Zamkati
- Ghosting ndi dzina latsopano la njira yakale yothetsera ubale
- 1. Ubale wamagulu ndi njira yosavuta
- 2. Kuopa kukangana
- 3. Kuchepetsa ululu
- 4. Munthu m'modzi amalumikizana kwambiri kuposa mnzake
Kutha ndi gawo la ubale uliwonse. Mabanja ena amakhala ochezeka kuposa ena pomwe ena amakhala osasangalatsa kapena osavuta komanso omangika. Zingakhale zazikulu bwanji ngati mutha kuthetsa chibwenzi koma nthawi yomweyo kupewa zovuta zothetsa chibwenzi?
Monga kudula mnzanu m'moyo wanu mwachangu, molimba mtima komanso osachita khama? Ngati lingaliro ili likukusangalatsani, ndiye kuti mutha kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi chokhala ndi "mzimu". Lingaliro la ubale wamzimu ndilofala kuposa momwe mukuganizira.
Ghosting ndi dzina latsopano la njira yakale yothetsera ubale
Chifukwa chiyani anyamata amasowa m'malo mothetsa banja? Chifukwa kulowerera m'mayanjano kumawoneka ngati njira yabwino yopewera mikangano, magazi oyipa, ndi katundu!
Ghosting ndi mawu omwe afalikira pachikhalidwe chamakono. Ubale wa Ghosting ndi dzina chabe la njira yolekanitsa ubale wakale yomwe imadziwika kuti "kupewa" m'mabuku a psychology. Mukumupatsa mphepo, mumangosowa pakati pa anzanu ena amoyo.
Malinga ndi kuwerenga kwa kuwerenga kwa maloto, ulemu sichofunikira, koma chosankha. Ghosting imasangalatsa komanso yosavuta m'malo mowonera seweroli.
Kuti munthu akhale ndi mzimu, wina amatanthauza kunyalanyaza zoyesayesa zawo zonse zokumana nanu - simumayankha mauthenga awo, maimelo, mafoni kapena mauthenga a Facebook.
Mukamayanjana ndi anzawo, mumalola mafoni awo kupita ku voicemail, ndipo mumayika nambala yawo pamndandanda kuti musalandire uthenga uliwonse wochokera kwa iwo; kusiya wokondedwa wako kuganiza ngati uli moyo kapena ayi.
Kuti musowa mu ether ngati phantom kusiya wakale wanu kudabwa ngati atayidwa ndizomwe zimakhalapo. Koma ndichifukwa chiyani anthu omwe akufuna kuthetsa maubwenzi amatero posowa?
Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe anthu amasankhira kuthetsa ubale wawo posankha kutha. Zifukwa zina zofala zaubwenzi wamzimu zatchulidwa pansipa.
Pitirizani kuwerenga kuti mudziwe zambiri zokhudza maubwenzi amzimu komanso chifukwa chake anthu amayamba kubwebwana ngati njira yothetsera chibwenzicho.
1. Ubale wamagulu ndi njira yosavuta
Ndizosadabwitsa kuti kutha kwadzidzidzi kumakhala kovuta. Muyenera kukhala moyang'anizana ndi munthu amene mumati "Ndimakukondani" mwezi watha, muyenera kuwamvera akulira, ndipo muyenera kuwafotokozera chifukwa chomwe chibwenzicho sichitha.
Amatha kufunsa mafunso ovuta monga "Kodi ndimadyedwa bwanji? Kapena ndimavina bwanji? Kapena ndagona bwanji? ” ndipo ngakhale mutakhala ovuta bwanji kuyankha mafunso amenewo, simutha.
Ubwenzi wa Ghosting, komabe, umakupulumutsani ku seweroli. Simufunikiranso kukonzekera kuyankhula kwa "Si inu, ndi ine" kapena kuwapatsanso chifukwa chokhumudwa.
Njira yothetsera chibwenzi chamzimu ndiyosavuta, yosavuta komanso njira yosavuta ndichifukwa chake anthu amakonda.
Chifukwa chake, munthu akasowa popanda kufotokozera, akukhala ndi zida ngati njira yomwe angatulukire osayesa kukonza zinthu muubwenzi.
Monga zodetsa nkhawa zikuwoneka, pakuwona zam'mbuyo, wakumasulani malo omwe mungafunere munthu woyenera pachibwenzi chanu chamtsogolo. Ndiye chifukwa chake akasoweka mumusiye. Chitani zomwezo.
2. Kuopa kukangana
Anthu ambiri omwe amasankha kutha amakonda kulingalira zochita ndi zisankho zawo asanakwaniritse. Lingaliro loyamba komanso lofunika kwambiri lomwe munthu amamva kuti ndi wolakwa, ndipo chifukwa cha izi, anthu ambiri omwe amakonda kusiya banja safuna kukumana ndi zomwe achita.
Anthu awa ndi amanyazi kwambiri pazisankho zawo kotero amakonda kuyesa kupewa milandu ndi sewero lomwe limatsata banja litatha. Pofuna kuti chowonadi chisaponyedwe pankhope pawo, asankha kutenga njira yosavuta ndikungozimiririka.
3. Kuchepetsa ululu
Pali zovuta, ndi zowawa zomwe zimakhudzana ndi kutha. Psychology ya Ghosting nthawi zambiri imalumikizidwa ndikupewa kutha kwadzidzidzi.
Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zomwe anthu ambiri amapereka akafunsidwa chifukwa chomwe amaperekera mphatso kwa anzawo m'malo mothetsa chibwenzi choyenera. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwazifukwa zodzikonda kwambiri komanso zopusa chifukwa anthu ambiri amakonda kuuzidwa zowona pankhope zawo m'malo mouziridwa.
Kukhala mzukwa ndikumenyera m'mimba komanso ndichimodzi mwazinthu mwamantha kwambiri kuti muthe kupweteketsa mnzanu; ndipo mmalo mokhumudwa, anthuwa amangokhalira kudzikonda ndikudziyesa ngati akuchita zabwino posasowetsa okondedwa awo kupwetekedwa chifukwa chotsutsana.
4. Munthu m'modzi amalumikizana kwambiri kuposa mnzake
Muubwenzi woyambirira kapena ubale watsopano, pakhoza kukhala mitundu ingapo yazolumikizana. Pambuyo pa meseji yayitali komanso yachikondi, tsiku limodzi kapena atatu, munthu m'modzi amadzimva kuti ali ndiubwenzi kwambiri kuposa mnzake.
Izi zitha kuchititsa munthu wina kuti "ndikwera chifukwa sindikhala ndi zolinga zazikulu pachibwenzi ichi," ndipo izi zitsogolera. Ghosting pambuyo paubwenzi wautali ndikofala.
Komabe, njira yokhayo yodzilimbikitsira ndikudziuza kuti munthu amene angathe kukusiyani patapita nthawi yayitali, mwina sanakukondenitu.
Ghosting muubwenzi wanthawi yayitali ili ndi imodzi yokha yomwe ili ndi kukongola kophatikizana, ngakhale pali zowawa komanso chisoni. Mukumvetsa kuti wakale wanu ndi munthu woipa, ndipo palibe njira ziwiri zomwe zingabwerere.
Kukula ndikupatsa wina kutseka
Ubale wa uzimu ukhoza kuwonedwa ngati njira yovutikira, ndipo umabweretsa zovuta zonse zam'maganizo ndi malingaliro pambuyo pake.
Ichi ndi chokumana nacho chopweteka kwambiri chifukwa mutha kusiya munthu winayo mlengalenga atapachikidwa popanda kutsekedwa kapena kufotokozera kuti ndichifukwa chiyani mukusudzulana.
Yemwe amalandira mizimu atha kupitiliza kukulitsa zochitika m'mutu mwawo chifukwa chake adapatsidwa mzimu ndipo izi sizidzawakhudza mthupi komanso m'maganizo, ndipo mwina sangakhalenso chimodzimodzi.
Kutha kwa banja kumeneku kumatha kukhudza kudzidalira komanso ulemu kwa munthu ndipo kumakhudzanso ubale wamtsogolo wa munthu wamzukwa. Chifukwa chake m'malo mosankha chibwenzi chamzimu, khalani okhwima, kukula ndikuwapatsa anzanuwo kutseka.