Zamkati
- Kusunga zinsinsi
- Kupewa kukambirana kovuta
- Kukhala ndi chibwenzi: Thupi kapena mtima
- Kusunga mphambu
- Kusunga chakukhosi
Mmodzi. Wokondedwa naye. Chikondi cha moyo wanu.
Izo zachitika potsiriza; mwapeza munthu yemwe amapatsa moyo wanu tanthauzo. Mumadzuka tsiku lililonse ndikusangalala chifukwa ndi tsiku lina lomwe mumakhala ndi munthu wanu. Maubwenzi okongola, achikondi ndi zinthu zazikulu kwambiri padziko lapansi, chifukwa chake ziyenera kusamalidwa. Mukadzapezeka kuti muli mgwirizanowu kwamuyaya, ndikofunikira kuti muzisunge ndi kulemekeza kukula kwake m'moyo wanu. Pali zinthu zambiri zomwe mungachite kuti banja lanu likhale lolimba komanso lachikondi, koma mndandanda wazinthu zomwe simuyenera kuchita ndizocheperako. Mwa kupewa zinthu zochepa chabe, mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti munthu amene wakutsegulirani chisangalalo chotere m'moyo wanu sangakutsekerezeni mwadzidzidzi. Kupewa machitidwe osavomerezeka otsatirawa kumapangitsa kuti ubale wachikondi ndi watanthauzowu ukhalebe wamoyo.
Kusunga zinsinsi
Imodzi mwa maziko a ubale wolimba ndi kudalirana. Simuyenera kuwerenga nkhani kapena kuwonera Dr. Phil kuti mudziwe izi. Tonsefe timadziwa ndipo tamva mbali zonse ziwiri zakukhulupirirana.
Mukakhulupirira munthu wina ndikumudalira ndi chilichonse, ndikumverera kodabwitsa. Mukumva otetezeka. Mukumva kuti mumasamaliridwa. Mumakhala mumtendere. Kumapeto kwake kwa sipekitiramu kumafotokoza nkhani ina. Tonsefe tadziwa winawake — mnzathu, wachibale, wogwira naye ntchito — amene sitimamukhulupirira konse. Pamene simukhulupirira wina, muyenera kuponda mopepuka mukamacheza nawo. Mukudziwa kuti nthawi iliyonse, amatha kutulutsa chovalacho pansi panu, ndikukusiyani mukuvulazidwa.
Kuti ubale wanu ugwire ntchito, muyenera kudzipereka kukhazikitsa malo odalirika. Ngati pali zinsinsi zomwe mumazisunga nokha, mukusewera masewera owopsa. Kaya ndi chinsinsi chachuma, chachibale, kapena chinsinsi chomwe mukugwiritsabe, mukungoyembekezera kuti chiwononge ubale wanu. Mukapitilira kwa nthawi yayitali, mudzazindikira kuti simungakhulupirire, ndipo simudzatha kuchita bwino pachibwenzicho. Chinsinsi chanu chikaululidwa mwangozi, ubale wanu wodalirana ndi mnzake umasweka. Palibe njira yopambana pamasewera achinsinsi.
Kupewa kukambirana kovuta
Mwinamwake simunkafuna kugawana chinsinsi chanu ndi mnzanu chifukwa zingakhale zokambirana zosasangalatsa. Ingoganizani? Mukamapereka nthawi yochulukirachulukira, kucheza kwanu kumakhala kosavuta. Ndibwino kuti mulankhule pazokambirana zoyambazi kutsogolo.
Ikani poyera zakukhosi kwanu ndikukambirana mwachikondi ndi wokondedwa wanu pazomwe muyenera kusintha kuti chikondi chikhalebe chamoyo. Ngati pali china chake chomwe chikukusowetsani mtendere, muyenera kutenga nawo mbali pazokhudzazo ndikuziwonetsa mokoma mtima. Sindikunena kuti mubweretse nkhokwe yamalingaliro ndi kusakhutira pazokambiranazo; Zikhala zabwino ngati mungakonze nkhawa zanu m'njira yothandizira ubale wanu. Kusakwiya msanga ndi koopsa kwa chibwenzi chanu monganso chinsinsi chilichonse chomwe mungasunge. Khalani omasukirana ndi omasukirana wina ndi mnzake posachedwa.
Kukhala ndi chibwenzi: Thupi kapena mtima
Tonsefe timadziwa kuti kuchita chibwenzi tili pachibwenzi sichabwino. Ndi lamulo # 1 m'buku lokhala ndi mkazi mmodzi. Ngati mumadzipereka kugwiritsa ntchito moyo wanu ndi winawake, ndi mphete ndi mwambowu kapena ayi, ndikofunikira kuti muteteze kudzipereka kwanu ndi zonse zomwe muli nazo.
Chomwe chingakhale chowopsa kuposa kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, komabe, ndi chamtundu wamalingaliro. “Mkazi wanu wantchito” kapena “bwenzi lanu logonera” angaoneke ngati mabwenzi osalakwa, koma samalani. Ngati mukugawana zambiri, kusamala kwambiri, ndikuwonetsa zabwino kwa munthuyo ayi mkazi wanu, mwamuna wanu, chibwenzi chanu kapena chibwenzi chanu, mwina mukubweretsa pang'onopang'ono kutha kwa chibwenzi chanu kunyumba.
Mukamayandikira pafupi ndi munthu amene mumagwira naye ntchito, kapena mzimayi amene mumamuwona pa sitima yapansi panthaka tsiku ndi tsiku, mukupanga mtunda wambiri pakati pa inu ndi mnzanu. Mukumva mtunda umenewo, koma koposa zonse, iwonso adzatero. Mukangotalikirana kwambiri, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti mubwererenso limodzi. Samalani ndi maubale anu kunja kwa omwe ndiofunika kwambiri kwa inu.
Kusunga mphambu
"Ndidatsuka mbale, kuchapa, ndipo adapita ndi ana kusukulu lero. Mwachita chiyani?"
Kodi mukusunga zolemba m'mutu mwanu pazinthu zonse zomwe mumachita chifukwa cha chikondi chanu? Ngati muli, ndiye kuti mukuwononga chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zomwe mungakhale nazo m'moyo wanu. Mukayamba kuwona zinthu za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe mumachitira mnzanu monga zochitika "zomwe ndachita" motsutsana ndi "mwachita", zimatsitsa mtengo wamtengo wapatali womwe mumamaliza. Simukuchitanso chifukwa cha chikondi ndi kukoma mtima. Mukuchita mwatsatanetsatane. Chibwenzi chanu chikasanduka mpikisano, zidzakhala zovuta kuti onse awiri azisangalala.
Kusunga chakukhosi
Izi zimalumikizana ndikukhala ndi zokambirana zovuta, zopindulitsa muubwenzi wanu. Monga tafotokozera pamwambapa, zokambiranazi ndizofunikira chifukwa zimalola kuti onse akumva mawu amveke ndikumvetsetsa. Chofunikanso chimodzimodzi ndikuchoka pazokambiranazo ndikutseka pamutuwu. Ngati mumalankhula ndi mnzanu za zomwe anena zomwe zimakupweteketsani mtima, kusinthanaku kuyenera kukhala nthawi yomaliza. Gwiritsani ntchito zokambiranazi kufotokoza momwe mukumvera ndikuwonetsetsa kuti akumvetsetsa malingaliro anu. Mukathetsa vutoli, muyenera kudutsa. Ngati muzisunga mozungulira kuti mukangane pamkangano wamtsogolo, ndinu oyipa ngati mnzanu pamawu oyambilira. Osati zokhazo, koma kusunga chakukhosi kumangokulitsa mkwiyo wanu kwa munthu amene mumamukonda kwambiri. Khalani ndi kukambirana kovuta, thetsani vutoli, ndikupita patsogolo. Kulola kupwetekedwa ndi mkwiyo kuzikhala zikuwononga tsoka kwakanthawi kwaubwenzi.
Makhalidwe asanu awa ayenera kupewedwa zivute zitani ngati mukufuna kuti chibwenzi chanu chikhalebe. Simuyenera kuzilandira kuchokera kwa mnzanu, ndipo ndikukutsimikizirani kuti sangazilandire kuchokera kwa inu.
Kuwona mtima kwambiri, zinsinsi zochepa. Kukhululuka kwambiri, kusakwiya kwambiri. Athandizeni kumva chikondi chanu, musalole kuti iwo azindikire kuti akadalipo. Pangani ubale wanu kukhala wabwino koposa.
Nick Matiash
Nkhaniyi yalembedwa ndi Nick Matiash.