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Ganizirani za banja lomwe mumakonda. Mukudziwa, anthu awiri omwe mungatchule ngati "iwo" awiriwa m'moyo wanu.
Atha kukhala makolo anu, inu ndi mnzanu, kapenanso banja lopeka la kanema omwe mumakonda. Nchiyani chimawapangitsa kukhala osiyana? Kodi ndi banter yawo? Kulumikizana kwawo? Chikondi chawo kwa wina ndi mnzake?
Nthawi zina kumakhala kovuta kudziwa chomwe chimapangitsa maanja kukhala “iwo” m'malingaliro mwathu, koma tikudziwa kuti pali china chapadera pa iwo.
Kuti chinthu chapadera ndichotheka kukondana kwambiri. Mwachidule, kukondana kwambiri ndi momwe okwatirana amakhala ogwirizana kwambiri kudzera m'malingaliro awo. Mukawawona akulankhula zimawoneka ngati zopanda ntchito. Mukawawona akuyanjana, zimakhala ngati palibe amene akuwayang'ana. Ali ngati maginito amakokererana, ndipo mphamvu yomwe imawakoka iwo ndikulumikizana kwawo kwamalingaliro.
Kukula kwachifundo kwambiri, ubale ndi ukwati zidzakwaniritsidwa. Ndizinenedwa kuti, mutha kukhala ndi vuto lakuwunikira momwe okwatirana amakondana. Mukudziwa kuti ndi zomwe mukufuna, koma simukudziwa momwe mungapangire izi pamoyo wanu komanso ubale wanu.
Nkhani yotsalayo iperekedwa kuti tizindikire zitsanzo za mabanja okwatirana. Tilowerera momwe amawonekera ndiyeno momwe mungadzipangire nokha.
1. Kutseguka
Mabanja okondana amakhala otseguka komanso osatetezeka kwa wina ndi mnzake. Palibe zopinga zomwe zimakakamiza wokondedwa wawo kuti apambane; amapereka mitima yawo ndi moyo wawo kwa wina ndi mnzake mosazengereza. Izi zitha kutenga nthawi kuti zitheke, popeza pafupifupi aliyense amalowa muubwenzi ndi alonda chifukwa cha zomwe adakumana nazo m'mbuyomu. Pakapita nthawi, mlondayo amabwera pansi ndipo munthu amene ali pachibwenzi chogonana amalola wokondedwa wawo kukhala ndi mwayi wopita kwa iwo omwe alidi.
Kuti mupange malo osatetezeka komanso otseguka mu ubale wanu, muyenera kutsogolera mwachitsanzo. Kuti mnzanuyo akufotokozereni zakufulu kwawo, muyenera kuperekanso gawo lanu lalikulu. Iwawonetsa kuti mukufunitsitsa kudzipereka panokha, ngakhale zitanthauza kuti mupwetekedwe. Simudzawona kulumikizana kwakuya kotheka popanda kuwika mtima wanu ndi moyo wanu pachiswe. Mukamayang'anitsitsa, mutha kukhala mukuziteteza, koma simuloleza mnzanu kapena mnzanu kudziko lanu. Okwatirana omwe ali pachibwenzi amateteza chitetezo chija ndikulola wokondedwa wawo kuwawona atavala kwambiri.
2. Kuona mtima ndi chifundo
Kutseguka kumangobwera kudzera mu kuwona mtima muubwenzi. Banja la "it" lomwe mumalilingalira kumayambiriro kwa nkhaniyi ladziwa izi pakapita nthawi. Akamalankhulana, amatero ndi mtima wachifundo, koma lilime loona. Pakhoza kukhala zowonadi zowopsya zomwe zimayenera kunenedwa, koma zitha kunenedwa mwanjira yomwe sizimamupweteketsa mnzake. Njira yokhayo yolumikizirana, ndikulimbikitsa kukondana, ndikunena zowona wina ndi mnzake.
Kuti mupange zokambirana zowona mtima komanso zachifundo ndi mnzanu, inunso muyenera kutsogolera kuchokera kutsogolo. Ngati mukumva ngati inu ndi mnzanu mwakhala mukubisirana zinthu-ngakhale kuti ndizopewana kwakanthawi kukhumudwitsana- adziwitseni kuti mwawona. Awonetseni chifundo chanu komanso kuwona mtima kwanu. Kubwera mchipindamo mukubwadamuka ndi ukali sizidzalola kuwona mtima kukula. Bwerani kumalo achisoni ndi achifundo ndipo mudzadzipeza nokha mukukhala pafupi ndi kucheza kulikonse.
3. Kukhudza thupi
Ngakhale chibwenzi chimakhala pachibwenzi chokha, ndikofunikira kuwonetsa kukula kwakumakhudza pakupatsirana kwa zotengeka. Kukhudza kosavuta kumatha kunena zambiri ndikulankhula zambiri. Ngati ndinu mkazi, mutha kutero mverani mawu oti "Ndimakukonda" pamene amuna anu amasewera ndi tsitsi lanu. Ngati ndinu bambo, mutha kutero mverani mawu omwewo mkazi wanu akatenga nthawi kuti akupatseni ndalama. Kulankhulana sikuti kumangopita pakamwa panu; maanja okondana amagwiritsa ntchito matupi awo kudziwitsa wokondedwa wawo momwe amawaonera.
Kubweretsa kukhudzana kwakuthupi muubwenzi wanu, yambani kukhala ndi cholinga chazomwe mumagwiritsira ntchito pachibwenzi chanu. Musaganize kuti kukhudza kwanu kumangokhala m'chipinda chogona. Muzikumbatirana nthawi zambiri, kugwirana chanza, kapena kukhumudwitsa mnzanuyo, mpata ukapezeka. Pali zokonda zambiri zomwe zitha kunyamulidwa ndikukhudza moyenera. Musalole kuti mwayi woti muyandikire uwonongeke.
4. Kukhululuka
Mabanja omwe amatalikitsa komanso amakonda kwambiri ndi omwe amatha kukhululuka, ndipo amatero moyenera. Kukwatirana ndi munthu ndikudzipereka kwa moyo wonse ndipo anthu ayenera kulakwitsa. Monga anthu, ndife opanda ungwiro. Zimangobwera ndi gawo. Kuti banja likhalebe ndiubwenzi wapamtima, pamenepo ayenera khalani okhululuka pamasewera. Ngati sakakhululukirana, ndiye kuti izi zimangopanga mtunda ndi mkwiyo pakati pawo.
Monga momwe zimakhalira ndi zambiri mwa izi komanso zitsanzo zakukondana, kukhululuka kumafunika kutengera chitsanzo cha wokondedwa wanu asanakwere. Akhululukireni china chake chomwe mwakhala mukuwasungira chakukhosi. Lolani kuti mkwiyo uzichoka m'mapewa mwanu ndikudziwonetsera nokha kwa mnzanu monga simunayambe mwakhalapo. Awonetseni kuti akhululukidwa, ndikumva kuti cholemetsacho chachotsedwa pamapewa awo, akhoza kukukhululukirani.
Tengani zitsanzo izi pamene mukuyenda paulendo wautali waukwati. Tonsefe timafuna kuti tikhale banja la "it" lomwe tidawona pa TV kapena tidakumana nawo pagulu la abale ndi abwenzi. Kuti mukhale ndi ubale wamalotowo, muyenera kumenyera nkhondo. Mukamayandikira kwambiri mnzanu, mumakhala ndi chikondi chochulukirapo ndipo chimatenga nthawi yayitali.
Pano pali maanja a "it" apadziko lapansi, akutiwonetsa momwe tingakhalire anthu abwinoko komanso othandizana nawo bwino.