Zamkati
- Tiyeni tiyambe ndi umboni wopambana
- Kodi chithandizo chothandizira maanja chimagwira ntchito bwanji?
- Chiphunzitso cholumikizira
- Momwe timafotokozera zimachokera pakufuna kumva kuti ndife otetezeka
- Kukulitsa chidziwitso chabwinobwino chachitetezo chodalira chikondi
Chithandizo Chokwatirana Chomwe Chili Maganizo (EFT) ndi njira yothandizira maanja yomwe yathandizira mabanja ambiri.
Imakhazikitsa njira yake pamalingaliro ophatikizika ndipo imayang'ana kwambiri pakuwadziwitsa njira zingapo zoyankhulirana zoyipa ndikuwathandiza kuti akhale ndi ubale wolimba pakati pawo womwe udakhazikitsidwa chifukwa cha chikondi.
Ndi njira yosangalatsa yomwe imamveka bwino, ndipo chimodzi mwazinthu zabwino kwambiri zokhudzana ndi maganizidwe okhudzana ndi maganizidwe ndikuti zimatenga gawo limodzi mwanjira zomwe sizikuphatikizira upangiri pazaka khumi zikubwerazi - zimatenga pakati pa 8- Magawo 20 kutengera maanja omwe akhudzidwa.
Ndiye kodi chithandizo chamankhwala chokhudzana ndimaganizo ndi chiyani?
Tiyeni tiyambe ndi umboni wopambana
Malinga ndi kafukufuku apeza kuti 70 mpaka 75% ya maanja omwe amapitilira chithandizo cha maanja omwe ali ndi chidwi chachita bwino - pomwe adayamba pamavuto ndipo tsopano akuyamba kuchira.
Ndipo si zokhazo - kafukufukuyu adawonetsanso kuti kuchira kumene tikunenaku ndikokhazikika komanso kwanthawi yayitali. Panalibe umboni wambiri wobwerera m'mbuyo. Kuphatikiza apo ngati izi sizikukhutiritsani kwathunthu, 90% mwa mabanja omwe adachita nawo kafukufukuyu adawonetsa kusintha kwakukulu.
Mukamaganizira pazinthu zonse zomwe zimachitika muubwenzi, ndizosavuta kuwona kuti zovuta za upangiri wa maanja ndizazikulu. Chifukwa chake mukapeza zotsatira zolimba kuchokera kuchipatala chotengera maganizidwe, ndizodabwitsa kwambiri.
Kodi chithandizo chothandizira maanja chimagwira ntchito bwanji?
Thandizo lothandizira maanja kutengera malingaliro a John Bowlby.
Chiphunzitso cholumikizira
Chiphunzitso chaziphatikizi chimayang'ana momwe timakhalira ogwirizana ngati ana zomwe zimadalira mulingo wa chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro chomwe tidalandira kuchokera kwa omwe amatisamalira.
Ngati tinalandira chisamaliro chokwanira ndi chisamaliro, timakonda kupanga zolumikizana zabwino komanso zabwino pamayanjano athu achikulire.
Ngati sitinalandire chisamaliro chokwanira ndi chisamaliro kuchokera kwa omwe amatisamalira, ndiye kuti timapanga mitundu yolumikizira yolakwika. Kapenanso vuto lodziphatika, kutengera kukula kwa kusowa kwa chisamaliro chomwe timalandira.
Pafupifupi theka la achikulire aku US akuti ali ndi mawonekedwe olakwika kapena vuto lazolumikizira. Zomwe zikutanthauza kuti pali mwayi waukulu kuti inu kapena mnzanu kapena mnzanu mukhale ndi vuto lotere.
Kwenikweni zomwe zimachitika ngati sitipanga zolumikizana zabwino timakhala osatetezeka mdziko lapansi, tilibe malo oyenera kuyimirirapo, ndipo monga ana, tidzaphunzira momwe tingakhalire mwanjira inayake kuti tikwaniritse zosowa zathu ndi kupulumuka.
Koma momwe timachitira izi mwina zidatithandizira kuyenda ndikumapulumuka m'madzi ovuta ngati khanda, koma sizitithandiza kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ngati akulu.
Vuto ndilakuti, malinga ndi malingaliro azolumikizira, kuti panthawi yomwe tinali kukumana ndi kufunikira kwamakhalidwe amenewa inalinso panthawi yomwe ubongo wathu unkakula.
Chifukwa chake, zomwe tidapanga kuti tikhale ndi moyo zitha kukhazikika mwa ife. Chokhazikika mkati mwakuti mwina sitimatha kuzindikira kuti pali vuto lina kupatula kuti sitingakhale ngati tikukopa ubale wabwino kapena kulisunga tikakhala ndi mwayi.
Momwe timafotokozera zimachokera pakufuna kumva kuti ndife otetezeka
Zonsezi momwe timafotokozera zimachokera pakufunika kodzimva kuti ndife otetezeka padziko lapansi, chifukwa chake titha kukhala osatetezeka pachibwenzi kuti tipewe kutaya chinthu chamtengo wapatali, chodzitchinjiriza kuti tipewe kuvulazidwa, kapena kusakhazikika chifukwa tayamba kusokonekera, njira yotetezera kusatetezeka kwathu.
Chifukwa chake, othandizira maubwenzi omwe ali ndi chidwi atha kukuthandizani kuti mumvetsetse njirazi ndikukuthandizani pakuyenda limodzi ngati banja. Nonse mutha kuyamba kumvetsetsana ndikuphunzira kukhulupirirana ndi kulumikizana.
Kukulitsa chidziwitso chabwinobwino chachitetezo chodalira chikondi
Izi zikachitika nonse mumayamba kukhala ndi chitetezo chokhazikika chifukwa cha chikondi chomwe chimaposa kusowa kwachitetezo komwe mwina mudali nako kale mosazindikira.
Monga munthu amene adakhalapo kalembedwe koyipa, nditha kuchitira umboni kuti ndizotheka kuthana ndi kuwongolera.
Chifukwa chake ngati mungaganize zothandizirana ndi mabanja ngati njira yothetsera vuto lanu ingodziwa izi; ntchito yomwe mukugwira ikuyenera kuthandizira banja lanu kapena ubale kuti mupeze njira yothetsera mavuto.
Ndipo ngati mukagwira ntchitoyi, iwonetsetsa kuti mwatenga njira zamaganizidwe kuti muthe kukonza zomwe zinawonongeka muubwana wanu pakutha kwanu ndikukhala ndi ubale wabwino. Kotero kuti mtsogolo, ndi moyo wanu wonse, simudzafunikanso kuthana ndi vutoli.
Pali mwambi wina womwe umati 'ngati mumalizira zakale simubwereza zomwe mudachita,' ndipo chithandizo chokhudza maanja ndi njira imodzi yochitira izi. Othandizira okhudzidwa ndi malingaliro amakuthandizani kuchita izi.
Chithandizo chamitima ya mabanja chimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi maanja osiyanasiyana, zikhalidwe, ndi machitidwe osiyanasiyana.
EFT imadziwika kuti imathandiza maanja omwe m'modzi kapena onse awiri ali ndi vuto losokoneza bongo, kukhumudwa, matenda osachiritsika kapena matenda a PTSD.
Zatsimikiziranso kukhala zamphamvu kwambiri m'malo omwe maanja akumana ndi kusakhulupirika kapena zochitika zina zowopsa kwambiri.
Itha kuthandizanso kubwezeretsanso mapulogalamu athu am'mbuyomu, kapena zikhulupiriro zathu ndikuyanjanitsa malingaliro aliwonse oponderezedwa kapena owonetsa, ovomerezeka kapena osayenera pamodzi ndi kukhazika mtima pansi ndikuchiritsa mikangano iliyonse yomwe tingakhale tikukumana nayo.
Izi zimalimbikitsa kudalira kwabwino komanso chidziwitso chachitetezo kwa onse awiri.
Tsopano lingalirani izi, ubale wokhala ndi chitetezo, chidaliro, komanso kukhala ndi malingaliro amisala komanso malingaliro. Ndiyo njira yabwino yoyambira mutu watsopano muubwenzi uliwonse. Kodi simukuganiza?