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- Kuchita zachiwerewere ndi zolaula kunalamuliranso m'mabuku azaka za m'ma 1900
- Oposa m'modzi akhoza kutsimikizira izi
- Kodi cuckolding ndi chiyani?
- 1. Kudumphadumpha kumaphunzitsa ndithu!
- 2. Maukwati okwatirana amalepheretsa anthu kupeza chisangalalo kwina
- 3. Kulankhulana kwabwino kumabweretsa chiwonetsero chabwino cha zokhumba
- Zinthu zovuta kukhala nawo nthawi zambiri zimadyetsa ma kink ndi mitundu ina yazamalonda
- Sikuti zonse ndizabwino, zopatsa chiyembekezo, komanso zabwino pamabanja achimuna
Panapita masiku pamene kugonana kunkaonedwa kuti ndi ufulu wovomerezeka wa okwatirana okha. Nkhaniyo idakhalabe yabodza kwa nthawi yayitali.
Zithunzithunzi zogonana sizimalowa mchipinda chogona, ndipo ngati amatero, maanjawo amasamala kuti asasambe nsalu zawo zonyansa pagulu.
Koma, maphunziro monga Literature and Art adakana zoletsa pagulu, kulola abwenzi kufotokoza malingaliro awo kudzera mu Art, kuyambira 15th - 16th century.
M'masewero a Shakespeare, 'Much Ado About Nothing,' mawu monga kubisala ndi nyanga adapangitsa kupezeka kwawo kumverera, kufafaniza chikhulupiriro chathu chakuti lingaliro lofufuza zogonana mosiyana ndi lingaliro la amuna amakono.
'Kumeneko Mdierekezi adzakumana nane, ngati kankhuku kakale, ali ndi nyanga pamutu pake.'
Kuchita zachiwerewere ndi zolaula kunalamuliranso m'mabuku azaka za m'ma 1900
Wokonda Porphyria wa Robert Browning, a Oscar Wilde a Dorian Grey, a Stanisla de Rhodes's Autobiography of a Flea, ndi a Krafft-Ebing a Psychopathia Sexualis ndi ena mwa maluso odziwika omwe adasanthula Udindo wa Fetishism mu 19th Century Literature.
Ngati kulingalira ndikukwaniritsa malingaliro azakugonana ndi wokondedwa wanu kuseri kwa zitseko kumamveka kosakukondweretsani, ndiye muyenera kuwerenga zolemba zomwe zatchulidwazi.
M'malo mwake, kuyesa BDSM, kudzikweza kapena kubisala kungakhale zokumana nazo zabwino ndi mnzanu ndipo zitha kuyambitsa chibwenzi pakati panu. Ndipo ndani akudziwa, mutha kuyambiranso masiku anu okondwerera pambuyo paukwati!
Oposa m'modzi akhoza kutsimikizira izi
Mwachitsanzo - Dr. Justin Lehmiller adafotokoza momwe amuna amagwirira ntchito m'buku lake, 'Ndiuzeni Zomwe Mukufuna: Sayansi Yolakalaka Kugonana Ndi Momwe Ingakuthandizireni Kuti Mulimbikitse Moyo Wanu Wogonana'. Ndi katswiri wodziwika pankhani zachiwerewere ku Kinsey Institute.
"Ndikuganiza kuti zomwe zikuchitika apa ndikuti zosowa zathu zamaganizidwe zimasintha tikamakalamba ndipo, monga momwe zimakhalira, malingaliro athu okhudzana ndi kugonana amasintha m'njira zomwe zidakwaniritsidwa. Chifukwa chake, mwachitsanzo, tikakhala achichepere komanso osatetezeka kwambiri, malingaliro athu amayang'ana kwambiri kutipangitsa kumva kuti tili ovomerezeka; Mosiyana ndi izi, tikakhala achikulire ndipo takhazikika pachibwenzi cha nthawi yayitali, malingaliro athu amayang'ana kwambiri pakuletsa zizolowezi zakugonana ndikukwaniritsa zosowa zomwe sizikwaniritsidwa zachilendo. ” - Dr.Lehmiller
Ndipo pali akatswiri ena ochepa monga David Ley, Justin Lehmiller, ndi wolemba Dan Savage, omwe amawona zongopeka zongobisalira zimapatsa mwayi mabanjawo m'malo mochita manyazi.
Komabe mawu oti 'kubisalira' amatha kupereka chifukwa chokayika kwa omwe adya nawo.
Kodi cuckolding ndi yofala motani?
Izi ndizovuta kuziyankha chifukwa ngakhale masiku ano, ngakhale anthu ambiri ali ndi malingaliro otseguka, pali kusalana komwe kumayanjanitsidwa ndi maubwenzi onse omwe sali okwatirana okhaokha. Pali maanja omwe amachita kubwerekana koma si aliyense amene akuvomereza izi pagulu.
Kodi cuckolding ndi chiyani?
Wikipedia imatanthauzira mawu oti cuckold ngati 'mwamuna wa mkazi wachigololo.' 'Pogwiritsa ntchito fetish, kanyumba kapenanso kuyang'anira mkazi kumakhala kofanana ndi "kusakhulupirika" kwa mnzake (kapena mnzake); Mkazi yemwe amakonda kudya tondovi mwamuna wake amatchedwa kankhuku ngati mwamunayo amamvera kwambiri. ”
Chifukwa chiyani amuna amasangalala ndikunyamula?
Monga zingwe zina, ichi ndi chimodzi mwazithunzithunzi zomwe amuna ena amasangalala nazo.
Kuwona mnzanu akukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina kungakhale chinsinsi cholimbikitsira kugonana kwanu. Palibe cholakwika chilichonse pakuchita izi pomwe masamba azolaula amalandila anthu ambiri kuposa Netflix, Amazon, ndi Twitter kuphatikiza mwezi uliwonse.
Kodi zimakhala zotani kutsekedwa?
Kwa amuna omwe amasangalala ndi mchitidwewu, kubisala kumawapangitsa kuti azigonana mosafanana ndi wina aliyense. Chosangalatsacho chimaposa chisangalalo chokhala muchida chazakugonana chokha.
Cuckolding imaperekanso zofunikira komanso zolimbikitsanso. Ichi ndichifukwa chake muyenera kuphatikiza malingaliro okakamira muzochita zanu zogonana-
1. Kudumphadumpha kumaphunzitsa ndithu!
Gwiritsani ntchito cuckold ndipo mwina mudzaunikiridwa ndi malo ambiri atsopano oti mukayende pabedi ndi mnzanu nthawi ina.
Ndipo kusangalala ndi kukhudzidwa ndi munthu wina yemwe simunakwatirane naye kumatha kukhala kosangalatsa kwa okwatirana.
2. Maukwati okwatirana amalepheretsa anthu kupeza chisangalalo kwina
Izi ndizongowonjezera zosiyana pang'ono pa moyo wanu wogonana komanso mwayi wowonera zolaula zomwe sizinalembedwe.
Kulephera kwa munthu kufotokoza malingaliro ake pazakugonana kumabweretsa kuponderezana. Ndipo ichi ndi chifukwa chake abwenzi amathawira kusakhulupirika ndi kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo.
Koma, ndani akufuna kukasangalala kwina kulikonse ngati zosiyanasiyana zapatsidwa pa mbale yanu kunyumba? Ndipo ngati kuvomerezana kulipo, kuzunzidwa m'mabanja kumatha kubwereranso m'mbuyo.
3. Kulankhulana kwabwino kumabweretsa chiwonetsero chabwino cha zokhumba
Maukwati okwatirana amatha kuyenda bwino mosasamala tsankho lomwe limaphatikizidwa ndi lingalirolo.
Kuyankhulana pakati pa abwenzi kumakhala bwino mukamachita zachiwerewere monga kubisalira kumachitika m'malire aubwenzi wabwino.
Dr Watsa adati "Anthu apabanja ayenera kuphunzira kufotokoza zakukhosi kwa anzawo m'malo mongodzisangalatsa kwinakwake pogwiritsa ntchito njira zosatetezeka monga kukhala usiku umodzi ndi alendo."
Kuwona limodzi za malingaliro akugonana kumatha kukulitsa chikondi chanu kwa wokondedwa wanu ndipo sikumapereka mpata woti akhale osakhulupirika.
Zinthu zovuta kukhala nawo nthawi zambiri zimadyetsa ma kink ndi mitundu ina yazamalonda
Tsopano, simungatchule chifukwa chenicheni chokhudzana ndi zibwenzi zogonana. Koma, Dr. David Lay, wolemba bukuli, 'Insatiable Wives,' awona kuti kuthekera kochitira umboni mnzanu ndi munthu wina kumabweretsa nsanje yakugonana.
Nthawi zambiri, wokondedwayo amakhala kuti wachita zoyipa kuti abwezere amene sanakhulupirire.
Nthawi zina, wokondedwa wake amamva kukondweretsedwa poganiza zokawona theka lina likuchitiridwa nkhanza m'manja mwa alendo ochepa.
Gulu lokhala ndi akazi okhaokha limatsutsa mitala ndi chigololo.
Chimawerengedwa kuti ndi choletsa ndipo ichi ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe zimapangitsa malingaliro azakugonana amuna ndi akazi.
Sikuti zonse ndizabwino, zopatsa chiyembekezo, komanso zabwino pamabanja achimuna
“Choonadi Ndi Chachilendo Kuposa Nthano” - Mark Twain
Chowonadi chakuwonera kapena kudziwa kuti mnzanu akuchita zachiwerewere ndi munthu wina inu mulipo kapena mulibe ndi chosiyana kwambiri ndi nkhambakamwa.
Maukwati amakono amakono amatha kupulumuka ngati kudalirana ndi kuwona mtima zikulamulira kwambiri muubwenzi. Zotsatira zitha kukhala zodabwitsa komanso zopindulitsa kwa mabanja oterewa.
Koma, ndi ena ochepa omwe angamve kuwawa kosatha ngati zinthu sizingachitike.
Kulingalira momasuka ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri chomwe chimagwira mwakachetechete kuseri kwaukwati wathanzi.
Mosiyana ndi izi, zopweteka zomwe zimachitika maukwati oterewa zimatha kukhala zopweteketsa komanso zopweteka.
Chifukwa chake, kodi ukwati wanu wakonzeka kubisala? Ngati inde, mungapeze chuma chambiri chokhala ndi maupangiri aukadaulo omwe angawononge moyo wanu wogonana.