanji anthu amadzimva kuti ali okondana kwambiri ndi anzawo.
2. Chiweruzocho ndi chenicheni
Pali ziweruzo zambiri zogonana osakondana, makamaka kuchokera kwa atsikana. Sikoyenera kwa ine kuti anzanga azindinyoza kapena kuphunzitsidwa momwe ndimapwetekera. -Marissa, wazaka 24
Chikhalidwe cholumikizidwa chakhala gawo lalikulu la moyo masiku ano. Kukhala ndi mabwenzi okhala ndi mapindu kuli kofala kwambiri tsopano kuposa kale. Komabe, anthu ambiri, makamaka akazi, akudziona kuti aweruzidwa ndi abwenzi, abale, ndi anzawo chifukwa chochita izi.
Pakhala pali nthawi yotchulidwira kuti "manyazi achigololo", kapena mchitidwe wosala akazi chifukwa chakuchita chiwerewere.
3. Malamulowa amatha kusokonekera
Ine ndi FWB yanga tinaganiza kuti tili ndi zonse mpaka sayansi. Tinali ndi mndandanda wawukulu wamalamulo, koma malamulowo adasokonekera mwachangu.
Kodi kugona kunali bwino ngati nonse mumamwa mowa kwambiri ndipo sikunali koyenera kuyendetsa galimoto kupita kunyumba?
Nanga bwanji ngati tulo tating'onoting'ono timasandulika ndikudya chakudya cham'mawa pabedi? Kwenikweni, kumapeto, tinali titaswa malamulo onse zomwe zidapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuti tisasunthike pamakonzedwe athu. -Michelle, wazaka 20
Ngati mukufuna kupita kokachita zachiwerewere, kumbukirani kukhazikitsa malamulo ndikutsatira! Malamulowa akuyenera kusankhidwa ndi onse awiri.
Mndandanda wa malamulo oti mtima wanu ukhale wotetezeka upite pang'ono motere:
- Fotokozani zokhumba zanu. Fotokozerani momveka bwino zomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi chanu. Ngati simukuyang'ana kuti isinthe kukhala ina, khalani patsogolo pa izo.
- Osapsompsona. Kupsompsonana ndi kwapamtima kwambiri ndipo kwatsimikiziridwa kuti kumalimbikitsa malo opindulitsa aubongo. Chifukwa chaubwenzi woterewu, ndibwino kuti mutuluke m'gulu lanu lachiwerewere ndi anzanu wamba.
- Muzilemekezana, zogonana komanso zina. Simukufuna kunyozedwa m'chipinda chogona, komanso simukufuna kuti wokondedwa wanu azikutsutsani ngati simuli omasuka kuti anthu ena adziwe bizinesi yanu.
- Lankhulani za chikondi. Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani mukagwa "monga" wina ndi mnzake?
- Kodi ubale wanu ndichinsinsi? Ndibwino kuti mukambirane zosankha zanu zachinsinsi kutsogolo.
- Kambiranani momwe mudzathetsere zinthu. Zichitika pamapeto pake!
4. Ndili ndi matenda opatsirana pogonana
Ndinali nditangotuluka kumene muubwenzi wazaka zinayi ndi chibwenzi chakale pomwe ndinali ndi kulumikizana kwanga koyamba kopanda zingwe. Ndimaganiza kuti zindithandiza kumva bwino. M'malo mwake, ndinadwala chinzonono.
Wakale uja adati adandiseka kuti chinali chilango changa kugona ndi munthu posachedwa nditatha. Inde, idayamwa. -Jake, wazaka 25
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention ikuwonetsa kuti matenda opatsirana pogonana akuchulukirachulukira. Pakhala milandu chlamydia 1.7 miliyoni kuyambira 2013 mpaka 2017, yomwe ikuwonjezeka ndi 22%. Matenda a Gonorrhea akwera ndi 67% ndipo chindoko ndi 76%.
Ngati mungakhale pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina, kumbukirani kukhala otetezeka. Kayezetseni pafupipafupi ndikugwiritsa ntchito chitetezo choyenera pakagonana.
5. Icho sichinali chabwino basi
Ku koleji, ndinali wofunitsitsa kuti ndiphunzire za 'mkhalidwe' ndipo izi ndi zomwe ndidaphunzira kuchokera kwa anzanga anayi omwe ndidakhala nawo. Kugonana kwachinyamata kwa atsikana ndi nthabwala yayikulu kwambiri. Sindinamalize kamodzi. - Lora, wazaka 22
Maimidwe ausiku umodzi atha kumveka osangalatsa, koma sizitanthauza kuti ukhala wokhutiritsa - makamaka ngati muli mkazi.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti azimayi amakhala pachiwopsezo chotenga nawo mbali ndi mnzawo wokondana kuposa zokumana nazo. Ichi si chiwerengero chachikulu cha azimayi omwe akuyang'ana kuti akwaniritse zosowa zawo zakugonana.
6. M'mawa utayamwa
Kugonana kosavomerezeka kunali kwabwino kwa ine, mpaka m'mawa mwake. Ndikudziwa kuti ndili mnyamata ndimayenera kukhala wabwino ndi chikondi chonse kenako nkusiya chinthu, koma sindinali choncho.
Kugonana kumatha kutentha ndiyeno m'mawa, ndimangodwala chifukwa cha zomwe zidachitika. Ndidatenga chinthu chonse cha 'kulakwa' ngati chisonyezo kuti zolumikizana mwachidziwikire sizinali za ine. - Adam, wazaka 30
Osati aliyense amatha kutulutsa zokonda zogonana.
Kupatula apo, kugonana ndi chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungachite ndi munthu wina. Kugonana mwachisawawa ndimasewera ovuta. Ikhoza kukusiyani inu ndi malingaliro osayanjanitsika, kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu olakwa, kapena kumva ngati kutha kwakanthawi kotsatira.
Ngati ndinu munthu amene amalumikizana mosavuta kapena amene simunakonzekere kubwezeredwa ndi abwenzi komanso abale ake akadzazindikira zomwe mwakhala mukuchita, zachiwerewere mwina sizingakhale zanu.