Zamkati
- Kodi pali wina amene angakusangalatseni?
- Ndi nthano yachikhalidwe kuti munthu wina akhoza kutipangitsa kukhala osasangalala
"Titalowa m'banja, ndimaganiza kuti ndiye yankho."
"Ndinkaganiza kuti andisangalatsa ndipo ndimaganiza kuti ndimusintha."
"Tidayang'ana kwambiri paukwati, chifukwa chomwe tidakwatirana chinali chachiwiri."
"Ndinakwatirana chifukwa ndinali ndi zaka 33 ndipo ndizomwe aliyense anali kuchita nthawi imeneyo."
"Sindinayambe ndakayikira zikhulupiriro za anthu zakuti kukhala ndi munthu wina ndibwino kuposa kukhala wekha ... kuti kukwatiwa ndibwino kuposa kusudzulana. Sindikuwonanso choncho. ”
Awa ndi mawu enieni ochokera kwa makasitomala.
Kodi pali wina amene angakusangalatseni?
Kuyambira muli mwana, mwakhala mukudzazidwa ndi lingaliro lakuti munthu wina akhoza kukupangitsani kukhala achimwemwe. Munaziwona m'makanema (osati a Disney okha!), Munawerenga m'magazini ndi m'mabuku, ndipo mudazimva nyimbo ndi nyimbo. Uthengawu woti wina amakusangalatsani walowetsedwa m'maganizo anu osazindikira ndipo waphatikizidwa muzikhulupiriro zanu.
Vuto ndi kusamvetsaku ndikuti zotsutsana nthawi zambiri zimakhumudwitsa mutu wake woyipa. Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti wina amakusangalatsani, inunso muyenera kukhulupirira zosiyana, kuti munthu wina akhoza kukupangitsani kukhala osasangalala.
Tsopano, sindikunena kuti anthu omwe ndimagwira nawo ntchito amakhala osasangalala nthawi yayitali. Ali.
Komabe, tiyeni tiwone pansi pamalingaliro akuti munthu wina ndipamene timapeza moyo wabwino komanso chikondi.
Ndikulankhula ndi kasitomala, timutche John. John adandiuza kuti adakwatirana ali ndi zaka za m'ma 30 chifukwa adakakamizidwa kutero. Chifukwa chake, adakumana ndi mayi ndipo adamukonda, kotero adamukwatira. Pambuyo pazaka 6, kulumikizana kunalibe. Anasiyana kwa chaka chimodzi, amakhala m'mizinda yosiyana, ndikuwonana kamodzi pamwezi. Patatha chaka, Christy yemwe kale anali mkazi wa Christy adati sakufunanso kukhala naye. Mwachinsinsi John anali wokondwa! Anamasuka kwambiri ndipo anali wosangalala.
Kenako John analimba mtima kufunsa mayi wina kuti atuluke. John anasangalala kwambiri atavomera. Anayamba chibwenzi ndipo patatha miyezi 6, mtsikana watsopanoyo, Jen, adauza John mawu omwewo. "Sindikufunanso kukhala nanu".
John anakhumudwa kwambiri! Anayamba kukhumudwa kwambiri ndikumdima komwe kunadzetsa kuyesa kudzipha. John adadziwa kuti amafunikira thandizo.
Anayamba kupita kumasemina ndikuwerenga mabuku. Pambuyo pake adakumana ndi mawonekedwe ena okhudzana ndi iye komanso maubwenzi ake. John adawona kuti si azimayi omwe adamupangitsa kuti asinthe momwe amachitira. Ndi momwe amaganizira za azimayiwa, nkhani komanso tanthauzo lomwe amalumikizana ndi mayi aliyense, zomwe zidamupangitsa kuti asinthe. Kupatula apo, mayiyu adanenanso chimodzimodzi kwa iye. Nthawi yoyamba anali wokondwa. Nthawi yachiwiri anali wachisoni kwambiri adayesa kudzipha.
Onaninso: Momwe Mungapezere Chimwemwe M'banja Lanu
Ndi nthano yachikhalidwe kuti munthu wina akhoza kutipangitsa kukhala osasangalala
Anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti anthu ena angawapangitse kumva kuti china chake, monga kusasangalala, sicholondola mwasayansi ndipo ndiye maziko azodzudzula zosafunikira, kuchititsa manyazi, ndipo pamapeto pake kuzunzika kwamaganizidwe.
Ganizirani za ubale wanu. Kodi simudali ndi nthawi zokwiya kapena zotopetsa kapena zokhumudwitsa ngakhale pachiyambi cha chibwenzi chanu? Chifukwa chake, kodi mudayamba mwakhalapo komwe mumakhala mwamtendere, wachimwemwe, komanso wolumikizana, ngakhale kulibe wina aliyense?
Ndikukupemphani kuti muyambe kuzindikira kusinthasintha kwanu kosapeweka pamikhalidwe. Kodi mulidi osasangalala sekondi iliyonse yamasana? Mutha kuganiza choncho, koma ndizo kwenikweni chikuchitika ndi chiani?
Tsopano, ngakhale kumverera kwa chisangalalo kumachokera mkati (mosazindikira nthawi zambiri), sizitanthauza kuti muyenera kukhala limodzi ndi wina.
Sindikunenanso kuti zonse zili m'mutu mwanu. Zinthu zenizeni zimachitika mu maubwenzi: kubera, nkhanza, nkhanza, mavuto, ndi zina zotero.
Mfundo yomwe ndikufuna kupanga apa ndikuti pamene tigwera (kapena chifukwa cha chikondi) ndi winawake, zomwe zikuchitika mkati mwathu, m'malingaliro athu, thupi, komanso biochemistry.
Izi ndizofunikira chifukwa zimangotengera munthu m'modzi kuti awone momwe moyo ulili.
Zimangotengera wokondedwa m'modzi kuti asaike chidwi pamalingaliro ake okhudzana ndi bwenzi lake komanso banja.
Zimangotengera munthu m'modzi kuti asachite kapena kuchitapo kanthu mwachizolowezi, kuti zinthu zisinthe.
Maganizo omwe amabwera kwa ife ndi osiyana ndi momwe timaganizira. Pali chiyembekezo chachimwemwe kachiwiri. Muli ndi zida zamkati zokumana nazo mobwerezabwereza, limodzi kapena wopanda mnzanu.