Zamkati
- 1. Phunzirani momwe mungawonere kuyatsa kwa gasi
- 2. Khalani okhazikika mu zenizeni zanu
- 3. Detach
- 4. Dzuka pamutu pako
- 5. Aphe mwachifundo
- 6. Siyani
Kuwunikira gasi ndi njira ina yochitira nkhanza m'maganizo momwe wozunzayo amapangitsa wozunzidwayo kufunsa zaumoyo wawo ndikudziimba mlandu wa nkhanzazo. Ndizobisalira ndipo zimakhala zovuta kulimbana nazo ndipo ndicho chida chokonda kwambiri cha wankhanza.
Kuphunzira momwe mungalimbanirane ndi kuyatsa kwa wankhanza ndikofunikira kuti mupulumuke ndi bwenzi lachiwerewere.
Yesani njira 5 izi polimbana ndi kuwunikira kwa wanamisili
1. Phunzirani momwe mungawonere kuyatsa kwa gasi
Simungalimbane kapena kusokoneza chikhalidwe mpaka mutaphunzira kuchizindikira.
Phunzirani zizindikilo zakuti wolemba narcissist akuwunikirani chifukwa zingakuthandizeni kuphunzira momwe mungalimbanirane ndi kuyatsa kwa wonyenga
Izi zikuphatikiza kukuwuzani kuti mukukumbukira china chake cholakwika kapena mudangoyerekeza; kukunenezani kuti ndinu "wovuta kwambiri"; kuyesera kuti ndikuuzeni zakukhosi kwanu chifukwa choti "simuyenera kumva choncho" kapena "sizomwe ndimatanthauza."
Ena mwa ma narcissist amaponya malingaliro ozungulira ndi "mawu a saladi". Mawu ambiri omveka bwino omwe samanena chilichonse poyesa kusokoneza omwe achitidwenso.
Olemba anzawo ena amanama ngati gawo la kuyatsa mafuta, monga kukana kuti sananenapo kanthu kapena kuchita zinazake zomwe womenyedwayo amakumbukira bwino.
Anamizanso kuti asinthe kuyankha kwawo pazomwe achita komanso zolephera zawo, makamaka akamakakamiza wovutikayo kuti adziimbe mlandu.
2. Khalani okhazikika mu zenizeni zanu
Chimodzi mwazotsatira zazikulu zowunikira mpweya ndikuti zimapangitsa wovutikayo kufunsa momwe amamuonera zenizeni. Kuuzidwa nthawi zonse kuti mumakumbukira zovuta kapena kuti sizinachitike konse, kapena kuti mukuganiza zinthu, zimakhudza psyche wanu.
Kukhazikika pazowona zanu kumakuthandizani kuti muzilimbikira zomwe mukudziwa kuti ndi zoona. Lembani zinthu pansi ngati mukuyenera kutero, kuti mukhale ndi zolemba mwatsatanetsatane zoti mubwererenso mukayamba kukayikira zinazake.
Pezani munthu kapena gulu lomwe mungalankhule nalo kuti mulandire thandizo komanso mukhale ndi anthu omwe angatsimikizire akaunti yanu yazomwe zachitika.
Kuyeseza kudzilankhula ndikudzikumbutsa kuti mukudziwa zomwe zidachitika, mukudziwa zomwe mukumva, komanso kuti malingaliro anu ali ovomerezeka amathanso kukuthandizani kuti mukhale olimba.
3. Detach
Zingakhale zovuta pakati pa gawo lowunikira mafuta, koma gulu limodzi ndi njira imodzi yolimbana ndi kuwunikira kwa wanamisili.
Choyamba, kutchinjiriza kumakuthandizani kuti musapewe chidwi chachilengedwe, chokhudzidwa ndimagetsi ndipo chimapangidwira kuti muteteze. Chachiwiri, kutsekereza kumalepheretsa mphamvu zanu kusinthanitsa, zomwe zimachotsera wankhanza mphamvu zomwe akufuna.
Yesetsani kukhala pagulu pobwerera m'mbuyo mukayamba kuyatsa gasi.
Chitani kusinthanaku ngati kuti ndimomwe mukuyang'ana, osati kutenga nawo mbali. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale otetezeka ku zotsatira za kuwunikira kwa mpweya. Wolemba zamankhwala amathanso kukhumudwitsidwa ndikusowa kwa magetsi kotero kuti amasiya kukambirana.
4. Dzuka pamutu pako
Mofanana ndi gulu, kuzindikira kuwala kwa gasi kungakuthandizeni kulimbana nawo.
Kuzindikira kuwunikira kwa gasi kumachepetsa mayankho amomwe wolemba narcissist amafuna.
Yankhani kwa wolemba nkhani mwachidule komanso mwachidule. Funsani mafunso achindunji. Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti muchepetse nkhawa pankhope panu ndi mawu anu. Izi zonse zikhumudwitsa ndikusokoneza wanamisili. Izi zimapita kutali mukamayesetsa kulimbana ndi kuwunikira kwa narcissist
Intellectualizing ingakuthandizeninso kuti mukhale odekha mukamayang'ana magetsi, komwe kumatha kukhala chida chofunikira popanga zisankho zabwino zamomwe mungayankhire kwa wankhanza pakadali pano komanso mtsogolo.
5. Aphe mwachifundo
Chomwe chimakhala ndi ma narcissist nthawi zonse chimakhala cha iwo.
Ma Narcissist amakula bwino potamandidwa, kutsimikizika, ndikumva kuti ndiwabwino komanso olondola.
Ngakhale simukukhulupirira kwenikweni, lembani nkhaniyo mukamayatsa magetsi potembenuka kuti mukhale za wankhanza.
Awasambitseni ndi matamando. M'malo molimbana, pangani zokambirana za wankhanza komanso zomwe zili zabwino kwa iwo. Musaope kukhala opatsa chidwi.
Chodabwitsa ndichakuti, kumangodumphadumpha ndi zambiri zomwe angafune zitha kuwapanikiza ndikuwapangitsa kuti atseke gawo lowunikira. Izi mwina sizothandiza kwanthawi yayitali, koma zitha kukhala zothandiza munthawi yomwe muyenera kusokoneza kuwunika kwa gasi momwe zikuchitikira.
6. Siyani
Ichi ndi chovuta kwambiri kuchita, koma chothandiza kwambiri.
Mukangoona zokambirana zomwe zikupita kumalo opangira mafuta, zithetseni. Nenani zonga izi, "Sindikukambirana izi" ndikuchepetsa kuchezerako. Ngati mutha kuchoka m'deralo, ndibwino kwambiri.
Ngakhale mutakopeka ndi sewero lakulumikizana ndi wankhanza, mutha kuyimitsa mabuleki nthawi iliyonse. Kudula mgwirizanowu kumalepheretsa wogwiritsa ntchito mankhwalawa, ndipo mwina adzawadabwitsa. Izi zimabwezeretsa mphamvu mmanja mwanu.