Zamkati
- 1. Ubwino kulibenso
- 2. Simukulemekezedwa
- 3. Sikunena za inu kapena zonse za iwo
- 4. Mukuyesetsa kwambiri
- 5. Kulekerera ubale wina uliwonse sikophweka
Ubale ndi ofanana ndi ndalama, nthawi komanso koposa zonse, mphamvu zam'maganizo.
Mukamayika zambiri muubwenzi wanu, zimakonzanso moyo wanu komanso zisankho zanu. Ndi nthawi yochuluka, chikondi, ndi mphamvu zoperekedwa muubwenzi, zingakhale zovuta kuzisiya pazifukwa monga ana anu, thanzi lanu, komanso kusadzidalira kwanu.
Komabe, pamene kuwonongeka kwachitika kale, palibe chithandizo ndi kupulumutsa komwe kungateteze. Chibwenzi chikayamba kupita ku chiwonongeko, muyenera kuganizira zodzicheka nokha ndikuyang'ana thanzi lanu komanso thanzi lanu.
Mwanjira imeneyi, mutha kupita patsogolo kuubwenzi woyenera. Zotsatirazi ndi zizindikiro zakuti nthawi yakwana yoti musiyane ndi chibwenzi chanu.
1. Ubwino kulibenso
Tsopano ngakhale zikhalidwe zomwe zimagawidwa komanso magwiridwe antchito ofunikira ndizofunikira kuti pakhale ubale uliwonse, kumapeto kwa tsikulo, maubale olimba komanso olimba amangidwa chifukwa cha zabwino zomwe zilipo pakati pa anthu awiri.
Kukoma mtima ndi kufunirana wina ndi mnzake, kuthandizira ena ngakhale atakhala olakwa, komanso kufunitsitsa kukhululuka zolakwa zawo ndizomwe zimalimbikitsa ubale wabwino.
Thandizo, kuyamikiridwa, ulemu, kudzipereka, ndi kulolerana ndizomwe ubale umakhalapo, ndipo zabwino zaubwenzi sizimatha msanga; imawonongeka pakapita nthawi. Zizindikiro zina zosonyeza kutayika kwa zabwino ndi mkwiyo, nkhanza, mtunda, kukwiya, komanso kusowa ulemu.
2. Simukulemekezedwa
Ulemu ndiye gawo lofunikira kwambiri paubwenzi uliwonse.
Zimasiya kukhulupirirana chifukwa sungakhulupirire munthu amene samakulemekeza. Ngakhale zinthu zazing'ono ndizofunika chifukwa pamapeto pake zimawulula momwe akumvera komanso momwe alili.
Kupanda ulemu kumawonekera m'njira zambiri, ndipo mwina simungathe kuzizindikira nthawi yomweyo, koma mudzazimva. Zimakhala ngati ukukankhidwa m'matumbo, ndipo ukayamba kumva kuti zikuchitika pafupipafupi, uyenera kuchoka.
Makhalidwe monga kunama, kunyoza, komanso kuchita zachinyengo ndi mitundu yonse yosalemekeza.
3. Sikunena za inu kapena zonse za iwo
Ngakhale kudzipereka kuli kosiyana, muubwenzi, anthu onsewa ayenera kukhala ndi malo okwanira kukula ndikukula. Ayeneranso kukhala ndi maloto awo komanso zofuna zawo pamoyo wawo. Ayenera kukhala ndi malo olola zokonda zawo kuti ziphatikizidwe ndikukwaniritsa zosowa zawo.
Maubwenzi akakhala osalinganika, amakonda kuzungulira munthu m'modzi yekha.
Munthu yemwe chibwenzi chake chimayandikira amakhala wokhutira pomwe mnzakeyo akumva kuti amugwiritsa ntchito komanso amakwiya. Amamva kukhala otopa ndikukhala moyo wa wina. Ngati ndinu munthu winayo amene simunamuvomereze pachibwenzi, ndiye yesetsani kudzipangira nokha malo ndikulankhula pazomwe mukufuna komanso zomwe mukufuna.
Wokondedwa wanu akakhumudwa ndi izi kapena samakuyankhirani, ndiye kuti muyenera kuchokapo ndikupeza kuti ndinu ndani.
4. Mukuyesetsa kwambiri
Mphamvu zomwe anthu onse amayika muubale ndizofanana nthawi zambiri.
Mwambi wopereka-utenga umalola onse awiri kukwaniritsa zosowa zawo ndi zosowa zawo. Komabe, ubale umayamba kuwonongeka pamene munthu m'modzi akugwira ntchito yonse kuti chibwenzicho chikhalebe bwino.
Ubwenzi wamtunduwu umapanga malo osakhazikika ndipo munthu amene akugwira ntchito molimbika amatha kupsa mtima. Chifukwa chake zimawavuta kuti akhalebe pachibwenzi. Mbali inayi, munthu amene amalandira akhoza kuyamba kudandaula ndikudutsa kwa masiku.
Nthawi zonse kumbukirani, mukamayesetsa kwambiri kuti mupeze wina, amayamba kuchoka. Chifukwa chake, yesani kupumira pang'ono ndikubwerera m'mbuyo.
Onani zomwe zimachitika mukamagwira ntchito molimbika. Ngati mnzanu ayamba kukhala ndiudindo ndikugwira ntchito paubwenzi, ndiye kuti kupeza mphamvu zomwe zatayika ndikosavuta.
Komabe, ngati mnzanu abwerera mmbuyo ndikubwerera kutali, ndiye nthawi yoti musiyane.
5. Kulekerera ubale wina uliwonse sikophweka
Lingaliro lotaya munthu yemwe kale amatanthauza kuti dziko lapansi likhoza kukuwonongerani thanzi lanu komanso thanzi lanu.
Komabe, nthawi zina chibwenzi chomwe mumakonda kwambiri chimatha kukhala chowopsa kwambiri kwa inu. Nthawi zina, ubalewu ukhoza kukhala cholemetsa chomwe muyenera kugwiritsitsa, ndipo mukasiya, chitha kukhala chisankho chodabwitsa kwa inu.
Chifukwa chake yesetsani kumvetsetsa kuti ubale ndi chiyani, onetsetsani kuti kuyesayesa kofanana kumayikidwa, ndikuwonetsetsa kuti muli ndi chikondi, kukhulupirika, ndi ulemu chifukwa, popanda zinthu izi, ubale ulibe tanthauzo.