Zamkati
- 1. Khalani mtundu wa munthu amene mukufuna wokondedwa wanu kukhala
- 2. Khalani owerengera ndikutsimikizira momwe mnzanu akumvera
- 3. Yambirani kuthetsa mavuto limodzi
- Justin Lioi, LCSW
- 4. Samalani ndi zovuta zomwe muli nazo kale pachibwenzi
- 5. Chitirani mnzanu momwe mumachitira poyamba
- 6. Gwiritsani ntchito Chaka Chatsopano kuthana ndi mavuto akale
- 7. Khalani ndi zolinga zomwe mwakhala mukuzinyalanyaza
- 8. Phatikizani mnzanuyo mu malingaliro anu a chaka chatsopano
- 9. Chotsani kunyalanyaza ndikugwiritsa ntchito mikhalidwe yolimbikitsa
- 10. Kudziwitsa, kulingalira, ndi kulingalira
- 11. Pangani chidziwitso chanu
- 12. Sankhani mbali zina zaubwenzi wanu
- 13. Kambiranani ndi wokondedwa wanu za zolinga zanu limodzi
- 14. Kufunitsitsa kuwona ubale kuti ndi chiyani
- 15. Onetsani mnzanu kuti mumamukonda
- 16. Dzikhululukire ndi kusiya zakale
- 17. Phatikizani zizolowezi zolumikizana zabwino
- 18. Mwayi wopeza zatsopano komanso zowona mtima
- 19. Muzikhala ndi mfundo zabwino
- 20. Siyani mantha
- 21. Yambitsani zosintha kuti mukhale ndi banja labwino
- 22. Dziwani zabwino zomwe banja lanu limachita
Chiyambi cha chaka chatsopano chimabweretsa chidwi, kudzoza, ndikuyembekeza kwatsopano zosintha m'moyo wathu.
Timadzipereka kuphatikiza zinthu zatsopano ndi zizolowezi kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino, wathanzi, komanso moyo wathanzi. Timalola zisankho zachikale komanso zakupha zomwe tidapanga m'mbuyomu kuti tipeze njira yatsopano yamoyo.
Komabe, polemba mindandanda yathu, timangoyang'ana tokha.
Sitikudziwa izi ife tokha sitingapangitse miyoyo yathu kukhala yathanzi ndikukwaniritsa; Zotizungulira, anthu otizungulira amakhalanso ndi chidwi, makamaka anzathu.
Ubale wathu, monga zinthu zina zonse, umafunikira nthawi ndi khama kuti ulimbe.
Chaka chatsopano, tsimikizani kuti mukhale nokha wabwino kwambiri ndikuchitapo kanthu kuti muthandize ubale wanu, kuthana ndi mavuto.
Komanso, onani momwe kusintha kwakung'ono kungapangire kusiyana kwakukuluCE:
Chitani zinthu zofunikira kuti Dziwani zaubwenzi waposachedwa womwe inu ndi mnzanu mukulimbana nawo ndi kupeza njira zothetsera mavutowa.
Akatswiri akuwulula momwe mungathetsere zovuta zaubwenzi wakale ndikupumira moyo watsopano muubwenzi wanu.
1. Khalani mtundu wa munthu amene mukufuna wokondedwa wanu kukhala
Catherine DeMonte, LMFT
Anthu nthawi zonse amati ubale wabwino ndi 50- 50. Sindimavomereza. Ndi 100/100.
Pamene munthu aliyense akubweretsa ku chiyanjano 100%, osadikirira kuti wina apange gawo loyamba ngati kukhala woyamba kupepesa, woyamba kunena "Ndimakukonda," woyamba kuswa chete, ndizomwe zimapangitsa mgwirizano wabwino.
Anthu onsewa amabweretsa zabwino pagome.
Chaka chatsopano ikhoza kukhala nthawi yabwino yopanga izi muukwati wanu. Khalani mtundu wa munthu yemwe mukufuna mnzanuyo akhale. Zomwe mumayika zimakula. Pezani njira zobweretsera kuunika ku banja lanu!
2. Khalani owerengera ndikutsimikizira momwe mnzanu akumvera
Pia Johnson, LMSW
Mukamagawana nkhani m'banjamo, lankhulani za inu nokha, zomwe mudachita, ndi zomwe mungachite mosiyana mtsogolo.
Yesetsani kuimba mlandu, kudzudzula, kapena kuyambiranso zochitika zakale ndi mnzanu. Gwiritsani ntchito zokambiranazi ngati chida chophunzitsira kuchiritsa mabala am'mbuyomu, pangani zotsatira zatsopano pazakale, ndikupititsa patsogolo ulendo wanu wamoyo limodzi.
Potengera kutsimikizika, lemekezani malingaliro amnzanu ndikuwalola kuti afotokozere zomwe akumana nazo. Osadzitchinjiriza ndikuwachotsa pamutu wa nkhondo.
Kuvomerezeka ndi njira yosonyezera kuti mumalemekeza malingaliro ndi malingaliro amnzanu momwe amawawonera.
Izi zimathandiza kuti pakhale chiopsezo chachikulu, kukhulupirirana, komanso kukondana, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti ubale wawo ukhale wolimba. Kumbukirani kuyang'ana mtsogolo; izi ndikupanga dongosolo latsopano la Chaka Chatsopano.
3. Yambirani kuthetsa mavuto limodzi
Justin Lioi, LCSW
Wogwira Ntchito Zachipatala OloledwaNdi mavuto ati omwe mwakhala mukuyesetsa kuthetsa nokha omwe ndi nkhani zaubwenzi?
Mwina muli ndi dandaulo pazinthu zomwe simumachita-zina zapakhomo, pabedi, zogwirira ntchito yanu ndipo mwalinganiza njira yabwino yoziwonetsera.
Ndizodabwitsa kuti timayesetsa kangati kusintha zinthu zomwe zimakhudza ubale wathu patokha.
Tiyeni tigwiritse ntchito Chaka Chatsopano kudalirana.
Osatinso komwe mukupempha mnzanu kuti anyamule katundu, koma zokwanira kuti ubale wanu usakhale pamapewa anu nokha.
4. Samalani ndi zovuta zomwe muli nazo kale pachibwenzi
VICKI BOTNICK, MA, MS, LMFT
Bwanji ngati mutayamba chaka chatsopano ndikupatsa chidwi chaubwenzi wanu monga m'chiuno mwanu kapena zolinga zanu pantchito?
Zambiri mwamaganizidwe athu zimakhudzana ndi tokha, kaya tikuyembekeza kuti thupilo likhoza kukhala kapena tikhala ndi nthawi yocheperako yolumikizidwa ndi mafoni athu.
Koma ngati titagwiritsa ntchito theka la mphamvuzi kwa mnzathu, titha yang'anani mavuto akale ndi masomphenya atsopano ndikupeza mphamvu zatsopano kuti mugwire ntchito pazakale.
- Kodi mungasankhe chiyani ngati ubale wanu unali wofunikira kwambiri?
- Kodi izi zingasinthe bwanji kulera kwanu, kugonana kwanu, chidwi chanu pamoyo?
Mutha kuthana ndi izi mwanjira iliyonse yomwe mungafune, kuyambira kwambiri mpaka kuwunika komanso kusangalala. Mwinamwake mungasankhe kupeza wothandizira ndipo potsirizira pake mudzayang'ane ndi machitidwe omwe akhala akukhalitsa omwe akukukokerani inu nonse pansi.
Kapena m'malo mwake, mutha kulonjeza kuti mudzakongoletsa zachikondi pamoyo wanu.
Lingaliro limodzi ndi losavuta monga kuyambitsa zochitika zatsopano limodzi, monga gulu la vinyo-ndi-kujambula kapena ulendo wokakwera miyala.
Iliyonse mwamaganizowa imatha kupatsa mphamvu ubale wanu ndikuthandizani kuti muziyang'anirana mwatsopano.
Kupanga malingaliro pamaubwenzi ndi njira yachangu yokulitsira kulumikizana, kukondana, ndi chisangalalo, zinthu zitatu zofunika kuubwenzi wokhalitsa komanso wokhutiritsa.
5. Chitirani mnzanu momwe mumachitira poyamba
Allison Cohen, MA, MFT (Adasankhidwa)
Aliyense wamvapo mawu akuti, "Chaka chatsopano, chatsopano," koma izi zitha kugwiranso ntchito paubwenzi wanu.
Kuyambiranso kumatha kuchitika nthawi iliyonse, koma chiyembekezo chatsopano cha chaka chatsopano chikhoza kukhala mwayi wabwino wochita zinthu zakale, zayiwalika ndikugawana zabwino zanu. Fotokozerani momwe mumachitira ndi wokondedwa wanu m'miyezi itatu yoyambirira ya chibwenzi ndipo pomwepo pangani mapu olumikizirana ndi kukonzanso.
6. Gwiritsani ntchito Chaka Chatsopano kuthana ndi mavuto akale
Julie Brams, MA, LMFT
Nthawi zambiri, ngati timayandikira Chaka Chatsopano ndi Maganizo a Woyambitsa kapena osayembekezera.
M'malo mwake, timafikira atsopano ndi zomwe tikudziwa kale ndikuyembekezera kuti zidzachitikanso. Apa pali conundrum komanso yankho lolankhula ndi zakale mu zatsopano. Makamaka, tikufuna kuphunzira kuthana ndi mavuto athu akale muubwenzi wathu ndi malingaliro atsopano, ndi Maganizo Oyambira.
Tikufuna kupanga kusintha kwamalingaliro athu akale. Kupanda kutero, ubale wathu uzisewera wamba, pomwe timapanga chisankho kuti tichite zinthu mosiyana chaka chino.
Gawo loyamba ndikuvomereza zoyembekezera zakale, ngakhale musanalowe m'madzi momwe mungathetsere mavuto am'mabanja kapena momwe mungakonzere ubale womwe walephera.
Mukazindikira kuyembekezera kwakale, chonde tengani kamphindi kuti muwone mfundo zomwe mwalumikizidwa nazo.
Pomwe zikhulupiliro zathu zazikulu sizikwaniritsidwa, timakhala ndi nkhawa, kukhumudwa, kapena kukangana pamene tikufuna kuti zosowa zathu zidziwike ndi mnzathu.
Kumvetsetsa zofunikira zanu, mwachitsanzo, chitetezo, nthawi yabwino, kapena nthawi yabwino, zitha kuthandiza kuyambitsa njira yatsopano pazokambirana zakale.
Onetsetsani kuti muwone ngati zomwe mumayendera komanso zomwe mnzanu akugwirizana ndizogwirizana.
Mutha kupeza zotsutsana monga chosowa chanu chokhala nokha chotsutsana ndi chosowa cha mnzanu chokhala ndi nthawi yolumikizana.
Zonsezi ndi "zolondola" koma zimafunika kukambirana. Funsanani wina ndi mnzake momwe mungathetsere mavuto limodzi kuti mukwaniritse mfundo zanu.
Kuchokera pamaganizidwe, Chaka Chatsopano chimatithandiza kuthana ndi zovuta zakale zaubwenzi ndi malingaliro atsopano kapena Maganizo Oyambira.
Khalani ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zosowa za mnzanu ndipo khalani ndi mwayi wofufuza mayankho pamafunso, "kuthana ndi mavuto aubwenzi" kapena "momwe mungathetsere mavuto abwenzi."
Popanda kulingalira izi, maubale athu amatha kusewera ngakhale tikamapanga chisankho kuti tichite zinthu mosiyana chaka chino.
7. Khalani ndi zolinga zomwe mwakhala mukuzinyalanyaza
Lauren E. Taylor, LMFT
Chaka Chatsopano ndi nthawi yabwino yoyambira kumene komanso ubale watsopano.
Iyi ikhoza kukhala mphindi yoyesera china chatsopano limodzi chomwe chingabwezeretse kulumikizana kwanu ndikubweretsa chiyembekezo kuubwenzi wanu.
Gwirani ntchito limodzi kuti mupange chizolowezi chatsopano, ikani zomwe mwayang'ana pacholinga chomwe mwakhala mukuyikapo kumbuyo, kapena pitani kokaona malo oyandikira kumapeto kwa sabata. Chilichonse chomwe mungachite, gwirani ntchito limodzi ngati gawo limodzi kuti mukonzekere bizinesi yanu yatsopano.
Kukonzekera kumeneku ndikuphatikizana kukupatsani nthawi komanso kulumikizana kofunikira kuti mupite patsogolo ndikuwononga zosintha muubwenzi wanu. Ino ndi nthawi yabwino ku pezani othandizira ena omwe angakuthandizeni kuti muyambe kuyanjana m'njira yomwe imalimbikitsa kukula kwanu limodzi.
Sungani magawo ena azithandizo, kupita kumabanja angapo kumapeto kwa sabata kapena kuyanjananso ndi m'busa amene anakumana nanu paguwa lansembe.
8. Phatikizani mnzanuyo mu malingaliro anu a chaka chatsopano
Yana Kaminsky, MA, LMFT
Zosankha za Chaka Chatsopano nthawi zambiri zimakhudzana ndi zolinga za munthu, kupatula mnzake. Chifukwa chake, phatikizani mnzanu akuyenera kuyamba mndandanda.
Ngati mumatchula zaubwenzi wanu wakale, sinthani nyimbo; yang'anani zomwe mumachita bwino: kodi ndinu gulu labwino?
Osapeputsa mphamvu yazinthu zazing'ono: kuyamika, chakudya, mphatso popanda chochitika. Ndipo ndikukhulupirira, kuyamika ndi nthabwala zidzakhala nanu nthawi zonse!
9. Chotsani kunyalanyaza ndikugwiritsa ntchito mikhalidwe yolimbikitsa
Dr. Debra Mandel
Kuyamba kwa chaka chatsopano kumabweretsa kudzoza ndikulonjeza kusintha kwa anthu ambiri.
Koma kuti ubale wathu ukhale wolimba komanso kuti tisapitilize zomwezo zobwezerezedwanso, tiyenera kuzindikira zomwe timachita kuti tikwaniritse zoipa m'miyoyo yathu komanso gwiritsani ntchito kusintha ndi kakhalidwe kakhalidwe.
Potero, zotsatira zosiyana ndi zabwino zidzakula! Chifukwa chake yambani kubzala mbewu zatsopano tsopano!
10. Kudziwitsa, kulingalira, ndi kulingalira
Timothy Rogers, MA, LMFT
Inde, ndizakuya chonchi.
Komabe, uwu ukhoza kukhala CHAKA pamene mungathe kuchiritsa kuchokera ku njira zakale zophunzirira zolumikizana molakwika, malo okhala ena (ndikukhala okwiya nazo), komanso “Anthu okondweretsa” kapena kuyesa kulamulira ena.
Bwanji? Kudziwitsa. Chidziwitso, Kulingalira, Kuganizira. Koma osati za ena omwe muli pachibwenzi nawo, a INU, choyamba ena, motere.
Mavuto onse muubwenzi wathu ali ndi gawo limodzi: Kumverera.
Ndikudziwa, "duh!" Koma taganizirani momwe tidadziwitsidwira komanso momwe malingaliro athu ndi njira zawo, momwe timasamalirira m'banja lathu, zikuwuzani zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa pazomwe mudakumana nazo komanso mbiri yakale yaubwenzi muubwenzi komanso zovuta zamtsogolo zaubwenzi.
Osanenapo onetsani kuwonekera kwakukulu pamavuto abwenzi anu pano, zomwe zikuthandizireni kukutengera ku maubale amtsogolo omwe sanakwaniritsidwe.
Mukazindikira za mabanja omwe ali ndi chidwi chodziwika bwino ndi zokumana nazo ndi malingaliro osakhutiritsa maubwenzi omwe adatsatira, mudzadziwa momwe mungathetsere kuchiritsidwa ndi kutaya zovuta zamabanja akale, osati za chaka chino zokha koma za ena onse za moyo wanu!
11. Pangani chidziwitso chanu
Deryl Goldenberg, PhD
Ambiri aife tilibe luso loti tikhale ndi ubale womwe tikufuna ndikudzudzula mnzathu chifukwa chakusakhutira kwathu.
Bwanji osakumana ndi izi ndikuyang'ana kukulitsa kudzidziwitsa kwathu komanso kuthekera kwathu sungani kuyambiranso kwathu ndikuthana ndi mavuto muubwenzi? Kuphunzira Chilankhulo chazovuta zamaganizidwe chimathandiza kwambiri.
12. Sankhani mbali zina zaubwenzi wanu
Dr. Mimi Shagaga
Kwa ambiri, Chaka Chatsopano chimapereka mwayi woyambira zatsopano. Tsopano ipange nthawi yoyenera kuthana ndi mavuto am'mabanja.
Kwa okwatirana, ikhoza kukhala nthawi yoti achite kuwunika ndikuikanso patsogolo pazomwe zili pachibwenzi chawo. Kuganizira za chaka cham'mbuyomu kungathandize maanja kuzindikira zaubwenzi kapena njira zomwe akufuna kusiya. Akhozanso kusankha zosintha ndikukonzekera zolinga limodzi.
13. Kambiranani ndi wokondedwa wanu za zolinga zanu limodzi
Marcie B. Scranton, LMFT
Kuyamba kwa Januware kumamvanso ngati kubwerera ku chikhalidwe komanso ngati tchuthi tchuthi. Koma ikuyimiranso slate yoyera.
M'malo mopanga zisankho, yambani chaka chatsopano polankhula ndi mnzanu za zolinga zanu.
Onani momwe amakhalira mzere, kusanthula, ndikupeza thandizo ngati pakufunika upangiri wambiri pamavuto abwenzi komanso zida zoyenera kuthana ndi mavuto aubwenzi osathetsa banja.
14. Kufunitsitsa kuwona ubale kuti ndi chiyani
Tamika Lewis, LCSW
Monga katswiri wama psychology, ndimawona Chaka Chatsopano kukhala nthawi yabwino pazomwe ndimatcha "kukonza ubale wanu ndikuthetsa mavuto amubwenzi.”
Ndimakonda mawu a Annie Dillard akuti, “Momwe timagwiritsira ntchito masiku athu, ndimomwe timagwiritsira ntchito miyoyo yathu.”Tsiku limodzi lokhala ndi nkhawa m'maganizo ndi mumtima nthawi zambiri limasanduka nthawi yakukwiya. Chinsinsi cha kuchotsa zizolowezi zakale mu ubale wanu ali wofunitsitsa kuwona ubalewo kuti ndi chiyani. Yambani ndikudzifunsa mafunso otsatirawa:
- Kodi pali china chomwe ndikufunikira muubwenzi uno chomwe sindikuchipeza?
- Kodi ndinafotokozera zosowa zanga momasuka, moona mtima, komanso molunjika?
- Kodi ndasiya kupeza zomwe ndikufuna?
15. Onetsani mnzanu kuti mumamukonda
Dr.Gary Brown, Ph.D., LMFT, FAPA
Njira imodzi yothandiza kwambiri yothetsera mavuto akale ndi kuyamba tsiku lililonse mwa kufunsa mnzanu funso ili:
"Ndingatani kuti ndikuthandizeni kuti tsiku lanu likhale labwino lero?"
Kungofunsa funso ili kumamuwonetsa mnzanu kuti ndinu ali ndi chidwi ndi thanzi lawo komanso chimwemwe chawo.
16. Dzikhululukire ndi kusiya zakale
Elisha Goldstein, PhD
Chaka Chatsopano ndi Nthawi yokhululuka tokha patapita nthawi, kusiya chiyembekezo chazakale, kufufuza zomwe sizinagwire ntchito kwa ife kotero titha kuphunzira kwa iwo, ndikudzipempha ndi mtima wonse kuti tiyambenso.
Pochita izi, titha kuphunzira momwe tingakhalire ogwira mtima komanso achimwemwe muubale wathu chaka chino!
17. Phatikizani zizolowezi zolumikizana zabwino
Maofesi a Mawebusaiti
Chaka Chatsopano chimatha kukuthandizani kupuma komanso kuyambitsanso chidwi chatsopano muubwenzi wanu. Yambani mwa kudzifunsa kuti, “Kodi tapanga zizolowezi ziti, ndipo zimatithandiza bwanji kulumikizana mwakuthupi, mwamalingaliro, zogonana, komanso mwauzimu?”Lembani mndandanda wazikhalidwe zanu zonse ndikuwoloka zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti musalumikizane.
Ndi zizolowezi ziti zatsopano zomwe mungafune kupanga zokuthandizani kulumikizanso m'malo anayiwa? Mwinamwake ikupanga tsiku usiku.
Mwina, mukufuna kukhala ndi zokumana nazo zatsopano m'chipinda chogona, ndipo chizolowezi chatsopano ndichosankha kena kandandanda wanu "Wofuna Kuyesa" mwezi uliwonse. Chizolowezi chatsopano chitha kukhala usiku umodzi sabata kumvetsera kapena kuwerenga zina ndi mnzanu ndiyeno ndikugawana malingaliro anu ndi malingaliro anu pambuyo pake.
18. Mwayi wopeza zatsopano komanso zowona mtima
Zotsatira: Joanna Smith, MS, LPCC, RN
Kodi mwakhala mukuyesetsa kuti musinthe kapena kukonza munthuyo m'moyo wanu kwinaku mukunyalanyaza zosowa zanu?
Chaka chatsopano ichi yang'anani ubale wanu ndi izi ndikuchita zomwe zingakuthandizeni inu ndi mnzanuyo.
Munthu yekhayo amene mungasinthe ndi inu nokha ndipo zimangotengera munthu m'modzi kuti aswe mawonekedwe akale!
Patsani ubale wanu chiyambi chatsopano cha Chaka Chatsopano - tembenuzirani galasi mkati ndikukhala abwino kwambiri.
19. Muzikhala ndi mfundo zabwino
DARLENE LANCER, LMFT, MA, JD
Ndi zachilendo kukhala ndi mikangano m'maubwenzi. Zilakalaka ndi zosowa zimasemphana mosalephera. Dzikumbutseni kuti kulumikizana ndikumvetsetsana, osati kukhala kolondola. Phunzirani momwe kukangana kungakhalire chinthu chabwino pachibwenzi.
20. Siyani mantha
SUSAN QUINN, LMFT
Ubale umatipatsa chiyembekezo cha tsogolo lodabwitsa, ndipo nthawi yomweyo, zimayambitsa mantha akulu kuti titha kutaya chinthu chomwe timachikonda kwambiri.
Mantha akuyawa amatipangitsa kuchitira mnzathu zomwe zingawononge ubale wathu.
Mtundu wamantha omwe timachita amabwera kuchokera kuzikhulupiriro zathu zoyambirira, chifukwa chake njira yothetsera vutoli ndiyo sintha zikhulupiriro zathu zochepa zomwe zimasungidwa mumaganizo osazindikira.
21. Yambitsani zosintha kuti mukhale ndi banja labwino
NATALIA BOUCHER, LMFT
Ena a ife timakonda kulingalira za chaka chatsopano ngati nthawi yoyambira mwatsopano ndikupanga zosintha.
Ino ndi nthawi yabwino kulingalira zosintha zomwe inu ndi mnzanu mungachite kuti musinthe ndikukhala ndi ubale wabwino.
Gawo loyamba ndikupanga mndandanda wazolimba za ubale wanu, zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa ubale wanu kukhala wapadera, wapadera, komanso wamtengo wapatali. Anthu ambiri ali ndi zovuta ndi mndandandawu chifukwa kumakhala kosavuta kuganiza za zinthu zoyipa.
Mukapanga mndandanda, ganizirani zinthu zomwe mukufuna kusintha. Nawu mndandanda wa malingaliro ...
- Kulankhulana
- Mavuto Azachuma
- Kulumikiza
- Kuyamikira
- Kudzisamalira
Kodi mungakonze bwanji ubale? Ganizirani zamankhwala.
Ngati chibwenzi chanu chikudutsa munthawi zovuta, chaka chatsopano ndi nthawi yabwino kuyambitsa chithandizo cha maanja.
Thandizo lakanthawi munjira yothandizirana ndi maanja kapena upangiri wa mabanja kumakuthandizani kuzindikira mavuto am'mabanja ndi mayankho.
Ngati mnzanu sakufuna kudzipereka kuntchito ya maanja, chithandizo chamankhwala chimathandizanso. Munthu m'modzi akasintha, winayo amayenera kusintha, ndikupanga kusintha kwa zomwe banja limachita.
Timalimbikitsa kusintha komwe kumabwera muubwenzi wanu mu Chaka Chatsopano ichi!
22. Dziwani zabwino zomwe banja lanu limachita
CYNTHIA BLOORE, MS
Ganizirani zakupambana kwaubwenzi wanu - zomwe zimachitika, ndipo mumatani panthawiyo zomwe zidagwira ntchito?
Kudziwa zomwe mumachita nthawi zonse kumakhala poyambira mukamasintha kapena kuthetsa mikangano. Kuyang'ana pazabwino za mnzanuyo kumatha kubweretsa moyo watsopano ndi chikondi muubwenzi wanu ndikuthana ndi mavuto azibwenzi za nthawi yayitali.