Zamkati
- Kodi kupatukana ndi chiyani?
- Khalani ndi cholinga chofanana
- Khalani aulemu komanso okoma mtima
- Osakakamiza mnzanu
- Pewani ubale wobwerera
- Osakokera anawo mu kusakaniza
- Khazikitsani malire ndikuwamamatira
- Lankhulani pafupipafupi
Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina, 50 peresenti ya maukwati amathetsa banja; ndicho chowonadi chowawa. Mabanja omwe ali ndi chiyembekezo chobwezeretsanso maanja awo amasankha kupatukana kuti apange mpata wowunika ngati angasudzule kapena ayi.
Kulekana m'banja ndi nkhani yomwe anthu okwatirana amasiya kukhalira limodzi popanda kusudzulana.
Kodi kupatukana ndi chiyani?
Kulekana m'banja kungakhale sitepe yoyamba kusudzulana; pokhapokha abwenzi atagwiritsa ntchito maluso oyenera kuti agwiritse ntchito ngati chida choyanjanitsira.
Kulekana pakati pa okwatirana kumatha kuchitidwa mwamwayi kapena kupatukana mwalamulo polemba chikalata cholekana kukhothi.
Pochita zopatukana m'banja, onse awiri ayenera kuchitapo kanthu kuti akhale ndi zopatukana zomwe zingabweretse banja losangalala pambuyo pake.
Kodi mungasamalire bwanji kupatukana kwaukwati? Ndipo njira yabwino kwambiri yothanirana ndi okwatirana ndi iti?
Onaninso:
Kukuthandizani kuthana ndi kupatukana ndi mnzanu, talemba zofunika kuchita ndi zosayenera kupatukana kuti muwonetsetse kuti mutha kugwiritsa ntchito kupatukana kwanu ngati chida chobwererana ndikulimbikitsa banja lanu.
Khalani ndi cholinga chofanana
Mukamalekana, gwirizanani ndi mnzanuyo chifukwa chomwe muyenera kupanga chisankho kuti mupatukane.
Kupatukana kwamaso kumakhala kovuta kuthana nawo, ndipo kumasiya kukhumudwa pakati pawo, ndikuchulukitsa njira yakuchira.
Lolani mnzanuyo amvetsetse momwe mukumvera komanso kufunika kwanu kupumula kuukwati wanu kuti muthandize inu ndi ana.
Malo okwanira ndi nthawi zimakupatsani mpata wosankha moyenera popanda kukopa mnzanu.
Mmodzi amapeza mwayi wowunikira ndikuyendetsa SWOT (Mphamvu, zofooka, mwayi, ndikuwopseza) pazolinga zaukwati.
Komabe, kuti muwonetsetse kuti mukukhala ndi banja lopambana, muyenera kufotokozeranso zolinga zopatukana paukwati.
Zolinga zanu zopatukana m'banja ziyenera kuphatikizapo:
- Nthawi yopatukana
- Udindo ndi gawo la wokondedwa aliyense panthawi yopatukana
- Zovuta ndi malamulo omwe onse okwatirana azitsatira nthawi yakulekana
- Zoyembekeza za onse awiri kuti akonze ukwati
Khalani aulemu komanso okoma mtima
Kulekana kumatha kukhala ndi mikangano yosathetsedwa, kusafuna kukhululukirana, kulephera kutenga udindo pazomwe mwachita, komanso kulumikizana bwino.
Ndi kukhumudwa konseku, kutengeka kwanu kumatha kuyambitsa chipongwe kapena mawu okhumudwitsa omwe amakulitsa mtunda wapakati pa nonse awiri.
Lamulirani malingaliro anu; lolani kulingalira kuti kutengeke pakadali pano.
Kukhala aulemu komanso okoma mtima panthawi yopatukana kwanu kudzathandiza kwambiri kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino komanso kuwonetsetsa kuti ana anu atetezedwa kuti asawonongeke.
Osakakamiza mnzanu
Iyi ndiye "nthawi yanga" yoyenera kudzipenda ndikuzindikira kufunikira kwa mnzanu pamoyo wanu.
Komabe, kulekana kumabweretsa mantha osatsimikizika. Mantha awa amakakamiza anzawo kukakamizana wina ndi mnzake kupanga chisankho posafuna, zomwe zimawononga ubale uliwonse.
Monga momwe mumafunira nthawi kuti muchitepo kanthu poswa kapena kupanga banja, lolani mnzanu kupanga zosankha zake popanda kukakamizidwa.
Chigamulo chaumwini chimatanthauzira kuwunika kwa momwe zinthu ziliri komanso yankho losatha.
Funsani mlangizi wa mabanja
Upangiri waukwati ndi njira yothandizira odwala yomwe imathandizira maanja kuzindikira kusamvana ndikuwongolera kuti athetse ubale wawo. Zikumveka ngati china chomwe okwatirana atha kutenga mwayi.
Dziperekeni ku chisankho chofunafuna chithandizo cha munthu wina wachitatu kuti akuthandizeni nonse kuchira.
Muyenera kuzindikira kuti posankha mlangizi wamaukwati, mumatha kupeza njira zingapo zopangitsira ubale wanu kuwongolera ngakhale mutapatukana.
Amakuthandizaninso kutsatira malangizo oyenera mutakambirana mozama ndikuwunika momwe zinthu ziliri.
Ngati mukuumirabe kukhumudwa, kukhululuka sichotheka kwa inu, komabe, ndikofunikira pakukonzanso ukwati. Uphungu ungathandizenso kupeza chikhululukiro.
Upangiri waukwati umakhala wothandiza ngati njira yothandizira kupumula kuti mupitilize ndi moyo osakhudza thanzi lanu.
Pewani ubale wobwerera
Osasankhanso chibwenzi china musanakwatirane mwamunayo kapena mkazi wanu.
Sangalalani ndi danga lanu ndi nthawi yanu pochita bizinesi yodzikongoletsa. Ngati muli ndi ana, ndiye nthawi yoti muwapatse chidwi chonse tsopano mukamakhala ngati mayi ndi bambo.
Osakokera anawo mu kusakaniza
Kulekana kapena kusudzulana kumatha kukhala ndi zowopsa pamoyo wa mwana. Kupatukana kumatha kukhala njira yopweteka kwa ana anu yomwe ingayambitse mavuto amkati ndi akunja.
Kafukufuku ikuwonetsa kuti kusudzulana / kulekana kwa makolo kumalumikizidwa ndi chiopsezo chowonjezeka pamavuto osintha ana ndi achinyamata, kuphatikiza zovuta zamaphunziro (mwachitsanzo, magiredi ochepa komanso kusiya sukulu), machitidwe osokoneza (mwachitsanzo, mavuto azikhalidwe komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo), komanso kukhumudwa.
Ana ndi osalakwa; sakhala nawo pamikangano yanu. Auzeni zomwe ayenera kuyembekezera popanda kufotokoza bwino pokhapokha atakalamba.
Osalankhula zoyipa za mnzanu pafupi nawo; chifukwa zimangokhala ndi zotsatirapo zoipa pa ana anu ndipo amadzimva olakwa ndikusokonezeka pakukhulupirika kwawo kwa makolo onse awiri.
Khazikitsani malire ndikuwamamatira
Pali kusiyana pakati paukwati ndi kupatukana. Ngati mulola mnzanu kukhala ndi maufulu onse aukwati monga kukondana, sangakhale ofulumira kukonza zinthu.
Pomwe mukukonzekera cholinga, khazikitsani malire, ndikutsatira.
Lankhulani pafupipafupi
Kulankhulana ndikofunikira kwambiri muukwati kapena kupatukana.
Lolani njira zanu zoyankhulirana zikhale zotseguka nthawi iliyonse kuti mupewe kukayikirana. Ndi chida choyenera kumasuka ndikulankhula zakukhosi kwanu, ikani nkhani yanu mwaukadaulo kuti mupewe mavuto, ndikuyamba "kuchita zibwenzi."
Maanja omwe amasankha kupatukana m'banja ayenera kukhala ndi malingaliro otseguka m'banja.
Kuchita bwino kwa zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi zomwe simuyenera kuchita pothana ndi mabanja kumatanthauza kuti muli ndi mwayi wobwezeretsanso ukwati pomwe kulephera kwake kukutanthauza kuti mwasudzulana.