Zamkati
- Mtundu wothandizidwa womwe mukupeza
- Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani pakafika vuto?
- Kodi angakhululukire ndikuiwala?
- Kukupatsani malo
- Kulemekeza zinthu zopatulika muubwenzi wanu
Ngakhale atakhala m'banja zaka zambiri (kapena makamaka atakhala zaka zambiri ali m'banja nthawi zina) amuna nthawi zambiri amasinkhasinkha za vuto lamkati: "Kodi AMANDIKondADI?" Ngakhale mudziko labwino lokondana simudzakayikira chikondi cha mkazi wanu, zowona zake ndizakuti pali njira zambiri pomwe okwatirana amagawanika m'malingaliro. Nthawi zina, sanakhalepo mumsewu womwewo, kuyamba ndi.
Chifukwa chake, pali zinthu zisanu zomwe muyenera kuziwona ngati simukudziwa kuti mkazi wanu amakukondani.
Mtundu wothandizidwa womwe mukupeza
Thandizo lomwe munthu amapeza kuchokera kwa mnzake ndilofunikira kuti munthu akhale ndi moyo wabwino. Popanda chilimbikitso chochokera kwa mkazi wanu, zopinga zilizonse pamoyo zitha kukhala zovuta kuwirikiza kawiri. Izi, zachidziwikire, sizinthu zomwe zimagwira amuna okha, onse amuna ndi akazi amapambana akamathandizidwa mokwanira ndi anzawo.
Koma, pali chinthu chonga kuthandizira kokwanira komanso kuthandizira kosakwanira. Pamene mukuganiza kuti mkazi wanu amakukondanidi, ganizirani za chilimbikitso chomwe amakupatsani.
Kodi zimachokera pansi pamtima? Ndizowona mtima? Kodi nthawi zonse amakhala nanu pagulu, koma amakudziwitsani zomwe mungachite mukakhala nokha? Uwu ndiye chithandizo choyenera chomwe chimaperekedwa ndi omwe amatikonda - kukhulupirika koma kuphatikiza ndi kufunitsitsa kwathu kukula.
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani pakafika vuto?
Zomwe zingakhale zikuchitika pakati pa okwatirana tsiku ndi tsiku, ndi munthawi yamavuto pomwe mitundu yeniyeni imawululidwa. Osamaweruza chikondi cha akazi anu potengera kuti amangokhalira kunyalanyaza zinyalala. Kapenanso kuti adachedwetsa tsiku lanu usiku kuti mukawone abwenzi ake. Izi zikhoza kukhala zinthu zomwe zingayike kukayika m'malingaliro mwanu, koma palibe chomwe chikutanthauza kuti chikondi chake sichowona.
Zomwe muyenera kuganizira ndi izi - mukatumiza SOS, chimachitika ndi chiyani? Chomwe tikupeza ndichakuti, ngakhale tonsefe nthawi zambiri timatengera akazi athu tsiku ndi tsiku, pakakhala zovuta, omwe amakondanadi amasiya kudzikonda kwathunthu ndikulowerera kuti athandize wokwatirana naye.
Kodi mkazi wanu amapatula zonse, kuphatikizapo mikangano yanu, pomwe mumamufuna? Ichi ndi chizindikiro chotsimikizika kuti amakukondanidi.
Kodi angakhululukire ndikuiwala?
Mwachidziwikire, sipadzakhala kukhululuka. Koma, zenizeni za zinthu zili - zilipo nthawi zonse. Banja lililonse limasunga mkwiyo kapena awiri panjira. Tsoka ilo, nthawi zambiri, makamaka ngati banjali sililandila chithandizo, udaniwu umasokonekera pamaziko aubwenzi. Chikondi ndichinthu chimodzi chofunikira kwambiri muukwati chomwe chimavutika ndi mavuto.
Ndiye, pamene munalakwitsa mkazi wanu, amazitenga bwanji? Ngati mwachita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mumumvere, kodi nayenso amayesetsa kuti akukhululukireni?
Funso lomwelo liyenera kufunsidwa zikafika pazinthu zazikulu komanso zazing'ono. Kukhululuka ndibwino osati kwa inu nokha, komanso ubale wanu, komanso kwa mkazi wanu. Ndipo, ngati mudachita mbali yanu kuti mukonze, chikondi chenicheni chitsogolera mkazi wanu kuti akukhululukireni.
Kukupatsani malo
Ngakhale zitha kumveka ngati zosagwirizana, chikondi chenicheni chimalemekezana wina ndi mnzake. Ambiri aife, tikafunsidwa kuti tiwone banja langwiro, lingalirani za okwatirana omwe samasiyana ndipo amakhala nthawi yawo yonse limodzi kuseka ndi kukondana.
Ngakhale nthawi yocheza ndiyofunika kwambiri kwa maanja, palinso zoyipa zakukhala ndi nkhawa zakupatukana muukwati. Ndi chizindikiro chodzikayikira, osati chikondi chenicheni.
Mu maubwenzi abwino, maanja amakula limodzi, komanso payekhapayekha. Chifukwa chake, mukakhala osatsimikiza za chikondi cha mkazi wanu, dzifunseni nokha - kodi amakulolani kuti mukhale munthu wosiyana? Kodi amathandizira ndikulimbikitsa zofuna zanu komanso zokhumba zanu, ngakhale sizimuphatikiza? Kodi amakondwerera kuchita bwino ndi inu ngakhale zitakhala kuti amayenera kupatula nthawi yocheza ndi iye?
Kulemekeza zinthu zopatulika muubwenzi wanu
Pali mizere ina yomwe siyiyenera kuwoloka muubwenzi uliwonse, kaya ndi wachikondi kapena wochita bizinesi. Ngakhale munthu m'modzi atakhala wokhumudwa bwanji, wokhumudwitsidwa, wokhumudwitsidwa, kapena wokwiya, pali gawo limodzi lomwe saloledwa kuyikapo. Kapenanso, banja likhoza kusokonekera. Kwa mabanja ambiri, kusakhulupirika, chiwawa, zizolowezi zina, kukhala opweteka chifukwa chokumana ndi zoopsa zina kapena kusowa chitetezo.
Nthawi zina mkazi samamvetsetsa za mwamuna wake, monga pamene aliwamatsenga.
Ndipo ma narcissist, kwakukulukulu, sangathe chikondi chenicheni. Komabe, munthawi ina iliyonse, posalemekeza malire opatulikawa zikutanthauza kuti mkaziyo amakonda kudzikonda kwake kuposa mwamuna wake.