Zamkati
M'badwo wapitawu, zinali zachizolowezi kuchoka kunyumba ya makolo anu kupita ku dorm kenako molunjika kukakhala ndi amuna anu.
M'zaka za m'ma 1970, akazi adakwatirana ali ndi zaka pafupifupi makumi awiri. Tsopano ndizofala kwambiri kupitiliza maphunziro ndi ntchito zaka makumi awiri kenako ndikupeza mnzanu ali ndi zaka makumi atatu. Ngati mukuyandikira zaka makumi atatu, mutha kupeza kuti mukufuna kupeza mnzanu.
Kufuna kukwatira kumatha kukhala kovuta nthawi zina.
Izi ndizowona makamaka ngati anzanu ambiri adakwatirana ali ndi zaka makumi awiri. Ndiye abwenzi omwewo amayamba kukhala ndi ana, kusiya zoyambira zazing'ono, ngakhale musanakumane ndi mnzanu. Ngakhale zili choncho, kukwatira usanakwanitse zaka makumi atatu kungakhale ndi maubwino ake.
Malinga ndi Psychology Today, kuchuluka kwa mabanja osudzulana ndikotsika kwenikweni kwa munthu amene akwatira wazaka zopitilira makumi awiri ndi zisanu.
Zachidziwikire, pakhoza kukhala zovuta zina kuti mukwatire mukatha zaka makumi atatu, makamaka ngati mukufuna kukhala ndi ana ndipo wotchiyo ikuwoneka kuti ikuyenda mofulumira kwambiri. Koma pali maubwino osangalatsa kwa iwo omwe akwatira mzaka khumi.
Mukudziwa nokha
Mukadzakwatirana pang'ono mukadzakula, mumakhala ndi nthawi yodzidziwa bwino. Muyenera kuti mudzakhala ndi anzanu muzaka makumi awiri omwe angakupatseni mayankho abwino pazomwe zimakhala ndi inu tsiku ndi tsiku.
Muli ndi mwayi wopita kukaona malo, kuchita zosangalatsa, kukhala mumzinda wina, kapena kusintha mwadzidzidzi ntchito. Zonsezi zidzakupatsani chidziwitso chozama pazomwe mumakonda, zomwe mumadana nazo, ndi momwe mungayankhire pazochitika zosiyanasiyana.
Ngati mwachita ntchitoyi kuti mudziwe nokha, mudzakhala anzeru kwambiri pakapita nthawi.
Mukudziwa momwe mumamvera ndi zinthu, zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala achimwemwe, zomwe zimakupweteketsani mtima, komanso momwe mumayankhira pamalingaliro ndi zochita za anthu ena. Pambuyo pokhala ndi anzanu ogona nawo chipinda, mutha kudziwa zovuta zina zomwe mungakumane.
Phindu lenileni ndikukhwima m'maganizo komwe kumapezeka pakumvetsetsa zomwe mukufuna komanso momwe mumawonera dziko lapansi.
Mwakhalapo
Monga munthu wamkulu wosakwatira, zaka makumi awiri zimakhala zikuyang'ana kwambiri pa maphunziro, ntchito yomanga, komanso zosangalatsa. Mwakhala ndi mwayi wowerenga mitu yomwe mumawakonda ndikuyika luso lanu ndi maluso anu pantchito yomwe mwasankha.
Popanda udindo wa wokwatirana naye komanso ana, mutha kusankha kuyika ndalama zanu pazomwe mungasankhe.
Ngati mukufuna kupeza anzanu limodzi kuti mupite nawo paulendo wapanyanja, mutha. Ngati mukufuna kukakhala kudziko lina, mwina mutha kutero. Ngati mukufuna kusuntha ndikukasanthula kukhala kwinakwake kwatsopano, mutha kupanga chisankho kukhala chosavuta ndikudumphira mu chaputala chatsopano.
Anzanu omwe adakwatirana ali achichepere kwambiri komanso anali ndi ana aang'ono kwambiri ayankhapo pamaulendo anu kuzungulira dziko lapansi. Atha kukhala ansanje pazaka zomwe mudasanthula mizinda yatsopano, malo osangalatsa, kapena mumakhala ku Manhattan pafupi ndi Central Park ndi omwe mumakhala nawo.
Zachidziwikire, abwenzi awa amakonda okwatirana ndi ana awo mozama, koma amakhala mosatekeseka pazochitika zonse zomwe mumakwanitsa zaka zanu zosakwatira.
Mwakonzeka
Pa makumi awiri ndi zisanu, kutuluka ndi gulu lonse la abwenzi mpaka maola onse a usiku ndikuphulika. Pofika zaka makumi atatu, lingaliro lakukhala madzulo opanda phokoso ndi amene mumamukonda limakhala losangalatsa.
Ukwati umafuna kudzipereka komanso kulolerana.
Simungotenga ntchito kudera lonse osakambirana momwe zimakhudzira mnzanu. Onjezani ana kubanja lanu ndipo kudzipereka kumakula.
Pazaka 22 zakubadwa, nsembezi zimatha kukhala ngati mtolo wolemetsa ndikupangitsa kumva kuti akusowa. Zachidziwikire kuti kunyengerera ndi kudzipereka kumeneku kumatha kukhala kovuta m'zaka zanu za makumi atatu. Koma, mutatsatira maloto anu kwazaka khumi kapena kupitilira apo, mudzakhala okonzeka kuchita zomwe zikufunika kuti ukwati ukhale wabwino.
Kukhala wosakwatira kwa nthawi yaitali kungasungulumwe
Ndi zoona kuti umbeta wokhalitsa ungasungulumwe nthawi zina. Koma, kukwatira zaka makumi atatu ndi zitatu ndizabwino kwambiri. M'malo mwake, ndikofunikira kudikirira.
Ngati mutakwatirana mutakwanitsa zaka makumi atatu, mukuganiza ana posachedwa. Ndikulonjeza kuti ukhoza kukhalabe wachikondi mbanja mwako ukakhala ndi mwana.