Zamkati
- Zophunzira zitatu zazikuluzikulu za phunziroli
- 1. Kulumikizana pagulu ndikofunikira kwambiri
- 2. Makhalidwe abwino
- 3. Maubale abwino amateteza malingaliro athu
Kodi nchiyani chimene chiri magwero a chimwemwe chowona? Afilosofi, asayansi, akatswiri azamisala komanso azamizimu akhala akufuna yankho la funso ili kwazaka zambiri. Pofunsa funso ili kwa anthu wamba, ambiri a iwo adanena kuti ndi chuma, kutchuka ndi kuzindikira zomwe zingawapangitse kukhala achimwemwe. Koma kodi onse olemera ndi otchuka angatchedwe achimwemwe? Psychology yaumunthu ndiyovuta kwambiri kotero kuti ife eni ake sitinathe kuzindikira zomwe zingatipangitse kukhala achimwemwe.
Chifukwa chake, kafukufuku adachitidwa ndi Harvard Medical school paophunzira ake 268 a sophomore mzaka za 1939-1944 komanso gulu la achinyamata ochokera mdera losauka kwambiri ku Boston. Cholinga chawo chinali kulemba nthawi yonse ya moyo wawo ndikuwona chomwe chimawasangalatsa. Patha zaka 75 kuchokera pomwe kuphunzira kunayambika ndipo kukuchitikabe. 60 mwa omwe akutenga nawo gawo 724 akadali ndi moyo ndipo ali ndi zaka za m'ma 90.
Kafukufukuyu awulula kuti si ndalama kapena kutchuka koma maubale abwino omwe angatibweretsere chisangalalo.
Osangoti izi, omwe anali nawo pamaubwenzi abwino anali athanzi m'miyoyo yawo yonse kuposa omwe analibe.
Mu kanemayu Robert Waldinger, katswiri wama psychology ku Harvard komanso wamkulu wa kafukufuku amafotokoza zaka 75 za kafukufukuyu ndi mavumbulutso ake.
Zophunzira zitatu zazikuluzikulu za phunziroli
1. Kulumikizana pagulu ndikofunikira kwambiri
Kusungulumwa kumatha kudwalitsa. Zimalepheretsa kutalika kwa moyo wamunthu ndipo zimatha kukhala ndi zovuta m'thupi lawo. Chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kwambiri kupanga maubale ndikukhala olumikizana ndi anthu.
2. Makhalidwe abwino
Kukhala ndi maubale ambiri sichinsinsi cha moyo wosangalala komanso wathanzi. Mtundu wa ubale womwe mumagawana komanso kuya kwa ubalewo ndizofunikira. Ophunzira nawo omwe anali m'mabanja ofunda komanso okondana amakhala / amakhala ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wachimwemwe. Mosiyana ndi iwo omwe anali ndi mikangano komanso mikangano mokhazikika muukwati wawo adakhala ndi moyo wosasangalala ndipo thanzi lawo silinayende bwino.
3. Maubale abwino amateteza malingaliro athu
Zotsatira zabwino zaubale wabwino sizongokhala achimwemwe komanso athanzi. Ubale wabwino umatetezeranso malingaliro athu. Ophunzira omwe anali maubale abwino komanso odalirika adawonetsa kuti ubongo wawo umakhalabe wolimba kwambiri kwa iwo omwe anali osungulumwa kapena omwe anali pachibwenzi choyipa.
Pamapeto pake Robert Waldinger amatsindika kwambiri zakufunika kwa maubale abwino ndikulangiza-
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