Zamkati
- Komabe ndikufuna kukhala wowona, chifukwa kukwatira ndichinthu chachikulu
- Chinsinsi Chachipambano
- Osakhazikika 'zachilendo
Kukwatirana? Icho si chinthu chaching'ono.
Ngakhale kuti moyo ndi waufupi, pali zambiri zomwe zimachitika panthawiyi, ndipo kusankha kukwatira zikutanthauza kuti mukuganiza zopitilira njira zonse zapaulendo limodzi - zivute zitani. Kukwatirana kumatanthauza kuti ngakhale Zimayamba kuvuta, ndipo zidzakulimbira, kuti ngakhale simukondana kwambiri, ndipo padzakhala nthawi, ngakhale mutakhala kuti muli osweka mtima komanso osowa chiyembekezo pachibwenzi chanu (komanso chowopsa monga momwe zimamvekera, Nthawi zotere sizachilendo) ... simudzasiyana. Simudzataya chikondi chanu.
Kukwatira kumatanthauza kuti mwatseka chitseko chopita. Zabwino kapena zoyipa, nonse muli mgulu ili: Tsopano sindikutanthauza kuti awa akhale malingaliro okhumudwitsa kapena owopsa m'banja. Popanga kudzipereka kwa wina ndi mnzake, dziwani kuti simudzakumana ndi mavuto amoyo nokha. Muli ndi mnzanu wapamtima, mnzanu wapamtima, mnzanu wapamtima, mnzanu, komanso wokonda. Muli ndi wina woti mugawane naye nthawi zonse zabwino, zokongola, komanso zosintha moyo. Ndipo ndichinthu choyenera kukondwerera. Mwa wina ndi mnzake, mwapeza zomwe ndimakhulupirira kuti munthu aliyense amafufuza. Zabwino zonse!
Komabe ndikufuna kukhala wowona, chifukwa kukwatira ndichinthu chachikulu
Zomwe timafuna kukhala monga mabanja am'mbuyomu - kukhala m'mabanja athu kwanthawi yonse, kukalamba ndi chikondi cha moyo wathu - zowona ndizakuti timakhala mchikhalidwe chomwe, pofika nthawi yomwe mabanja ambiri amafikira azaka zapakati pa makumi asanu, pafupifupi theka la iwo adzasudzulidwa kapena kupatukana (Kennedy & Ruggles, 2014). Chifukwa cha chiwerengerochi, lingaliro loti mupange nthawi yonse ya moyo wanu limodzi lingawoneke lovuta. Koma musawope konse, MUNGAPEZE kutero.
Zalangizidwa - Asanakwatirane
Chinsinsi Chachipambano
Ndikufuna kugawana chinsinsi china chomwe ndaphunzira chokhudza banja, ndikuti ndikuganiza kuti chilimbitsa ubale wopatulika womwe ulipo pakati pa inu ndi omwe mudzakhale naye banja posachedwa. Samalani, chifukwa sindikuganiza kuti anthu ambiri amadziwa izi.
Ukwati ndi makina okula anthu: Muubwenzi wanu, mudzakumana ndi zovuta zomwe mukufunikira kuti mukule ndikuti muzipukuta m'mbali mwanu. Ukwati wanu umakupatsani mwayi wokwanira kuti mudzisinthe. Podziwa izi, mutha kuzindikira kuti nthawi yovuta ndi iyi - mwayi woyeretsa nyumba ndikuwala.
Ganizirani kuti m'badwo wathu, timayembekezera zambiri m'banja, mwina kuposa mibadwo yakale. Masiku ano, ukwati sutanthauza kungokhala ndi bwenzi, kapena za kulera ana, kapena kupeza ndalama, monga kale. Ukwati, tsopano, ukukula kukulitsa miyoyo yathu, yolumikizana ndi munthu wina pamlingo wokondana komanso chitetezo sichimakwaniritsidwa. Ndizokhudza kudziwika kwathunthu, ndi kudziwa wina kwathunthu, ndi kuvomerezedwa ndi kupembedzedwa m'mavuto athu onse ndi chisokonezo chathu. Tikuyembekeza kuti banja likhale chikondi chakuya, chifundo, chidwi, chidwi, chitetezo, ndi umodzi potengera kukhala osiyana, okongola, olemekezedwa, komanso oyamikiridwa. Koma kukwaniritsa ubale wotere ndi ntchito yovuta kwambiri! Ndizowopsa, zowopsa, nthawi zina ngakhale zopweteka ... ndipo, ndikukhulupirira, ndi ntchito yopindulitsa kwambiri komanso yokwaniritsa zomwe tingachite.
Ndikuganiza, mwina, kuti chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe maukwati ambiri amathera ndichakuti anthu samamvetsetsa chinsinsi ichi asanakwatirane. Amalowa m'banja ndi ziyembekezo zabwino zonse za zomwe banja lingabweretse, koma samadziwa momwe banja limatikakamizira kukula kapena momwe zingakhalire zovuta nthawi zina. Timakula ndi malingaliro achikondi kuti chikondi ndi banja ndichisangalalo ndi chisangalalo kwamuyaya, ndipo zikakhala kuti sizikhala choncho, anthu amasiya. Kapenanso timakwatirana ndikuyembekezera kuti mphamvu izazimiririka ndikungoganiza kuti izi ndi zabwinobwino, ndipo palibe chomwe tingachite. Ndiye, izi zikayamba kusungulumwa kwambiri kuti munthu sangazilekerere, anthu amasiya chibwenzicho. Ndipo masiku ano, kusiya banja ndikosavuta kuposa kale.
Osakhazikika 'zachilendo
Nthawi zambiri ndimakumbutsa maanja kuti maukwati “abwinobwino” siabwino, ndipo sikukhalitsa. Kuti mudzipangire nokha bwino, muyenera kukhala ndi zolinga zabwino kuposa zachilendo. Musaope kugwira ntchito molimbika ikadzakuyenderani awiri, koma osakhazikikanso. Funsani upangiri musanakwatirane kapena kupindulitsa banja, pitani kwa omwe amagonana, pitani upangiri wa maanja, malo ogwirira ntchito, kapena malo obwerera. Chitani ntchito yanu yakukula ndi kuchiritsa. (Hei, tonse tili ndi katundu amene timabweretsa ku maubale athu!)
Koposa zonse, musasiye. Ngakhale banja lanu litakhala ndi mavuto, lidzabweranso, makamaka mukakumbukira chinsinsi changa — kuti zovuta izi ndi mphatso, zothandizira, komanso mwayi wokula. Chifukwa chake pamene musankha wina ndi mnzake patsiku lanu laukwati, khulupirirani kuti mwasankha bwino. Kenako sankhani wina ndi mnzake, tsiku ndi tsiku, momwe mumakondana, ndikusankhana wina ndi mnzake makamaka ngati banja ili likukuyesani kuti mukule. Kumbukirani, kukwatira ndichinthu chachikulu-chinthu chachikulu, chokongola, chodabwitsa, komanso kukula kwa anthu.