Zamkati
- Momwe mungaletse kuyambitsa zisudzo mu chibwenzi
- Munthu wathanzi yemwe safuna sewero pachibwenzi
- Nanga inu? Kodi mumakonda kusewera?
- Kodi seweroli ndi chisokonezo ndi chikondi zimachokera kuti?
- Nthawi zina timavutika chifukwa cha ubwana wathu
- Nkhani yabwino?
- Zonsezi zimatha kusinthidwa, koma sizimasinthidwa tokha.
Anthu ambiri akawerenga mawu omwe ali pamwambapa, amayankha chimodzimodzi, ayi, ayi ndi ayi!
Koma kodi zimenezi ndi zoona?
Ndipo mukudziwa bwanji kuti simumasilira dziko lapansi lachisokonezo ndi sewero, makamaka m'mayanjano?
Kwa zaka 29, wolemba wogulitsa kwambiri, phungu komanso wothandizira moyo David Essel wakhala akuthandiza anthu kuti athetse vuto lawo lokonda zisokonezo komanso zisangalalo m'mabwenzi ndi chikondi, nthawi zambiri, kuwathandiza kuswa zomwe sanadziwe nkomwe iwo anali osokoneza.
Momwe mungaletse kuyambitsa zisudzo mu chibwenzi
Pansipa, David amalankhula za maubwenzi omwe amayendetsedwa ndimasewera, momwe timasilira chipwirikiti ndi sewero m'mayanjano, zisonyezo zakusewera, chifukwa chiyani timakonda kusewera, zitsanzo za sewero laubwenzi, njira zabwino zothetsera sewero laubwenzi, ndi zoyenera kuchita pakugonjetsa zosokoneza bongo.
Pafupifupi zaka zinayi zapitazo, mayi wachichepere adandilembera kudzera pa Skype kuti andilembe ntchito ngati mlangizi chifukwa adadwala ndikutopa ndi kukopa amuna omwe amakhala akupanga chisokonezo ndi sewero pamoyo wawo.
Anandiuza pachigawo chathu choyamba, kuti adadzazidwa ndi mtendere mpaka atayamba kucheza ndi mnyamata yemwe akukamba zamasewera komanso chisokonezo.
Momwe timagwirira ntchito limodzi kwakanthawi, ndidazindikira kuti ubale wake wonse wazaka pafupifupi zinayi udadzazidwa ndi chisokonezo komanso sewero. Zambiri zimachokera kwa iye zomwe zidapanga ubale wopambana.
Adadabwitsidwa kwathunthu pomwe ndimatha kumusonyeza kudzera muzolemba zake, kuti ndiye amene anali kupanga gehena padziko lapansi muubwenzi wake ndikupanganso sewero muubwenzi womwe umayenera kusamalidwa ndi chikondi.
Anabweretsanso mbiri ya chibwenzi chake, ndipo mu mbiriyo, imati: "Sindikulankhula ndi sewero ndi chisokonezo kuchokera kwa mwamuna aliyense ngati uyu siinu mundilankhule."
Munthu wathanzi yemwe safuna sewero pachibwenzi
Pazaka 30 zapitazi zomwe ndapeza ndikuti anthu omwe amati samachita nawo sewero ndi chisokonezo m'mabuku awo azibwenzi, nthawi zambiri sangakhale amene amayambitsa chisokonezo ndi sewero lomwe akukambirana za, zomwe samafuna. Zosangalatsa.
Njira imodzi yoyamba yomwe ndidamupangitsa kuti awone kuti chisokonezo ndi seweroli zimachokera kwa iye, ndikumuuza kuti simungakhale pachibwenzi zaka zinayi ndikudzudzula mnzanu, chifukwa Munthu wathanzi yemwe safuna chisokonezo ndi sewero akanatha kusiya chibwenzicho kalekale.
Kodi sizomveka?
Poyambirira adakankhira mmbuyo, ndikupitilizabe kusagwirizana kuti anali ndi chochita ndi zovuta m'mabanja ake koma atapeza chowonadi m'mawu anga, sakanakhala zaka zinayi ali pachibwenzi chowopsa pokhapokha atakhala mbali zavutoli, maso ake adatseguka ngati mbawala mwa nyali.
Pomaliza adawona koyamba m'moyo wake chowonadi kuti anali osachepera 50% yemwe amachititsa mavuto ndi sewero, koma m'mene timagwirira ntchito limodzi kwanthawi yayitali, adadzivomerezanso kuti ndi amene adayambitsa maubwenzi ake onse.
Nanga inu? Kodi mumakonda kusewera?
Mukayang'ana m'mbiri yaubwenzi wanu ndikuwona kuti ambiri aiwo adasokonekera m'njira zomwe zidadzaza chisokonezo ndi sewero, mudzayamba kuwona kuti muyenera kukhala ndi gawo lalikulu chifukwa anthu athanzi akanasiya wina omwe sanali athanzi atangoyamba chibwenzi.
Kodi seweroli ndi chisokonezo ndi chikondi zimachokera kuti?
Pakati pa zaka zero ndi 18, ndife masiponji akulu m'banja lathu, ndipo ngati amayi kapena abambo ali mgwilizano wosagwirizana, ndipo ambiri aife tili tcheru, ndiye kuti tikungobwereza zomwe tidawona tikukula.
Chifukwa chake amayi ndi abambo atapatsirana chete, kapena amakangana mosalekeza, kapena amamwa mowa kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena kusuta fodya kapena chakudya, pali mwayi waukulu kuti mukungobwereza zomwe banja lanu limachita posokoneza moyo wachikulire.
Maganizo anu osabadwa kuyambira kubadwa adayamba kufanana, "sewero ndi chisokonezo mchikondi", monga zachilendo.
Chifukwa mukamawona china mobwerezabwereza muubwana, ndi anthu ochepa okha omwe ali ndi mphamvu kuti athe kubwereza zomwezo akamakula.
Nthawi zina timavutika chifukwa cha ubwana wathu
Zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri zapitazo ndidagwira ndi banja lochokera ku Spain, lomwe ubale wawo wazaka zopitilira 20 udadzazidwa ndi chisokonezo komanso sewero.
Mkazi adaganiza zosiya kumwa, ndipo mwamunayo adachepetsa ndalamazo.
Koma sizinathandize ubalewo.
Chifukwa chiyani?
Chifukwa onsewa adaleredwa m'mabanja openga, ndipo amangobwereza zomwe adawona amayi awo ndi abambo awo kuyambira koyambirira.
Koma nditawauza onse kuti alembe gawo lomwe amayi adachita pachibwenzi chomwe chinali chopanda thanzi komanso momwe abambo adasewera pachibwenzi pomwe amakula zomwe sizabwino, adadzidzimuka kuwona kuti akubwereza amayi awo ambiri ndipo abambo makhalidwe oyipa.
Monga kusaleza. Chiweruzo. Kukangana. Kuyitana mayina. Kuthawa ndikubwerera.
Mwanjira ina, anali ozunzidwa ali mwana ndipo samadziwa nkomwe.
Malingaliro osazindikira ndi amphamvu mwamphamvu, koma ngati aphunzitsidwa m'njira zopanda thanzi monga chisokonezo ndi sewero, machitidwe aukali, kukangana, kuledzera. Chikumbumtima sichimatha kusiyanitsa pakati pa thanzi kapena thanzi, chifukwa chake limangobwereza chilichonse chomwe chidawona chikukula.
Nkhani yabwino?
Ngati mukugwira ntchito ndi waluso komanso wophunzitsidwa bwino, atha kukuthandizani kuti muwone gawo lomwe mukuchita pamaubwenzi achikondi omwe mudakhalako, ndikuphwanya chosowacho ndikukhumba chisokonezo ndi sewero.
Chisokonezo ichi ndi seweroli zimakhala zosokoneza bongo. Chisokonezo ndi seweroli zimapangitsa kuti adrenaline azimveka tikamakangana, kapena ngakhale tikamachita zankhanza, ndipo thupi limayamba kulakalaka adrenaline, kotero m'modzi kapena mnzakeyo muubwenzi amasankha nkhondo, osati chifukwa mutuwo ndi choncho zofunika kwa iwo, koma chifukwa amalakalaka kuthamanga kwa adrenaline.
Zonsezi zimatha kusinthidwa, koma sizimasinthidwa tokha.
Pezani mlangizi waluso kwambiri, wothandizira komanso / kapena mphunzitsi wamoyo ndikuyamba kudziwa momwe chizolowezi chazisokonezo ndi seweroli chidayambira m'moyo wanu, kuti mutha kuchotseratu. "