Zamkati
- 1. Mumamenya nkhondo nthawi zonse
- 2. Ndi odzikonda
- 3. Ndi abwenzi oyipa
- 4. Iwo ndi ankhanza chabe
- 5. Mumadzimva kuti mulibe kanthu mukamacheza nawo
- 6. Mumamva m'matumbo
- 7. Ali ndi malingaliro oyipa
- 8. Mukungowaperekera zifukwa
Kodi mumakondwera ndi chibwenzi chanu kapena mumadzipezera zifukwa zakhalira ndi mnzanu kangapo kuposa momwe mungavomerezere?
Kodi mumawauza anzanu za momwe mnzanu amakuchitirani bwino kapena mumalandira upangiri kwa iwo za chifukwa chomwe amakuchitirani zosayenera?
Banja lirilonse limasemphana maganizo kapena limanena zopweteka nthawi ndi nthawi koma izi siziyenera kukhala maziko a chiyanjano chanu. Mnzanu akuyenera kukupangitsani kuti muzidziona kuti ndinu ofunika. Ayenera kukuthandizani ndi kukulemekezani.
Muyenera kusangalala limodzi. M'malo mwake, muyenera kukhala pamwamba padziko mukakhala nawo.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti chibwenzi chanu sichingamveke patali ndi ndime yomwe ili pamwambayi, ndiye kuti mwina mungakhale mukukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu woipa.
Nazi zizindikilo 8 zakusonyeza kuti ubale wanu ukukula poizoni ndi zomwe muyenera kuchita nazo:
1. Mumamenya nkhondo nthawi zonse
Chibwenzi chilichonse chimakhala ndi zotsika.
Banja lirilonse limamenyana nthawi zina kapena limakumana ndi zovuta zomwe sizikugwirizana. Izi si zachilendo. Pali nthawi zina pomwe maanja omwe ali ndi thanzi labwino amalephera kukhulupirirana ndipo amayenera kulimbikitsa ubale wawo.
Koma izi ziyenera kukhala zochitika kawirikawiri, osati zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku.
Kodi mumamva ngati mukugwedezeka mwamphamvu kuposa mgwirizano ndi bwenzi lanu lapamtima? Kodi mumadzimva kuti muli pachibwenzi chomwe chimangokhalira kukangana kapena kodi mnzanu amakumasulani mochuluka kuposa momwe mungafunire?
Ngati ndi choncho, ndiye kuti muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu woipa.
2. Ndi odzikonda
Ubale wathanzi umangokhudza kupatsa.
Mumapereka nthawi yanu, mphamvu zanu, ndi mtima wanu kwa wina. Mavuto awo ndi nkhawa zanu. Muli ndi chidwi chawo pamtima, nthawi zonse. Awa ndi machitidwe a anthu okondana.
Kumbali ina, munthu wodzikonda amangoganiza za zomwe zingamuthandize. Mutha kukhala mukukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wovuta, wodzikonda ngati:
- Musafune kucheza ndi anzanu
- Kanani kuwona banja lanu, ngakhale pazochitika zapadera
- Nthawi zonse ikani zosowa zawo patsogolo panu
- Satha kuvomereza akalakwitsa
- Nthawi zambiri zimakupangitsani kumva kuti momwe mukumvera kapena kukhumudwitsidwa kwanu sizovomerezeka.
3. Ndi abwenzi oyipa
Ndi zachilendo kuyankhula miseche ndi wokondedwa wanu nthawi ndi nthawi, koma ngati mupeza kuti mnzanuyo amangokhalira kulankhula za anzawo apamtima komanso abale anu, tengani izi ngati mbendera yayikulu kwambiri.
Kodi mnzanu amafalitsa miseche yovulaza kangati? Kodi akuwoneka kuti akusangalala ndi zovuta kapena zovuta za anzawo? Kodi amaika mitengo yambiri pamawonekedwe awo kapena amapita kwa badmouth winawake?
Kulankhula zoipa za munthu wina nthawi zambiri kumakhala chizindikiro cha kusatetezeka kwanu. Ngakhale zili choncho, kulemekeza anthu ena ndi chizindikiro chotsimikizika kuti muli pachibwenzi.
4. Iwo ndi ankhanza chabe
Anthu otanthawuza samamvera chisoni ena.
Satha kulumikizana nawo pamalingaliro kapena kumvetsetsa zinthu momwe ena akuwonera.
Kuphatikiza apo, safuna kukulitsa malingaliro awo. Amakhala ouma khosi kumalingaliro awo osaganizira ena.
Wokondedwa mnzake sangakhale ndi liwongo lalikulu pazolakwa. Atha kukhala osakhulupirika ndipo saganiza kuti angakunamizeni.
Amatha kukugwiritsirani ntchito zogonana, ndalama, kapena mwayi.
5. Mumadzimva kuti mulibe kanthu mukamacheza nawo
Ngati mukuganiza ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu wopanda pake, ganizirani izi. Ubale wabwino uyenera kukupangitsani kumva kuti:
- Kulemekezedwa
- Wodala
- Zothandizidwa
- Okondedwa
- Atonthozedwa
- Wokondwa
- Zabwino
- Ndipo ziyenera kukhala zosangalatsa
Mbali inayi, ubale wopanda thanzi umakupangitsani kumva kuti:
- Chopanda
- Sindikutsimikiza
- Zachabechabe
- Osafanana pachibwenzi
- Muzidalira kudzidalira
- Kusalinganizana kwa chikondi
Kuphatikiza apo, kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti kuchitiridwa nkhanza muubwenzi kumatha kubweretsa kukhumudwa kwakukulu komanso kudzipha.
Ngati mumadzimva kuti mulibe kanthu mukakhala ndi mnzanu, tengani ngati chizindikiro kuti simukupeza zomwe mukufuna kuchokera pachibwenzi chanu. M'malo mwake, mwina mumakhala zotsutsana ndi zomwe mukufuna.
6. Mumamva m'matumbo
Nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse, khulupirirani chibadwa chanu. Ngati matumbo anu akukuwuzani kuti china chake sichili bwino, ndiye kuti sichoncho.
Mukamakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wovuta, nthawi zambiri zimatha kukupangitsani kuti mulibe zingwe kapena kusakhazikika pamoyo wanu.
Mukumva kuti mukusinthasintha zochitika, ndikumverera kwanu kumakhala kotsika kwambiri mpaka kotsika pang'ono.
Ngati mumangokhalira kufunsa zaubwenzi wanu, mukuganiza kuti muyenera kukhalabe, kapena mukukayikira kuti ubale wanu sunayenera kukhala - tsatirani mphuno zanu.
7. Ali ndi malingaliro oyipa
Kulankhulana ndichinsinsi cha maubwenzi okhalitsa, achimwemwe. Ndi momwe mavuto am'banjali amathetsera, kuti adziwane bwino kwambiri ndikupanga chibwenzi.
Chizindikiro chimodzi choti muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu wonena ngati mnzake sakufuna kulankhula nanu.
Akhoza kukhala ouma khosi kapena odana kotheratu ngati mungayese kulankhula nawo za zomwe adachita zomwe zidakupweteketsani kapena kukuvutitsani.
Munthu wankhanza sangapepese, alibe chidwi chofuna kumvetsetsa malingaliro anu, ndipo atha kugwiritsa ntchito mkangano ngati chodzipeputsa m'malo mothetsa vutolo.
8. Mukungowaperekera zifukwa
Kodi mumadzipeza nokha ndikulankhula mawu ngati "Sanatanthauze zimenezo, sakumva bwino usikuuno" kapena "Akukumana ndi zovuta ndi banja lake, samatanthauza kuti andichitire izi" pokambirana mnzanu?
Ngati mukupeza kuti mumawiringula chifukwa cha zoyipa zomwe akuchita, mwina ndi nthawi yoti muzivomereza kuti simukukhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu wabwino.
Ubale umayenera kukhala wosangalatsa. Ayenera kumangirira, osati kukugwetsani pansi. Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi munthu wovuta, ndi nthawi yoti muyimire nokha.
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