Zamkati
“Samandimvera ine”, “Nthawi zonse amayenera kunena zowona!” Izi ndi zina mwazovuta zomwe maanja amakangana nthawi zambiri amakumana nazo. Mumakhala omangika komanso opanda thandizo, osadziwa momwe akumvera, kumvetsetsa ndikulimbikitsidwa ndi mnzanu kapena mnzanu mukakhala ndi vuto popanga zisankho - kaya ndi sukulu iti yomwe mwana wathu akupita, kapena tili kuti tipita kutchuthi chathu chotsatira kapena china china chachilendo ngati, njira yoyenera yonyamula zotsukira.
Komabe, tikasanthula mikhalidwe iyi mosamalitsa, timawona kuti kukakamira kumayambitsidwa ndi nkhawa yomwe imati, "ngati ndigwirizana nazo iye kapena kuvomereza kuti ndikumvetsetsa iye malingaliro, ndiye adzaganiza kuti iwo akunena zowona ndipo Ine ndalakwitsa. Potero, malingaliro anga ndi zosowa zanga sizidzadziwika ". Chifukwa chake, maanja amakonda kukulira ndikumatsutsa mwamphamvu ndikuyembekeza kuti malingaliro awo atsimikizika. Tsoka ilo, pamene onse awiri akufuna kumvedwa koyamba, palibe amene akumvetsera!
Sichiyenera kukhala chowawa. Ndikufuna kupereka njira zitatu zothandiza maanja kuwathandiza kuthana ndi kusamvana m'mabanja awo, ndikukhala ndi zokambirana zabwino komanso zolumikizana, zomwe zimawapangitsa kuyandikana wina ndi mnzake.
1. Kamvekedwe
Ngakhale chani mumanena zofunikira, ndikofunikira kulabadira Bwanji mumapereka malingaliro anu. Kutulutsa kumapereka kutengeka - kukwiya, kusaleza mtima kapena chisamaliro chenicheni kapena chifundo. Kamvekedwe amaperekanso mnzanu kuzindikira m'malingaliro anu. Mwachitsanzo, liwu lokwiya limapereka lingaliro, monga mu "Sindikukhulupirira kuti mwaiwala kutenga zovala zoyeretsanso!".
Wokondedwa wanu akamva mawu anu onyoza kapena okhumudwitsidwa, ubongo wake umazindikira zoopsa ndikupita munkhondo yolimbana ndi ndege kuti muteteze kuopsezedwa. Kumbali inayi, ngati kamvekedwe kanu kali kofatsa komanso kachifundo, ubongo umatumiza chizindikiritso kuti musangalale ndikumvera mawu amzanu popanda mantha.
Chifukwa chake, mukadzipeza kuti mukuyamba kukhumudwa komanso kupumula munthawiyo, pumirani kwambiri ndikudzikumbutsa kuti mawu anu azikhala abwino, odekha komanso omasuka.
2. Malangizo okhudza kutengeka
Mosiyana ndi zomwe mabanja angakhulupirire, nthawi zambiri sizikhala chisankho ya mavuto omwe cholinga chachikulu pamisangano yambiri, koma kutsimikiza za momwe akumvera komanso kuzunzika kwawo kwakanthawi. Komabe, ndizovuta kwambiri kuzindikira malingaliro ndi zosowa za mnzanu pomwe simukuwongolera zomwe mukumva ndipo mukumva kukhudzidwa kwambiri ndikuyambitsa zokambirana.
Njira imodzi yothanirana ndi mikangano ndikuthandizani kuwongolera ndikukhazikika ndikumachita mwambo wa 'timeout'. Inde, mwamva bwino! Kutha kwa nthawi sikungokhala kwa ana okha. Cholinga chenicheni chakupuma ndikuthandizira onse omwe akutenga nawo mbali kuti asonkhanitse malingaliro awo, momwe akumvera ndi zosowa zawo ndikuwongolera zomwe zimawakhudza.
Mukayamba kukhumudwa mukamacheza ndi mnzanu, khalani ndi malingaliro oti mutenge mphindi 20 kuti mukhale mwamwambo. Pezani ngodya yodekha aliyense m'nyumba momwe mungakhazikitsire mitsempha yanu, ndipo yesetsani kutsatira izi -
1. Pumani pang'ono pang'ono, ndikusanthula thupi lanu kuti likumangirirani ndi kusapeza bwino ndikuwona komwe mwasunga nkhawa komanso nkhawa.
2. Dzifunseni nokha, "ndikumva chiyani pakali pano?", "Zosowa zanga pakadali pano ndi ziti?", "Kodi ndikufuna kuti mnzanga adziwe chiyani ndikumvetsetsa za ine pakadali pano?".
Mwachitsanzo, kudziwonetsera kwanu kumatha kuwoneka motere, “Ndikumva kuda nkhawa pakali pano; Ndiyenera kulandira chitsimikizo kuti ndili wofunika kwa inu; Ndikufuna kuti mumvetse kuti pakadali pano ndikulimbana ndi kudzimva kuti sinditha kuchita zambiri, chifukwa sindinakumbukire zomwe mudandipempha kuti ndichite. ndikumanga pano. Chifukwa chake, chidwi chobwereranso zokumbukira zakale ndi zilonda zalephereka ndipo zimathandizira kuchepetsa kukwiya, pomwe anzawo amatha kugawana ndikukambirana momwe amathandizira atapumira.
Onaninso: Kodi Kusamvana Ndi Chiyani?
3. Kuzindikira
Gawo lotsatira ndikuti mnzake aliyense atsimikizire, ayamikire ndikuvomereza zakusatayika zomwe zafotokozedwazo pakubwezeretsanso nthawi itatha. Kuzindikira kumathandizira kukhazika mtima pansi komanso kutonthoza nkhawa za aliyense wa iwo, ndipo atha kuyamba kusiya kudzitchinjiriza pomwe ubongo wawo umasiya kutumiza zidziwitso zowopsa. Kuyanjana kwamtunduwu kumapangitsa ulemu, chidaliro komanso chidaliro muubwenzi.
Ngati maanja avomerezana zowawa za wina ndi mzake ndi zosowa zawo mu nkhondoyi, amakhala makamaka kutulutsa kunja vutoli, ndikuzindikira kuti onse ali mgulu limodzi. Iwo amazindikira izo inu si vuto; a vuto ndiye vuto. Atha kuyambitsa zokambirana kuti apite kumayankho abwino.
Wokondedwa aliyense akamatha kulankhulana modekha, kuwongolera ndi kukhazika mtima pansi, ndikutha kufikira ndikufotokozera anzawo zomwe akukumana nazo panthawi yamkangano, zimawayandikitsa zimapangitsa ubale wawo kukhala wokondana kwambiri.