Zamkati
- Chifukwa chomwe muyenera kukambirana zogonana
- Nchifukwa chiyani pali zoletsa zambiri komanso zovuta?
- 1. Ingochitani
- 2. Ikani zabwino ndikuwonetsa kuthokoza
- 3. Lembani
- 4. Pezani zojambula ndikuwonetsa
- Zomwe muyenera kuchita mnzanu akafuna kuti asakumvereni
- Pitani ku bizinesi!
Titha kutcha nkhaniyi kuti "Chitani chinthu chimodzi muubwenzi wanu kuti muisunge" koma izi zitha kuganiziridwa kuti 'clickbait'.
M'malo mwake, timaganiza kuti mwina pangakhale mabanja angapo omwe akuvutika kuti achite chinthu chimodzi ndikusankha dzina lomwe maanjawa amatha kulifotokoza; momwe mungakhalire ndi zokambirana zogonana zomwe ubale wanu ungafunike kwambiri!
Zowongoka komanso zopanda nzeru - chitsanzo chabwino cha momwe zokambirana zanu ndi anzanu zimakhalira.
Munkhaniyi, tafotokoza chifukwa chake kuli kofunika kuti maanja azikambirana za kugonana komanso momwe angachitire moyenera.
Kuuzana zachikondi pogonana ndichimodzi mwazinthu zosangalatsa kwambiri m'banja. Ziwalo zathu zogonana zomwe Mulungu watipatsa ndi zamphamvu kwambiri; amatipangitsa kuti tisangalale tikamakhala ndi vuto linalake komanso kulumikizana komwe sitingamveke mwanjira ina iliyonse. Komabe, gwero la chisangalalo chonsechi nthawi zambiri limawerengedwa kuti ndi tchimo.
Chifukwa chomwe muyenera kukambirana zogonana
Kuyambitsa zokambirana zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi wokondedwa wanu ndi imodzi mwa njira zabwino zolimbikitsira maubwenzi anu.
Pazibwenzi za nthawi yayitali, abambo amawona kukhutitsidwa ndi anzawo ngati chinthu chomwe chimawapatsa chisangalalo chaumwini, chimatsimikiziranso zaumunthu wawo, komanso kumawonjezera kudzidalira.
Ngakhale zabwino zakulankhula zakugonana muubwenzi, zotsatira zakufufuza anthu opitilira 1,000 ochokera ku US ndi Europe adazindikira kuti anthu omwe adafunsidwayo sanalankhulepo zakugonana kwawo konse.
Nchifukwa chiyani pali zoletsa zambiri komanso zovuta?
Kufufuza komweku, zifukwa zomwe anthu samayankhulirane za kugonana kwawo zinali.
- “Sindinkafuna kukhumudwitsa mnzanga.”
- “Ndinachita manyazi kwambiri.”
- "Ndidachita mantha ndi zotsatira za zokambirana zathu."
Chifukwa chachikulu chimakumbukira winayo, komabe, pamene wina ali pachibwenzi, sipayenera kukhala kukhulupirirana komwe kwakhazikitsidwa ndi maanja?
Kutayikirana kumeneku kumawonekeranso pa chifukwa chachitatu chomwe maanja sakulankhulirana zogonana ndipo chifukwa chachiwiri chikuwoneka ngati chiwonetsero cha kusayankhulana pakati pa maanja.
Kuchita njira yoyenera
Ngati mukukambirana zakukhudzana ndi kugonana, pali njira zingapo zochitira bwino (palibe chilango chofunidwa!):
1. Ingochitani
Awa ndi mawu otchuka pamasewera otchuka, omwe, mowonadi, ndi nkhondo yayikulu.
Kuyeserera kukambirana momasuka, ndikungopita nawo, atha kuyamikiridwa ndi wokondedwa wanu.
Ndani akudziwa, zomwe zingatenge ndikukambirana moona mtima kuti muyambe kutenthetsa zinthu m'chipinda chogona.
2. Ikani zabwino ndikuwonetsa kuthokoza
Anthu amakonda kuyamikiridwa kwambiri. Njira yomwe ingagwiritsidwe ntchito pofotokozera zosowa zanu zakugonana ndikuyesa kufotokoza zosowazi poyiyika bwino.
M'malo mongonena kuti: "Kodi ungachite X pafupipafupi?"
Yesani kunena motere: "Ndimakonda ndikamachita X. Ndimayamikira kwambiri."
Ngati mungayang'ane ziganizo ziwirizi, pali kusintha komwe kumawoneka pokhudzana ndi mphamvu yomwe mukufuna kuyesa kutulutsa.
Chofunika kwambiri pa mawu achiwiri ndikuti mukuwonetsanso kuyamika pazomwe mnzanu akukuchitirani m'malo mongodzudzula.
Kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kuyamikiridwa muubwenzi ndikofunika kwambiri ndipo kumalimbikitsa ubale wodalirika komanso wathanzi.
Zina mwazabwino zake ndikuti ntchito yabwino imalimbikitsidwa ndipo imabwerezedwa mobwerezabwereza.
3. Lembani
Njira ina yolankhulira bwino zosowa zanu ndikuchita 'a la Shakespeare' ndikulemba!
Ngati ndinu mtundu wa othandizana naye, amene amachita bwino kwambiri pakulankhula kudzera pakulemba mwina mudzawona njirayi kukhala yosavuta. Koma ngati mukuchita motere, onetsetsani kuti mukuyankhula momveka bwino.
4. Pezani zojambula ndikuwonetsa
Anthu ena amagwiritsa ntchito zolaula, kaya m'mabuku kapena makanema, kuti afotokozere zomwe akufuna kuchita. Komabe, samalani, chifukwa zolaula zochulukirapo zingakhale zopanda phindu pachibwenzi chanu.
Zomwe muyenera kuchita mnzanu akafuna kuti asakumvereni
Kukambirana zosowa zakugonana ndikofunikira muubwenzi uliwonse, ngakhale mutakwatirana kale kapena ayi. Ndiye mumatani ngati mnzanu wasankha kusakumverani?
Mawu omwe amakonda kwambiri a Alfred Lord akuti, "'Ndi bwino kukhala wokonda komanso kutayika kuposa momwe sunakondere konse."
Zachidziwikire kuti mwachita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mulankhule ndikuwonetsa zosowa zanu pamakhalidwe zomwe zikadakupangitsani kuti muchite bwino, koma ngati mnzanuyo atasankha kuti asakumvereni, mwina ndikuti muyimbireni, othandizira azakugonana.
Ndikofunikanso kuyembekezera kuti sizinthu zonse zosangalatsa zomwe zingalandiridwe bwino ndi anzathu. Kupatula apo, ndife anthu osiyanasiyana, ndipo tili ndi zikhumbo ndi zosowa zosiyana.
Kuyimbira wothandizira kugonana kapena mlangizi zitha kukhala zothandiza pakulankhulana ngakhale pazinthu zovuta kwambiri.
Pitani ku bizinesi!
Ndi zidziwitso zonse zomwe akatswiri atipatsa, ndi nthawi yoti inu ndi mnzanu mugwire ntchito yokhudzana ndi kugonana poyambira kukambirana.
Kukhala ndi zikhumbo zakugonana ndi malingaliro ndizabwinobwino ndipo siziyenera kuonedwa ngati zosokoneza. Mukayamba kukambirana zosowa ndi mnzanu, mukukulitsa ubale wanu, ndipo mukuyitanira mnzanuyo pafupi.
Kuyankhulana koyenera kumabereka ubale wathanzi komanso maubwenzi olimba amatanthauza moyo wathanzi. Chifukwa chake, pitani mukalankhule kenako nkupita ku bizinesi. Sangalalani ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikusangalala ndi kugonana.