Zamkati
- 1. Wokondedwa wanu sakumalizani
- 2. Musayembekezere zambiri kuchokera kwa okondedwa wanu
- 3. Simudzamva kuti mumakondana nthawi zonse
- 4. Banja la mnzanu ndilo chinsinsi
- 5. Onetsetsani ndalama za mnzanu
- 6. Mikangano ndiyosapeweka
Mukukondana komanso ndinu pachibwenzi koma mungatsimikize bwanji kuti mwakonzeka kukhala pabanja? Mabanja ambiri sakhala otsimikiza pankhani yakukhazikika. Sadziwa zomwe angayembekezere komanso zomwe akuyembekezera, ndipo zinthu zikavuta, amakonda kuponyera chopukutira.
Malinga ndi Kristen Bell ndi Dax Shepard; okondedwa "It" omwe aliyense amawakonda, chinsinsi chokhala ndi mgwirizano wautali komanso wathanzi, wosangalala ndi mankhwalawa asanakwatirane. Therapy ikhoza kukuthandizani m'kupita kwanthawi ndikuthandizani kupulumutsa banja lanu mavuto akabuka. Komabe, pali malangizo ena ofunikira omwe muyenera kudziwa musanapite kuchipatala ndikukhala pansi.
1. Wokondedwa wanu sakumalizani
Monga momwe a Jerry Maguire nthawi ina amadziwika kuti okwatirana akumaliza wina ndi mnzake zitha kumveka zachikondi koma sizowona. Simungayembekezere mnzanu kumaliza moyo wanu wonse. Mu chibwenzi, ndikofunikira kuti inu muziyang'ana pa inu nokha koma osadzikonda. Yang'anani pa inu nokha m'njira yosanyoza wokondedwa wanu kapena kuwononga chibwenzi.
M'malo mwake, dziyang'anireni momwe mungadzisamalire mokwanira kuti muthe kutulutsa mbali yanu yabwino kwambiri.
Mabanja achimwemwe ayenera kukhala ndi malire pakati pa kupatukana ndi kukhala limodzi.
2. Musayembekezere zambiri kuchokera kwa okondedwa wanu
Ili ndiye lamulo lalikulu laukwati ndi mtundu wina uliwonse waubwenzi, mukamayembekezera zambiri, zimapweteketsa mtima kwambiri komanso mkwiyo umatsatira. Nthawi zonse mumalangizidwa kuti zomwe mukuyembekezera siziyenera kufikira kumwamba ndipo muyenera kuzisunga.
Muyenera kuti mumafuna zambiri kuchokera kwa mnzanu monga kholo labwino, mwamuna wokhulupirika, wokonda kwambiri, mnzanu ndipo zina zimayamba chifukwa chakuyembekezera zinthu.
Ngati zoyembekeza zanu sizochuluka kwambiri, zimakhala zosavuta kuti muzikondana. Kukwiya kumachepa ndipo nonse awiri mudzakhala banja losangalala. Onetsetsani kuti mukukumbukira zomwe mukuyembekezera mu ubale wanu.
3. Simudzamva kuti mumakondana nthawi zonse
Mutha kukhala ndi wokwatirana naye wangwiro padziko lapansi, amatha kuchita zonse bwino, koma padzakhala masiku ena omwe mungamve ngati simukugwirizana nawo. Mudzamva ngati simukukondana.
Mu nthawi ngati izi, ndikofunikira kuti mukhale okhazikika pazotsatira zanu.
Nthawi izi zikuwonetsani momwe mulili okwatirana; kotero mmalo motsatira malingaliro omwe mukuganiza kuti mukuyenera kukhala nawo, ingokhalani pansi ndi kupumula.
Izi sizoyenera kuda nkhawa.
4. Banja la mnzanu ndilo chinsinsi
Onetsetsani momwe mnzanu alili ndi banja lawo. Kodi amagwirizana? Kodi anali pafupi kapena anali patali? Kodi panali mkangano pakati pawo?
Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri chifukwa zinthu zambiri zam'banjali zimakonda kubwereza ndikubukanso muukwati wanu.
Maanja akakhala ndi kuthekera kolankhula ndi wokondedwa wawo osaweruzana amakhala ndi chikhulupiliro komanso kulemekezana.
5. Onetsetsani ndalama za mnzanu
Ndikofunikira kuti onse awiri awulule za momwe alili ndikukhala ndi njira yabwino yoyendetsera izi.
Mabanja ambiri amakonda kukhala ndi akaunti limodzi limodzi ndi maakaunti awo akubanki osiyana.
Onetsetsani kuti mukukuchitirani chilichonse chomwe chingakuthandizeni, kambiranani momwe ndalama zilili kuti mupewe kudziona kuti mulibe chitetezo kapena kuwongoleredwa.
Dera ili muubwenzi limatha kubweretsa kusakhulupirirana ndi mavuto; ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe anthu ambiri amasankhira kusudzulana.
6. Mikangano ndiyosapeweka
Mukakhala munthawi yaukwati, zimakhala zovuta kulingalira zakuti tsogolo limakhala ndi mikangano komanso kusagwirizana.
Koma izi ndi zowona, pakapita nthawi mutha kuyamba kuwona zinthu zokhumudwitsa za mnzanu, zizolowezi zawo zoyipa ndipo zimatha kukhala mkangano pakati panu.
Izi ndizabwinobwino; nthawi ngati izi zikafika yesetsani kuthetsa vutolo m'malo mongokumbukira za nthawi yomwe yadutsa.
Chofunikira kwambiri chomwe muyenera kudziwa musanakhazikike ndikuti chiyembekezo ndichofunikira kwambiri. Ngati mulibe chiyembekezo, ubale wanu umakhudzidwa. Ndikofunikira kuti mukhale osangalala ndikuwunika mphamvu ndipo izi zithandizira kukulitsa chikondi ndi kukondana pakati panu.
Yembekezerani mtsogolo ndi chiyembekezo chosangalatsa ndikukhulupirirana. Izi zithandizira kukulitsa chomangira chomwe muli nacho ndikulimbitsa banja lanu. Osadzifanizira ndi ena ndikupangitsa kuti ubale wanu ukhale wathanzi.