Zamkati
Dikishonale ya Merriam-Webster imalongosola kulumikizana ngati, "kuchita kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mawu, mawu, zikwangwani, kapena machitidwe kufotokoza kapena kusinthana zambiri kapena kufotokoza malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu, ndi zina, kwa wina.
Kuchokera pamatanthauzidwewa pamwambapa zikuwoneka ngati pali njira zingapo kuti mumveke pofotokoza lingaliro. Chifukwa chiyani, zikuwoneka kuti "njirayi", kapena kusowa kwake kumatha kubweretsa zovuta zambiri komanso zovuta m'mabanja? M'malo mwake, si zachilendo kumva kuti kusayankhulana kumadziwika kuti ndi komwe kumapangitsa kuti banja lithe.
Zina mwazovuta zitha kufotokozedwa ndi njira zolumikizirana. Monga munthu aliyense payekhapayekha timakhala ndi zokonda zathu, ngati mungathe, potengera momwe timakondera kupereka ndikulandila zambiri. Zovuta zimabwera pamene tikulankhula ndi munthu wina yemwe ali ndi njira yolankhulirana yosiyana kwambiri ndi yathu. Kudziwa masitayilo awa kungatithandizire kusintha kapena kusintha momwe timalankhulira ndi anthu osiyanasiyana.
A Mark Murphy, adalemba nkhaniyi, "Ndi iti mwa Masitayilo 4 Olankhulirana omwe Ndinu? ” ya magazini ya Forbes (www.forbes.com). Munkhaniyi Murphy adalongosola njira zinayi zolumikizirana:
1. Kusanthula - anthu atha kufotokozedwa ngati, "zowona chabe ma'am" mtundu wa anthu. Palibe chifukwa chopita kutali kwambiri ndi tsatanetsatane wamaminiti ndi chilankhulo chamaluwa. Zambiri, zowerengera komanso zowona ndizomwe oyankhulana amafunikira amafunikira.
2. Zachilengedwe - njira yolankhulirayi imakondweretsanso mwachidule. Amafuna nkhalango, osati mitengo payokha. Zambiri zimaonedwa kuti ndizovuta.
3. Zogwira ntchito - anthu omwe ali mgululi, amalakalaka zambiri, kumveka, kukonzekera, ndi kumaliza. Ndizofunikira kwambiri kwa omwe amalumikizana nawo, kuti palibe chomwe chimanyalanyazidwa ndipo mbali zonse zimawerengedwa.
4. Zanga - njirayi imapeza phindu lalikulu pakupanga kulumikizana ndi kulumikizana kwawo. Kulumikizana kumamangidwa pomwe olumikizanawa amayesetsa kuti angodziwa momwe akuganizira, komanso momwe akumvera.
Ngakhale ena amakayikira malembedwe amtunduwu, ndikudzifotokoza kuti ndi njira iliyonse yolankhulirana, mukayang'anitsitsa, wina atha kuzindikira kuti amakonda kudalira njira imodzi kuposa ina. Izi zimathandizanso kudziwa momwe mumalankhulira motsutsana ndi momwe mnzanu amafotokozera zambiri. Izi zimathandizanso kuti munthu ayang'ane njira yolankhulirana ya mnzake kudzera muma lens ena. Mwachitsanzo, mwakhumudwitsidwa ndi wokondedwa wanu chifukwa malinga ndi momwe mukuwonera akuwoneka ngati akunyanyala mukamacheza. Mwakutero, atha kukhala kuti wokondedwa wanu ndi wolumikizana mwachilengedwe, akukudikirirani, amene mutha kulankhulana ndi inu nokha, kuti mumalize kucheza kwanu kwakanthawi kuti athe kutulutsa chidule chomwe akufuna.
Ena angaganize kuti kulumikizana mosiyana kwambiri kumatha kuwononga chibwenzi. Nthawi zina zimatha kutero, makamaka munthawi yomwe anthu sakumvetsetsa komanso sakufuna kusintha ndikuthandizira kulumikizana kumeneku.
Zaka zapitazo, ine ndi mwamuna wanga tisanakwatirane, ndinamupempha kuti andifunse za umunthu. (Inde, panali mpukutu wamaso ndi kuwusa mawu. Osati njira yake yabwino yogonera madzulo, koma ndi zomwe zimachitika mukakwatirana ndi wantchito.). Zomwe zatuluka madzulo ano zinali kukulitsa kuzindikira momwe aliyense wa ife amakondera. Zotsatira zikadakhala zakufa kwa tonsefe, osati mdera lililonse, koma pafupi kwambiri, ndipo izi zidatipangitsa kuti tizikambirana pazokonda zathu ndi kulumikizana, kuthetsa mikangano, ndi zina zambiri.
Izi zikunenedwa, kusunga kulumikizana koyenera kumafunikira kuyesetsa mwadala muukwati / ubale uliwonse, ndipo kukonza maluso oyankhulirana ndi njira yopitilira.
Njira zina zomwe mungasungire maluso anu olumikizirana bwino monga;
1. Osamvera, mvetserani m'malo mwake
Kumvetsera kuyankha ndi / kapena kuteteza malingaliro anu ndikumva kwenikweni. Kupatula nthawi yolingalira za mnzanu, pomwe muli ndi chidwi chenicheni chomvetsetsa komwe akuchokera, ndikumvetsera koona.
2. Ikani zododometsa
Pali china choyenera kunenedwa poyang'ana m'maso ndi wina wotsamira mosamala mukamakambirana mutu womwe mukuwona kuti ndiwofunikira. Imatumiza uthenga womveka kuti alipo ndipo amapezeka. Mukamacheza ndi munthu yemwe amasokonezedwa ndi foni yam'manja, anthu omwe amadutsa pafupi, ndi / kapena sipinachi atakakamira m'mano awo, amatumiza uthenga wosiyana kwambiri ndi momwe amaika patsogolo zokambirana / zomwe mukuyesa kutumiza.
3. Funsani mafunso
Ngati malonda akuti "malo, malo, malo" ndiye kuti kulumikizana kuyenera kukhala, "kufotokozera, kufotokoza, kufotokoza". Nthawi zonse zimakhala bwino kufunsa ndi wokondedwa wanu kuti muwonetsetse kuti mukumvetsetsa zomwe zikunenedwa ndipo nonse muli tsamba limodzi.
Ndimakonda kudziyesa ndekha ngati wolankhula bwino, amuna anga nawonso siabwino. Komabe, timamvanso mavuto nthawi ndi nthawi ndipo m'modzi wa ife amatha kunena kuti, "o, ndimaganiza kuti mumatanthauza izi," Tonsefe tili ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana omwe timachokera, chifukwa chake kuwunika ndi njira yabwino yotsimikizirira kuti ' Zonsezi zimayenda mbali imodzi.
4. Penyani thupi lanu
Ngakhale pali kutsutsana kwakuti chilankhulo chathu chimalankhula zambiri mosagwiritsa ntchito mawu, mosakayikira kuti muubwenzi wapamtima ndi anzathu timadziwa bwino ndipo timayenderana ndi zomwe anzathu amawonetsa.
5. Chilichonse kupatula kukhitchini
Ngati mukulankhula za nkhani yovuta yomwe imakupatsani chidwi, yesetsani kuti asalankhule mwachidule komanso mwachidule. Kubweretsa zomwe zidachitika zaka zapitazo, kumatha kusiya mnzanu akumverera ngati mukuwaponyera zonse - zonse kupatula kukhitchini. Izi nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa kudzitchinjiriza komanso kuwonongeka kwa kulumikizana.
6. Funsani ndemanga kwa ena
Ngati inu ndi mnzanu simukugwirizana, tinene, momwe mungamagawire ana anu ntchito zapakhomo, chidziwitso kuchokera kwa abale ndi abwenzi pankhani yamomwe angathetsere nkhaniyi, zingakupatseni malingaliro ndi njira zingapo zomwe zingakhale zothandiza mukamagwira ntchito vuto ili ndi mnzanu.
Popeza kulumikizana, mawu komanso osalankhula ndi gawo lofunikira m'moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku, wina angaganize kuti tonse ndife akatswiri kuti tifotokozere bwino za malingaliro athu. Zowona, sitiri. Ngakhale olankhula bwino kwambiri amafunika kutenga nthawi kuti awonetsetse kuti uthenga wawo ukulandiridwa ndikusintha njira zawo kutengera omvera awo. Kuzindikira izi kumathandizira kwambiri pakukhazikitsa njira zolankhulirana bwino.