Zamkati
- 1. Kusintha sikungapeweke - osayesa kuletsa
- 2. Tikalephera kupereka kwa mnzathu chilolezo choti asinthe
- 3. Kusazindikira zinthu zomwe zimalepheretsa kukula
- 4. Sitimakonda zina mwa zosinthazi
- 5. Lolani mnzanu kuti asinthe kukhala munthu amene amasankha kukhala
- Lankhulani ndi zomwe zingakuvulazeni ndikupanga mapulani
“Wasintha!” - Pazithandizo, ndimamva maanja ambiri akunena kuti akazi awo asintha kuyambira ali okwatirana.
Ndimamvetsera mwatcheru pamene amafotokoza ndi kukambirana za mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo amene amakhulupirira kuti si munthu uja tsiku lomwe anati: "Ndimatero!" Atamuimba mlandu wosintha, woimbidwayo akuti, "Ayi, sindinasinthe. Inenso ndine munthu yemweyo. ” Nthawi zina amasintha mlanduwo ndikuneneza mnzawoyo mlandu womwewo kwinaku akunena kuti, "Ndiwe amene wasintha!" Chowonadi ndi mnzanuyo momwe zasinthira, momwemonso inu. Izi ndi zabwino! Ngati mwakhala okwatirana zaka zopitilira zingapo ndipo sipanakhalepo kusintha kulikonse kumeneku ndiye vuto pazifukwa zingapo.
1. Kusintha sikungapeweke - osayesa kuletsa
Palibe chomwe chimakhala chimodzimodzi, makamaka zikafika pamtundu wa anthu. Kuyambira tsiku lomwe tapatsidwa mimba tikusintha tsiku ndi tsiku. Timasintha kuchokera m'mimba, kenako mwana wosabadwa, kenako khanda, kamwana kakang'ono, kamwana kakang'ono, asanakwane, achinyamata, achikulire, ndi zina zambiri. Ubongo wathu umasintha, matupi athu amasintha, chidziwitso chathu chimasintha, maluso athu amasintha, zomwe timakonda ndi zomwe sitimakonda zimasintha, ndipo zizolowezi zathu zimasintha.
Mndandanda wazosintha zomwe zikupitilira zitha kupitilira masamba. Malinga ndi malingaliro a Erik Erikson sikuti tikungosintha biologically, koma nkhawa zathu, zovuta zathu pamoyo wathu, komanso zomwe timayika patsogolo zimasinthanso munthawi iliyonse kapena gawo lililonse la moyo. Ngati tikusintha kuyambira nthawi yobereka, ndichifukwa chiyani izi zitha kuimitsa tsiku lomwe tikwatirana?
Pazifukwa zina zosamvetsetseka, timayembekezera kuti kusintha kumatha mkazi kapena mwamuna wathu atasankha kuti azikhala nafe masiku onse. Tikufuna kuti akhalebe omwe ali tsiku lomwe tidakondana nawo kwamuyaya ngati kuti sitingathe kuwakonda mwanjira ina iliyonse.
2. Tikalephera kupereka kwa mnzathu chilolezo choti asinthe
Kupanda kusintha mbanja ndi vuto chifukwa kusintha nthawi zambiri kumawonetsera kukula. Ndikuganiza kuti tonse titha kuvomereza kuti tikamanena kuti sitinasinthe, tikunena kuti sipanakhale kukula. Tikalephera kupatsa mnzathu chilolezo choti asinthe timawauza kuti saloledwa kukula, kusintha, kapena kupita patsogolo.
Ndikuvomereza kuti zosintha zonse sizabwino kapena zabwino, komabe, nawonso ndi gawo la moyo. Chilichonse sichingakhale momwe timayembekezera kapena kufunira.
Inemwini, ndili ndi zaka 19 ndili pabanja, ndipo ndine woyamikira kuti tonsefe sitili ofanana ndi mmene tinalili pamene tinkalonjeza zaka 20. Tidali anthu abwino nthawi imeneyo monga momwe tiriri pano, komabe, tinali osadziwa zambiri ndipo panali zambiri zoti tiphunzire.
3. Kusazindikira zinthu zomwe zimalepheretsa kukula
Matenda osiyanasiyana amisala komanso / kapena mavuto am'maganizo, kudalira mankhwala, kapena kuwonongeka kwa zoopsa kumatha kuletsa kukula ndi kusintha. Wachipatala yemwe ali ndi zilolezo amatha kuwunika ndikuwunika ngati ali ndi vuto lachipatala lomwe likufunika kuthandizidwa.
4. Sitimakonda zina mwa zosinthazi
Tsopano popeza tadziwa kuti okwatirana asintha ndipo akuyenera kusintha, tiyeni tikambirane chifukwa chake kusintha zosinthazi kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Pali mayankho ambiri pa funsoli, koma yankho lofunikira kwambiri komanso lofunika kwambiri ndikuti sitimakonda kusintha kwina. Pali zosintha zomwe timawona mwa okwatirana athu zomwe timayamika ndikuyamikira, ndipo pali zina zomwe sitimangozilandira, timazinyoza ndikuwanyalanyaza.
5. Lolani mnzanu kuti asinthe kukhala munthu amene amasankha kukhala
Ndikulimbikitsa anthu onse okwatirana kuti alole kuti okwatiranawo asinthe kukhala amuna kapena akazi omwe amayenera kukhala ndikusankha kukhala. Kuyesera kupanga machitidwe amunthu wina kapena zina kupatula zomwe mumapeza kumabweretsa chisokonezo, mikangano, komanso mavuto.
Munthu wamkulu akamadzimva ngati sangakhale eni ake, mumachita manyazi chifukwa choti ali pamaso pa ena, ndipo amadzimva kuti akunyalanyazidwa ndi anzawo amakhala pachiwopsezo chokhala ndi nkhawa komanso kukhumudwa, kumva chisoni , mkwiyo, kuipidwa, ndi malingaliro otheka osakhulupirika.
Aliyense wa ife amafuna kudzimva kuti walandiridwa ndi okwatirana naye ndipo amadzimva ngati ali ogwirizana ndi zomwe tili m'malo mochita manyazi ndi omwe tili.
Chitsanzo chabwino ndi mkazi yemwe amayembekezera kuti mwamuna wake abwerera kukoleji kuti akapeze digiri yake chifukwa akufuna kuti akhale ndi ntchito yabwinoko. Iye ndi wophunzira kwambiri, ali ndi udindo wapamwamba ndi womlemba ntchito, ndipo nthawi zonse samamveka bwino pomwe anzawo amafunsa za ntchito ya mwamuna wake.
Amachita manyazi ndi udindo womwe mwamuna wawo ali nawo ndi womlemba ntchito. Akupitilizabe kuuza mwamuna wake kuti apitilize maphunziro ake, ngakhale akudziwa kuti alibe mtima wofuna kutero ndipo ali wokondwa ndi ntchito yomwe akuchita. Izi zitha kuchititsa kuti mwamuna wake amukwiyire, azimva ngati kuti akuchita naye manyazi, amadzimva kuti ndiwosakwanira, ndipo zingamupangitse kukayikiranso ukwati wake.
Kufunira zabwino theka lanu ndikofunikira muukwati wachimwemwe.
Nthawi zina ndikofunikira kuvomereza kuti zabwino zonse kwa mnzanu sizingafanane ndi zomwe angathe kuchita kwa iwo okha. Amulole kuti akhale omwe ali ndikuwalola kuti azisangalala. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zabwino kuti kukambirana zolinga zamtsogolo ndi munthu amene mudzakwatirane naye musanalowe m'banja ndikofunikira.
Izi zipatsa mwayi wosankha ngati zolinga zawo zikugwirizana ndi zanu, ngati sichoncho, musankhe ngati mungakhale ndi moyo limodzi ndikukhala mosangalala ndi zolinga zosiyanasiyana komanso matanthauzo otsutsana a kupambana.
Lankhulani ndi zomwe zingakuvulazeni ndikupanga mapulani
Pakakhala zosintha zomwe zingasokoneze thanzi lanu kapena ubale wawo, njira yomwe imachitidwa ndiyofunikira kuthana ndi zomwe zingachitike ndikupanga dongosolo lothana ndi / kapena kusintha. Kuyankhula nkhaniyo ndi mnzanu mwachikondi ndi kumvetsetsa m'malo moyanjana ndi mkwiyo ndikofunikira.
Ndikofunikanso kuti onse awiri azitha kutenga nawo mbali pokhazikitsa njira yochepetsera zovuta zomwe zingachitike ndikupanga zosintha zina limodzi zikafunika.
Njirayi ichepetsa mwayi woti chipani chimodzi chikumva ngati kuti zomwe zasintha ndikukonzekera kusintha kusintha kukuchitika "kwa iwo" osati "ndi iwo."