Zamkati
Kugwa mchikondi ndi chinthu chosavuta, chokongola kwambiri padziko lapansi. Mukudziwa kuti ndicho chidwi chanu choyamba. Mumalakalaka mutakhala osangalala kwamuyaya, koma kumbuyo kwa malingaliro anu, mukudziwa kuti mwina kungokhala kwakanthawi.
Koma mukupitiliza kulumikizana. Ndiopambana kwambiri yomwe mudakhalako. Mumamvetsetsana, mumaseka wina ndi mnzake, ndipo moto umawoneka kuti ulipo kwanthawi yayitali.
Mukutsimikiza kuti izi ndiye zenizeni ... Kapena ndinu?
Kodi kukhala ndi ubale wabwino kumatsimikizira kuti banja lidzayenda bwino? Osati kwenikweni.
Tonse tawona mabanja osangalala kwambiri akusudzulana pambuyo paukwati wawo, ngakhale akhala okondwa kwazaka zambiri paubwenzi wawo. Eeh, ndizo zomwe zidandichitikira. Ndinakwatira chibwenzi changa cha kusekondale. Chikondi chachikulu chomwe chimayenera kukhala cholumikizana ndi moyo wonse. Zalephera.
Chifukwa chiyani izi zimachitika ndi maubale abwino? Kodi zinthu zimasweka kuti?
Ndinafufuza nkhaniyi kwa nthawi yayitali, chifukwa chake ndikuganiza kuti ndili ndi mayankho ochepa.
Inde- Ubwenzi wabwino umabweretsa banja labwino
Osandimvetsa molakwika; Chibwenzi chachikulu chimafunikirabe muukwati wabwino. Simupita kukakwatiwa ndi wina chifukwa chongomva kuti nthawi yanu yafika.
Mumakwatirana ndi wina chifukwa mumalumikizana bwino, mumakhala ndi zisangalalo limodzi, ndipo simungathe kulingalira moyo wanu wopanda munthu wapaderayu. Uwu ndi ubale wabwino, ndipo ndiwo maziko ofunikira mtsogolo.
Pamene mukuganiza ngati mukuyenera kukwatira kapena kukwatiwa ndi munthu wina, awa ndi mafunso omwe muyenera kudzifunsa:
- Kodi mumamvanso agulugufe? Ndikudziwa kuti ndichidule, koma inu? Ino muntu ooyu ulakonzya na kubuzya mibuzyo yako?
- Kodi mumatha kusangalalabe ndi munthuyu ngakhale mutakhala nthawi yopuma limodzi? Mukakhala pachibwenzi, simungamakhalire kunja komweko kuti mufufuze dziko limodzi kapena kufufuzirana. Nthawi zina mumakhala otopa komanso otopa, monganso munthu wina aliyense padziko lapansi. Kodi mumatha kuchira nthawi yoperewera ngati imeneyi? Kodi mungabwerere ku chisangalalo limodzi mutatha kuyambiranso mabatire anu?
- Mukumudziwa munthu ameneyu?
- Kodi mukufuna kukhala moyo wanu nawo?
Mayankho a mafunso awa ndi zisonyezero za ubale wabwino womwe wafika pokwatirana. Ndi maziko abwino kukhala nawo!
Koma palibe chitsimikizo!
Ndinali ndi mayankho a mafunso amenewo. Chilichonse chimawoneka chopanda chilema. Osandiyambitsa pazomwe ndanena kuti muyenera kudutsa maubwenzi angapo kuti mupeze chikondi chenicheni. Si momwe zinthu zimayendera.
Ngakhale ichi chinali chikondi changa choyamba, chinali chenicheni ndipo sichinaswe chifukwa timafunikira kuyesa anthu ena. Zinasweka chifukwa sitinakwatirane pazifukwa zomveka. Tinakwatirana chabe chifukwa tinkaganiza kuti ndiye chinthu chotsatira kuchita.
Ndiye ndikufunseni mafunso ena angapo:
- Kodi mumamva ngati kuti ndiinu nokha amene simunakwatire panobe?
- Kodi mukuganiza zokwatira chifukwa ndi zomwe banja lanu likuyembekeza kuti muchite?
- Kodi mukuchita izi chifukwa mukuganiza kuti ndi siginecha basi ndipo sizisintha chilichonse?
Ngati mukuchita pazifukwa zolakwika, ayi; ubale wabwino sudzapereka ukwati wabwino.
Tiyeni tiwone china chake momveka bwino: palibe chomwe chimatsimikizira kuti banja lidzayenda bwino. Ndi inu nokha amene mukudziwa kuchuluka kwa ntchito yomwe mukufuna kuyikamo, ndipo mnzanu ndiye yekhayo amene amadziwa momwe angagwiritsire ntchito momwemo.
Ngakhale mutakhala osangalala bwanji pakadali pano, zinthu zitha kusweka.
Muyenera kukwatiwa ndi munthu amene mumamuyesa imodzi. Koma tengani upangiri wanga pa izi: sankhani nthawi yoyenera, inunso. Nonse muyenera kukhala okonzekera gawo lalikulu ili!