Zamkati
Yemwe amachitiridwa nkhanza m'banja omwe akufuna kuti athetse maubwenzi omwe amachitidwa chipongwe omwe alibe omwe ali nawo. Ngati pali ana aubwenziwo, pamtengo pamakhala patali kwambiri. Wochitiridwa nkhanza m'banja ayenera kukhala ndi njira yotetezera asanachoke kwa wozunza, chifukwa ndiye nthawi yomwe wozunzidwayo ali pachiwopsezo chachikulu, ndipo dongosolo la chitetezo liyenera kuphatikiza kulingalira za ana.
Kukonzekera kusiya ubale wachiwawa
Moyo wamunthu wovutitsidwa kunyumba ndi wamantha komanso wokwiya, kwa wozunzidwayo komanso kwa ana azipani. Chiwawa m'banja nthawi zambiri chimakhala pakuwongolera wovutitsidwayo. Kuyesayesa kosavuta kwa wozunzidwayo kuti athetse chibwenzicho kungasokoneze kuwongolera, zomwe zingayambitse kukumana kwachiwawa. Pofuna kupewa mikangano yotere, ndikukonzekera kumenya nkhondo yomwe ingachitike, wozunzidwayo amene wasankha kusiya chibwenzi choyipa ayenera kukonzekera mwachinsinsi ndikukonzekera zinthu zina asanachoke.
Asanachoke pachibwenzi, wochitiridwayo ayenera kusunga mwatsatanetsatane za nkhanzazo, kuphatikizapo tsiku ndi mtundu wa zomwe zidachitikazo, komwe zidachitika, mtundu wa ovulala omwe adavulala, ndi chithandizo chamankhwala chomwe adalandira. Ponena za ana, lembani nthawi yonse yomwe mumakhala nawo komanso chisamaliro chomwe amapatsidwa ndi wozunzidwayo komanso wozunza. Ngati maphwando pambuyo pake asagwirizane zakusungidwa, khothi litha kulingalira zomwe zalembedwa.
Wovutikayo ayeneranso kupatula ndalama ndikunyamula zakudya, monga zovala ndi zimbudzi, zawo ndi ana. Sungani zinthu izi kutali ndi komwe amakhala ndi omwe amamuzunzayo ndipo kwinakwake yemwe akuchitirako nkhanza sangayang'ane. Komanso konzani malo okhala omwe ozunzawo angaganize kuti sangayang'ane, monga kukhala ndi mnzake wogwirira naye ntchito nkhanza sizikumudziwa kapena pogona. Ngati ndi kotheka, funsani loya kapena pulogalamu yomwe imathandizira omwe achitiridwa nkhanza zapakhomo momwe angalembetsere chitetezo atangosiya chibwenzicho.
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Kusiya ubale wankhanza
Pomaliza potenga chibwenzicho, wovutitsidwayo ayenera kupita ndi anawo kapena kuwonetsetsa kuti ali pamalo abwino pomwe wozunza sangawapeze. Wopwetekedwayo ayenera kulembetsa kalata yachitetezo ndikupempha khothi kuti ligwire. Zolemba za nkhanzazi zithandizira kukhothi kuti khothi loteteza ndilofunika ndikuti woyenerayo akhale woyenera panthawiyo. Chifukwa lamulo loteteza loterolo nthawi zambiri limakhala kwakanthawi, wozunzidwayo ayenera kukhala wokonzeka kudzamvanso pambuyo pake komwe ozunzidwayo adzapezekenso. Njira zenizeni ndi nthawi yomwe ikukhudzidwa imatsimikiziridwa ndi malamulo aboma.
Dziwani kuti kupezeka kwa lamulo loteteza sikutanthauza kuti wozunza sangaperekedwe, koma wozunzidwayo atha kupempha khothi kuti lipereke chilolezo choti kuchezako kuyang'aniridwe. Kukhala ndi dongosolo loyendera omwe akuyang'aniridwa, monga kupereka upangiri kwa woyang'anira ndi malo osalowererapo komwe alendo angayendere, zitha kukhala zothandiza.
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Kupita patsogolo
Mukasamuka ndi anawo, pitirizani kufunafuna chithandizo chalamulo pothetsa chibwenzicho potumiza chisudzulo, kulekana mwalamulo, kapena njira zina zalamulo. Zikatero, khotilo lidzaganiziranso za kulandira koyenera kwa ana komanso kuchezera ana. Sizodziwika kuti wozunza ali ndi ufulu wosamalira ana, chifukwa chake kukonzekera ndikukhala ndi oyimira milandu oyenera ndikofunikira. Makhothi amaganizira zinthu zingapo pakupereka mphotho yakusunga mwana pomwe panali nkhanza m'banja:
- Kuchuluka kwa nkhanza za m'banja kunali kochuluka motani, zomwe zitha kukhalanso chisonyezo chamakhalidwe amtsogolo a wozunza;
- Kaya ana kapena kholo linalo likadali pachiwopsezo chakuzunzidwabe ndi wochitiridwayo;
- Kaya milandu yaumbanda yaperekedwa kwa wozunza;
- Chikhalidwe ndi ukulu waumboni uliwonse wa nkhanza zapakhomo, monga nkhani zolembedwa kapena zithunzi;
- Malipoti apolisi olemba nkhanza zapakhomo;
- Kaya nkhanza zilizonse zapakhomo zimachitikira pamaso pa ana kapena kwa ana kapena zidawakhudza ana.
Nkhanza zapakhomo zimathanso kukhudza kuchezeredwa kwa anawo. Makhothi atha kufunsa kuti munthu wozunzawo azitenga nawo mbali pakulera, kuwongolera mkwiyo, kapena magulu ankhanza m'banja pofuna kuthana ndi nkhanza zomwe zikuchitikanso. Zotsatira zowonjezeranso ndizotheka. Mwachitsanzo, khothi likhoza kupereka choletsa kapena chitetezo, chomwe chingalole kapena kuvomereza kupitilizabe kuchitira nkhanza ana. Milandu yowopsa kwambiri, khothi litha kukonzanso chilolezo chochezera poletsa kufikira ana, kufuna kuti kuchezako konse kuyang'aniridwe kapena kuchotsera ufulu wakuchezera kwa ozunzidwayo munthawi yochepa kapena yayitali.
Kuphatikiza pakufunafuna chitetezo kudzera m'malamulo okhudza nthawi yolera ndi kulera, upangiri utha kukhalanso woyenera kwa wozunzidwayo komanso kwa ana. Kuvulala kwamaganizidwe a nkhanza zapabanja kumakhudza omwe amachitiridwa nkhanza komanso ana omwe adawona kuchitiridwa nkhanza. Kupereka uphungu kwa wozunzidwayo kumatha kuthandiza wovutitsidwayo komanso ana kupita mtsogolo ndikuchira komanso kungathandize wovutitsidwayo kukonzekera kukhala mboni yabwino kwambiri kukhothi.
Ngati mwachitidwapo nkhanza zapabanja ndipo mukufuna kudzichotsa nokha ndi ana anu muubwenzi wozunzirayo, funsani chimodzi mwazomwe mukugwiritsa ntchito kwanuko kapena zadziko lanu pankhani zankhanza zapakhomo kuti mupeze omwe akukuthandizani ndi malo ogona pafupi nanu. Ndikwanzeru kufunsa loya yemwe ali ndi zilolezo m'boma lanu yemwe angakupatseni upangiri woyenera malinga ndi momwe zinthu zilili kwa inu.
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