Zamkati
- Kuyamba ndi mwana: Ndi mayitanidwe ake
- Ubwenzi wanu ndi mwana wake umatenga nthawi kuti umangidwe
- Konzekerani kukhulupirika kosunthika
- Muwoneni iye kholo
- Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi abambo kumafuna kusinthasintha
- Pezani madalitso
Maubwenzi onse amabwera ndi katundu wina. Makamaka ngati muli ndi zaka makumi atatu kapena kupitirirapo, ndipo mwina mukuyambiranso malo azachikondi, ndizachilengedwe kuti amuna omwe mumakumana nawo azinyamula katundu wopitilira chikwangwani chaching'ono. Ngakhale mutakhala kuti munalumbirira kuti simudzakhala pachibwenzi ndi bambo wokhala ndi ana, chikondi mwina chikadakhala ndi zolinga zina kwa inu: apa mukugwera bambo m'modzi. Kodi ndi malangizo ati abwino omwe mungatsatire omwe angakuthandizeni kuyenda m'derali, koma losangalatsa?
Kuyamba ndi mwana: Ndi mayitanidwe ake
Chifukwa chake mukukula ndikuwona momwe amasankhira nthawi ya mwana wake ndi moyo wake, nthawi yonseyi kumakupatsani chidwi komanso chikondi chomwe mumayenera. Mukuwona kuti ndi nthawi yoti mukonze zinthu pang'ono ndipo mukufunitsitsa kukakumana ndi mwana wake. Iyi ingakhale nthawi yabwino kukambirana ndi bwenzi lanu za nthawi yomwe adzapange chiwonetsero chofunikira kwambiri ichi. Ngakhale mutakhala wokonzeka, mwina sangakhale, ndipo uku ndi kuyitana kwake. Amamudziwa mwana wake ndipo amadziwa momwe kuyambitsa chidwi chatsopano chokhudza zomwe zingakhudze munthu wocheperako.
Muyenera kutsatira kutsogolera kwake ndikumulola ayambe mayendedwe.
Nthawi zonse, ndibwino kudikirira mpaka inu ndi mnzanuyo mutakhala muubwenzi wodzipereka musanapange mwanayo kukhala momwe mulili.
Ubwenzi wanu ndi mwana wake umatenga nthawi kuti umangidwe
Inu ndi munthu wanu mwina mwachoka pa zero kufika makumi asanu ndi limodzi mwachangu, kuyambira tsiku loyamba kufikira pachibwenzi m'masabata angapo (kapena ochepera). Koma ndinu achikulire, mumapanga zisankho zomveka pogwiritsa ntchito luso lanu lolankhulana.
Ndi mwana, mgwirizano umatenga nthawi yambiri kuti umangidwe, ndipo umayenera kumangidwa mosamala, nthawi zonse kulemekeza thanzi la mwana ndi kamvekedwe kake.
Ana amadziwa mukamayesetsa kwambiri, chifukwa chake kuwapatsa mphatso kapena kunamizira kuti ndinu mayi wachiwiri posachedwa sikungakuthandizeni.
Mukamaliza mawu anu oyamba, imani kumbuyo ndikulola mwanayo abwere kwa inu. Mutha kuyambitsa izi ndi mafunso osavuta, monga "Kodi mnzanu wapamtima kusukulu ndi ndani?" kapena "Ndiuzeni za pulogalamu yomwe mumakonda pa tv". Yesetsani kuleza mtima mukamapanga ubale wanu wapadera ndi mwana uyu; mphotho zake zachikondi komanso kuyandikira zidzakhala zapadera.
Konzekerani kukhulupirika kosunthika
Ngakhale mutakhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi mwana wake, dziwani kuti kukhulupirika kwathunthu kwa mwana kudzakhala ndi amayi awo, ngakhale atakhala wosasamala, kulibe, kapena mayi woyipa. Ndibwino kuti muzidziwona nokha komanso udindo wanu osati monga mayi wachiwiri, koma monga wamkulu wina yemwe angapereke chikondi ndi chitetezo kwa mwana wamng'ono uyu. Umayi si mpikisano, ndipo simukufuna kusewera kuti muwone ngati mungakhale "okondedwa kwambiri" kuposa mayi weniweni wa mwanayo.
Zomwe mukufuna ndikukhala munthu wina wachikondi pagulu la oteteza.
Dzikonzekereni kuti mudzamve mawu oti "Simuli amayi anga!" nthawi ina, ndipo ingodziwa kuti mwanayo akunena zoona.
Muwoneni iye kholo
Mukudziwa momwe zimakhudzira mtima kuwona munthu akusewera ndi galu wake? Ndi mtundu wachigololo, sichoncho? Kanthu kakang'ono koseketsa kamene amagwiritsira ntchito polumikizana ndi mwana, komanso momwe amakondera poyera kanyama kameneka? Chabwino, konzekerani kuyatsidwa mukamayang'ana mnyamata wanu akuchita zinthu za abambo ake.
Pali zinthu zochepa zolimbikitsa kuposa kuwonera bambo anu akufotokozera dziko lapansi kwa mwana wawo.
Imani mmbuyo ndikuwona, chifukwa izi zikuwuzani zambiri zamaluso ake akusamalira.
Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi abambo kumafuna kusinthasintha
Mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi amuna osakwatira opanda ana, mumatha kuchita zinthu malinga ndi ndandanda yanu, monga madzulo a nthawi yayitali komanso kumapeto kwa sabata. Ndili ndi abambo, malowa ndi osiyana kwambiri. Akugwira ntchito ndi ndandanda yaumwini yomwe imafuna kuti azitsatira, ali ndi chipinda chocheperako chopulumuka mwachikondi, adaganiza pasadakhale. Njira yabwino yosamalira izi ndikudziwitsidwa za nthawi yake yosamalira ana — usiku, kumapeto kwa sabata, ndi zina zambiri — kuti nonse mukonzekere nthawi yanu pamodzi. Dziwani kuti ana amadwala, ndipo wakale amatha kupempha kuti athandizidwe pazinthu zina, choncho zikachitika, khalani odekha.
Mwana wake ndiye wofunika kwambiri, chifukwa chake muyenera kusintha nthawi ndi nthawi zinthu zazing'ono izi zitayamba.
Pezani madalitso
Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi abambo sikungakhale kusankha kwanu pomwe munayamba kupanga chibwenzi chatsopano. Koma tsopano muli momwemo, ndipo mudzawona kuti kukulitsa chikondi chanu kuti muphatikize mwana wake wamng'ono kudzakuthandizani kuti mukhale munthu wachikondi, wopatsa komanso wowolowa manja.
Kukhala ndi mwana uyu pafupi kukuphunzitsani maluso ofunika omwe mungasinthire kuubwenzi wanu wachikulire: kuleza mtima, kumvetsera, kuwona zinthu momwe ena akuwonera, koposa zonse, chikondi chopanda malire.
Chifukwa nthawi yoyamba ija mwana wamng'onoyo amakufungatira ndikukufunsa kuti umukumbatire ndi kumpsompsona, chifukwa? Mtima wanu usungunuka. Ichi ndiye chikondi mwanjira yake yoyera, ndipo mwayi - mudzakhala mbali ya bwalo lamkati.