Zamkati
- 1. Musaganize zakusweka kwa mtima
- 2. Khulupiraninso
- 3. Kudzidalira
- 4. Phunzirani maphunziro
- 5. Dziwani zomwe mukuyembekezera
- 6. Musamadandaule kwambiri
- 7. Vomerezani kuti chikondi ndi choopsa
- 8. Dziwonetseni nokha
- Chigamulo
Kugwa mchikondi ndi chibwenzi kumawoneka ngati kulowa munkhondo popanda zida zilizonse, makamaka pomwe zokumana nazo zam'mbuyomu zakupweteketsani inu.
Kuyambanso kukondana mutapwetekedwa kapena kukumana ndi kulephera mchikondi kungakhale kovuta. Zitha kukhala zovuta kuti uziyikenso munthawi yovutayi mutavutika mtima kale.
Muthanso kudziimba mlandu kuti mupanganso ndi munthu wina mutataya yemwe mumamukonda kale. Komabe, nazi maupangiri oti muzikondanso ndikudziwathandiza kuyambitsa nkhani yatsopano yachikondi ndikupeza yankho la funso, momwe mungayambirenso kukondana.
1. Musaganize zakusweka kwa mtima
Simungalole zokumana nazo zoyipa kuyenda nanu kulikonse komwe mungapite.
Kuyambanso kukondana mutapwetekedwa kumakhala kovuta kuti muthe, koma sikuyenera kuoneka ngati cholepheretsa mukamacheza ndi munthu amene angathe. Kupwetekedwa mtima kwanu kwakale sikuyenera kukhudza pano.
2. Khulupiraninso
Moyo wanu nthawi zonse wakukonzerani zabwino.
Malingaliro omwe samabweretsa zowawa zilizonse kapena zopweteketsa mtima. Kodi mungakhulupirire bwanji mutapwetekedwa? Muyenera kudzipatsa mwayi wina wokhulupirira dziko lapansi, ndipo njira yabwino kwambiri ndikusiya zomwe simungasinthe.
3. Kudzidalira
Mukuyenera kukondedwa, ndinu ofunikira, muli ndi ufulu wokhala ndi chikondi m'moyo wanu.
Kungakhale kovuta kukhulupirira, makamaka mukakumana ndi zoyipa ndi anzanu komanso mnzanu yemwe amakudzudzulani chifukwa cha zolakwa zanu.
Chifukwa chake, aliyense akuyenera kukondedwa ndikudzipangitsa kudzimva kuti akufunidwa, uyenera kukulitsa kudzidalira. Njira zopweteketsa ndikuphatikizapo kudzikonda nokha ndikudziuza tsiku ndi tsiku kuti ndiwe wangwiro, ndipo umayenera kukondedwa.
4. Phunzirani maphunziro
Kudziwonetsa nokha kuti mumakonda mukamva kuwawa sikungatheke.
Njira yabwino yakulimbikira ndikuyimirira kumbuyo mutagwetsedwa. Kuti mutsegule ku izi zachikondi kachiwiri, kuti mudzikonzekeretse mayesero ena amoyo.
Kuti muyambenso kukondana mutapwetekedwa muyenera kuphunzira kuchokera pamaphunziro omwe kusweka mtima kwanu kunakuphunzitsani; mwina imakuwuzani kuti muzidzikonda kwambiri, kapena mwina yakuphunzitsani kuti musabwereze zolakwitsa zomwe mudapanga muubwenzi wapitawo.
Kuphunzira ndikusuntha ndi gawo limodzi la moyo, ndipo kumakuwonetsani kudzidalira.
5. Dziwani zomwe mukuyembekezera
Zolinga zoyambilira za ubale ndizocheza, kuthandizana, kukondana, komanso kukondana.
Mwamwayi, momwe malingaliro awa amapindulira zimadalira munthu ndi munthu. Kuti mukondanenso mutapwetekedwa, muyenera kusanthula ndikuwona zomwe mumayika komanso zomwe mumakumana nazo zomwe mumayembekezera kuchokera kwa mnzanu.
Kudziwa momwe mungatsegulire chikondi, muyenera kuzindikira chomwe chili chofunikira kwambiri pazomwe muli komanso zomwe mungalolere.
Kuika zofuna ndi zoyembekeza zanu kuchokera kwa mnzanu kungakuthandizeni kuzikwaniritsa mosavuta.
6. Musamadandaule kwambiri
Mtima wanu ungafunike nthawi kuti uchiritse.
Dzipatseni nthawi yabwino kuti muthe. Chezani ndi anthu atsopano ndikuyika patsogolo malingaliro anu amkati.
Njira zopezera kuvulala zimaphatikizapo kutenga nthawi yanu kuti musinthe ndikuyesa kuyambitsa moyo wachikondi watsopano. Weruzani mnzanu moyenera, muuzeni zomwe mukuyenera kuchita komanso zomwe mukufunikira kuchokera pachibwenzi nawo.
7. Vomerezani kuti chikondi ndi choopsa
Ngati mukufuna kukondanso mutapwetekedwa, muyenera kuvomereza kuti zotulukapo za chikondi sizotsimikizika.
Monga zinthu zina m'moyo, chikondi chimayeneranso kukhala pachiwopsezo, ndipo ngati chingagwire ntchito, chimasangalatsa moyo wanu wonse. Kuyambanso kukondana mutapweteka kumangopanga njira yoyenera ndikupanga zisankho zoyenera.
8. Dziwonetseni nokha
Kukhala wokhoza kukonda kumafunanso kuwona mtima.
Zinthu zomwe zimasokonekera sikuti zimachokera kumbali ina. Nthawi zina ndi inuyo, ndipo nthawi zina mumakhala mnzanu. Nthawi zina ndi pomwe mantha ndi kusakhazikika kumachitika. Ngati mutha kuthana ndi zomwe sizikuyenda bwino kuchokera kumbali yanu ndikuthandizira kuchita bwino, mudzakhala opambana mchikondi chanu.
Chigamulo
Muyenera kukhala opanda mantha.
Tsegulani mtima wanu pazotheka zambiri. Tsitsani mlondayo. Zikhala zochititsa mantha. Mtima wanu uthamanga mosadziwika ndi zotheka patsogolo panu. Koma ndikofunika kukondedwa ndikukondedwa ndipo ndi momwe mungayambire kukondanso.