Zamkati
- Amuna amabera kwambiri ndikugwidwa mosavuta
- Kupanda kulumikizana kumatha kutsogolera abambo kuti azibera maubale
- Kuzindikira kumachitika pambuyo pakulakwa
Ubongo wa abambo ndi amai umagwira ntchito mosiyanasiyana pamlingo wofunikira.
Amuna amalimbika kuganiza mopikisana, pomwe akazi amakonda kupanga ubale womwe umakhala wogwirizana komanso wobwezeretsanso. Amuna akuyenera kulimbikitsana wina ndi mnzake kuti adziwe momwe angakhalire pakati pa mafuko - akazi akufuna kuvomereza.
Makhalidwe amenewa ndiwodziwikiratu ngati mudakhalapo ndi achinyamata.
Kuyambira pakubadwa, ubongo wathu umayamba kupanga mitundu yogwirira ntchito zamomwe mnzanu akuyenera kukhalira ndi komwe tidaleredwa. Inde, nyumba ya Sigmund Freud's Oedipus / Electra ili ndi phindu.
Komabe, madalaivala osazindikira awa samamveka bwino ndi ambiri.
Ngakhale akatswiri a zamaganizidwe nthawi zambiri amavutika kumvetsetsa momwe amathandizira mkati, ndichifukwa chake alangizi amayenera kufunsidwa ndi alangizi ena.
Amuna amabera kwambiri ndikugwidwa mosavuta
Nanga, ndichifukwa chiyani abambo amabera mayeso nthawi zambiri kuposa akazi, ndipo nchifukwa ninji nthawi zambiri "amagwidwa" akuchita zinthu kapena kuuza wokondedwa wawo kuti ali pachibwenzi?
Mukudziwa kwanga ngati phungu, abambo andiuza kuti amadziwa kuti adzagwidwa kapena kuwononga dala banja lawo komanso zomwe amachita chifukwa samamva ngati anzawo kapena okondedwa awo amawakonda mosavomerezeka.
Chowonadi ndi ichi - chikondi chopanda malire ndichinthu chomwe chingathe (ndipo chiyenera) kudziwika pakati pa kholo ndi mwana, koma sizimachitika nthawi zonse.
Pamene ana akukula ndikukulitsa chitetezo chawo, nthawi zambiri amayesa ubale. Ana akakhala okondedwa komanso kuthandizidwa mwamphamvu kudzera pachibwenzi ndi kholo limodzi, amatha kuphunzira kudzimvera chisoni komanso kudzimvera chisoni ndi ena.
Ubale wathanzi ndi gawo la 50/50 la mphamvu, kuwongolera, komanso kulumikizana.
Ndi anthu angati amene mumadziwa m'mayanjano otere?
Kupanda kulumikizana kumatha kutsogolera abambo kuti azibera maubale
Kuyankhulana kumawonongeka pakapita nthawi pamene anthu azolowera kuchita zinthu ndipo samakhala ndi chidwi chofotokozera zosowa zawo ndi zosowa zawo. Nthawi zambiri, anthu amatha kukwanitsa zosowa zawo popanda kulumikizana kwambiri.
Komabe, kulumikizana ndi bwenzi lanu pomwe bambo akumva kuti ndi wosakwanira nthawi zambiri sichinthu chomwe chimachitika kunja kwa upangiri wa maanja pokhapokha ngati mwamuna wanu ali phungu.
Yankho lake ndi loti amuna amanyenga kuti "agwidwe" ndikuyesa ubale wawo m'njira zomwe sakanatha kulumikizana chifukwa chovulala kwamaganizidwe amunthu. Kungolankhula zakukhosi kumeneku kumalephera kukhala kopindulitsa pamene abambo akumva manyazi ndikupangitsa kuimba mlandu wokondedwa wawo momwe akumvera.
Pomwe kulakwa monga kusakhulupirika kumachitika, zomwe ndakumana nazo zakhala ndikuti makasitomala amafunitsitsadi kukonza ubale wawo ndi "kudzikonda" popanga zovuta. Nthawi zambiri zimatengera zovuta zamtunduwu kuti tipeze mwayi wolankhula zovulala izi ndi alangizi othandizira mabanja.
Nthawi zambiri maanja amalankhula izi payekhapayekha kapena kuchipatala asanadutse Rubicon.
Kuzindikira kumachitika pambuyo pakulakwa
Anthu ambiri samvetsetsa momwe izi zimachitikira mpaka pambuyo poti cholakwacho chakwiyitsa anthu omwe amawasamaliradi - okwatirana, ana, anzawo, komanso mabanja. Mosazindikira, machitidwe a abambo amabera amafotokozedwa bwino ngati kudzivulaza kapena kuwononga ngati alibe chilankhulo kapena momwe angatchulire kuvutika kwamtima.
Kuphatika akuti ndiye chifukwa chachikulu chovutikira, chomwe chimatha kubweretsa malingaliro amantha ndikuzimitsa kapena kupewa mutuwo.
Nkhani yabwino?
Uphungu wa maanja ndi maanja ukhoza kukhala wanthawi yayitali komanso wokhazikika pa mayankho.
Pamene maanja ali odzipereka ndipo ali ndi ndalama wina ndi mnzake, nthawi zambiri amalimbikitsidwa ndi kupita kwawo patsogolo kuti asinthe moyenera. Kumbukirani zaka zanu zaunyamata komanso momwe ana ankhanza amachitira wina ndi mnzake? Upangiri wa maanja ndi chithandizo chaukwati ndi chida chothandiza kupititsa patsogolo kulumikizana ndikuwonjezera kuzindikira kwazovulala zomwe timakumana nazo tili ana.
Monga wothandizira, funso lodziwika kwambiri lomwe ndikufunsidwa ndi momwe ndingathetsere malingaliro amantha - mantha otayika, osakwanira, kapena kusowa mphamvu / mphamvu. Yankho - sinthanitsani mantha anu ndi chikondi.