Zamkati
- Kodi kusokonezeka kwa chidziwitso kumatha kukhudza maubale pakati pa anthu?
- Mu maubwenzi aplatonic
- Muubwenzi wapabanja
- M'magulu achikondi
- Ndiye zimathandiza bwanji kapena zimawononga maubale?
Ambiri aife tiyenera kukhala kuti tidakumana ndi zochitika zomwe zenizeni zathu zimasemphana ndi ziyembekezo zathu m'moyo. Kusamvana kotereku kumatipangitsa kukhala osasangalala ndipo chifukwa chake timakonda kunyengerera povomereza zenizeni zomwe sitinapereke kapena kusintha zomwe timakhulupirira.
Mwachitsanzo, a John Doe amatha kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ngakhale amakhulupirira kuti kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndikolakwika. Chifukwa cha kusagwirizana pakati pa malingaliro ake ndi zochita, amavutika mkati. Kuti achepetse nkhawa, amatha kusankha njira ziwiri izi:
- Siyani kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo chifukwa zikutsutsana ndi chikhulupiriro chake, kapena
- Siyani lingaliro loti kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo sikuli koyipa konse.
Zinthu ngati izi zimatha kubweretsa kusokonezeka m'malingaliro pomwe munthuyo amayesetsa kupereka zifukwa. Izi ndizo maziko a chiphunzitso chotchedwa chidziwitso dissonance chophunzitsidwa ndi zamaganizidwe a Leon Festinger mu 1957.
Kodi kusokonezeka kwa chidziwitso kumatha kukhudza maubale pakati pa anthu?
Kuzindikira kwamalingaliro kumachitika pafupifupi mumitundu yonse yamaubale amunthu- kaya ndi am'banja, achikondi, kapena apatoni.
Zitha kukhudza momwe timakhalira kapena momwe timachitira, ndikupitiliza ubale wathu ndi njira ina yomwe ingakhale yathanzi kapena yopanda thanzi.
Mu maubwenzi aplatonic
Anthu akagwirizana pa chinthu china, ngakhale atayandikira kwambiri, nkhawa imayamba. Zimasokoneza chiyanjano chamtendere chaubwenzi wawo. Pofuna kuthetsa kusamvana, m'modzi mwa omwe akukhudzidwawo asankha kunyalanyaza malingaliro kapena zochita za mnzake kuti achepetse nkhawa.
Mwachitsanzo, Jane ndi Bianca akhala abwenzi apamtima kuyambira asanapite kusukulu. Pambuyo pakupita ku koleji, ubale wawo udasokonekera chifukwa chotsutsana ndi ndale. Bianca, monga munthu amene amafuna umodzi ndi mtendere, aganiza zosiya kukangana ndi mnzake pankhani zandale. M'malo mwake, amangodziperekera pakulimbikitsa ndikulimbikitsa Jane pakafunika ndale.
Chochitika china, Mike ndi katswiri wofufuza yemwe amakhulupirira kwambiri za ufulu wa anthu koma samakhulupirira za euthanasia. Woyang'anira wake wamkulu atasankha kuti adziwe kuti athetse vuto lake la khansa, Mike adakumana ndi vuto lamaganizidwe. Kuti athetse nkhawa, amasintha malingaliro ake pa euthanasia, ndikuwonetsa kuti ndibwino kwa woyang'anira wake, ndipo ndi ufulu wake kutero.
Muubwenzi wapabanja
Banja lililonse limakumana ndi mavuto.
Kaya mkangano uli pakati pa makolo kapena pakati pa kholo ndi mwana, m'modzi mwa anthu omwe akukhudzidwa angasankhe kusintha kuti mavutowo athe.
Mwachitsanzo, mayi wosamala yemwe safuna kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amva kuti mwana wake wokondedwa ndi gay. Kuti apitirizebe kusinthasintha kwamkati, amatha dala kunyalanyaza kuti mwana wake wamwamuna amagonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kapenanso, atha kusintha malingaliro ake pankhani yogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kuti avomereze zowona zakugonana kwa mwana wawo.
M'magulu achikondi
Chimodzi mwazofala kwambiri zomwe kusokonekera kwachidziwitso kumachitika ndi chibwenzi, makamaka chomwe ndi chakupha kapena chankhanza - mwakuthupi kapena mwamalingaliro.
Kusudzulana, kusakhulupirika, ndi kuzunza zitha kukhala zotsatira zoyesayesa kuthana ndi kusamvana, pomwe mbali ina kukhululuka, kukana, kapena kusankha kungakhale zotsatira zina.
Mwachitsanzo, Jack ndi Carrie adakondana miyezi isanu ndi umodzi yapitayo. Amasangalala ndi tchuthi chawo chaukwati, akuganiza kuti akudziwa zonse za anzawo. Komabe, Jack mosamenyetsa akumenya Carrie pankhondo.
Izi zimapangitsa kuti Carrie asamvetse bwino momwe malingaliro ake okhudzana ndi mnzake tsopano akutsutsana ndi zochita zake zosafunikira. Amadziwa kuti amakonda Jack, koma osati zochita zake. Chifukwa chake ali ndi njira ziwiri zothetsera nkhawa zake. Amatha kuthetsa chibwenzi chawo kapena kulingalira zoyipa zomwe Jack amachita ngati 'nthawi imodzi'.
Ngakhale titha kupeza zitsanzo zofananira ndikupita ku ad namuseum, zithunzithunzi pamwambapa ndizokwanira kuti tidziwe m'mene zimachitikira.
Ndiye zimathandiza bwanji kapena zimawononga maubale?
Titha kunena kuti kusamvana bwino ndikomwe mungaganize zolungamitsira zochita zanu kapena zochita za ena kuti mikangano yanu yamkati ichepetsedwe.
Monga mwambiwu umanenedwa, chilichonse chimakhala ndi zoyipa komanso zabwino.
Dissonance yodziwitsa imatha kukupweteketsani kapena kukuthandizani, kaya ndi payekha kapena payekha. Kutengera lingaliro lanu, mutha kukula kapena kuchepa ngati munthu chifukwa cha zopinga ndi zopinga zina m'moyo. Ikhoza kulimbitsa kapena kuthetsa ubale wanu ndi ena. Ikhozanso kukuthandizani kuti muzimvetsetsa nokha kapena kukhala opanda chidwi.