Zamkati
- Kupanga chikondi
- 1. Kuchita zinthu mwapadera
- 2. Kukhutitsidwa mumtima
- 3. Kulumikizana kwakukulu
- Kugonana
- 1. Chilakolako chadyera
- 2. Kukhutitsidwa mthupi
- 3. Palibe kulumikizana kwakuya
Kugonana ndikungogonana. Koma ngati muwonjezera kukonda okondedwa anu ku equation ndiye kuti kugonana kungasanduke "kupanga chikondi". Kugonana ndikupanga chikondi sizofanana. Ndikudziwa, ndikudziwa, izi zimamveka mwachidule. Pali zowona m'mawu amenewo. Pakhala nthawi zina pomwe sindikhala wokonzeka kugona ndipo sizitanthauza chimodzimodzi kwa ine monga nthawi zomwe ndili munthawiyo. Tiyeni tiwononge. Nayi kusiyana pakati pakupanga chikondi ndi kugonana. Nkhaniyi ikuthandizani kumvetsetsa zomwe zimachitika pakupanga chikondi komanso ndizosiyana bwanji ndi kugonana.
Kupanga chikondi
1. Kuchita zinthu mwapadera
Kusagwirizana ndi wokondedwa wanu kuyenera kuchitidwa mbali zonse zaubwenzi wanu. Kukhala womasuka ndi woona mtima pachilichonse kumathandiza inu ndi mnzanu kudziwana mozama. Zomwe zimakupatsani mwayi kuti nonse mukhale omasuka wina ndi mnzake.
Kukhala ndi chiwonetsero chowonekeranso kuyenera kupitanso m'moyo wanu wogonana. Pali chochitika chosayerekezeka pomwe onse omwe ali pabanja amatha kugawana chilichonse, kuphatikiza zomwe amasangalala nazo komanso zomwe sakonda pabedi. Osanena za kugonana kwabwino.
2. Kukhutitsidwa mumtima
Ine ndi amuna anga nthawi zonse timatha kuona kusiyana tikalumikizana kwambiri tikamapanga zachikondi. Pakhala nthawi zina pamene kumamveka ngati ndife maiko akutali koma takhala pafupi ndi wina ndi mnzake kapena, nthawi zina, timangogonana. Munthawi izi, koposa pamenepo, ndazindikira kuti sitinakhalepo pakupanga zachikondi kwakanthawi ndikumva kufunikira koti tizilumikizana. Pambuyo pobwera pamodzi ndikukumana m'malo amenewa, tonsefe timakhala ngati tili patsamba limodzi. Kupanga chikondi chenicheni ndikofunikira kuti kulumikizana komwe kulibe kugonana.
3. Kulumikizana kwakukulu
Zandiuza kuti amuna anga amamukonda kwambiri ndikamamufuna. Ndazindikiranso kuti ndikumva bwino ndikulumikizana naye tikakhala okondana sabata iliyonse. Malingaliro awiriwa a "babu yoyatsira" athandiza ine ndi amuna anga kuti mwadala tichite chibwenzi choyambirira. Koma osati mwachangu chabe. Ndikulankhula za kupanga zenizeni, zopanda pake. Kupanga chikondi m'banja ndikofunikira, kungogonana sikokwanira.
Kugonana
1. Chilakolako chadyera
Zikuwoneka kuti ine ndi amuna anga tikangogonana, nthawi zambiri zimakhala chifukwa sindimakhala wokonda ndipo nayenso amatero. KAPENA mosemphanitsa. Izi zikachitika, palibe kulumikizana kwenikweni komwe kumachitika, kungofuna kutsika.
Zomwe zimadza ndi kudzikonda kwenikweni. Palibe aliyense wa ife amene amasamala mokwanira panthawiyo za mnzake yemwe sakufuna kugonana. Zonsezi ndi zomwe akufuna kapena zonse zomwe ndimafuna kutengera yemwe ali mumikhalidwe. Kugonana kotereku, pomwe kumakhala kosangalatsa nthawi yomweyo, kumapangitsa kuti tonse kapena tonsefe tizigwiritsa ntchito tad. Pogonana ndikupanga chikondi, izi ndizomwe zikusowa mu kugonana, chisamaliro cha zomwe mnzake akufuna.
2. Kukhutitsidwa mthupi
Tonse ndife anthu. Chifukwa chake mwachilengedwe, pali nthawi (nthawi zina pafupipafupi kuposa ena) zomwe timamva kuti tikufuna kukhutitsidwa. Ngakhale chikhumbo ichi chingakhale chodabwitsa, chikhozanso kulimbikitsa kudzikonda muukwati wanu nthawi zonse mukakhala zosowa za m'modzi yekha.
Zomwe zimatibwezeretsanso ku lingaliro lathu lonse lodzikonda.
Mfundo yofunika kwambiri, pamene anthu okwatirana sakupanga “chikondi” nthawi zambiri amangogonana zomwe zikutanthauza kuti nthawi zina samamva kukhudzika. Popanga chikondi vs kugonana, kugonana kumatha kukhala kopanda chidwi koma nthawi zonse pamakhala chisangalalo mu gawo lokondana.
3. Palibe kulumikizana kwakuya
Chowonadi chomvetsa chisoni chakulephera kupanga chikondi ndi mnzanu ndikuti palibe mwayi wolumikizana. Zachidziwikire, mutha kukhala abwenzi abwino kwambiri, koma popanda kulumikizana kozama komwe kumagwirizanitsa mwamuna ndi mkazi, mumakhala ogona nawo limodzi.
Kungodutsa mwachangu kapena "fulumirani tithane ndi" mtundu wa zokumana kumalepheretsa kulumikizana kwanu ndi banja lanu. Popanga chikondi vs kugonana, ngati mukuganiza kuti kupanga chikondi ndikosafunikira pomwe pali zogonana komanso maubwenzi, mukulakwitsa kwambiri.
Kusiyanitsa pakati pa kugonana ndi kupanga chikondi sichinthu chofunikira kuthana nacho, komabe, kupanga chikondi chakuya ndichosakambirana kuti mukhale ndi banja labwino komanso lokwaniritsa. Kugonana kunapangidwa kuti kusangalatse, kusangalatsa komanso kulumikiza mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ngati inu kapena mnzanu mukuvutikira kupanga zibwenzi m'malo mongogonana, yesetsani kukhazikitsa malo omwe zosowa zanu zam'maganizo ndi zakuthupi zikukula. Zimatengera nthawi ndikuchita koma ndizofunika pamapeto pake. Pangani chikondi osati kugonana kokha kwa banja lolimba komanso lokwaniritsa.