Zamkati
- Ndinu nokha pamene ali pafupi
- Inunso muli ndi ziyembekezo ndi maloto ofanana ndipo amakuthandizani
- Mutha kuvomereza zolakwa zanu ndi zofooka zanu pamaso pawo
- Mikangano ndi ndewu sizikukhumudwitsani kuti mupitilize
- Amakupangitsani kufuna kukhala munthu wabwino
- Chimwemwe chawo ndi chisangalalo chanu ndipo chanu ndi chawo
- Kupeza wokondedwa wanu
Kodi mumadzifunsa kuti, "Kodi ndikwatiwa ndi munthu woyenera?" kapena mwakhala mukufunako yankho la funsoli, "momwe mungadziwire munthu woyenera kukwatira?"
Nthawi imabwera muubwenzi uliwonse pomwe anthu amayamba kudzifunsa ngati munthu amene ali naye ndiye munthu woyenera kukhala naye moyo wonse kapena ayi. Ngakhale palibe cholembera chomwe chimayeza kulimba kwa chibwenzi chanu ndi munthu winayo ndikukuwuzani ngati ali "m'modzi", pali zikwangwani zochepa zomwe munthu angawerenge ndikuzindikira kuti adziwe ngati ali ndi munthu woyenera kapena sanasunthike. ndi munthu amene samalingalira za moyo ndi iye.
Kupeza munthu woyenera kukwatira? Muyenera kuchita zambiri kuposa kungosangalala, kukongola komanso kukhazikika kwachuma.
Pachiyanjano chilichonse, pakhoza kubwera malo ochezera angapo omwe, ngati angawonetsedwe mosamala, atha kuthandiza anthu kutsirizitsa ubalewo kukhala chiyambi chabwino cha banja. Ena mwa mfundozi afotokozedwa munkhaniyi kukuthandizani kuti mupeze mphindi yomveka bwino yomwe mwakhala mukuyifuna.
Ndinu nokha pamene ali pafupi
Mukudziwa bwanji kuti mukukwatiwa ndi munthu woyenera? Lembani m'maganizo mwanu momwe mumakhalira pozungulira iwo komanso momwe mumakhalira momasuka.
Ngakhale ambiri a ife timayesetsa kukhala mtundu wabwino kwambiri tikakhala ndi munthu amene tangokumana naye ndipo tikufuna kuti tisadzakumane naye, mukakhala ndi nthawi yokwanira yodziwana ndi munthu amene mumamuyang'ana Mnzanu amene mungakhale naye pachibwenzi, mfundo imodzi yomwe mungaganizire ndi momwe mumakhalira pozungulira iwo.
Kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti mwapeza wokwatirana naye? Ngati kupezeka kwawo kukupatsani mpumulo ndipo simukuzengereza kuwonetsa mbali zanu zonse osawopa kuweruzidwa, muli ndi mwayi wabwino kuti mwapeza amene mukufuna kukhala nawo moyo wanu wonse.
Tanena izi, cheke cheke chokha sichingakhale chosankha. Palinso zinthu zina zomwe zimafunikira kuzipanganso nthawi yomveketsa isanafike.
Inunso muli ndi ziyembekezo ndi maloto ofanana ndipo amakuthandizani
Kupeza munthu woyenera kukwatira? Muyenera kuwunika kaye ngati muli ndi zolinga komanso zikhulupiriro zofanana.
Munthu amene mukufuna kukhala naye moyo sayenera kungokhala amene mungakhale komweko. Ayenera kudziwa ndikumvetsetsa zolinga zanu ndi maloto anu ndikukuthandizani kuti mukwaniritse. Ngati mutha kugawana maloto anu ndi wina wanu wofunikira ndikuwathandiza mosakwanira kuti mukwaniritse, ndiye kuti mwina mwapeza zomwe mukufuna kuti mukhale ndi moyo wosangalala komanso wokhutira.
Momwe mukudziwira kuti mwapeza imodzi ndi pamene muli ofunitsitsa kuyenda njira yomweyo, kuvomereza zolakwa za wina ndi mnzake ndipo mukudziwa kuti mutha kupyola chilichonse, limodzi.
Mutha kuvomereza zolakwa zanu ndi zofooka zanu pamaso pawo
Chimodzi mwamaganizidwe opezera munthu woyenera kukwatira ndikuti simukuopanso kuvomereza zolakwa zanu pamaso pawo.
Ndizovuta kuti anthu ambiri avomereze zolakwa zawo ndikuvomereza kufooka kwawo pamaso pa ena. Kudzipereka kwanu pamaso pa ena ndikuvomereza kuti mwasokoneza kumafuna kulimba mtima, komwe nthawi zambiri sikupezeka mwa ambiri a ife. Koma ngati muli ndi munthu mutha kuvomerezanso zolakwitsa zanu, osadzimva kukhala amantha kapena kuchita manyazi, ndipo ngati akukondweretsani inu, mudzadziwa kuti amavomereza kukhulupirika kwanu ndipo sangakupatseni nthawi yovuta yochita zinthu mopitirira muyeso cholakwika.
Momwe mungadziwire wokwatira? Chabwino, chimodzi mwazinthu zomwe muyenera kudziwa kuti mupeze munthu woyenera kukwatira ndikuti moyo umakhala bwino ndi munthu amene amakulandirani momwe mulili ndikukulimbikitsani kuti mukhale bwino kuposa amene amayesa kukusinthani nthawi zonse mumalakwitsa ndikupambana mukamavomereza.
Mikangano ndi ndewu sizikukhumudwitsani kuti mupitilize
Muubwenzi uliwonse, ndewu ndi kusamvana zimakhala ndi zotsatirapo zosasangalatsa kwa abambo ndi amai. Ndizowona kuti aliyense amatenga mnjira yake m'njira zotsutsana ndi mikangano. Mukapeza munthu woyenera simudzachita nawo zankhondo zosalekeza. Mupeza mnzanuyo akuyesera kukonza zinthu komanso wofunitsitsa kuti agwire ntchito kuti athetse chisankho.
Chinsinsi chopeza munthu woyenera kukwatiwa ndi kuthekera kwanu kuthetsa mavuto.
Koma ngati nonse mukulankhulana zakukhosi kwanu ndikufunitsitsa kuthana ndi kusamvana kwanu komwe sikungapangitse kuti ntchito yanuyo ikhale yopanda pake komanso sikungapangitse mlatho pakati pa inu nonse, ndiye kuti mukudziwa kuti mwapeza. Kupeza munthu woyenera kukwatira ndikutanthauza kupeza munthu m'modzi amene amakhulupirira zothetsera kusamvana ndipo ali wofunitsitsa kukhala mgulu lomwelo lomwe mungathetsere mavuto am'banja, osati inu.
Amakupangitsani kufuna kukhala munthu wabwino
Chinsinsi chopeza munthu woyenera kukwatira ndikukhala ndi munthu amene amatulutsa zabwino mwa inu.
Tonsefe tili ndi zofooka zomwe sitimanyadira nazo ndipo timakonda kubisirana. Ngati zina zanu zazikulu zikukupangitsani kufuna kuyang'ana pazolakwa zanu pankhope ndikukulimbikitsani kuti muzigwiritsa ntchito, mwayi wake, sakufuna kungokhala nanu miyezi ingapo kapena zaka, koma ali m'moyo wanu kwamuyaya.
Kodi mumadziwa bwanji wokwatira? Ngati wokondedwa wanu ndikulimbikitsidwa kuti musinthe nokha ndipo ngati kukhala nawo pafupi kumakupangitsani kufuna kugwira ntchito pazosakwanira ndi zopusa zanu, ndiye kuti mwapeza munthu woyenera.
Chimwemwe chawo ndi chisangalalo chanu ndipo chanu ndi chawo
Kudalira pamaganizidwe ndichizolowezi cha ubale uliwonse wapamtima. Anthu amakonda kudalirana wina ndi mnzake munthawi yamavuto komanso chisangalalo. Chifukwa mumaganizirana wina ndi mnzake, kukhala ndi nkhawa ndikofunika kwambiri, ndipo wanu ndiwofunika kwambiri kwa iwonso, chomwe chimapangitsa iwo kukhala achimwemwe chimakupangitsani kuti nanunso mukhale osangalala, komanso mosiyana?
Ngati chilankhulo chanu chimadziwika ndi iwo ndipo mutha kutanthauzira zomwe sanena mawu popanda vuto, mwapeza mnzanu. Kupeza munthu woyenera kukwatira ndiko kupeza kuti munthu m'modzi yemwe ali wofunitsitsa kukumverani chisoni ndikukuthandizani popanda kumva kuti mukulemedwa ndi mavuto anu.
Kupeza wokondedwa wanu
Pomwe mukuyang'ana kupeza munthu woyenera kukwatira, muyeneranso kudziwa ngati ali ndi mikhalidwe ya munthu wamakhalidwe abwino - kufunitsitsa kuthandiza ena, chifundo, kuthekera kukhululuka, kutsatira miyambo yoyenerera komanso yaulemu?
Kupeza wokhala naye moyo sikophweka. Pofunafuna munthu woyenera kukwatira, timakumana ndi anthu ambiri m'miyoyo yathu omwe timawawona ngati omwe titha kukhala nawo koma tikumapatukana chifukwa sitikudziwa choti tingayang'ane mwa munthu winayo kuti adziwe ngati ndi munthu woyenera kwa ife.
Mukapeza imodzi, mudzakhala oyamikira modabwitsa, odala ndipo nonse mudzadzipereka mokwanira kuti mukhale ndiubwenzi wabwino.
Komabe, kupeza munthu woyenera kukwatira si keke, choncho musafulumire kutero.
Ngati mukuzindikira kuti mavuto anu akupitilira muubwenzi wanu omwe sangakonzeke, musawanyalanyaze. Kuzitumiza kuzinthu zosafunikira paubwenzi wanu zomwe mutha kuzisamalira ndi njira yatsoka yatsoka. Komanso, musamadzinyenge pokhulupirira kuti munthu amene mumam'konda adzasintha.
Ukwati wopambana umakhala ndi zoyesayesa zambiri, chikondi, ndi kumvetsetsa. Musafulumire kulowa m'banja ngati pali kusamveka bwino pankhani iliyonse yaubwenzi wanu.