Zamkati
- Konzekerani kusintha kwa paradigm
- Momwe mungasudzulire mnzanu wa narcissist?
- Phunzirani kuyimilira pamakhalidwe onyansa
- Konzekerani kusudzulana kwanthawi yayitali
- Yang'anitsitsa cholinga
Kutha kwa banja ndi gawo lodzaza ndi moyo; Ngakhale mutakhala inu omwe mukuyambitsa chisudzulo, ndizofala kumva chisoni, kumva kulephera, komanso nthawi zokayika.
Mukasudzulana ndi mnzake wa narcissist, mutha kuwonjezera mkwiyo ndikukhumudwitsidwa pamalingaliro awa.
Kukhala ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto la Narcissistic Personality Disorder, kapena NPD, ndikokwanira; kuwasudzula kungakhale kovuta kwambiri.
Ndikofunikira kudziwa kuti munthu yemwe ali ndi NPD ali ndi vuto lowona. Apanga umunthu wawo wodziyesa wokha, wolamulira, wowongolera, komanso wopanda chisoni ngati yankho pazovuta zina muubwana wawo.
Ndi njira yokhayo yomwe amadziwa momwe angathanirane ndi dziko lapansi, zomwe zimawononga ubale wawo pakati pawo. Choyipa chachikulu, komabe, ndikuti simungasinthe.
Njira yokhayo yomwe mungaganizire zosudzulira mnzanu wa narcissist ndikazindikira kuti kusintha sikungatheke.
Komabe, kusudzulana ndi wankhanza kumaphatikizapo zovuta zina zomwe muyenera kukonzekera. Chifukwa chake tiyeni tiwone njira zina zomwe mungadzichiritsire nokha ndi banja lanu komanso momwe mungachitire ndi wamisala popeza muli okonzeka kutsanzikana ndi banja.
Konzekerani kusintha kwa paradigm
Wokondedwa wanu atha kukuyimbaninso pachibwenzi pogwiritsa ntchito zokopa za narcissist: zinali zokongola, zimakupatsirani mayamiko, ndikupangitsani kuti mumve kukondedwa kuposa kale lonse.
Koma popita nthawi, mwawona kuti chikhalidwe chachizolowezi, chachikondichi chidalowa m'malo mwa munthu amene amayang'anira, sanamvere kapena kuyamikira malingaliro anu, amapanga chilichonse chokhudza iwo eni, ndipo amabodza kawirikawiri.
Mukayesa kuthana ndi maubwenzi awa, amakulonjezani kuti zinthu zisintha. Iwo sanachite konse. Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungapititsire kwa wamisili, musadandaule kufunafuna mayankho, chifukwa simudzawapeza.
Tsopano popeza mwazindikira kuti simungawasinthe, muyenera kudzikonzekeretsa kusintha kwanu.
Wolemba ma narcissist posachedwa-kukhala-ex sadzatenga mosavuta kuti muwonetse mphamvu. Sangavomereze kuti, mwakutero mwawasiya.
Kusudzulana ndi wokonda zachiwerewere kumafuna kulingalira mosamala pazinthu zofunikira. Tiyeni tiwone:
Onaninso:
Momwe mungasudzulire mnzanu wa narcissist?
Muyenera kusonkhanitsa gulu labwino kuti mukhale olimba ndikuwongolera chisudzulo chanu. Kuyesa kusudzulana ndi wankhanza sikungakhale kophweka. Mukasudzula mnzanu wa narcissist, Nazi zinthu zingapo zomwe muyenera kuziganizira-
- Choyamba, funsani loya waluso, yemwe amakonda kuchita nawo ma exes ngati anu. Adzadziwa zomwe ayenera kuyang'anira komanso momwe angapewere misampha yomwe bwenzi lanu lakale lakhazikitsa.
- Kachiwiri, gwirani ntchito ndi akatswiri azaumoyo Ndani angakupatseni malo otetezeka momwe mungafotokozere zokhumudwitsa zanu ndi mkwiyo wanu posudzulana ndi wankhanza.
Adzakuthandizani kukhalabe olimba ndikuyang'ana cholinga chanu chotuluka muukwati wotopetsawu ndikuyamba moyo watsopano wopanda wankhanza.
- Mukamaganiza zamomwe mungapulumukire kusudzulana ndi wamankhwala, ganizirani za anzanu. Ngati muli ndi anzanu abwino omwe mukudziwa kuti azikuthandizani panthawiyi, idalirani.
Ngati, komabe, sakufuna kukhala "mbali" kapena sakukhutira ndi chisankho chanu chosiya banja lanu, musawatenge nawo mbali pakuwathandiza.
Phunzirani kuyimilira pamakhalidwe onyansa
Palibe chomwe chimakwiyitsa wamisala kuposa kukanidwa. Mutha kuyembekezera kubwezera monga mnzanu, monga
- Kubwezera kwawo kumatha kuphatikizaponso mavuto azachuma kwa inu (kukuchotsani kuakaunti iliyonse yakubanki kapena katundu)
- Amatha kukuthirani ana (kutsutsana nanu kwa ana).
- Amatha kukupezerani mafuta (kukana kuti anena izi kapena izo, kulowa mnyumba mulibe ndikuchotsa zinthu)
- Mwina sangalemekeze mgwirizano wanu wosunga ana (akuchedwa kutenga ana,
- Mwina sangabweretse anawo kunyumba kwanu pa nthawi yomwe anagwirizana), ndi zina zambiri.
Muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungasamalire zomwe akuchita. Ndibwino kuti musakambirane kwakanthawi ndi wamtopola, popeza alibe mwayi wogawana nawo pazosinthana kwabwinobwino. Nthawi zonse amayenera kukhala olondola.
Sungani zokambirana zanu ndi mnzanu wakale. "Chonde lemekezani mgwirizano wokhala ndi ana ndipo nyamulani / siyani anawo panthawi yomwe tagwirizana," ndichothandiza kwambiri kuposa kunena
“Sindikukhulupirira kuti wachitanso izi! Ndizopanda chilungamo kuti simulemekeza nthawi yomwe muyenera kubweretsa ana kunyumba. Ndakhala ndikuwadikira kwa maola awiri! ”
Izi zimangopatsa chisangalalo kwa a narcissist, chifukwa chimodzi mwa zolinga zawo ndikuwonetsetsa kuti ndinu omvetsa chisoni.
Osawapatsa chisangalalo. Njira yabwino yothetsera chisokonezo ndikusunga zomwe akufuna kwa inu ndikuchita zinthu zomwe sizingawapatse chisangalalo.
Njira yabwino yochitira ndi wankhanza ndikuwanyalanyaza. Koma ngati muli ndi ana ofanana, sizingatheke. Chifukwa chake sungani kulumikizana kwanu pakulankhula nawo mwachidule, momasuka, komanso molunjika.
Konzekerani kusudzulana kwanthawi yayitali
Ngati mukuganiza kuti muyenera kuyembekezera chiyani mukasudzulana ndi wankhanza, dzilimbitseni mtima.
Kusudzulana ndi narcissist ndikosiyana ndi kusudzula munthu yemwe samalimbana ndi thanzi lam'mutu, chifukwa wamisala samamvetsetsa gawo lawo pachisangalalo chosasangalala.
Popeza osunga narcissos alibe chidwi chodzidziwitsa komanso sazindikira, sangawone momwe angayambitsire vuto la banja.
Kuti akulange, atha kugwiritsa ntchito loya wawo kuti achepetse zisudzulo momwe zingathere.
Nthawi iliyonse mukazindikira kuti mwina mukugwirizana pa mfundo yofunika, bwenzi lanu litha kuchita kena kake kuti lithandizire, kuleka kupita patsogolo, ndikupera zinthu.
Sichifukwa choti akufuna kukhalabe okwatirana ndi inu (samakondanso wina aliyense kupatula iwo okha), koma chifukwa chibadwa chawo ndikufunafuna kubwezera pomwe aliyense achita zoyipa zawo. Tsoka ilo, munthu ameneyo ndi inu.
Mukasudzulana ndi narcissist, ndikofunikira kukhalabe oleza mtima ndikuwonetsetsa kuti mukupitiliza kukwaniritsa cholinga chanu.
Yang'anitsitsa cholinga
Chisudzulo chanu chidzatha pomalizira pake, ndipo simudzakhala ndi mphamvu yoipa imeneyi.
Koma khalani okonzeka kuti chisudzulo chanu sichikhala chosalala komanso chothamanga ngati chisudzulo pakati pa anthu omwe sanakhudzidwe ndi NPD ya mnzake. Koma zikhala zofunikira.
Kukhala muukwati ndi wamankhwala sikumangolemetsa komanso kukufooketsani, koma kuvulaza ana omwe akuchitira umboni kulumikizana kopanda tanthauzo komanso kosasangalatsa pakati pa makolo.
Kusudzulana ndi wankhanza ndi ana, komabe, kungabweretse zovuta zina zochepa.
Kuchita ndi wolemba nkhani zakusungidwa kwa ana ngati ali ndi ndalama zambiri kuposa inu, zitha kuwathandiza komanso zingakupangitseni kuti asungidwe.
Pambuyo pakusudzula mwamuna kapena mkazi wa narcissist, pakhoza kukhala zovuta zingapo.
Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi m'modzi, muyenera kukhala ndi lingaliro lamomwe wamisala amachitira banja lake litatha. AchiNarcissist ali ndi ma egos akulu, ndipo anzawo omwe akuyesera kuwachotsa samawayendera bwino.
Ngati mukuganiza kuti wokondedwa wanu amatha kuchita nkhanza kapena nkhanza, onetsetsani kuti mwapeza zambiri zokhudzana ndi zoletsa pasadakhale.
Mukayamba kudzifunsa ngati mikangano yonseyi ndiyabwino, yerekezerani banja losangalala, bata lomwe mudzakhale nalo ndi ana anu. Mukuchita izi kwa inu nokha, komanso chofunikira, kwa iwo.