Zamkati
Kodi mumapewa bwanji kuti chikondi cha amuna kapena akazi chikuchepa pakapita nthawi? Kodi ndizotheka kusunga agulugufe omwe tinali nawo pachiyambi cha chibwenzi?
Ndizofala kwambiri kuti chibwenzi, pakapita nthawi, chimachoka pachilakolako ndi zozimitsa moto ndikukayamba kutsetsereka kwa ho-hum komanso kusakhutira. Tsoka ilo, m'maukwati ambiri, uwu ndi msampha wosavuta kugweramo.
Tsiku lina mumagona pafupi ndi wokondedwa wanu ndipo tsiku lotsatira mumadzuka pafupi ndi mnzanuyo. Zimachitika mochenjera kwambiri osazindikira kuti zikuchitika.
M'buku la Susan Piver, Choonadi Chachinayi Chachikondi, amalankhula za moyo ndi chikondi akunena kuti sitingakhale pa Planet Passion. Amalimbikitsa kuti tizipita kumeneko nthawi zambiri ndikukhala nthawi yochuluka momwe tingathere kumeneko, koma sitingakhale kumeneko. Moyo ndiwotopetsa ndipo zopinga ndizosapeweka.
Ngati mwakhala m'banja kwa nthawi yayitali bwanji mumaonetsetsa kuti mukugonana mokwanira? Tili ndi maupangiri ena omwe ndi ofunikira kuti tisunge ubale wodabwitsa, wathanzi womwe umatha nthawi yayitali.
Yesani Kuyandikira, Kusamala, ndi Kukambirana kuti mupange ubale wabwino
Chiyanjano
Chiyanjano cha mnzanu ndichofunika kwambiri. Kuyandikana kumatanthauzidwa ngati kungokonda mwadzidzidzi kapena kukonda winawake. Ndi mphamvu pakati pa anthu yomwe imawapangitsa kuti alowemo ndikukhalabe osakanizana.
Kuti mukhale olumikizidwa ndikukhala ndi chidwi ndi winawake pachimake muyenera kumukonda kwambiri. Muyenera kukhala oyandikana. Chinsinsi ndikuti nthawi zonse muziyandikana.
Ubale ukangotayika wina ndi mnzake zimakhala zovuta kuti abwezeretsenso. Zosatheka koma zovuta.
Kusamala
Kusamala mu ubale ndikofunikira kwambiri. Kusamala kumatanthauzidwa ngati kufanana kwakuthupi, kuphatikiza kopatsa chidwi, zinthu zolimbitsa thupi, zam'maganizo ndi zamaganizidwe, kuti zibweretse mgwirizano kapena gawo.
Kusamala ndichinthu chofunikira chomwe chimapangitsa kuti akhale ndi banja limodzi. Ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mupeze zovuta pazovuta zomwe mumakumana nazo pachibwenzi chilichonse. Anthu awiri olumikizana mozindikira komabe amasunga umunthu wawo m'dzina lachikondi.
Ndiubwino wabwino komanso wofunikira mukamayenderana.
Mwachitsanzo, kukhumudwa kumachitika, kulimba mtima ndi pamene mnzanuyo azindikira zomwe zachitika ndikudziwa zomwe zimafunika kuchitapo kanthu ndikuthandizira kuthetsa vutolo. Umu ndi momwe ubale uliri wothandizirana komanso njira yabwino yolimbikitsira ubale wanu ndikupanga kulumikizana kwakukulu komanso mgwirizano.
Kukambirana
Kutha kukambirana moyenera ndi gawo lofunikira kwambiri paubwenzi uliwonse. Kukambirana kwabwino ndikumasinthana malingaliro, kuwonera, ndi malingaliro.
Kukambirana ndikofunikira kwambiri kwa banja lomwe limatsogolera komwe kumakhala pachibwenzi.
Kukambirana kukakhala kulibe, kuyandikana ndi kusunthika kumayamba kuchepa ndikumangokhutira komwe kumabweretsa kumverera kokakamira.
Gawo la Kukambirana ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pa ABC pamgwirizano wokwaniritsa.
Kukwanitsa kukambirana mitu yovuta kwambiri ndikofunikira kuti ubale wanu ukhale bwino. Kugwiritsa ntchito mawu omwe amakulimbikitsani pafupi m'malo molimbikitsa kumenya nkhondo kapena kuthawa ndikofunikira. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mnzanu akuchita zinazake kuti akukwiyitseni, chibadwa chanu choyamba chingakhale kuwadziwitsa momwe amakukwiyirani. Komabe, izi nthawi zambiri zimawapangitsa kudzitchinjiriza, kumenyera kumbuyo kapena kuchoka pazomwe zachitika. Palibe mwa izi zomwe zingathandize pazochitikazo.
Nanga bwanji ngati inu, munagawana muzu wa mkwiyo wanu? Pamene simunadzandionetse monga mudalonjezera, zidandimvetsa chisoni. Ndidamva kuti simundisamala kapena momwe ndimamvera. Mawu ngati awa amakupangitsani kuyandikana kwambiri m'malo mongokukanganitsani.
Sangalalani
Lingaliro lomaliza ndikutsimikiza kuti mukusangalala m'moyo wanu. Zimakhala zovuta kuti musakhale osangalala mukamasangalala ndi ulendowu. Zachilendo pachibwenzi ndizofunikira kwambiri, onetsetsani kuti mukukonzekera masiku ausiku wina ndi mnzake nthawi zonse. Kafukufuku wa maubwenzi awonetsa mobwerezabwereza kuti m'malo mwa chakudya chamadzulo ndi kanema ndi zochitika zatsiku lomwe simukanachita zimakhudza kwambiri ubale wanu.
Chifukwa chake tulukani m'zochita zanu ndikuyesera china chatsopano ngati kalasi ya zaluso, spa usiku kunyumba, maphunziro akuvina, masewera apanyanja kapena akunja, mutha kupeza lingaliro.
Tonsefe timadziwa kuti kukhala ndiubwenzi wodabwitsa kumatenga ntchito koma ndikofunika mphamvu ndi khama mukakhala bwino. Tikukhulupirira kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mupewe kukhala ndi vuto linalake powonjezera zachilendo pamasiku anu, kuchita A, B, C ndipo potero ndikupanga ubale wodabwitsa womwe ungakhale moyo wonse.