Zamkati
- Sanjani mwayi wogonana
- Mutha kusintha kuyambira pachiyambi ndikupanga chidwi chogonana
- Sangalalani ndi ulendowu osayang'ana komwe mukupita
- Kukonzekera kumasonyeza kudzipereka
- Mutha kukhalabe mokhazikika
Anthu amaganiza kuti kukonza nthawi kumabweretsa chisangalalo chonse chogonana. Mabanja omwe ndimachita nawo amavutika ndi lingaliro lopanga masiku oti akhale mabwenzi apamtima. Amaphonya kusadziletsa komwe anali nako m'moyo wawo wogonana. Amandiuza kuti kugonana kumangokhala ngati ntchito kapena mndandanda wazinthu ngati angawoneke nthawi yakonzedweratu, kaya ali ndi malingaliro ogonana kapena ayi.
Koma ngati moyo wanu watanganidwa ndipo chidwi chanu choyambacho chayambika, zikuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi chidwi chofuna kukondana.
Sanjani mwayi wogonana
Ndiloleni ndiyambe kunena kuti sindikuganiza kuti muyenera kukonzekera kugonana, ndikuganiza kuti muyenera kukonza mwayi wogonana. Ndikulangiza kuti maanja aganize zogonana ngati ulendo wopita kumalo osewerera. Ndikutuluka komwe kuli kofunika, osati zomwe mumachita mukafika kumeneko.
Inu ndi mnzanu mumavomereza kupita kukasewera. Mumachita zomwe mukufuna mphindi iliyonse. Inu mukhale motalika momwe inu mukufuna kukhalira. Palibe chomwe chimati muyenera kutsika; mutha kupendekera pang'ono kapena kukhala pa benchi. Simusankhiratu zomwe mukufuna kuchita; mumakafika kumeneko ndikuwona momwe mukumvera.
Izi ndikupanga malingaliro akuti "mwina" pankhani yogonana.
M'malo mongonena kuti, chifukwa choti simukukhala ndi nkhawa pakadali pano, pitani kumalo osewerera kuti muwone zomwe zikuchitika. Mukafika kumeneko ndikusintha magiya, mukayamba kusokoneza pang'ono, mutha kukhala ndi chidwi chambiri chogonana. Nthawi zina nthawi, mumatha kufuna kugonana pomwe simukadakhala ndi chikhumbo ngati simunayambe.
Mutha kusintha kuyambira pachiyambi ndikupanga chidwi chogonana
Izi zimatenga mwayi wofunikira kuti maanja amvetsetse. Mmodzi kapena nonse a inu mungakhale ndi zomwe ndimazitcha "chilakolako chogonana." Chikhumbo choyambirira chimadziwika ndi malingaliro azakugonana komanso chidwi; wina amaganiza zogonana, amadzimva wokonda zokha kapena chilakolako, ndipo amafuna kugonana. Koma chilakolako chofuna kuchitapo kanthu chimayenera kuchotsedwa.
Inu kapena mnzanu mwina simukuganiza zogonana kapena mwina simungamangotuluka kapena kudzutsidwa. Mukafunsidwa ngati mukufuna kugonana, nthawi zambiri yankho loti "ayi."
Koma ngati mupita, ngati zinthu zili bwino ndi mnzanuyo, ngati mutapeza nthawi ndikumugwira zomwe mukufuna, mutha kuyamba kuyankha. Mungayambe kudzuka. Injiniyo ikutembenuka! Ndiyeno mungafune kugonana.
Chikhumbo choyambiranso chimafuna china chake choti muchitepo kanthu. Pamafunika kufunitsitsa kuyamba ndi mwayi kutuluka.
Zimatanthauza kuti muyenera kuyambira zero ndikupatsa mwayi. Kupita kumalo osewerera, mosasunthika koma osayembekezera, kumapereka mwayi wofunafuna mwayi wowonekera.
Sangalalani ndi ulendowu osayang'ana komwe mukupita
Anthu ambiri amangoyang'ana pa kugonana kapena chiwerewere kotero kuti aiwala momwe angasangalalire ndi chisangalalo komanso kulumikizana komwe angakhale nako pazochitika zawo zonse zakuthupi. Ngati mwafika pogonana ndi chiyembekezo chokhudzana ndi kugonana kapena kufika pachimake, mutha kukhala mukudutsa modabwitsa magawo ena onse a njirayi.
"Kupita kumalo osewerera" kumakupatsani mpata wosangalala ndi chilichonse chomwe mukuchita pakadali pano, kulola zoyembekezera za komwe zidzathere.
Mukamatha kusangalala ndi kuyandikira ndi kukhudzana ndi mnzanu popanda kukhala ndi cholinga, zokumana nazo zanu zonse zimayenda bwino. Palibe cholephera ngati nonse mungasangalale ndi zomwe mukuchita.
Kukonzekera kumasonyeza kudzipereka
Pamene moyo watha, mukakhala otanganidwa ndi ana kapena ntchito, mukadapitilira nthawi yogonana koyambirira muubwenzi wanu, makamaka ngati m'modzi wa inu ali ndi chilakolako chogonana, ndikofunikira kuyika patsogolo zogonana moyo pakupatula nthawi yake.
Mwina mulibe nthawi yopumira pomwe mukugwedeza zala zanu zazikulu ndikudabwa choti muchite. Moyo umatenga. Muyenera kutenga nthawi kuti muigwiritse ntchito mwachikondi. China chake chiyenera kupereka.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake kukonzekera mwayi woti ugonane ndikofunika; zikuwonetsa kudzipereka pakuika ndalama mu ubale wanu.
Mutha kukhalabe mokhazikika
Kumbukirani kuti mutha kukhala ndi zokumana modzidzimutsa, nanunso! Chifukwa choti mumapanga maulendo opita kumalo osewerera sizitanthauza kuti simungayang'ane ndikugwiritsa ntchito mwayi wina wogonana limodzi.
Koma ngati izi sizichitika, osatinso kawirikawiri, osachepera mumakhala ndi mwayi wochezeka ndikuwona komwe ukupita. Mumakhala ndi chisangalalo chochuluka komanso kulumikizana kuposa ngati simunatenge maulendo amenewo.